OH MY GOODNESS!!! I can not believe Amands is almost 29 weeks pregnant!!!Or tha Polly is 14 weeks already!
Can't wait to see those babies!!
OH MY GOODNESS!!! I can not believe Amands is almost 29 weeks pregnant!!!
I was just thinking about the pg ladies in here! It is going by so fast!
Anyone else struggling with that new FB "game" where everyone is pretending to be pregnant to "raise awareness for breast cancer?" I don't get it. It's lying - yeah, I know, the "spirit" of it is fun. I just see it as a cruel, cruel joke - not only to their family members, but it almost seems like a slap in the face to me for those who have had MCs or struggled with IF. IDK, this may not be the right thread for this kind of comment, but I'm just struggling with it today. If any of you (and I'm not sure any of you are) are friends with me on FB, you can see my giant soapbox, lol.
Another APA member posted on FB about how she does not like it. This is the first "game" that I actually got a message about. I am usually the last person to know about those sorts of things.
I am reading a book called More Than Ordinary. It is about living your life while walking with God. IT is really good. I downloaded when it was free onto my Kindle. Just now, it was 10:30 pm. I was STILL cleaning up in the kitchen. DH worked from 7 am until 10 pm. I didn't eat much dinner since I was busy feeding the boys during actual dinner time, and both boys were up a lot at bedtime. When DH came home, he made some noise that woke Anthony up. I have had a very tough week, and today's long day really got to me. Well, I start crying as I am nursing DS back to sleep. I am talking to God telling him that I am really struggling, and that it is too hard, and that I feel like I am a single mom, except if I were a single mom, I'd be living with my parents and would have a lot more support than I do, and how I have no help at home, and how all I do is clean, fold laundry, cook, and take care of kids from the minute I wake up to the minute I go to sleep. Today we had counseling, and it was tough,and I started to wonder if indeed, I should just be a single mom. I kept thinking about how when I was done getting baby back to sleep, i have to go finish the dishes. I start reading, and the author talks about doing every little task as if you were doing for God and with God. IT really spoke to me right then. I am off to go finish the dishes and try to have a different outlook while doing it.
Sarah - I can understand why it would be hurtful for you.I don't play those. I got a message about it but thought it was stupid. I have no idea how its supposed to bring awareness for anything, especially if no one knows what you are talking about to begin with. I can definitely see why it would be hurtful to people STC.
And this is just the right thread for comments like that.
Lisa - I continue to pray for you and your marriage. It must be so exhausting every day. I'm so glad God spoke to you through that book. I try to remind myself to do my responsibilities through the day as to the Lord, but it is tough sometimes. But when I do I feel a weight lifted. It is so much better that way, I don't know why I forget so often.
Katie posted this on FB the other day (and Katie I hope you don't mind me posting it here!) It goes along with what you were talking about, Lisa. Its kind of long, but I hope it is an encouragement to everyone here.
Continue On
by Roy Lessin
As a woman once fretted
over the usefulness of her life.
She feared she was wasting
her potential by being
a devoted wife and mother.
She wondered if the time
and energy she invested
in her husband and children
would make a difference.
At times she got discouraged
because so much of what she did
seemed to go unnoticed and unappreciated.
"Is it worth it?" she often questioned.
"Is there something better
that I could be doing
with my time?"
It was during these moments
that she heard the still,
small voice of her heavenly Father
speak to her heart.
"You are a wife and mother
because that is what I've
called you to be. Much of
what you do is hidden from the public eye
But I notice. Most of what you give is done
without payment. But I am your reward.
Your husband cannot be the man
I have called him to be without
your support. Your influence upon him is
greater than you think and more powerful
than you will ever know.
I bless him through your service
and honor him through your love.
Your children are precious to Me--
even more precious than they are to you.
I have entrusted them to your care
to raise for me. What you invest
in them is an offering to Me."
"You may never be
in the public spotlight,
but your obedience shines
as a bright light before Me.
Remember you are My servant.
Do all to please Me. Continue On."
~ Polly ~Married to my perfect match!
thank you for posting that and for the continued prayers. I had a very negative attitude this evening and I really liked "
Your husband cannot be the man
I have called him to be without
your support. Your influence upon him is
greater than you think and more powerful
than you will ever know.
I bless him through your service
and honor him through your love."
Also - the part of our children being more precious than they are to this. I have reflected on thus so much. I love my children so much. I know God loves them even more. It is hard for me to fathom how much God really loves me if it is more than theh love I have for my kids. Being a mom has really helped me to better understand God's love for me, though I don't think I will ever know how much.
