Chit Chat....

[Fallenstar80]

I'm so sorry Bekah. How hurtful and disrespectful.

[Consensus]

Oh Bekeh I am so sorry
On another note - congratulations! I didn't know you had Shiloh! Boy am I out of the loop! I'm so happy you are both home healthy!

[Aelith]

Bekah, I'm so sorry But, congratulations on your sweet baby daughter

[CDWard]

I just wanted to tell all of you, who will understand, about something that happened to me yesterday.

As you might know, we've been struggling with secondary infertility after two miscarriages. I was on here yesterday, looking at pictures of new babies, and looking in my old due date rooms to see what the babies were up to and started to get really anxious/upset. All of a sudden, I heard/felt a whisper "Have faith" and I instantly felt so much better. I don't know if it was me telling myself to have faith or what, but it instantly eased my mind and heart.

that totally gave me goosebumps!!

Just want to praise the Lord because He is faithful and worthy to be praised! Just got a call from my DHS worker and she said after midnight tonight we'll have both May and June's food allowance on our card totalling $670 and then $331 every month after that for six months until they do a reevaluation. Also, my medicaid was approved and should be effective from tomorrow

GOD is so so so good to me and I know I don't deserve it. HALLELUJAH! I feel like shoutin (but I can't because Adriel is sleeping *tee hee*)

Thank you Jesus.

I am so happy to hear this! Totally makes my heart smile!

Gah! I am so hurt by this whole smoking thing! I seriously just had to pawn one of my favorite necklaces (a gift from DH) just to get us some food and gas money. I spent it all before DH had a chance to use any of it on cigarettes. We are going to be able to sell a box of cable tonight, and I know DH wants to buy some cigarettes with it. I asked him how its going and he said "Not well. I'm pissy and I don't feel like quitting right now."
I know it is really hard to quit, but we are PAWNING stuff just to get by! How can he justify buying something that has ZERO benefits and only hurts us?? It is so selfish. It makes me so angry. I don't know how to deal with this. I feel bad typing this, but I don't know how to handle it.

Ugh. I'm sorry and I totally understand. I get aggravated over the snuff & alchol that our money has to buy. No, I'm not having to pawn things but I am sacrificing being a SAHM, yk? It is very angering and I don't have any words of encouragement because I've struggled with it for almost 5 years. I hope he can quit soon.

I guess I need to get something out now too
I got home on Saturday after having Shiloh. I stayed two nights there. ..since she was early I hadn't got the results from my one test back so I had to get antibiotics & they monitor babies who get it for 48 hours.
Anyways. I got on DH's computer & found out he was looking at more porn. I am so hurt this time. ..even more then usual. Here I was alone in the hospital, after giving birth to our daughter, sore, in pain, tired, worn out ..& he's at home, looking at some pretty disgusting crap. . . & the kicker. .it was right before our one year anniversary.
I hate this addiction. I hate it. Sometimes I want to hate him. . .that he isn't stronger. ..I know I don't understand an addiction but it's tearing me apart. Deep down I don't think he really wants to change. He has resources yet he doesn't ever chose to use them.
I just watch Shiloh sleep & pray & beg God that she doesn't have to go through this. That she won't have to know the betrayal, the pain, the despair that porn can cause. I pray she marries a man who will cherish her & ONLY her. I don't want her to go through this. ..ever.

I'm so sorry. No words can express how I feel for you.

[tmfogel]

Sorry you girls are going through these trials. I know we all have issues but these are particular hurtful. I wish I had some advice, but you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[ayles]

Bekah~Just wanted to congratulate you on Shiloh's birth. She is beautiful. I am praying for you; that God would help you to focus on celebrating this wonderful time in your life (thinking on things that are pure and noble and of good report) and that He would comfort and strengthen you during this time. It is understandable that you're upset and hurt. I pray that God would take that pain away and replace it with His perfect peace in knowing that He has it all under control. All you have to do is cast all your cares on Him and let Him take it from there.

Carrie~Thank you; how are you doing this week? I have been praying for you

Ladies~I want to share a testimony. God protected us from what could have been a terrible accident earlier today. I was at a traffic light intersection in the left turn lane and the light turned yellow, I started to turn after what I thought was the last car went by but someone turned from the opposite end and sped up to try to make the light before it turned red. Needless to say that could have been a terrible accident but I turned to my left immediately which would be the incoming traffice on the street I turned into but thankfully there were no cars coming. While I was turning DH screamed "NO BABY DON'T TURN" but it was kind of that split second thing--I had already started turning and had I not kept going I would have definitely hit the oncoming car. That woke Adriel up and he started screaming so I had to pull over and get in the back to calm him down. I am so thankful to God for His ministering angels that were surrounding us. I know it was only by His grace and mercy and protection that we did not get hit/hurt. Praise God.

