LDS Moms

[BrandiB]

Well I get nervous talking infront of people, and I get scared to sit on the womens side of the room without someone else with me. I know my husband will be on the other side but I want him sitting next to me helping me through it all. I know its so silly but I've always been like that, I think I get it from my mom.
I've done initiatories since I went through for myself and I enjoy doing those for some reason its just the endowment session that scares the crap out of me because I have to be infront of people.

[hpfan04]

Hi lsdies. Im sorry that I dont post here. I dont know why I dont post here. Im s convert and Chris and I were sealed in 06. Im so lost right now and feel so lost in the church. I should have gone yesterday, but I didnt want to hear the "Im sorry's" and "Everything will be fine". I know its all meant well, but my thoughts have been so wary towards everything and cant help but feel bad for my thoughts on this baby. (Incase you hadnt read my other posts, this baby could have Trisomy 18) I know I shouldnt even consider abortion, but what if this baby is sick? How can I let this baby suffer and feel ok about it? I know that this baby was given to me by Heavenly Father, and the thought of ending everything shouldnt even be considered, but it's always in the back of my mind. My family is not in the church and of course would support whatever decision DH and I make, but I know his family would be so upset to know the thought has crossed our mind at all.

I guess this is more of a vent, only because DH is so supportive of however I feel, and I have such conflicting sides from our families. I dont think I could ever end the pregnancy, but how horrible is it that Ive thought it? I should talk to my Bishop, I know, but Im even scared to tell him. Anyway, if you could please add us to your prayers tonight, we would appreciate it. Our amnio is tomorrow morning. Thanks for letting me vent girls.

I didn't see any other posts either. I'm so sorry, Sarah. It would be in the back of my mind too, so don't feel bad at all. Your baby will have a good life because you are good parents and you will love this baby no matter what and take the best care of him/her that you can. That's all that matters. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Well I get nervous talking infront of people, and I get scared to sit on the womens side of the room without someone else with me. I know my husband will be on the other side but I want him sitting next to me helping me through it all. I know its so silly but I've always been like that, I think I get it from my mom.
I've done initiatories since I went through for myself and I enjoy doing those for some reason its just the endowment session that scares the crap out of me because I have to be infront of people.

I always get nervous too, no matter how many times I go. But the ladies that help you at the end are always so sweet, and that's what they're there for - to help! Don't be nervous!!

I also love initiatories too, they are my favorite, though I hate that I don't get to see my DH at all.

The last like 5 times we went to the temple the workers at the front desk have asked us to do sealings. It's so funny. But I guess that's where we are needed, so we always do it when they ask.

[Tsuuriki]

I haven't been to the temple for a while, either. Our recommends expired (We were sealed 2 years ago! ) and we just renewed them. So it's about time to go back.
Brandi. You're not the only one that gets nervous. But as PP said, the ladies are there to help. Though once there was this lady that seemed frustrated that I couldn't remember everything (I had only been once before.. )

[BrandiB]

Oh I know they are there to help but I still get super nervous.

Wanna hear something funny about when I was sealed (may have mentioned this before but...) I said yes to soon. It was way funny and everyone laughed including our sealer. I will NEVER forget that lol, he paused and it was long enough that I thought I needed to say yes. I was so nervous that I dont really remember anything that he said. I should of wrote it down, but you know that day is just way to busy lol.

[EvandAl]

oh I get SUPER nervous too, like panic attach nervous.

I haven't been to the temple in 8 years

I don't have a recommend and I just can't imagine going without Evan and he's not in a position to go and probably never will be.

Okay that made me tear up.

[LuTruPeMo]

Al you should go. You know that of course but maybe you need someone to tell you. You need those temple blessings in your life and for your family. And never say never!

I just realized how they've changed the initiatory ordinance at least two times since I went for the first time in 1999. I won't go into detail obviously, but I find that very interesting and I wonder why the changes were made. Maybe there were complaints about sisters being uncomfortable (I could certainly see why) or...? I don't know.