Originally Posted by DeDee33
OH MY GOODNESS!!! I can not believe Amands is almost 29 weeks pregnant!!!I'm getting to the point where I can barely string thoughts together to make coherent sentences.
Ladies, don't expect much from my brain for the next 18 months!
Yeah, I saw that, and it's... odd.
Amanda, DH
oh I know! These pregnancy's are going so quick! YAY for baby bumps....It was this week exactly (Sept 6th to be exact) that I got pregnant with Micah. And It would be on the 20th that I would get my BFP. Time goes so fast. Yay for one year without AF
Lisa-My DH works long hours too sometimes. On Wednesdays since he runs the sound ministry at church sometime his kids don't get to see him. He's gone around 7 am and will not get back home until 9:30-10. So I completely understand the feeling too. Being a SAHM is not easy at all. I guess we now understand the age old joke about a mom needing more then two hands. Before Micah was here I would use wednesdays and get errands run and work out for some me time. I knew wednesdays would be long, but if I stayed at home all day it would be worse. Could you schedule some me time on the days DH works long hours? Maybe join a mom's morning out group or a gym or something???
And about the FB games....I loath those games. I delete every single request. UG
Me-Brenda (SAHM), DH-Rudy, DS-Isaiah (3/13/09), Micah (5/25/2011)
We are a bf, baby wearing, non-vacc, hbac, homeschool, traditional family whose center is Christ!
I guess if it were more routine, i could schedule it. I found out about DH's long night at 5 pm. We do spend a lot of time out of the house, especially when I know it will be a long gym. I really have no one who can watch Anthony, so the only time I get to myself is after the boys are asleep or if I am lucky enough to have them nap at the same time.
I would love to join a gym. There is a very nice one nearby. It's a YMCA and a couple of moms in my MOMS group actually work in the playcare so DS1 knows them and might be willing to stay with them. He really struggles being left with anyone, and it's getting worse. Yesterday, he was even worried when I left him with his grandmother. I would even trust these ladies with Anthony., but it is way too expensive and we are struggling to just pay our bills.
DH actually works in gyms, so I could have a free membership. The closest one is 15 minutes away, but I refuse to go there and have my children there. That is where the "other woman" works out and I do not want to see her, and I want her no where near Michael again and I never want her to meet my baby. It sucks because it dh would give the kids a chance to see daddy during the day, too, but no way. The second woman that flirted with DH also works at this facility (and another) so I will never go to any of his gyms, and have told him that I never want the boys there either. It is really a shame because working out together used to be something that DH and I really enjoyed doing together and we are trying to find ways to get alone time. We could work out together since his gym has daycare, and DH knows the women who work there, so we could leave the boys, but I won't
Our therapy "homework" was to each touch each other 5 times a day. I struggled with it last night a ton. It was so awkward, and our therapist warned us it would be. It just makes me so sad that I can't even touch my own husband. How did we drift so far apart??
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As for the fb games I HATE them, I think they are ridiculous and especially for married christian (or even single christian) women... this last one isn't 'that' bad, however one before wanted you to name a certain alcohol and what color panties you and on... the other was where you like to leave your purse (so it sounded sexual... "I like it on the table") the other what color bra you have on.... just lame...
Katie~
Exactly! I'm just disappointed with my Christian friends.
Pregnancies go by so quickly whenever I'm not the one pregnant.
And....DH got the job offer! I'm stoked!
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Awesome Congrats on the job offer!Exactly! I'm just disappointed with my Christian friends.
Pregnancies go by so quickly whenever I'm not the one pregnant.
And....DH got the job offer! I'm stoked!
Katie~
Congrats on the job offer!
Amanda, DH
YAY on the job offer!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me-Brenda (SAHM), DH-Rudy, DS-Isaiah (3/13/09), Micah (5/25/2011)
I'm so sorry about your struggles! I had no idea.I guess if it were more routine, i could schedule it. I found out about DH's long night at 5 pm. We do spend a lot of time out of the house, especially when I know it will be a long gym. I really have no one who can watch Anthony, so the only time I get to myself is after the boys are asleep or if I am lucky enough to have them nap at the same time.
I would love to join a gym. There is a very nice one nearby. It's a YMCA and a couple of moms in my MOMS group actually work in the playcare so DS1 knows them and might be willing to stay with them. He really struggles being left with anyone, and it's getting worse. Yesterday, he was even worried when I left him with his grandmother. I would even trust these ladies with Anthony., but it is way too expensive and we are struggling to just pay our bills.
