LDS Moms

[BrandiB]

You ladies look beautiful! Not any of my pictures are copyrighted. The photographer that we hired gave us the copyrights! I'll try and post a few more tonight! I love looking at all these!

[DucksLikeRain]

I love all the pictures! Thanks for sharing, ladies!

Moosh-LOVE the flowers all over the place! Looks like a lovely springtime wedding!

[moosh34]

Moosh-LOVE the flowers all over the place! Looks like a lovely springtime wedding!

Ha ha! The funny thing is that when I went for my endowment the day before the wedding they were tearing up one of the flower beds in front to replace the flowers there...I was so worried they'd have it all torn up. There were only a couple that were empty though. We got married in the middle of May just about the time when the spring annuals are about done.

[EvandAl]

I love all the pics!!!

We were sealed a year after our civil ceremony so I don't have on a wedding dress in my pics. I'll have to find them in the morning.

[BrandiB]

Al we dont care! Post them both anyway! I'm so excited to see everyones wedding pictures!

[Brandles]

I love all the wedding pics ladies!!


I have a similar question regarding sealing in the Temple. Its important to me to be sealed as a family and I asked our Bishop about it once my DH becomes a member. My older children are from my first marriage and my ex DH is not LDS... I was told that my children could not be sealed to me, but he wasn't really sure. I was reading in his handbook and I thought I read somewhere that you could be sealed to a step parent. I guess its pretty much the same question as before, but I'm really interested in finding the answer.

[DucksLikeRain]

From what I know you can be sealed to a step parent-IF that step parent has been able to legally adopt you. There might be a way around that if the legal parent gives written permission, but I'm not totally sure about that. You should check on it, because it would sure be great if that is the case!

[BrandiB]

Tif I think I've heard that before as well.

[hpfan04]

Loving all the wedding pics, ladies!!! You all are so beautiful. And I agree with Brandi, Al, we don't care, we just want to see pics!!!

From what I know you can be sealed to a step parent-IF that step parent has been able to legally adopt you. There might be a way around that if the legal parent gives written permission, but I'm not totally sure about that. You should check on it, because it would sure be great if that is the case!

This is what my mom was told when she was sealed to my stepdad. She wanted me and my brother to be sealed to her, but we would have had to be legally adopted by my stepdad or had permission from my dad. Which of course my dad didn't give. But he truly believes in the Church, just doesn't want to live by the rules - so he didn't like the fact that I would not be able to be sealed to him someday. So maybe, Brandles, you'd have better luck with your ex-h getting permission for it, because if he doesn't believe in the church and what goes on in the temple then what does it matter to him, you know? Just a thought.

[LuTruPeMo]

I have heard - so take that for what you will - that if the biological parent is not LDS they just need to give consent for the children to be sealed to the new step-parent.

[Brandles]

Unfortunately, my ex-DH would NEVER go for that. His whole family is Catholic and he was a little upset that my boys decided to be LDS.

[hpfan04]

Unfortunately, my ex-DH would NEVER go for that. His whole family is Catholic and he was a little upset that my boys decided to be LDS.

I'm sorry. Everything will work out somehow.

[hpfan04]

Ohhhh Tiiiiffff!!!

I can't believe you're almost 18 weeks! You're looking great. How are you and the little bean doing? When do you have your gender u/s? I am hoping for team blue for you!

[BrandiB]

Did everyone watch conference?

[moosh34]

Did everyone watch conference?

Sure, as much as you can with a crazy toddler running around getting into things!

[BrandiB]

Sure, as much as you can with a crazy toddler running around getting into things!

LOL thats how it was at our house too. Actually DH works graveyards so he slept through most of it. But I had it on while Preston played. I dont think I sat and watched an entire session all the way through though.

[ladybug]

My DVR didn't record the Saturday morning session, but we watched the other 3 sessions.

[hpfan04]

We don't have cable, so we had to go to my IL's for the first session. And since it was easter the grandkids were searching for eggs and then we ate breakfast while it was in the background, so I didn't get to hear very much. After the first session we went home since Liam needed a nap and won't sleep anywhere but home. I plan to watch them online, just haven't yet.

[katrina131h]

Ah! I've been slacking ladies, lol. I still want to play though, so I will have to get some wedding pics up

As for conference, we "watched" all the sessions on-line, but with two kids running around needing attention, I only heard a couple of them. I'm going to watch some online as well.