[hpfan04]

Huge HUGS, Al!! I agree with Heather, the blessings of the temple will benefit you and your family, and could maybe give Evan a push in the right direction.


I didn't know the initiatories changed twice. I knew they changed once, because they had just changed it when I went through in 2005. I mean, I understand why the original way would be uncomfortable for anyone, but it's a man for the men's and a woman for the women's - I could imagine being way uncomfortable if it was the opposite gender performing the ordinance, you know? But it must have been bad enough that they changed it. Very interesting.

[BrandiB]

Ladies you will be so proud of me. I'm going to the temple thursday night. DH and I got into a huge argument on sunday about going to the temple. After we talked it out I promised him that I would find someone to help me through it all. My mom does not have a recommend anymore so she cant go with us. Anyways I called my visiting teacher. Thursday is our ward temple night and my husband really wanted to go. I called my visiting teacher and she arranged her schedule so she can make it, and her and her daughter are going to help me through it. They are both going to sit on each side of me and help me through the whole process well mostly. I'm excited and nervous all at the same time. I have to rent a temple dress though because I've put on weight since I got married and mine no longer fits. I may actually just go buy a new one tomorrow. Please wish me luck and pray for me!
Thanks ladies!

[hpfan04]

Ladies you will be so proud of me. I'm going to the temple thursday night. DH and I got into a huge argument on sunday about going to the temple. After we talked it out I promised him that I would find someone to help me through it all. My mom does not have a recommend anymore so she cant go with us. Anyways I called my visiting teacher. Thursday is our ward temple night and my husband really wanted to go. I called my visiting teacher and she arranged her schedule so she can make it, and her and her daughter are going to help me through it. They are both going to sit on each side of me and help me through the whole process well mostly. I'm excited and nervous all at the same time. I have to rent a temple dress though because I've put on weight since I got married and mine no longer fits. I may actually just go buy a new one tomorrow. Please wish me luck and pray for me!
Thanks ladies!

Yay!! That's so great that you found some ladies to go with you! It will be awesome! I can't fit into my dress anymore since having DS either, so I always have to rent too. I really want to get a new one. There's a really pretty one, I think called the Tiger Lily one (on the Distribution Center website, I'm too lazy to look it up right now, lol), that I really want. One day I will splurge and buy it.

[DucksLikeRain]

I haven't been in....nearly 18 months? Which means John and I haven't been together in that long. he's gone once without me I think, and he's gone on youth baptism trips every quarter. Our reccommends expired in March and I was on bedrest and blah blah blah (always excuses, right!? ) but we did get them renewed in June finally. Our temple is closed until August 9 and then our next ward temple night is on the 13th which is my birthday and we have my brother's wedding, so i don't think we'll make it on that day. But I told John before the end of August...we need to go badly. And I think that's exactly why I've been dragging my feet. I think since Taela I've gone 2 times. In 2.5 years

[BrandiB]

Ladies why do I keep deciding that I want to change my mind on going. I do not understand why I get so scared/panic. In my mind I keep thinking what if Preston gets sick and needs me home with him (he threw up today, only because he was coughing, and he's getting his shots today). *sigh*, I'm going I'm going I'm going. The only endowment session I've done was the one where I received my own. I've done inititories once since I received my own. My husband has gone once without me, just after Preston was born and we went back to CA so he could go through with his sister.

Sunday after our argument he told me that he just wants to sit in the celestial room with me because when I received my own we did not get to sit there for very long and we havent been back in there since. I need to go not only for me but for my family. I know that its Satan that keeps telling me that I dont need to go. I need to get better about a lot of things, FHE, family prayer, scripture reading. We were without our recommends for a little over a year and now that I have it, it feels good to have it, and I miss the temple but I panic when I go. I think there is something mentally wrong with me lol.
Thanks for letting me vent to you ladies. I feel like you understand because you've either been there yourself or are there now.