DH actually works in gyms, so I could have a free membership. The closest one is 15 minutes away, but I refuse to go there and have my children there. That is where the "other woman" works out and I do not want to see her, and I want her no where near Michael again and I never want her to meet my baby. It sucks because it dh would give the kids a chance to see daddy during the day, too, but no way. The second woman that flirted with DH also works at this facility (and another) so I will never go to any of his gyms, and have told him that I never want the boys there either. It is really a shame because working out together used to be something that DH and I really enjoyed doing together and we are trying to find ways to get alone time. We could work out together since his gym has daycare, and DH knows the women who work there, so we could leave the boys, but I won't
Our therapy "homework" was to each touch each other 5 times a day. I struggled with it last night a ton. It was so awkward, and our therapist warned us it would be. It just makes me so sad that I can't even touch my own husband. How did we drift so far apart??
I read your post earlier about that book speaking to you and what a blessing to have those moments of clarity! You will both be in my prayers.
Jenn
I despise fb games! There is a lot about technology that becomes insensitive and many people do not realize it.
Congrats!
I agree! It seems like just the other day when I found out about the twins and now Polly is right behind her.
Lisa, I agree with the awkwardness when it comes back to touch. To me it almost seems like the first stages of dating where it is odd to kiss! With my husband there are times I think I would like to reach out and touch his arm but I find myself holding back.
Polly & Katie, I love the message that is posted! It really speaks out to me in many different ways. I wish I could find it printed somewhere so I could hang it in my house.
Dee Dee, Mom to 2 handsome young men & 2 beautiful girls!
Oh workout, how I've missed thee. LOL
I went to my gym today for the first time since Micah was born. It was sooooooooo refreshing. I missed all of the ladies and really enjoyed the class today. I'm going to take it slow though for a while. I'll go once-twice a week and then up it to 3 times a week and then my goal is to go 3-4 times a week end of next summer. As long as my milk supply stays good!!
How is everyone's weekend going?
Me-Brenda (SAHM), DH-Rudy, DS-Isaiah (3/13/09), Micah (5/25/2011)
Yay for working out!
Our weekend is going pretty well. One of our dogs got really really sick and had to go the the doggie hospital on Thursday. Our vet was afraid she wouldn't make it.
I plan on crocheting, knitting, and sewing this weekend! I'm finishing dd's new winter hat, making small blankets/loveys for the twins, and sewing curtains, crib skirts, and sheets for the nursery. I plan to get the curtains done over this holiday weekend. The hat is almost done. I don't know of the loveys will be done before the girls arrive, though.
We're picking up a new (to us) mattress from my ILs. They're always in search of a new and better mattress, so we're getting their barely used pillow top. I hope it's comfy.
And between all of that, I'd like a few naps and some bowls of ice cream.
Amanda, DH
My weekend is going great! I had what we called a slumber party last night. My husband took the girls to a football game with him last night and when they came home I was already laying down so I invited the girls into bed to watch a movie with me...they feel asleep and so did I. It made for a less comfortable night than usual but it was lots of fun.
Today all of us went to eat at Cracker Barrel for my belated birthday dinner and I invited my grandmother whose birthday was a week before mine. It was great food.
And....I really want to see the movie The Help, my husband will not go to a "girl" movie so I decided today I am going to go see it by myself. It seems kind of lonesome to go but I know I will really like the movie so I hope that makes up for being alone.
Dee Dee, Mom to 2 handsome young men & 2 beautiful girls!
Hey girls! Just popping in real quick to tell you I wont be around much for the next week or so. With our account being frozen due to our card being stolen, we werent able to pay the cable bill in time, so our internet is down til the new cards get here. I can access on my phone but its kind of a hassle. Oh well, I needed a bit of an APA break anyway.
Sarah - Im so excited your DH got the offer!! I hope this will really be a blessing to your home. Congrats!
Lisa -
~ Polly ~
Well, I went to see The Help and it was sold out. I was proud of myself for finally going out to do something for myself so I browsed the available movies and saw Crazy Stupid Love. I took a step outside of my comfort zone and decided to go for it. I
Dee Dee, Mom to 2 handsome young men & 2 beautiful girls!
I come here rather than ranting and/or creating my own post b/c I want advice and don't want to start a huge hate rant with people thinking I am a loser b/c I a still in my house at this very moment. Girls I am trying my best to keep my family together, I am hoping my husband will mysteriously wake up from his destructive behavior and shape up.