Oh and please pray that DH would show grace when I go to pick him up. My DH has always been very fearful of accidents after having been in so many. It took him months in our relationship to not transfer that fear to me while I'm driving and be critical of every move and I am praying that this doesn't change it all. He used to think he was the best driver on the planet but God has worked on his heart in that area and he hasn't been critical for months praise God. I just pray that he is able to show love and grace and realize that I already feel bad about it and that I'm human and it could have happened to anyone (including him). He did give us both a kiss before he went inside and apologized for yelling so that is a good sign, I guess?

Anyway praise the Lord. I am still a bit shaken up.

[KC's wifey]

Do you guys ever feel indecisive about how much to explain your beliefs on things in other rooms? With threads that ask opinions where your answer is directly related to your Christianity?

Sometimes I want to explain more in depth because the short answer sounds trite and cliche. But I also feel that going more in depth with sound preachy. I dunno. Have you guys experienced this?

[tracilyn]

Hi there! Found you!

[caligirl07]

Ladies~I want to share a testimony. God protected us from what could have been a terrible accident earlier today. I was at a traffic light intersection in the left turn lane and the light turned yellow, I started to turn after what I thought was the last car went by but someone turned from the opposite end and sped up to try to make the light before it turned red. Needless to say that could have been a terrible accident but I turned to my left immediately which would be the incoming traffice on the street I turned into but thankfully there were no cars coming. While I was turning DH screamed "NO BABY DON'T TURN" but it was kind of that split second thing--I had already started turning and had I not kept going I would have definitely hit the oncoming car. That woke Adriel up and he started screaming so I had to pull over and get in the back to calm him down. I am so thankful to God for His ministering angels that were surrounding us. I know it was only by His grace and mercy and protection that we did not get hit/hurt. Praise God.
Oh and please pray that DH would show grace when I go to pick him up. My DH has always been very fearful of accidents after having been in so many. It took him months in our relationship to not transfer that fear to me while I'm driving and be critical of every move and I am praying that this doesn't change it all. He used to think he was the best driver on the planet but God has worked on his heart in that area and he hasn't been critical for months praise God. I just pray that he is able to show love and grace and realize that I already feel bad about it and that I'm human and it could have happened to anyone (including him). He did give us both a kiss before he went inside and apologized for yelling so that is a good sign, I guess?
Anyway praise the Lord. I am still a bit shaken up.

So glad your ok! Praying for your dh!

Do you guys ever feel indecisive about how much to explain your beliefs on things in other rooms? With threads that ask opinions where your answer is directly related to your Christianity?
Sometimes I want to explain more in depth because the short answer sounds trite and cliche. But I also feel that going more in depth with sound preachy. I dunno. Have you guys experienced this?

YES!!! all the time, I feel like it makes things worse if I even bother to try and explain... lots of times I just don't answer...

[KC's wifey]

Hi there! Found you!

Yay! You found us! Welcome!

[KC's wifey]

Ayles - I'm so glad you are ok!

[Sakura]

Ladies~I want to share a testimony. God protected us from what could have been a terrible accident earlier today. I was at a traffic light intersection in the left turn lane and the light turned yellow, I started to turn after what I thought was the last car went by but someone turned from the opposite end and sped up to try to make the light before it turned red. Needless to say that could have been a terrible accident but I turned to my left immediately which would be the incoming traffice on the street I turned into but thankfully there were no cars coming. While I was turning DH screamed "NO BABY DON'T TURN" but it was kind of that split second thing--I had already started turning and had I not kept going I would have definitely hit the oncoming car. That woke Adriel up and he started screaming so I had to pull over and get in the back to calm him down. I am so thankful to God for His ministering angels that were surrounding us. I know it was only by His grace and mercy and protection that we did not get hit/hurt. Praise God.

Oh and please pray that DH would show grace when I go to pick him up. My DH has always been very fearful of accidents after having been in so many. It took him months in our relationship to not transfer that fear to me while I'm driving and be critical of every move and I am praying that this doesn't change it all. He used to think he was the best driver on the planet but God has worked on his heart in that area and he hasn't been critical for months praise God. I just pray that he is able to show love and grace and realize that I already feel bad about it and that I'm human and it could have happened to anyone (including him). He did give us both a kiss before he went inside and apologized for yelling so that is a good sign, I guess?

Anyway praise the Lord. I am still a bit shaken up.

Thank God you're ok.

Do you guys ever feel indecisive about how much to explain your beliefs on things in other rooms? With threads that ask opinions where your answer is directly related to your Christianity?