[LuTruPeMo]

Brandi, Get thee to the temple!
You need the temple.
If you feel nervous, tell one of the female workers. I actually once had a panic attack during an endowment session. I went through a period (couple of years) early in our marriage when I was having crippling, sudden panic attacks. It was horrible. And once, during the first part of the endowment session, I felt one coming on. I must have been turning red in the face and fidgeting a lot, because a female worker came up to me and asked if I was okay. I told her I didn't feel well and they stopped the session so I could go out in the hall for a moment and get a drink of water. So please, don't think anyone will think you are odd if you are having a hard time. Just try to forget about anything outside the temple (I find it helps if I do not wear a watch) and just be present in the session, mentally. It will work out okay. The workers are there to help you.

[BrandiB]

Heather I'm going! I promise! I think tonight I might just go and buy me a new temple dress or at least buy me a new set of G's. I will not have a watch so that will be good. Also my visiting teacher and her daughter are going to sit on either side of me and help me. I think I get nervous because I cant remember much. I'll do okay! I just have to get through the rest of today and then tomorrow. If I think about it to hard then I freak out. Last night when me and Kev were talking about it, it wasnt so bad and I was totally cool with going and then today I want to change my mind.

[EvandAl]

You can do it!!!

It was funny after this thread, I had to stop the bishop to ask him a question on Sunday and he said oh I need to talk to you anyway (ut oh) it was because he wanted to see why I don't have a recommend! HA I told him I was just talking about the fact that I haven't been to the temple in forever. So he wants me to really think about it.

Our temple is closed until March of next year though.

Plus I am in a really big spiritual LOW, which means I need to go even more, I know, but it's not going to happen right now.
I need to get back to basics and remember what's important!!

[LuTruPeMo]

I can't remember if I told you ladies this or not. Two weeks ago Truman said his ear was hurting, but he was mostly normal and happy. So I took him to the pediatrician and she looked in there and said, "Wow. That is the worst ear infection I've ever seen. I can't believe he's so happy." I felt really bad because I had no idea it was so awful (his eardrum ruptured a few hours later).
Then, David was on the phone with his parents (they live in CA) telling them how Truman had this horrendous ear infection, and his dad said, "Oh, I put his name down in the temple last weekend."
I've never really had an experience with seeing the outcome of putting names in the temple (though I usually write some anytime I go), but I am sure that because of the faith of the people in an endowment session in the temple, my little boy wasn't in much pain even though his eardrum was bleeding and swollen.

[BrandiB]

Such a good story! I think we always need to remember this. I always call the temple and put names on the prayer roll. Infact just last week I put my husbands cousin on it. He had some major surgery ahead and his lungs could of failed and he would of had to be on a vent, well he had to be but he's off now and he's doing pretty good! Crazy though how your FIL just felt that his name needed to be on the prayer roll!

[BrandiB]

Ladies change of plans. We are going to the temple tonight. I feel all sorts of brave that I wont panic to bad so we are tempting tonight! I called my visiting teacher she's going with us, her daughter wont be able to make it but thats okay! I'm really kind of excited!

[LuTruPeMo]

Well be sure to let us know how it goes.

[hpfan04]

Brandi! Everything will be fine, and your spirit will be so renewed, and you will come home thinking "how did I not do this sooner?" That's how I always feel when I go after not having gone for a long time.

[LuTruPeMo]

Brandiiiiii???

[DucksLikeRain]

How'd it go last night???

[BrandiB]

Sorry ladies I'm here!

It was amazing! I seriously should of gone sooner. I had great help! When we first got out of the chapel and into the room I could seriously feel a panic attack coming on but I did okay. Didnt have to leave or anything, just sat there and kept praying. After that I was fine! Once I got into the celestial room my husband met me and hugged me and kissed me. He's wanted to do that for so long and now we finally did it! It was nice to just sit there and relax. So glad I went! Thanks for listening to me!

[LuTruPeMo]

Oh happy.

[hpfan04]

I'm so glad, Brandi!