I worked in the ER last night from 7p-7a. I got up today at noon so I would have time with my family and still be able to sleep tonight b/c I work 8a-5p tomorrow. My husband was gone to "work out" and I was in the kitchen eating lunch when my DS21 came in and told me he came home at 1:30am to find the front door open & unlocked, porch light on and Chyree laying in the living room floor crying b/c she could not find her daddy
What do I do? Run for my children's lives? Continue to try to give him the year I promised I woudl try for the sake of my girls? I just don't know what to do anymore
Dee Dee, Mom to 2 handsome young men & 2 beautiful girls!
It is still so awkward! Yesterday, DH was home almost all day, and we still struggled to get 5 touches in
That's great that you got into the gym!
My wekend is going ok. My weekends and weekdays all kind of are the same. I guess that is the life of a SAHM, right?
I am glad you got out!Well, I went to see The Help and it was sold out
I come here rather than ranting and/or creating my own post b/c I want advice and don't want to start a huge hate rant with people thinking I am a loser b/c I a still in my house at this very moment. Girls I am trying my best to keep my family together, I am hoping my husband will mysteriously wake up from his destructive behavior and shape up.
I worked in the ER last night from 7p-7a. I got up today at noon so I would have time with my family and still be able to sleep tonight b/c I work 8a-5p tomorrow. My husband was gone to "work out" and I was in the kitchen eating lunch when my DS21 came in and told me he came home at 1:30am to find the front door open & unlocked, porch light on and Chyree laying in the living room floor crying b/c she could not find her daddy
What do I do? Run for my children's lives? Continue to try to give him the year I promised I woudl try for the sake of my girls? I just don't know what to do anymore
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Last edited by i.<3.cheesysmiles; 09-05-2011 at 01:34 PM.
I cannot believe it is the fall. I am going to have a very difficult few months coming up as there will be so many reminders of DH's affair. It began in Sept 2010. And now it is September. I saw an ad for a festival we went to last year. I remember how distant DH and I were and how he was constantly texting her then. DS1's birthday is at the end of October. I remember having my family in town and DH not being home, not dressing up for his party, getting baptized that weekend, and still with DH constantly texting. Then, it is Thanksgiving where last year we decided to start seeing a counselor, when he admitted his affair to his brother's pastor, when he bought new clothes on black Friday to impress the other woman, when we got into a huge argument over where we would spend Thanksgiving. Then I found out about the affair in early December, and it was awful. Then, Christmas when my parents came down, and DH did not wear the gift I sewed for him, and I got nothing from him.
6 months after things were over with this woman is when he started flirting with another woman. His brother talked to us and asked DH if he could just stay away from engaging in any inappropriate flirting/texting with another woman for a certain period of time to get his head on straight and figure things out for himself whether or not we were still together. BIL was hoping for like a year, and DH said he could promise 6 more months and that is it. Well, we are coming up on that 6 months and I fear that DH is counting down and will be ready to call it quita after that. There is no basis for this fear as things do seem to be getting better, and when we talk about stuff, we talk as if we have a future (like we were just arguing about when we would like DS1 to start preschool - DS says next year, I say never. If he were thinking of leaving, then DS would go into daycare immediately).
This is just going to be tough. I will probably resume my individual counseling again during this time.
Dee Dee, Mom to 2 handsome young men & 2 beautiful girls!
Thanks. I used to keep a journal. Maybe I should write that out privately in my journal instead of here for the world to see. Oh well. I know I am going to need some prayers and support the next few months, and you ladies have given me the best support!
Lisa,
Amanda, DH
Hey ladies I'm asking prayer for DH and I. We have the opportunity to possibly purchase a home in my in-laws neighborhood. We never thought we could afford a home in their neighborhood but one has been on the market for so long. And they know the owners. The contract with the realtor ends this month. We met the owners and toured the house. They are saved and are good friends with John MacAuthor!! They loved us and hope that they could turn the house over to us. But they are in a legal bind with the realtor right now. We can't make a move on that home until we sell ours and they know that. They may be willing to hold off until we sell ours. They have the house priced 50,000 below tax value. It has everything we want including a screened porch. It needs some upgrades to the kitchen and baths but that can come with time. We have enough to put down and we talked to the bank today and our mortgage would be dooable for sure.
BUT we have to sell our home and it isn't even on the market yet.. AND their realtor contract would have to end with no one interested in the house. So if it's meant to be then it is. Just pray we make the right choice. Here's the house if your interest. The pics do not do it justice at all. It's a really unique floor plan that you don't see in the pics.
http://www.realtor.com/realestateand...917?source=web
Me-Brenda (SAHM), DH-Rudy, DS-Isaiah (3/13/09), Micah (5/25/2011)
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