Sometimes I want to explain more in depth because the short answer sounds trite and cliche. But I also feel that going more in depth with sound preachy. I dunno. Have you guys experienced this?

Yes. Frequently. Sometimes I'm up for the *fight* and sometimes not.

[caligirl07]

Hi there! Found you!

Yay! You found us! Welcome!

[Sakura]

Tracilyn, Caligirl, and KC's Wifey, ya'll are doing a lovely job in that thread in random.

I am purposely not joining that discussion.

[Fallenstar80]

Tracilyn, Caligirl, and KC's Wifey, ya'll are doing a lovely job in that thread in random.

I am purposely not joining that discussion.

I second that! I just put my .02 in an left it at that. I have a hard time not wanting to get overly involved in discussion. I have started staying out of a lot more stuff because of it.

Ayles: So glad you are ok!!!! Accidents are so scary!

[tracilyn]

I am so glad I found you guys. I want you to know that I was reading about the Proverbs 31 journey and I sat down and read it.. Man I just don't think I am anywhere close to touching that definition. I have to stop and think about where I am and where I should be. So not there yet.

My church is doing the Breaking Free bible study by Beth Moore and I am loving that. I am going to have to sit with the Proverbs 31 thing. All I know is for me to get there it could never be me... It would have to be ALL GOD!

[AnnaC]

Ladies~I want to share a testimony. God protected us from what could have been a terrible accident earlier today. I was at a traffic light intersection in the left turn lane and the light turned yellow, I started to turn after what I thought was the last car went by but someone turned from the opposite end and sped up to try to make the light before it turned red. Needless to say that could have been a terrible accident but I turned to my left immediately which would be the incoming traffice on the street I turned into but thankfully there were no cars coming. While I was turning DH screamed "NO BABY DON'T TURN" but it was kind of that split second thing--I had already started turning and had I not kept going I would have definitely hit the oncoming car. That woke Adriel up and he started screaming so I had to pull over and get in the back to calm him down. I am so thankful to God for His ministering angels that were surrounding us. I know it was only by His grace and mercy and protection that we did not get hit/hurt. Praise God.

Oh and please pray that DH would show grace when I go to pick him up. My DH has always been very fearful of accidents after having been in so many. It took him months in our relationship to not transfer that fear to me while I'm driving and be critical of every move and I am praying that this doesn't change it all. He used to think he was the best driver on the planet but God has worked on his heart in that area and he hasn't been critical for months praise God. I just pray that he is able to show love and grace and realize that I already feel bad about it and that I'm human and it could have happened to anyone (including him). He did give us both a kiss before he went inside and apologized for yelling so that is a good sign, I guess?

Anyway praise the Lord. I am still a bit shaken up.

I'm glad you're ok!!! I've had experiences like that before!!!

[Aelith]

Ladies~I want to share a testimony. God protected us from what could have been a terrible accident earlier today. I was at a traffic light intersection in the left turn lane and the light turned yellow, I started to turn after what I thought was the last car went by but someone turned from the opposite end and sped up to try to make the light before it turned red. Needless to say that could have been a terrible accident but I turned to my left immediately which would be the incoming traffice on the street I turned into but thankfully there were no cars coming. While I was turning DH screamed "NO BABY DON'T TURN" but it was kind of that split second thing--I had already started turning and had I not kept going I would have definitely hit the oncoming car. That woke Adriel up and he started screaming so I had to pull over and get in the back to calm him down. I am so thankful to God for His ministering angels that were surrounding us. I know it was only by His grace and mercy and protection that we did not get hit/hurt. Praise God.

Thank God you're OK!

Do you guys ever feel indecisive about how much to explain your beliefs on things in other rooms? With threads that ask opinions where your answer is directly related to your Christianity?

Sometimes I want to explain more in depth because the short answer sounds trite and cliche. But I also feel that going more in depth with sound preachy. I dunno. Have you guys experienced this?

I agree, and sometimes I see posts that a directly bashing Christian values and I want to post my opinion, but I'm afraid to. I wish I had more strength to live the Word out loud more often.

[KC's wifey]

Tracilyn - I'm glad you found us, too.
Proverbs 31 is almost cliche it is so quoted. But there is definitely a reason for that. There is so much to learn from it. I don't know if it was a real woman or not, but it shows us what we should be striving to be like as a wife/mother.
I'm not even close. lol

[KC's wifey]

Its interesting. I posted that poll under General Religion asking what religion/worldview everyone holds and Christians hold a majority at just over 50%. But I don't think we have the loudest voice. Not sure why that is.

