This is good to remember.
My hubby asked me a straight forward question last night regarding homebirth. He asked "How would you respond if you and/or baby had to be transported to the hosptial and baby did not survive because of the time distance from the home to the hospital". I was glad he asked. I know where it was coming from and that's another vent. But anyway I straight forward told him after the shock and sadness my very first heart response would be that: though the Lord does allow medical technology to be used to save a life it doesn't undermind His control and ultimate decision in the situation. If the baby was not to live then the baby was not to live regardless of the best medical technology the world has to offer. Medical technology can be used by the Lord for good yes but He is still in control. He is the giver and take of life. He created the life it is his choice to take it away. And i would never ever blame me, my husband, the midwife, our decision due to a baby that passed. There is no sin in what we are doing. Thus no guilt should follow. Thank the Lord for the time this baby is living (inutero) and thank the Lord that another life can praise him in heaven. And I was fully confident in that answer. DH had the same response He just wanted to hear it from me.
I'm sorry your MIL is not totally supportive.