Chit Chat....

**caligirl07** · 06-21-2010, 10:19 AM

Carrie, thats too cute your are dreaming about midwife searching! lol

**CDWard** · 06-21-2010, 10:41 AM

Originally Posted by caligirl07

Carrie, thats too cute your are dreaming about midwife searching! lol

Yeah. It probably really helps that I'm reading Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth right now.

And trying to get a local MW into my insurance network. And going to a childbirth options seminar. And watching birthing videos/reading stories.

Ok, so I guess I should admit that I am just an itsy bit psyched about TTC again.

**ayles** · 06-21-2010, 02:43 PM

Was just in my daily reading and I came across Romans 11 which talks about God hardening hearts and why. Thought it was relevant to the recent questions/conversation about God hardening hearts specifically verses 7-10.

**KC's wifey** · 06-22-2010, 06:21 PM

Shhhhhhh... you guys talk too much.

Where is everyone??

**Sakura** · 06-22-2010, 07:18 PM

Busy day.

But we got the new car all registered. Woot!

**Consensus** · 06-22-2010, 09:21 PM

Originally Posted by KC's wifey

Shhhhhhh... you guys talk too much.

Where is everyone??

Worked full days yesterday and today. Came home today to hungry baby, no dinner started, and a sink full of dishes. So it's 8:15 and I'm taking a quick break before I do receipts and sweep/mop the floor.
How do you guys manage to get things done? Last week I borrowed my friends carpet shampooer and got ONE room done in 2/3 of a day. I'm going to tackle the stairs tomorrow, then the hall, then each individual upstairs room - and at the rate I'm going I'll be done in a month

And actually I'm shouldn't have the eye rolling dude because I think that's a serious estimate. How much do your DH's help?
I was thinking today the head of the household does not necessarily run the household.

Oh and Polly and Ayla - I had started to reply to your thread/topic on hardening hearts the other night and the post got erased

But I wanted to let you know it seemed to me (an outsider who probably isn't thinking deeply enough about the topic) that you were both saying very similar things.

**KC's wifey** · 06-22-2010, 11:41 PM

Originally Posted by Sakura

Busy day.

But we got the new car all registered. Woot!

Woohoo!

JennC - I am a SAHM and we live in a really REALLY tiny apartment. It does not take much to clean and I have all day, so I'm not much help.

However, I can tell you that when I was working (before we had DD) my DH and I had a talk about how, ideally, when we had kids I would do most the housework and take care of the children, and he would work to provide an income, and do some yard work and fix-it stuff around the house. HOWEVER, if I am working and doing part of the providing ("his role") then he needs to pitch in with more of the housework ("my role").

That's how my DH and I see it. He absolutely hates housework though, so he is more than happy to have me stay home and do it.

Not sure how your DH views things, but I do hope he will pitch in and help you more.

**Fallenstar80** · 06-23-2010, 03:09 AM

I don't! Right now if dishes get washed and DS is fed and gets to play some it is a good day. I can't wait for the morning sickness to be over and done with!

**ayles** · 06-23-2010, 05:59 AM

Originally Posted by JennC

Worked full days yesterday and today. Came home today to hungry baby, no dinner started, and a sink full of dishes. So it's 8:15 and I'm taking a quick break before I do receipts and sweep/mop the floor.
How do you guys manage to get things done? Last week I borrowed my friends carpet shampooer and got ONE room done in 2/3 of a day. I'm going to tackle the stairs tomorrow, then the hall, then each individual upstairs room - and at the rate I'm going I'll be done in a month

And actually I'm shouldn't have the eye rolling dude because I think that's a serious estimate. How much do your DH's help?
I was thinking today the head of the household does not necessarily run the household.

Oh and Polly and Ayla - I had started to reply to your thread/topic on hardening hearts the other night and the post got erased

But I wanted to let you know it seemed to me (an outsider who probably isn't thinking deeply enough about the topic) that you were both saying very similar things.

I want you to know that I admire you so much for how hard you work to meet the needs of your family. I'm doing a Proverbs 31 woman challenge right now and such a huge part of that is looking at what my family's needs are and being able to meet them accordingly. And I can't imagine how hard this must be having the added responsibility to provide financially, which as we've talked about on the board before, is primarily a husband's role as the head of the household.

I just want to encourage you to know that God honors your committment to your family. He recognizes that the financial burden is not meant to be yours and is faithful to hear your prayers and respond to them concerning that. Keep praying about DH's willingness to completely support the family financially so you can be less burdened to do what you have been called to do--take care of the other needs.