And Tif, you are looking so cute! I was going to PM you a couple of weeks ago to see if you needed any help with anything, and then my kids got sick so I figured it wouldn't really help if I tried to help with sick kids, lol. So now that they are over their bugs I'd love to help you with anything that I can. We have ample of time to kill, especially since finals are coming up and DH is pretty much going to be living at the law school for a couple of weeks. Even if you just need some entertainment. I can unicycle

[DucksLikeRain]

Even if you just need some entertainment. I can unicycle

That seriously made me !

I had an appointment this afternoon. My doctor told me that if I was 23 weeks or farther along she'd have me admitted ASAP. She can't cite a source for the bleeding and that concerns her because of how consistent it's being. Good news is that my cervix was 3.7 today-it was 3.1 10 days ago at the ER and she thinks that me doing my best at bedrest has helped it lengthen up a bit, despite the cramping and bleeding. 3.7 is actually a really great number...so long as it stays there! She thinks that I have a placental abruption that is not being able to be seen on the u/s because she is pretty sure it's at the bottom of the placenta, which while it's not over top the cervix is hanging out directly above it (anterior placenta). She thinks that as it bleeds it comes on out and the only way they can see an abruption on the u/s is if the blood pools somewhere before it comes out which is more common with an abruption up higher on the uterus. She's monitoring my blood count levels once a week to be sure I don't lose too much blood and I go back in 2 weeks unless things change before then. And if it's still going on at 23 weeks I win myself a trip to the antepartum wing of the hospital in Portland until delivery. She worries about infection in the placenta which is what happened last time-bleeding the 2 weeks before and then an infection developed which lead to my water breaking and me getting a raging fever 6 days later. She will want me up there so she can deliver at the drop of a hat at the first sign of fetal or maternal distress. Let's see...oh yeah. My blood pressure was 96/54...quite low. I've been super exhausted and dizzy/light headed so that would pretty well explain it! I'm on a migraine medicine that is actually a blood pressure med. My neurologist told me to keep an eye on the diastolic # that it doesn't drop below 60 for more than 2 visits in a row...so there's one tick against me. The last thing I need is an IUGR baby on top of everything, so I may very well be getting to add battling migraines to my list of pregnancy issues Oh, the good news-she filled out my AFLAC papers so tomorrow I'll have my dad sign them (he's my boss) and get them turned in. That will be an awesome help because I haven't been able to work hardly at all without coming home to a gush of blood. And it gives my dad a definitive "Tif isn't coming in" idea instead of not knowing really what to say to coworkers.

I went to our RS activity tonight after I got home-mostly to avoid being home during the bedtime routine!-and at least 4 different ladies did the whole "if you need anything, even if it's just to have the girls come over and play for an afternoon, just call." Which is great...but I am no good at accepting that kind of open-ended offer. If someone had said "What day is good this week?" or something more specific I'd be ok with it, but to spontaneously call them up and ask if they can help....it's just not how I operate. I'm having a hard enough time knowing that someone is coming into my home once a week to clean (tomorrow morning at 9am...yikes!) without it making me want to go through and do a good clean of my house first!

[BrandiB]

Oh wow Tif. I hope that that baby keeps on baking and that you stop bleeding ASAP!! Oh and I'm the same way as you are, if you call me up and say can we take Preston I more then likely will say yes, but to just offer and then no phone I'm not going to call to remind ya or anything. I'll be sure to keep you in my prayers!

[EvandAl]

I've been thinking of you a lot Tif, take it easy!! I know as a mom that's easier said than done.

Will be. Praying for your little bean

[katrina131h]

Hugs, TIf. Yay for a longer cervix though!!!!

So I guess the question is, when do you want me to bring my unicycle over? lol

I know exactly what you mean though. When I was so sick and could hardly move while I was pregnant with Myer I had a ton of people offer to help. They told me to call them anytime. I never did for that very reason, even though I could have used it. The only person (besides DH) who really helped me was my good friend that would just come over and say, I'm taking Benson for the afternoon, or, I'm cleaning your house. She was a serious life saver.

[DucksLikeRain]

Hugs, TIf. Yay for a longer cervix though!!!!

So I guess the question is, when do you want me to bring my unicycle over? lol

I know exactly what you mean though. When I was so sick and could hardly move while I was pregnant with Myer I had a ton of people offer to help. They told me to call them anytime. I never did for that very reason, even though I could have used it. The only person (besides DH) who really helped me was my good friend that would just come over and say, I'm taking Benson for the afternoon, or, I'm cleaning your house. She was a serious life saver.

