Chit Chat....

[Sakura]

Shannon, big big hugs. It's so hard to see God in the storms of life. Praying for you, for peace and clarity, and for quick and painless healing for your dh.

[caligirl07]

DH is not doing well. He had the stent removed yesterday. While the numbing stuff was in his kidney and his man parts he was OK...in some pain but OK. Once that wore off he got very sick though and started passing clots, and was in so much pain he called me at work nearly in tears. He had called the doctor and when he called back he basically said "Yeah, that can happen. You should be fine in the next day or two. Take vicodin. Go to the ER if you get a fever." Um, thanks for the advice. His doc is THE guy to go to with kidney problems but has no personality or sympathy!

DH's pain medicine finally started working after the third dose, so he couldn't go to work today. He is really out of it and I am a little worried that he's going to try to make lunch and burn the house down. He is forbidden to use appliances or anything that plugs in because he is so out of it. I called his boss and he was very nice about DH needing another day off. He sounded pretty horrified too, probably because of where much of DH's pain is located. DH didn't want to call because he was really out of it. Needless to say I didn't really want him talking to his boss while he was high.

I am getting really discouraged. I keep just praying 'Lord, help my unbelief' because it seems like there is a big old nasty dark cloud over our family. We've been dealing with his stone attacks every week for 6 months, and this surgery held a lot of hope for us but it hasn't been our saving grace so far.

I feel like I've had to be wife, mother, provider, and head of the household for months and it is getting to be too much. I literally don't know how to "give it to God" so I feel like I am being crushed.

OK, that was a huge downer. Sorry.

Still praying.

[ayles]

DH is not doing well. He had the stent removed yesterday. While the numbing stuff was in his kidney and his man parts he was OK...in some pain but OK. Once that wore off he got very sick though and started passing clots, and was in so much pain he called me at work nearly in tears. He had called the doctor and when he called back he basically said "Yeah, that can happen. You should be fine in the next day or two. Take vicodin. Go to the ER if you get a fever." Um, thanks for the advice. His doc is THE guy to go to with kidney problems but has no personality or sympathy!

DH's pain medicine finally started working after the third dose, so he couldn't go to work today. He is really out of it and I am a little worried that he's going to try to make lunch and burn the house down. He is forbidden to use appliances or anything that plugs in because he is so out of it. I called his boss and he was very nice about DH needing another day off. He sounded pretty horrified too, probably because of where much of DH's pain is located. DH didn't want to call because he was really out of it. Needless to say I didn't really want him talking to his boss while he was high.

I am getting really discouraged. I keep just praying 'Lord, help my unbelief' because it seems like there is a big old nasty dark cloud over our family. We've been dealing with his stone attacks every week for 6 months, and this surgery held a lot of hope for us but it hasn't been our saving grace so far.

I feel like I've had to be wife, mother, provider, and head of the household for months and it is getting to be too much. I literally don't know how to "give it to God" so I feel like I am being crushed.

OK, that was a huge downer. Sorry.

I'm so sorry things have been so tough for you and your family, Shannon.

I can relate to that feeling of not knowing how to give it to God. I think as humans we tend to need some sort of tangible evidence so mentally or spiritually giving it to God doesn't feel any different. I have learned through my storms that I have to focus on what I know about Him--that He is good, righteous, Holy, a healer, a provider of all our needs, our comfort, our peace, our joy, our strength, a very present help in times of trouble--rather than how I feel otherwise I'll feel really discouraged.

Father God, I thank you for the truth that no matter what our circumstances may be or how we feel, you are constant in who you are. Thank you that you ARE a healer, a provider, our rock and our refuge when we are going through a storm. I thank you Father for being with Shannon's family these last six months. Thank you for being with her husband during his illness and during his surgery. Thank you for making a way for him to have surgery; for touching the doctors and nurses involved; and for bringing him out on the other side safe and sound. Father while we are thankful for doctors and medicine and technology to be able to have surgeries we also acknowledge that it takes time and prayer for healing to take place. I pray for Shannon's patience as her husband goes through his healing process. I pray that she would continue to trust in you to be her husband's ultimate physician and healer during this time. I pray that you would strengthen her physically, mentally, emotionally but especially spiritually to carry to the load she's been giving during this time. Thank you Father that you never give us more than we can bear and that in all situations you are willing and able to give us what we need. I pray for her husband's strength and peace and that he would not be discouraged on his sickbed but like David he would look to the hills from where comes his help which is from you Lord. I pray for their daughter that you would give her an extra measure of peace and joy during this time. Thank you Father that your glory is being manifested through this family; through Shannon's strength in all of this and through her husband's healing and that they will have an amazing praise report at the end of it all. In Jesus' name, Amen.

