02-10-2012, 11:17 AM
Oh, and I forgot to mentiion that Travis and I went to the dentist today. I had to switch dentists because my old one went over to private only patients and we are on the NHS for dentists, so today was our first time with the new girl. She looks like Neela from ER! She's really beautiful, which is a change from our old dentist who reminded me of a walrus (he was a chunk with a big handlebar mustasche). I asked her about if Travis could start flossing and she said something like, "Oh, god, no, he's way too young to floss!" That surprised me because I thought kids could floss?
02-10-2012, 11:51 AM
I think I introduced Josh to flossing around Travis' age but I'm not vigilant about it or anything. I don't think it's too early to start. Those little floss sticks come in bright colors and are fun for Josh but he also likes the regular floss too.
02-10-2012, 02:41 PM
We were told we should be flossing the twins regularly when they had their 3 1/2 year-old dentist appointment. In fact, they told me we should have been doing it daily before that point. Whoops. Ro's got pretty big gaps between a lot of his teeth (but not all of them) but DD's teeth are close together and it's actually some work to get the flossers into her molar spaces. So I bulk order the flossers and we have been doing it every night since then.
I'm about to start flossing baby S's teeth occasionally. He's got a couple that are kind of close together and I also want him to get used to the flosser.
02-10-2012, 03:17 PM
02-10-2012, 04:40 PM
Molly! It's One Wild Brother by Cornelia Funke. I had to think really hard because I knew it was a book that ended up at our house after Lydia posted that article listing 6 books for parents who hate princesses. I was just scrubbing my kitchen floor when I remembered the name of the author. Lo and Behold. It's a sweet story.
02-10-2012, 04:53 PM
I wish Obama would get rid of the No Child Left Behind bs for Wisconsin. How does that work? Does each state have to ask for it to be overturned?
On that note, I submitted applications for Savana and Kai to go to the charter school that is about 15 miles away from us. It's called SAGES. School for Agriculture and Environmental Studies. According the the webpage the whole second half of the day is outside studies. It's just opening in the fall for the first time. We need to be in that school. If they don't get in I will be tempted to go back to homeschooling them. If dbf gets this job (supposedly it's sure thing) I might not have to do full time daycare so I could commit to my own kids and go on adventures and stuff.
Hi, I'm just totally thinking out loud here! lol. I was thinking the other night how this thread is like a a diary on crack. We all spill our thoughts and details about our day as we would in a diary except for here we get all kinds of positive affirmations and hugs to boot. Love you ladies!
02-10-2012, 05:09 PM
Haha yeah I agree Bridget. I love how I can just go on about stuff here. It's like a diary with an audience. I hope your kids get into that school!
02-10-2012, 05:35 PM
EVery time I log onto facebook my computer freezes for a few seconds and then pops up "A script on this page is causing your web browser to run slowly. If it continues to run, you're computer may become unresponsive." Then it asks, "Stop running this script?"
Um....yes, please. Then it goes away. Why is doing that? How do I make it stop?
02-10-2012, 05:36 PM
Oh Bridget! I love how you called this a diary on crack!
I also wish sometimes I wasn't doing daycare. Don't get me wrong, I love the kids, I love being home with my kids, but it WOULD be nice to not *have* to wake up early, cook everyone food, clean up, diaper extra kids, etc every day and be able to devote 100% of yourself to your own kids. And so, if finances allowed it, I'd most likely not be doing this. Or at least, a lot more part time if possible.
02-10-2012, 07:38 PM
Bridget, have you tried clearing your temporary internet files and rebooting?
02-10-2012, 07:39 PM
Bad, bad day at work. Very bad. I'm kind of a mess about it all and trying to work out how I feel. Just send good vibes my way if you guys would. I haven't heard about the other job, I am beginning to lose hope. I think I'll call them on Monday to check up on it.
02-10-2012, 08:06 PM
02-10-2012, 08:58 PM
I have flossed G's teeth with the floss picks, he's not real happy about it. Ashley, I totally understand you're not wanting to swim and then wrestle the kids into clothes again. It's funny when you're a kid, there is nothing better than a pool. But eh, as an adult I find it to be a hassle. We have a pool, but it goes unused for the winter months, really kind of a pita.
Bridget, that charter school sounds wonderful, I hope the kids get into it. The closest charter school is 45 minutes from us, I was kinda surprised at that.
The positive affirmations remind me of Stuart Smalley, lol. I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it people like me. aww the old days when I stayed up to watch SNL.
Chrissy, I hope you are doing okay tonight.
What happened to Nolan's mom? I can't remember her first name. I haven't seen her around in awhile.
Oh and I hope Cosmo's appt went well!