As far as what my (or anyone else's) DH does I thought about it and decided not to answer that question because I know that our lives and roles are not the same as yours (or anyone else's) and God has you in a very different place right now so I would hate to share and it make you feel bad or possibly place you in a position to want to compare or feel resentment towards your DH for not doing what other DHs are doing. I don't know if that makes sense but that's how my spirit responded to the question.

I will continue praying with and for you concerning this. You are doing a wonderful job and God sees and honors that. Love ya!

**Aelith** · 06-23-2010, 06:51 AM

I just wanted to tell all of you, who will understand, about something that happened to me yesterday.

As you might know, we've been struggling with secondary infertility after two miscarriages. I was on here yesterday, looking at pictures of new babies, and looking in my old due date rooms to see what the babies were up to and started to get really anxious/upset. All of a sudden, I heard/felt a whisper "Have faith" and I instantly felt so much better. I don't know if it was me telling myself to have faith or what, but it instantly eased my mind and heart.

**ayles** · 06-23-2010, 07:18 AM

Originally Posted by Aelith

I just wanted to tell all of you, who will understand, about something that happened to me yesterday.

As you might know, we've been struggling with secondary infertility after two miscarriages. I was on here yesterday, looking at pictures of new babies, and looking in my old due date rooms to see what the babies were up to and started to get really anxious/upset. All of a sudden, I heard/felt a whisper "Have faith" and I instantly felt so much better. I don't know if it was me telling myself to have faith or what, but it instantly eased my mind and heart.

That is the Holy Spirit that comforts us and reminds us of God's promises. Praise God! He is with you in this journey and is letting you know He hasn't given up on you!

**Sakura** · 06-23-2010, 09:02 AM

Originally Posted by Aelith

I just wanted to tell all of you, who will understand, about something that happened to me yesterday.

As you might know, we've been struggling with secondary infertility after two miscarriages. I was on here yesterday, looking at pictures of new babies, and looking in my old due date rooms to see what the babies were up to and started to get really anxious/upset. All of a sudden, I heard/felt a whisper "Have faith" and I instantly felt so much better. I don't know if it was me telling myself to have faith or what, but it instantly eased my mind and heart.

**KC's wifey** · 06-23-2010, 09:30 AM

Originally Posted by Aelith

I just wanted to tell all of you, who will understand, about something that happened to me yesterday.

As you might know, we've been struggling with secondary infertility after two miscarriages. I was on here yesterday, looking at pictures of new babies, and looking in my old due date rooms to see what the babies were up to and started to get really anxious/upset. All of a sudden, I heard/felt a whisper "Have faith" and I instantly felt so much better. I don't know if it was me telling myself to have faith or what, but it instantly eased my mind and heart.

Immanuel. God with us.

**caligirl07** · 06-23-2010, 09:33 AM

JennC~ I also stay home so I do about 95% of household stuff, however dh helps when I need it (new baby, sick baby...). When I was working and we didn't have kids everything was pretty split down the middle.

Aelith

**caligirl07** · 06-23-2010, 09:40 AM

Who else has 3ish year old??? Amanda I think its just you??? Anyway Tristyn talks ALL THE TIME! and to EVERYONE! is it just her personallity? shes very outgoing... but its driving me crazy (Im totally not an outgoing person and this gets a ton of attention... not my thing)! I had to get a TB test yesterday for her preschool, and she attacked the receptionist, the nurse, and the dr. with a million statements/questions.... then at starbucks attacked the barista, then at her swim lesson she told the teacher she couldn't go underwater because she needed to know who old she was

. The teacher finally told her she had to go under 2 times to ask a question

.
We talk alot at home, but sheesh you'd think I lock her in a room... as I type this she is talking to the mail person through the slot in our front door

**ayles** · 06-23-2010, 10:04 AM

Originally Posted by caligirl07

as I type this she is talking to the mail person through the slot in our front door

HAHAHAHAHAHA

I just had a mental image of this and I am cracking up!

My nephew is 3 and he talks a lot too. He has an opinion about everything and God forbid someone should say no or disagree with him. He will let you know the deal!

**ayles** · 06-23-2010, 10:24 AM

Just want to praise the Lord because He is faithful and worthy to be praised! Just got a call from my DHS worker and she said after midnight tonight we'll have both May and June's food allowance on our card totalling $670 and then $331 every month after that for six months until they do a reevaluation. Also, my medicaid was approved and should be effective from tomorrow

GOD is so so so good to me and I know I don't deserve it.