[luvinmykids]

DH is not doing well. He had the stent removed yesterday. While the numbing stuff was in his kidney and his man parts he was OK...in some pain but OK. Once that wore off he got very sick though and started passing clots, and was in so much pain he called me at work nearly in tears. He had called the doctor and when he called back he basically said "Yeah, that can happen. You should be fine in the next day or two. Take vicodin. Go to the ER if you get a fever." Um, thanks for the advice. His doc is THE guy to go to with kidney problems but has no personality or sympathy!

DH's pain medicine finally started working after the third dose, so he couldn't go to work today. He is really out of it and I am a little worried that he's going to try to make lunch and burn the house down. He is forbidden to use appliances or anything that plugs in because he is so out of it. I called his boss and he was very nice about DH needing another day off. He sounded pretty horrified too, probably because of where much of DH's pain is located. DH didn't want to call because he was really out of it. Needless to say I didn't really want him talking to his boss while he was high.

I am getting really discouraged. I keep just praying 'Lord, help my unbelief' because it seems like there is a big old nasty dark cloud over our family. We've been dealing with his stone attacks every week for 6 months, and this surgery held a lot of hope for us but it hasn't been our saving grace so far.

I feel like I've had to be wife, mother, provider, and head of the household for months and it is getting to be too much. I literally don't know how to "give it to God" so I feel like I am being crushed.

OK, that was a huge downer. Sorry.

Oh my goodness!! I am so so sorry!! I know when they took the stent out hte first time for DH, he went to work (didn't have a choice) and he passed a HUGE clot. He said he thought he was going to pass out there in the bathroom. When we called, they told us the same thing...totally normal. So discouraging, I know. Hang in there mama. You can do it! It's so hard, but prayers said for your strength and for DH.

[pants]

Shannon!! Wow I didn't know kidney stones can get that bad! I knew they were bad and painful but I didn't know that bad!! I agree with Ayles sometimes when I go through hard times I tend to look at my feelings and burdens instead of focusing the promises in scripture. My friend who I admire went through a really tough time. Her husband had a brain tumor that ended up taking his life (he was diagnosed a month after the birth of their only child). But for that full year of his treatments, ups and downs, as well as trying to be a mom to a newborn was tough, much harder then anything i've had to go through. The only thing that got her through was reading through the Psalms while she sat by his bed in the hospital! And resting in Gods promises, even if those promises are not what we want. I pray your husband does find physical relief soon. And I pray for your strength. It is hard! I will admit. But God already knows that, God already knew the path in your life you would be down. He already has prepared promises to meet your every need and daily needs. I encourage you too to look to Him and not your feelings!


Amanda-HUGS momma!!! You had pregnancy hormones in you so I imagine that this time is like going through the postpartum part of child birth. Your hormones are trying to level back out again. Give yourself some extra time and rest if you have a chance. I think after your next cycle biologically your hormones should be more level too!! But on top of that you are dealing with the loss of a child. No matter how old the child is it is a loss that mom's will always feel. Always. I like the idea of knitting a hat. That's really sweet! I'd probably put it in a frame with the potential name of the baby. And put it with my pictures of our family! TO me that child will always be a part of our family.

[Sakura]

Amanda-HUGS momma!!! You had pregnancy hormones in you so I imagine that this time is like going through the postpartum part of child birth. Your hormones are trying to level back out again. Give yourself some extra time and rest if you have a chance. I think after your next cycle biologically your hormones should be more level too!! But on top of that you are dealing with the loss of a child. No matter how old the child is it is a loss that mom's will always feel. Always. I like the idea of knitting a hat. That's really sweet! I'd probably put it in a frame with the potential name of the baby. And put it with my pictures of our family! TO me that child will always be a part of our family.