Shelley-mom to DS, 5
02-10-2012, 09:49 PM
02-10-2012, 10:15 PM
I think it is just hilarious that someone can name a random book plot (frogs eating, siblings comforting each other at bedtime) and I have so many books here that I can find one that somewhat matches it, even if it's not the right one. I had no clue about that One Wild Brother one, but it looks fun. Apparently I did not read all the links in the article I posted.
Karen, good luck. I think you should check in with your potential job and ask them what the eff (but more professionally).
Inca (I might as well confess now that I never remember anyone's names and I always assume for discretion' sake that people prefer to be known by their screen names), I feel like that a great deal of the time just with my own family and without a day care. There are many days that I wish I could just stop cleaning and stop cooking and stop running errands. It probably doesn't help that I don't ever get to sleep in, and wouldn't be able to even if I somehow got offered that as a present. And it's not like I could just take a day off. I sometimes--just sometimes--put off mopping one extra day.
I hate No Child Left Behind as well. I heard that it was being repealed in certain states but just caught the news in passing, and don't know which ones or how it's working. And obviously haven't followed up.
We have a ton of charter schools around us, and I researched some of them during my quest for elementary schools, but I had to pick a school that was relatively nearby since my mom doesn't drive, and there were none within walking distance. The closest school is nearly a mile away as it is, up some big hills. The charter schools I looked at did not seem to offer anything special except the word 'charter,' either, and they didn't do very well scholastically. I know that's not the only measure, but it is a measure. They don't sound anything like Bridget's charter school, which sounds really cool. I remember reading about some schools in Europe that had their children spend a great deal of time outside, and I think that is so good for kids.
Ash, I hope you start feeling better soon, and I hope your kids work themselves out of this difficult phase.
How was Cosmo's appointment?
02-11-2012, 08:35 AM
Hi...was too tired to get online yesterday. Not used to getting up at 4am. But the weather was fine....cold and windy but no snow so it was a decent drive. 2 hours each way. Cosmo has exactly what I thought, sceleritis. Her immune system is attacking the whites of her eyes. This vet was great...he basically looked at her eyes and knew exactly what it was in like 3 seconds. Left untreated, it could eventually cause nerve damage and pressure issues leading to vision loss. But she isn't there yet. I'm beyond ticked off that her old vet just brushed it aside and was like, oh just allergies and not an infection. Her new vet was like, hmmm, looks like glaucoma but the pressure is fine so I don't know what this is and you should see this specialist in the cities. Plus new vet is down the street and cheaper than old vet.
So the specialist took Cosmo to the back treatment room and she got a shot under the eyelids of steroids...they numbed her first. For a while yesterday she had bloody tears. And we are doing prednisone drops at home for at least two months.
he said it's very treatable and that most dogs outgrow it (who would have thought my 8 yr old dog needed to outgrow something!) but it can come back and than we just do drops again. He is sending the info to our vet and we can do the checkups there....excellent as we can't take whole days off work and drive to the cities all the time.
Oh and the exam, 2 shots, and drops was only $188. Much less than we were expecting!
Bridget, that sounds like a really cool charter school! Hope that it works out.
Suja, hope that DH gets the exemption.
Jennifer, 35, DH 36
02-11-2012, 09:14 AM
Jennifer, I'm so sorry you had an exhausting day. You are right to be upset with your local vet for not catching it sooner. Overall, I'd be relieved after getting a dx and tx going forward. I hope C outgrows it quickly with the help of the drops. Will you keep the same vet from now on?
DH & I finished watching the movie, Margin Call, last night. It was good, but not great like I'd expected. I think everyone made a big deal out of the all-star cast. There were a lot of dishy males in it - Paul Bettany, Jeremy Irons, Penn Badgely, Simon Baker. Out of the studly cast, who does Myles dream she made out with last night? Stanley Tucci. And I liked it. I think he's totally hot. I'm thankful my subconscious mind picked him over Kevin Spacey, Zachary Quinto...or Demi Moore for that matter.
I forgot to mention I got food poisoning from "stuff" soup the other night. Luckily DH & B were sick of my soups and opted for daddy's homemade Hawaiian pizza. I was the only one that got sick. So I want to thank Lisa for mentioning Bridget's thread, which led me there, which I read for so long that it caused me to not go to the store to buy enchilada sauce. If I had, I'd have made slightly spoiling "stuff" enchiladas for dinner, the boys
would've eaten them, and we all would have been sick.
Happy Satirday (<--- really, autocorrect? you didn't know how to fix that one?), lovely ladies! And Happy Chinese New Year too (Monday). It's the Year of the Black Water Dragon. Make this your best Year of the Black Water Dragon yet.
02-11-2012, 09:21 AM
I confess... Bodhi is still sleeping, and DH & I had to stop ourselves from waking him up to play with us.
02-11-2012, 10:57 AM
Lydia, I am Liz. You can call me Inca or Liz, doesn't matter. And you're right, even if I wasn't doing the daycare, I'd still have a million and one other things to do around the house.