You can bring your unicycle any ol' time you fee like jaunting up to Salem! Seriously...any time. I'll be here

It seriously sucks because the weather has been nice for a few days and there is a park not 3 or 4 blocks from our house-not a big one, tiny but just enough for the girls to get a good run in and some energy out-and they ask every day if I can walk them down there I think I might ask my dad if he can make a standing "lunch date" with them and walk them down there on his lunch break from work (which would force him to actually take a break!) on sunny days.

I finally broke down and privately asked the RS pres if some ladies could come in and clean occasionally-I was thinking once or twice a month. She had the compassionate service leader line up people for every week. I think I might tell her that's too much. I keep feeling like I need to "save up" my help for if/when I'm in the hospital an hour away and need more intense help, KWIM? And also, some of the ladies don't know that I have a "backstory" as far as Taela goes and half of them don't even know I'm pregnant-I thought everyone did because of how tongues talk but apparently not!-and I feel like if they don't know that I've had previous problems then when they get the call asking if they can help then they're going "um....she's just pregnant. What's the big deal?" But that's me and my own issues with allowing people to help

[hpfan04]

((Hugs)) Tif! I hope the bleeding stops and your cervix stays long. I'm glad that you're getting help, and hopefully the ladies follow through and come to help. Maybe you could mention to one of them that you're having issues, you need to be on bed rest, etc, and maybe they would pass on the word. Praying for you, dear!

Oh, and how did they not know you're pregnant?! You have a cute (and obvious) baby bump!

[LuTruPeMo]

Let them help. Don't worry about using up all the service. "Charity never FAILETH" right?

[Tsuuriki]

I got a new calling! I'm now on the Enrichment planning committee. I'm so excited and have a few ideas so far, but wanted to ask you all for some other great ideas for Enrichment night. What Enrichment activities have you liked best or what would you like to see in the future?

Thanks ladies... I like hearing input!!!

I have that calling in my ward, too. One of my favorites activities from my mom's ward is a service auction that they hold every year. A week or two prior, everyone writes down a service for others to bid on, or they bring an item to be auctioned off. At the beginning of the activity, everyone adds up their 'points' (points are gained from things they do during that month, i.e. reading scriptures daily, praying daily, temple work and service.) I have the form, pm me if you want it.

[DucksLikeRain]

I have that calling in my ward, too. One of my favorites activities from my mom's ward is a service auction that they hold every year. A week or two prior, everyone writes down a service for others to bid on, or they bring an item to be auctioned off. At the beginning of the activity, everyone adds up their 'points' (points are gained from things they do during that month, i.e. reading scriptures daily, praying daily, temple work and service.) I have the form, pm me if you want it.

I'm the 2nd counselor (Enrichment counselor?) and we do that in our ward, too. My mom's ward has done it for like 4 years every year and I had gone to 3 of them so last year I got the then-Enrichment counselor to give it a go and everyone loved it. I think it was the first activity where we had more than 15 people at it all year! We do ours in the fall for our sort of Fall Social activity and it's great!

[BrandiB]

Happy Mothers day tomorrow ladies! I hope you all have a wonderful day!!

[EvandAl]

Happy Mothers day to you all Too!

Ladies I need some serious help.....

John has become HORRIBLE at church and I just don't know what to do with him. The issue really isn't Sacrament but during Primary.
I'm in the presidency so I'm generally busy on Sundays and he has just made it so bad the last month that I almost want to be released because I can't handle him and the calling. I really feel like he is the worst child in there.

After I got done conducting last week I ended up spending an hour and a half with him in the hall because he 100% refused to go to class and was being so disruptive when I tried to take him in the primary room.

Today he promised he was going to go to class (he knew they where making mommy gifts) and that he was going to be good and then literally as we walked through the door he had a meltdown over the fact that I held the door open and not him and fell to the floor and would not get up. after 10 minutes of trying to convince him to get up I finally picked him up and carried both him and Alan to the primary room and it went down hill from there. He only went to class because we were short a teacher so I filled in. But once we got in the room he refused to do the craft/present until the last 5 minutes. Then was back at refusing to sit not, not run around, or try to go to the pulpit during sharing time and singing time. So again we ended up in the hall in time out and him just crying that he wanted to go home.

We are having an activity on Wednesday that I'm in charge of and I've already decided that he is staying home with daddy because I can't focus on chasing him and run the activity, plus have Alan to worry about too. And my DH refuses to go along. I HATE that he is going to miss it, because I love him getting to socialize but I just get so stressed because of him.

Sorry for the book. I'm just so mentally worn out from this and I don't know what to do.