HALLELUJAH! I feel like shoutin (but I can't because Adriel is sleeping *tee hee*)

Thank you Jesus.

**Sakura** · 06-23-2010, 10:57 AM

Originally Posted by caligirl07

Who else has 3ish year old??? Amanda I think its just you??? Anyway Tristyn talks ALL THE TIME! and to EVERYONE! is it just her personallity? shes very outgoing... but its driving me crazy (Im totally not an outgoing person and this gets a ton of attention... not my thing)! I had to get a TB test yesterday for her preschool, and she attacked the receptionist, the nurse, and the dr. with a million statements/questions.... then at starbucks attacked the barista, then at her swim lesson she told the teacher she couldn't go underwater because she needed to know who old she was

. The teacher finally told her she had to go under 2 times to ask a question

.
We talk alot at home, but sheesh you'd think I lock her in a room... as I type this she is talking to the mail person through the slot in our front door

It might be her personality.

Nathan is somewhat shy (but both of his parents are somewhat socially awkward.

), but he can talk a fair amount at home.

Our pastor's son is a big talker/question asker and his mom used to put a cap on his question asking: no more than 5 at a time.

Originally Posted by ayles

Just want to praise the Lord because He is faithful and worthy to be praised! Just got a call from my DHS worker and she said after midnight tonight we'll have both May and June's food allowance on our card totalling $670 and then $331 every month after that for six months until they do a reevaluation. Also, my medicaid was approved and should be effective from tomorrow

GOD is so so so good to me and I know I don't deserve it.

HALLELUJAH! I feel like shoutin (but I can't because Adriel is sleeping *tee hee*)

Thank you Jesus.

**pants** · 06-23-2010, 11:00 AM

Hi all. VBS all week. so I'm busy this week for the most part. I'll chat soon!!!

**caligirl07** · 06-23-2010, 11:25 AM

Originally Posted by ayles

Just want to praise the Lord because He is faithful and worthy to be praised! Just got a call from my DHS worker and she said after midnight tonight we'll have both May and June's food allowance on our card totalling $670 and then $331 every month after that for six months until they do a reevaluation. Also, my medicaid was approved and should be effective from tomorrow

GOD is so so so good to me and I know I don't deserve it.

HALLELUJAH! I feel like shoutin (but I can't because Adriel is sleeping *tee hee*)

Thank you Jesus.

Awesome!!!

Brenda~ have fun at VBS!

**KC's wifey** · 06-23-2010, 12:11 PM

Gah! I am so hurt by this whole smoking thing! I seriously just had to pawn one of my favorite necklaces (a gift from DH) just to get us some food and gas money. I spent it all before DH had a chance to use any of it on cigarettes. We are going to be able to sell a box of cable tonight, and I know DH wants to buy some cigarettes with it. I asked him how its going and he said "Not well. I'm pissy and I don't feel like quitting right now."
I know it is really hard to quit, but we are PAWNING stuff just to get by! How can he justify buying something that has ZERO benefits and only hurts us?? It is so selfish. It makes me so angry. I don't know how to deal with this. I feel bad typing this, but I don't know how to handle it.

**Sakura** · 06-23-2010, 01:24 PM

Originally Posted by KC's wifey

Gah! I am so hurt by this whole smoking thing! I seriously just had to pawn one of my favorite necklaces (a gift from DH) just to get us some food and gas money. I spent it all before DH had a chance to use any of it on cigarettes. We are going to be able to sell a box of cable tonight, and I know DH wants to buy some cigarettes with it. I asked him how its going and he said "Not well. I'm pissy and I don't feel like quitting right now."
I know it is really hard to quit, but we are PAWNING stuff just to get by! How can he justify buying something that has ZERO benefits and only hurts us?? It is so selfish. It makes me so angry. I don't know how to deal with this. I feel bad typing this, but I don't know how to handle it.

**Fallenstar80** · 06-23-2010, 02:15 PM

Originally Posted by KC's wifey

Gah! I am so hurt by this whole smoking thing! I seriously just had to pawn one of my favorite necklaces (a gift from DH) just to get us some food and gas money. I spent it all before DH had a chance to use any of it on cigarettes. We are going to be able to sell a box of cable tonight, and I know DH wants to buy some cigarettes with it. I asked him how its going and he said "Not well. I'm pissy and I don't feel like quitting right now."
I know it is really hard to quit, but we are PAWNING stuff just to get by! How can he justify buying something that has ZERO benefits and only hurts us?? It is so selfish. It makes me so angry. I don't know how to deal with this. I feel bad typing this, but I don't know how to handle it.