And sitting here doing my taxes, I thought I'd get a LOT more back because of the child EIC... but I guess because of all the deductions I claimed for the daycare, puts my total income only something like 4,000 and change. I'm so confused. :-\
02-11-2012, 01:09 PM
Myles, I love Stanley Tucci! I love the characters he plays. He was awesome as Julia Child's husband in Julie and Julia and I love him as Emma Stone's dad in Easy A. Oh also in The Devil Wears Prada. Yup.
I'm sorry you got sick though!
02-11-2012, 02:03 PM
Thank you all for your kind thoughts for me to get me out of this funk! The other day when we had a really horrible day, I went to bed as soon as the kids were asleep at 7:15 and both boys actually slept through the night and I slept until 6:15 when Cash woke up! I hadn't slept that much in years. It felt great! I still have a sore throat, though, that the doctor didn't want to give me any meds for and I wouldn't take meds for it any way, but it's been 3 weeks, so it's starting to annoy me that it won't just go away.
Shelley, I used to love Stuarty Smalley on SNL; I remember when he had Michael Jordan talking to himself in the mirror. MJ was my hero as a young kid (I was basketball crazy back in the day). One of the best things about the weekends for me as a teenager was staying up to watch SNL and Arsenio Hall. LOL!!!!! And then as I got older, Conan O'Brien was my obsession. I loved SNL when Phil Hartman, Adam Sandler, Chris Rock and Kevin Nealon were on there.
Liz, good luck with the taxes. I'm kinda glad the UK government just does our taxes for us (as well as healthcare) since I am a very lazy person and wouldn't know what to do about filing. They just tax you throughout the year on your earnings and have people that check to make sure you pay correctly throughout the year.
Has anyone heard from Erin lately? Is her Internet down again?
I have no idea what the No Child Left Behind program is. I've heard it mentioned a lot; was it a program GWB started?
Oh, while I'm on here and doing a long post (the kids are in bed and DH is playing some car racing game on his PS3), I thought I'd ask y'all since y'all are my closest lady friends. I noticed the other night when I was out with the yummy mummies that none of them were very positive about themselves. They are all thin, pretty ladies, but they all complained about needing to lose weight and just seemed generally unhappy with themselves. It was like someone would say, 'Oh, I feel so fat' and everyone else would be like, 'girl, you are not fat' and they'd be all like, 'aaah, thanks you guys....but I am.' I've noticed it before with Brit women. I wonder if it's a cultural thing? Because I am not like that. My husband laughs at me when people tell me I look younger than I am (I am 30 and people tell me a lot of the times that I look like I'm in my early 20's). When I get that kind of compliment, I'll mention that people do tell me that a lot and that I'm just lucky with genetics. Or, when people say to me that they can't believe that I have 2 kids, I'll say 'well, the weight kind of came off eventually.' It's like, if I were British born, if someone told me those same things, I'd be inclined to say, 'Oh, no, I don't look that young' or 'Oh, I'm not thin, really, I'm quite the chunk.' And I feel like this is why I never really make connections with women here....because I love myself a little too much (and probably overlook my flaws instead of obsessing over them?) What do you ladies think?
02-11-2012, 02:15 PM
Honestly, I have some friends who always comment on how they need to lose weight and some who never mention it at all. I do think it's a matter of self esteem. Personally, I never make self-depricating comments about my appearance because I think it seems like I'm just wanting everyone to tell me I'm wrong, fishing for compliments. I can remember one time I was at a friend's birthday party before I got pregnant with Sawyer and some of my old friends were like, "We cannot believe how much you still look like Courtney Cox!" (I used to get that all the time in my twenties. People called me Monica.) Well, I responded with, "She appears to be aging better than I am though doesn't she?" and I totally meant it to be a funny reference to the obvious fact that she's doing botox or something since she has not one wrinkle on her face. Everyone at the table was like your british friends, "OMG, you look amazing. You still look the same as you did in high school. You're prettier than her.... blah blah"
I felt like a total tool, like "everyone compliment me starting.....now!"
02-11-2012, 02:26 PM
I think it's a common reaction to deflect compliments. Me, I don't get a lot of compliments so I just say thank you.
I know some really good looking moms who get compliments all the time and they just laugh it off and say they still need to lose weight (really? off of where?). I think it's just a matter of how you take compliments.
02-11-2012, 02:29 PM
I don't think it is just a British thing. More of a city/urban thing, maybe? Not sure but I know some people like that and some who aren't.
I don't have great self-esteem and compliments make me feel really self-conscious. So I do try to brush things off or minimize them but I don't say things like that as a backward way of getting compliments.