I need to go soon too, it's been too long for me as well.

[BrandiB]

I want to make it a habit that we go at least once a month. My visiting teacher told me that she goes most saturday mornings, and that she'd give me a call when she goes to see if I would like to go with her!

[katrina131h]

Geesh, I leave for a month and you ladies get all chatty on me, LOL!

I'm so glad you went to the temple, Brandi! I know the feeling of being scared to go. It took me a while to feel comfortable being alone during the endowment session, and I was too scared to do initiatory for so long. My best friend finally went with me, and after breaking the ice and actually doing it, I feel find doing it now.

We haven't been in a year and I miss it. I miss that feeling inside, and right after you leave. That's one thing I don't like about where we live right now. The temple is two hours away. We don't know anyone in Portland that could watch the kids for us, and with Myer's eating issues, allergies, and skin problems I guess I just don't trust to other people enough to leave him for a full day to go. We need to go so bad. Our marriage hasn't been the best the past six months and I know it would help so much to go. We've tried to set up a day with other couples in the ward with kids where we all drive up there and swap watching kids, but something has always come up: Sick kids, injuries, car problems, it's so frustrating.

A bit OT, but I think we've talking about this before, but I'm too lazy to go back and look. Heather, I'd really love your input on this one. We found out about four months ago that Myer has a severe peanut allergy (among a million other ones ). I don't expect the entire world to cater to his needs, but church makes me nervous. Right before we left on our trip (so a month ago), we sit down and Myer starts playing with the hymn books in front of us, a few seconds later he pulls out a bag of crackers with peanut butter on them. Someone in the other ward must have left them. I'm so glad I was watching him so he didn't even get the bag open, but it really upset me. I still think of the what-if's. I always have his epi-pen with me, but the thought of using it isn't all that comforting.

Anyway, would it be appropriate if I asked our ward and the other ward to at least print in bulletin or announce or something that there is a baby with a severe peanut allergy and ask people to be mindful of the snacks they bring to church? I know that most people don't even think about it, but I want to at least have the information out there so that maybe they will, you know? I mentioned it to the RS president when we first found out and she had the attitude of "you can't really expect the whole ward to cater to your child", and I don't, but it only takes one cracker, one peanut on the floor, one minute when I'm not looking and I turn around and he's laying practically lifeless on the floor.

Also, since I'm on the topic of allergies. Nursery. Six weeks and he'll be old enough for nursery. He's allergic to wheat and eggs as well as peanuts. I plan on bringing his own snacks, but I don't think I can afford to buy snacks for the whole nursery, and he's too young to understand he can't eat the other kids' snacks. So I don't really know what to do, and it only takes one sub that doesn't know he's allergic to something. The wheat and eggs and severe enough to cause anaphylactic shock, but he would still get major stomach cramps and diarrhea which wouldn't be a whole lot of fun for him. *sigh* I just need to find him a bubble.

[BrandiB]

Oh wow Katrina I had no idea that Myer had food allergies. I would say it wouldnt hurt to bring it up to the bishop or another counselor. I know that Heather probably has more input on this then I do. But I would give it a try! Good luck!

Where did you go on your trip? Did you have fun?

[DucksLikeRain]

Our nursery and primary ask 2 or 3 times a year to have every parent fill out a thing stating any allergies/restrictions for each of the kids. And they've followed it. We don't have any peanut allergies that have been reported, but my girls don't get things with food coloring unless I know ahead of time/approve it, and so the entire primary is that way. When they have an activity there is nothing there that my girls can't have. I know we've got 2 kids-and the primary president herself-that have celiacs and so the same thing applies. There isn't anything they can't have. They work really hard to make organized things like that safe for all the kids. I know not all wards are as accomodating, though. It seems like Heather couldn't get her bishop to announce it/put it in the bulletin.


Katrina-we'd be more than happy to watch the boys. Or even do the kid-swap thing up in Portland with you. It's been at least 18 months since John and I have been together there and that's way too long.