I'm so sorry sweetie.

**caligirl07** · 06-23-2010, 02:18 PM

Originally Posted by KC's wifey

Gah! I am so hurt by this whole smoking thing! I seriously just had to pawn one of my favorite necklaces (a gift from DH) just to get us some food and gas money. I spent it all before DH had a chance to use any of it on cigarettes. We are going to be able to sell a box of cable tonight, and I know DH wants to buy some cigarettes with it. I asked him how its going and he said "Not well. I'm pissy and I don't feel like quitting right now."
I know it is really hard to quit, but we are PAWNING stuff just to get by! How can he justify buying something that has ZERO benefits and only hurts us?? It is so selfish. It makes me so angry. I don't know how to deal with this. I feel bad typing this, but I don't know how to handle it.

Im sorry, lots of hugs, I'd be really struggling too...

Have you guys found a church home yet?
if not maybe you could listen to stuff online together?
heres one on addiction
http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/...2009/addiction
Stuff on Men as husbands
http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/...en-as-husbands

**ayles** · 06-23-2010, 02:34 PM

Praying for your peace Polly and that you would continue to trust God to be your provider during this time. Your frustration is understandable. Praise God He is able to do exceedingly, abundantly beyond what we could ever imagine when we cast our cares unto Him. Also praying for your DH that he would be released from the bondage of smoking and that he would find peace and comfort in the Holy Spirit.

**ColtsFan1912** · 06-23-2010, 05:55 PM

I think I must of missed some stuff
I am sorry he is doing that. DH did that back in Indiana for a bit. . .Caleb needed new clothes & he blew it on stupid cigarettes & tried to hide it from me. (if you wanna hide things don't leave receipts in the car)
I wish I had good advice. . I know DH really struggled with quitting. . .he did for a bit but restarted again (back in Indiana). So far he's been doing ok. . i keep track of how he uses the card
I pray he has the strength to quit

Originally Posted by KC's wifey

Gah! I am so hurt by this whole smoking thing! I seriously just had to pawn one of my favorite necklaces (a gift from DH) just to get us some food and gas money. I spent it all before DH had a chance to use any of it on cigarettes. We are going to be able to sell a box of cable tonight, and I know DH wants to buy some cigarettes with it. I asked him how its going and he said "Not well. I'm pissy and I don't feel like quitting right now."
I know it is really hard to quit, but we are PAWNING stuff just to get by! How can he justify buying something that has ZERO benefits and only hurts us?? It is so selfish. It makes me so angry. I don't know how to deal with this. I feel bad typing this, but I don't know how to handle it.

**ColtsFan1912** · 06-23-2010, 06:00 PM

I guess I need to get something out now too
I got home on Saturday after having Shiloh. I stayed two nights there. ..since she was early I hadn't got the results from my one test back so I had to get antibiotics & they monitor babies who get it for 48 hours.
Anyways. I got on DH's computer & found out he was looking at more porn. I am so hurt this time. ..even more then usual. Here I was alone in the hospital, after giving birth to our daughter, sore, in pain, tired, worn out ..& he's at home, looking at some pretty disgusting crap. . . & the kicker. .it was right before our one year anniversary.
I hate this addiction. I hate it. Sometimes I want to hate him. . .that he isn't stronger. ..I know I don't understand an addiction but it's tearing me apart. Deep down I don't think he really wants to change. He has resources yet he doesn't ever chose to use them.
I just watch Shiloh sleep & pray & beg God that she doesn't have to go through this. That she won't have to know the betrayal, the pain, the despair that porn can cause. I pray she marries a man who will cherish her & ONLY her. I don't want her to go through this. ..ever.

**KC's wifey** · 06-23-2010, 06:26 PM

Bekah -

*sigh* I'm so sorry. I don't even know what I would do in your shoes. You are a very strong woman. Praying for you. Wish I could do more.

This whole submission thing is SUPER hard. Easier when husbands are doing the right things, but when they break your heart and hurt your family... I don't know how to do it.

**Sakura** · 06-23-2010, 07:01 PM

Bekah,

I'm so so sorry.

You deserve so much better.

**caligirl07** · 06-23-2010, 07:24 PM

Bekah, I can't imagine, thats horrible, I hate that he puts you through this....

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