[Sakura]

Its interesting. I posted that poll under General Religion asking what religion/worldview everyone holds and Christians hold a majority at just over 50%. But I don't think we have the loudest voice. Not sure why that is.

Well, I think us *vocal few* hang around in here a lot. And most Americans would claim to be Christian, too, you know?

[Fallenstar80]

Its interesting. I posted that poll under General Religion asking what religion/worldview everyone holds and Christians hold a majority at just over 50%. But I don't think we have the loudest voice. Not sure why that is.

Because we are considered intolerant and people get mad at what we post.

[KC's wifey]

Well, I think us *vocal few* hang around in here a lot. And most Americans would claim to be Christian, too, you know?

Vocal? Who you callin' vocal?


Ok... I've been known to spout off my opinions here and there. hehehe

Because we are considered intolerant and people get mad at what we post.

Ummm yeah. That thread is a case in point.

[anonsouthernbell]

I think that a lot of people claim to be Christians but it is more of a cultural christianity and not one of I have accepted Jesus Christ as my personal savior and want to live my life to please Him and God.

Ayles- I am so glad that you are okay!

And now I am heading over to random bc you girls have piqued my interest...sorry being nosy!

[ayles]

Thanks for your concern and hugs, ladies. I am thankful too. DH didn't say anything although he did ask me never to put my fate in someone else's hands which irritated me a little especially since it wasn't even me doing that; I genuinely didn't see the car but I know he meant well and I got over it.

I haven't seen the thread everyone's talking about but as far as being 'vocal' in a predominantly unbelieving thread my personal opinion is that you have to use a lot of wisdom and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you in your response--for me this means not responding right in the moment to something that I have an issue with because more likely than not I am responding with my feelings not my spirit. After some time to hear and receive what the HS has to say, depending on whether or not He wants me to respond, I will respond.

Sometimes it's not worth the argument. You can't reason with unreasonable people and the Word certainly does not advocate senseless arguing/bickering which is happening when neither are clearly going to change their minds. Especially with unbelievers I have learned that sometimes it's better to walk away; to agree to disagree. In most cases staying quiet isn't going to keep them away from Christ any more than they have made up their mind to and arguing or enforcing my point isn't going to draw them to Christ either.

I do believe in standing for the truth and being ambassadors but I do believe discernment comes with that so that you're not in a worse off place yourself (spiritually being frustrated, annoyed, judgmental, resentful etc.) and you don't end up ruining your witness to the other by your response.

[ayles]

I am so glad I found you guys. I want you to know that I was reading about the Proverbs 31 journey and I sat down and read it.. Man I just don't think I am anywhere close to touching that definition. I have to stop and think about where I am and where I should be. So not there yet.

My church is doing the Breaking Free bible study by Beth Moore and I am loving that. I am going to have to sit with the Proverbs 31 thing. All I know is for me to get there it could never be me... It would have to be ALL GOD!

I am currently doing a Proverbs 31 woman challenge. I absolutely love that chapter and really believe that it's meant to help us understand how wonderful and fruitful of a standard He has set for His daughters. One of the things I've been reminded of by the Holy Spirit that it's not a standard of perfection meant to set us up for failure but rather an expression of how much God values us and believs in us as women of God to reach those levels of maturity in our faith and in our relationships especially with our husbands and children.

[anonsouthernbell]

I can't get over how Adriel looks so much older than he is. He seriously looks like such a precious little boy.

[KC's wifey]

Eh, originally it was a "What would YOU do in this situation" thread question. You'd think that means we can all say what we each believe on the issue and what we would do. But it seems to be "everyone who agrees with the majority is welcome to share, you other people are just judgmental."

That's the point when I should just back away from the keyboard. lol. I think the feeling of "unfairness" is a big issue of mine. It pops up everywhere, especially my marriage. Something I definitely need to work on.

[caligirl07]

Tracilyn, Caligirl, and KC's Wifey, ya'll are doing a lovely job in that thread in random.

I am purposely not joining that discussion.

I didn't do much, just my small opinion and then ran! There is really no point... people aren't going to get it...

Well, I think us *vocal few* hang around in here a lot. And most Americans would claim to be Christian, too, you know?

Yes, I think there are alot of 'christians' that unfortunatly don't truly understand what it really means to live for Jesus daily... its almost like checking the 'race' box....

Because we are considered intolerant and people get mad at what we post.

yep, yep...

I can't get over how Adriel looks so much older than he is. He seriously looks like such a precious little boy.

Yes, he is adorable!

[caligirl07]

Do any of you watch Glenn Beck (fox news?) Dh is watching right now and Im listening in the back ground... ssscccarrry! He is way out there usually, but tonight even im like (can't belive I just addmitted on the internet that I have watched... )