I'm supposed to teach RS on Sunday. I've known for 3 months that it was coming and I was going to be all uber-prepared...and I'm just not feeling it. In fact I'm super stressed about it, have no clue what to teach (presidency choice) or what direction to go with it. I'm in a super big spiritual lull and just...ugh. I'd beg off but the only other member of the presidency there was just put into the presidency last week and is floundering to catch up still.

[Tsuuriki]

Tif. You can do it!

Katrina: I don't know why they wouldn't be accommodating to his allergies. I served as a nursery worker for 4 years (right after graduation until 2 weeks before I got married) and we ALWAYS took care that no kids came in contact with allergens. But I've only ever dealt with peanut allergies.
Definitely talk to someone in the Bishopric. And keep the nursery workers aware of his allergies.

[LuTruPeMo]

I want to make it a habit that we go at least once a month. My visiting teacher told me that she goes most saturday mornings, and that she'd give me a call when she goes to see if I would like to go with her!

Yes!

A bit OT, but I think we've talking about this before, but I'm too lazy to go back and look. Heather, I'd really love your input on this one. We found out about four months ago that Myer has a severe peanut allergy (among a million other ones ). I don't expect the entire world to cater to his needs, but church makes me nervous. Right before we left on our trip (so a month ago), we sit down and Myer starts playing with the hymn books in front of us, a few seconds later he pulls out a bag of crackers with peanut butter on them. Someone in the other ward must have left them. I'm so glad I was watching him so he didn't even get the bag open, but it really upset me. I still think of the what-if's. I always have his epi-pen with me, but the thought of using it isn't all that comforting.

Anyway, would it be appropriate if I asked our ward and the other ward to at least print in bulletin or announce or something that there is a baby with a severe peanut allergy and ask people to be mindful of the snacks they bring to church? I know that most people don't even think about it, but I want to at least have the information out there so that maybe they will, you know? I mentioned it to the RS president when we first found out and she had the attitude of "you can't really expect the whole ward to cater to your child", and I don't, but it only takes one cracker, one peanut on the floor, one minute when I'm not looking and I turn around and he's laying practically lifeless on the floor.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. I know how scary it is for me, and I'm an adult and can know before I grab things. We just watch our kids so they don't touch things and then touch me, mainly. We don't think the kids are allergic (Lucy definitely is not; not sure about the other two) but it's mainly to protect me. I'm sure it's terrifying with a little busy toddler who could get sick from touching a peanut.

I think it would be completely appropriate to approach your bishop about this. In our last ward, our bishop was totally clueless about food allergies, and refused to announce from the pulpit (like with welcome/announcements) the warning about peanuts (even though it wasn't only me allergic but at least 2 kids as well). However, I talked to the RS president and she started announcing it in their opening exercises, and they put it in the RS weekly emails that went out, for awhile. That did make me feel better, because mainly it is the women of the ward who choose the snacks to bring.

Two weeks ago, a small family (two older parents, one little girl) sat down beside us, kind of cramped us in the pew actually - and the mom proceeds to take a little bag of peanuts out of her purse and feed them to the little girl, leaving them sitting on the bench, open, between me and her in the meantime. I was so mad! DH asked if I wanted to trade seats with him, but I didn't - I wanted to keep those peanuts away from me AND my kids, and it was easier that way - but still. People just Do. Not. THINK! when it comes to peanut allergies.

As for nursery, we had a little guy in ours who was allergic to a laundry list of things as well. His mom would come into nursery during snack time and bring special snacks for her son and sit with him, just to be safe. He never complained, but he knew he had allergies and the other snacks would "make him sick" they put it. Is it possible for you to pop in there during snack? Would it upset him for you to come in and then leave?

Katrina-we'd be more than happy to watch the boys. Or even do the kid-swap thing up in Portland with you. It's been at least 18 months since John and I have been together there and that's way too long.

Yes do this. Because I am the boss. No, because it is an awesome idea!