NCLB was started by GWB and pretty much universally hated by everyone. It mandates high-stakes testing. I think one provision of NCLB is that 100% of children will be able to read at grade level by 2014. I don't care what date you set, there are some kids who just will never be able to read at grade level, as I know all too well. It has really caused big changes in schools across the country because teacher's peformance is tied to their students' performance on standardized tests. It's led to a lot of stress and negative changes.
I have heard there are some changes coming that will allow states to waive certain requirements of testing but I haven't heard much detail. Change doesn't seem to be happening very quickly despite the fact that everyone hates NCLB.
Me (39) DH (46) & furbabies * m/c 7/08 4/12 11/12
02-11-2012, 02:32 PM
Yeah, I know what y'all mean, but this seems to be on another level. Like, all they did that night we were out was complained about everything. Their DH's, the kids, the school, etc. I am not a complainer about much things, so I felt like I didn't contribute much to the conversation because there's not a lot that DH does that I can actually complain about!
02-11-2012, 02:54 PM
Yes! I can't remember if I told you guys, but when my therapist asked me at our first meeting if I had a support network of friends, I instantly mentioned you all. My best friends live in the internet.
Originally Posted by Bridget
I'd try to run updates-browser, java, flash...and clean the cache too. And restart. If it's Mozilla or Chrome and it still does it after all that, you can try to uninstall/reinstall it.
Originally Posted by Bridget
Originally Posted by beanpop
I'm like that too, which is why I was really starting to hate myself because I feel like in the last 12-15 months that's all I've done is whine and complain. I hope I'm getting better about it, because that is annoying. I think all of us have things to be happy about. We can chose to focus on that, or the things that make us unhappy. I really, really want to be the happy-focus type.
Originally Posted by AmeriBrit
Yesterday was great. I mean, it sucked and hurt and I cried, but I had a really good day. I spent the afternoon alone with my boss and we had lunch, drinks, and lots of talk. At one point he was kidding me a little and said I'd been a 'good little worker girl' and it got me. He wasn't being condescending at all...that's kinda of nature of our relationship. I know he's going to miss me too but he reminded me about how this is a really good career move for me.
I was doing ok until I was grocery shopping today and I was getting the stuff for my lunches next week. I got all choked up. I'm not nervous or anything about the new job. I just know I'm going to miss my old one a lot. And John (my now former boss) has been a real friend to me. I didn't really notice how much until I was telling my therapist about what a hard time I was having leaving my old job and that it was confusing me. She said that leaving John as a friend was a real loss for me because I don't really talk about my personal life with anyone. But I did confide things in him, especially in regards to the kids and their troubles with school and such.
Anyway...it'll be ok. I know Monday I'll be in 'new job mode' and the worst will be behind me.
Mama to Bobbie 20 ~ Jesi 18 ~ Syd 14 ~ Conner 6
I'm gonna be a Gramama! Jesi is due 11/22/13
02-11-2012, 02:57 PM
Oh-and Bridget, I thought it was you that said Lysine works for cold sores? Of course I got one just in time to start my new job. I'm wondering how much I should take. Anyone here have any idea? It's too late for the Abreeva. It was full blown when I woke up this morning.
Mama to Bobbie 20 ~ Jesi 18 ~ Syd 14 ~ Conner 6
I'm gonna be a Gramama! Jesi is due 11/22/13
02-11-2012, 03:06 PM
Oh, ouchie. I hate cold sores. I used to use camphophenique (I'm spelling that phonetically as I can't remember how it's actually spelled) and that made them disappear quicker than anything I'd ever tried before.
I just got off the phone with my mom; she told me at the end of the phone call that she'd been worried all day about me because she had a dream that something bad happened to Rich and me. She's one of those people that has dreams and sometimes they come true, so I think it freaked her out. I've had dreams like that, but I know that dreams are just dreams in the end.
02-11-2012, 03:11 PM
I never heard of that Ash. Off to google and see if I can figure out what it is. I'm not surprised I got one because this week was so stressful for me...and AF started her visit yesterday. Perfect storm for an outbreak.
Eeek--my g'ma has dreams like that and even though I'm an unbeliever about a lot of things, I hate to admit that some have been dead on. It's uncanny. I think I've even had a couple myself. Maybe it's all a coincidence though...because I know I've had very vivid dreams that freaked me out and they came to nothing. I do always worry in the back of my head after one though, so I can relate to your mom.
Bobbie is on her way home. She sent me a message saying she's not in a good place. I don't know the details yet, but someone online told her she should kill herself, listed the reasons why, and told her how to do it. She knows she shouldn't let it get to her, but it did. Why are people so freaking evil?
Mama to Bobbie 20 ~ Jesi 18 ~ Syd 14 ~ Conner 6
I'm gonna be a Gramama! Jesi is due 11/22/13
02-11-2012, 03:42 PM
Oh, no, Chrissy! How evil are some freakin people! That is just sh*t! Ugh. I'm so sorry for poor Bobbie. I'm glad she has you to come home to. (hugs)