Thanks. I'd totally forgotten that this may feel like baby blues or something as my hormones regulate. Thanks you for reminding me! I really needed to hear that today.

[Sakura]

Remember last January when a bunch of us were going to read through the whole Bible (I think the thread got lost )? Well, I finally finished today, about 3 weeks late.

I think I'd like to do a focused study of the history books of the OT next. Can anyone recommend some good commentaries or studies?

[mrsbabyhead]

Thank you ladies. Thank you so much, I can't tell you how much your prayers and words of encouragement meant and mean to me. We really needed prayers today. DH feels great. I talked to him an hour ago and he said he feels slightly achey but that is it. Thank God!

[Sakura]

Thank you ladies. Thank you so much, I can't tell you how much your prayers and words of encouragement meant and mean to me. We really needed prayers today. DH feels great. I talked to him an hour ago and he said he feels slightly achey but that is it. Thank God!

Yay!!

[mrsbabyhead]

Shannon!! Wow I didn't know kidney stones can get that bad! I knew they were bad and painful but I didn't know that bad!!

I never knew it either until we ended up in the ER the first time. The ER docs told us they were severely painful. I have been told by several woman that kidney stone attacks are worse than being in labor. And my poor DH has had these attacks for 6 months, 3 or more a month. He told me last night that he felt great and I cried I was so happy!

How are you ladies this morning?

[Sakura]

He told me last night that he felt great and I cried I was so happy!

How are you ladies this morning?

Doing ok this morning. I'm ready for some sun and Spring, though.

[pants]

Hi ladies!! I'm doing great. I am so ready for this winter to be over with too Amanda...they are calling for snow today and snow next week. AHHHHH!!!!!

I'm sitting in our study which is needing to transformed into a nursery in the next few weeks. I've already loaded it with baby stuff so it's pretty cramped in here.

I'm getting kinda anxious because this baby likes to flip around a lot but I feel him more in a breech then vertex position. So getting nervous he'll be comfortable breech Lord please help me not be anxious over this!!!!!!!

[mrsbabyhead]

I'm getting kinda anxious because this baby likes to flip around a lot but I feel him more in a breech then vertex position. So getting nervous he'll be comfortable breech Lord please help me not be anxious over this!!!!!!!

I will pray ton for your comfort and for baby too so he moves into a more favorable position. My DD got comfortable transverse and it was not only painful for me but it was a huge wrench in my natural birthing plans! It was a huge source of anxeity for me, so I pray that you have nothing but peaceful kicks in the ribs.

[Sakura]

Brenda, is it normal to get that much snow in NC? I live near Lake Michigan and they seem to forecast snow everyday through the winter.


Ok, I just have to tell someone this. Both my OB and my MW said to wait to dtd (10 days, and when the bleeding stops, respectively). We waited until 11 days after the m/c started, but still spotting just a little. At the last minute, we realized we had no condoms (cuz, you know, I was pregnant and before that we were trying, so we didn't really need anything around ), so we used the withdrawal method ("pull and pray" ). And now I'm nervous. My cycles are usually only 26 days, so if this were a regular cycle, we'd been close to O time. But who knows this time around. Yikes.

[mrsbabyhead]

Brenda, is it normal to get that much snow in NC? I live near Lake Michigan and they seem to forecast snow everyday through the winter.


Ok, I just have to tell someone this. Both my OB and my MW said to wait to dtd (10 days, and when the bleeding stops, respectively). We waited until 11 days after the m/c started, but still spotting just a little. At the last minute, we realized we had no condoms (cuz, you know, I was pregnant and before that we were trying, so we didn't really need anything around ), so we used the withdrawal method ("pull and pray" ). And now I'm nervous. My cycles are usually only 26 days, so if this were a regular cycle, we'd been close to O time. But who knows this time around. Yikes.

I was pregnant with DD 2 weeks after my miscarriage...

[Sakura]

I was pregnant with DD 2 weeks after my miscarriage...

Really?

See, in all honesty, we would LOVE that. I'd just worry that my body wouldn't be ready to house another life yet. >insert worried smiley here<

[pants]

I will pray ton for your comfort and for baby too so he moves into a more favorable position. My DD got comfortable transverse and it was not only painful for me but it was a huge wrench in my natural birthing plans! It was a huge source of anxeity for me, so I pray that you have nothing but peaceful kicks in the ribs.

Thanks....I'm trying not to get concerned. More then anything the kicks to the bladder and cervix HURT!!!!! OUCH...I feel him kicking up my uterine wall and then he'll kick my ribs a bunch but then he'll turn back to breech and rest there the rest of the day. My MW isn't concerned at all. I am. LOL.....I just need to rest in the Lord. He's trying to teach me something here.

Brenda, is it normal to get that much snow in NC? I live near Lake Michigan and they seem to forecast snow everyday through the winter.


Ok, I just have to tell someone this. Both my OB and my MW said to wait to dtd (10 days, and when the bleeding stops, respectively). We waited until 11 days after the m/c started, but still spotting just a little. At the last minute, we realized we had no condoms (cuz, you know, I was pregnant and before that we were trying, so we didn't really need anything around ), so we used the withdrawal method ("pull and pray" ). And now I'm nervous. My cycles are usually only 26 days, so if this were a regular cycle, we'd been close to O time. But who knows this time around. Yikes.

Well we got snow twice in December and our Nov-Jan has been 10-15 degree's below normal. We got snow and ice in Jan and now another round of it. It's unusual to get this much snow/ice. We usually get one or two snow storms but they show up around late jan and into feb. By march we've had 60 degree temps in the past. I'm just sick of the cold. It's been tooo cold to take DS out to the park. KWIM. I'll let him play outside in the 40's but once it gets into the 20-30's We just arent use to that down here.

I don't really have any advice on the O/DTD timing. I'll be stalking you the next few months

[mrsbabyhead]

Really?

See, in all honesty, we would LOVE that. I'd just worry that my body wouldn't be ready to house another life yet. >insert worried smiley here<

Yup.

I was crushed when I miscarried because I was 34 and have PCOS. Our doctors told us if we weren't pregnant in 6 months we'd have to start fertility workups. So obviously the MC was upsetting. My doctor was really comforting and awesome though. She told me that the standard advice is to wait but there was no physical reason for us to prevent pregnancy and we could TTC when we felt like it. And then she pointed up and said "He's in control anyway, so no matter what you do, trust God and you'll be OK. Nothing will happen that wasn't meant to happen." I was in her office a month later with a very positive pregnancy test.

What's funny is that she is a Muslim; but man, she taught me a LOT about trusting the Lord during my miscarriage and my subsequent pregnancy.

God is in control and you'll have another BFP when He knows you can handle it.

[Sakura]

Well we got snow twice in December and our Nov-Jan has been 10-15 degree's below normal. We got snow and ice in Jan and now another round of it. It's unusual to get this much snow/ice. We usually get one or two snow storms but they show up around late jan and into feb. By march we've had 60 degree temps in the past. I'm just sick of the cold. It's been tooo cold to take DS out to the park. KWIM. I'll let him play outside in the 40's but once it gets into the 20-30's We just arent use to that down here.

I don't really have any advice on the O/DTD timing. I'll be stalking you the next few months

On the bolded, Yeah, I totally know what you mean. And we have so much snow it's hard for dd to move around.

You can't help it when you're on APA so much, you (I!) get to checking timing and symptoms.

Yup.

I was crushed when I miscarried because I was 34 and have PCOS. Our doctors told us if we weren't pregnant in 6 months we'd have to start fertility workups. So obviously the MC was upsetting. My doctor was really comforting and awesome though. She told me that the standard advice is to wait but there was no physical reason for us to prevent pregnancy and we could TTC when we felt like it. And then she pointed up and said "He's in control anyway, so no matter what you do, trust God and you'll be OK. Nothing will happen that wasn't meant to happen." I was in her office a month later with a very positive pregnancy test.

What's funny is that she is a Muslim; but man, she taught me a LOT about trusting the Lord during my miscarriage and my subsequent pregnancy.

God is in control and you'll have another BFP when He knows you can handle it.

Thank you so much for sharing this! Why is it so hard to remember sometimes that God is in control?

[caligirl07]

Brenda, praying for that baby to get cozy head down!

I can't imagine being that cold, you poor girls... we are supposed to have a high of 74 degrees today... However our summers are cold and foggy... Weird coastal weather.

Amanda, pull and pray has always worked for us... although we always knew/know that we might still end up with a little blessing, which sometimes I wish would happen... we can't decide right now so I kinda wish God would just surprise us and make up our minds for us.

[caligirl07]

Yup.

I was crushed when I miscarried because I was 34 and have PCOS. Our doctors told us if we weren't pregnant in 6 months we'd have to start fertility workups. So obviously the MC was upsetting. My doctor was really comforting and awesome though. She told me that the standard advice is to wait but there was no physical reason for us to prevent pregnancy and we could TTC when we felt like it. And then she pointed up and said "He's in control anyway, so no matter what you do, trust God and you'll be OK. Nothing will happen that wasn't meant to happen." I was in her office a month later with a very positive pregnancy test.

What's funny is that she is a Muslim; but man, she taught me a LOT about trusting the Lord during my miscarriage and my subsequent pregnancy.

God is in control and you'll have another BFP when He knows you can handle it.

So awesome that God even used some one from a different religion to help you draw closer to him

[Sakura]

Amanda, pull and pray has always worked for us... although we always knew/know that we might still end up with a little blessing, which sometimes I wish would happen... we can't decide right now so I kinda wish God would just surprise us and make up our minds for us.

Good to know.

I highly doubt anything happened.

[mrsbabyhead]

Thank you so much for sharing this! Why is it so hard to remember sometimes that God is in control?

You're welcome. And I seem to forget a lot of the time too!

[ayles]

Good evening, Ladies. Just wanted to encourage you all to be in prayer for the unrest in Egypt and the thousands of innocent civilians that are being hurt/killed in the process. The situation seems to be getting worse by the second.

[Sakura]

Good evening, Ladies. Just wanted to encourage you all to be in prayer for the unrest in Egypt and the thousands of innocent civilians that are being hurt/killed in the process. The situation seems to be getting worse by the second.

Thank you for the reminder. I'd seen something in the newspaper, but I rarely watch TV, so it wasn't in the forefront of my mind.

Praying for that situation.

[ayles]

Praising God for my salvation always but especially today as it's my spiritual birthday I am five years old

[Sakura]

Praising God for my salvation always but especially today as it's my spiritual birthday I am five years old

Happy spiritual birthday!

[Carey]

Good evening, Ladies. Just wanted to encourage you all to be in prayer for the unrest in Egypt and the thousands of innocent civilians that are being hurt/killed in the process. The situation seems to be getting worse by the second.

Yes this is a good thing to be in prayer for. I know a college student who is there studying this semester, so if you could add her to your prayers, that would be wonderful! I believe that the are in a safe place, but it is not too far from the protesting. I heard yesterday that they are trying to move them to a safer area.

[KC's wifey]

Happy "birthday" Ayles!!
And yes, will be praying for the people in Egypt. I feel ignorant, but I didn't realize this was brewing in their country.

[pants]

Praising God for my salvation always but especially today as it's my spiritual birthday I am five years old

Yay

I did see that stuff about Egypt....


How is everyone doing today??? My mom surprised me and picked up two thirsties duo diapers with extra inserts today. YAY...She's very sweet. I love my mom...she really encourages me. She cloth diapered me but that was way back in the day with diaper pins and one size waterproof liners that leaked everywhere. But then again sposies were like one size in the 70's and really expensive. My mom is amazed at how easy cloth is now!! She's a little jealous. There was no such thing as diaper sprayer in her day. It was always dunk!!!!

Other then that we are doing well..we had our youth pastor and his wife and baby over on saturday. It was great to fellowship with them. We try to minister to our ministers once in a while. They always do so much for us that sometimes we forget to thank them!!

Anyone have plans for V day????