Chrissy, that is just awful. I hope she turns up quickly and apologizes.
Chrissy; I hope she comes home safely and soon.
2/09 6/09 4/14
Oh no, Chrissy!I hope she is home by now, or that you have heard from her.
She arrived home shortly after 5, crying and claiming to not remember anything. She has bruises on her neck. We're at the sheriff's station now. I'm hoping they can get her to remember more. I don't know what to think.
Oh no! That's scary! Hope you figure out what happened.
Either something horrible happened or she's lying. A deputy is questioning her alone right now. The bruises on her neck are alarming.
oh my, Chrissy that is terrible. I hope you find answers tonight.
Shelley-mom to DS, 5
Chrissy we are here for you. I also hope you find answers asap.
Dammit I just keep checking to see if you've been in here, Chrissy.
I'm thinking of you and your family today, Chrissy. I hope that Jesi is ok!
We're finally home at 3:00 am. She turned up shortly after I got home, about 6 pm. She was crying and said she couldn't remember where she'd been since 11 pm the previous night. She also had awful bruises around her throat. We took her immediately to the sheriff's office. They did a preliminary report and encouraged us to take her to the ER for a full work up. What they wanted to know was if she'd been given any date-rape type drugs. On the side, the deputy said it could be either case; either someone drugged her and assaulted her and she really doesn't remember, or she's lying to cover up for someone but a crime definitely occurred because of the marks on her neck. The deputy thought the bruises looked like someone pressed on her throat with knuckles on each side of her esophagus. The ER Dr thought it looked like someone tried to strangle her with a belt or something because there were marks on the side of her neck as well. It's definitely more pronounced in the front though, and wider...like a buckle maybe. Talk about sickened and feeling helpless. Yet again. She's ok now though, and that's what is important.
The next step is visiting with the investigator Monday morning. He'll take her statement and we'll sign releases for him to receive the lab results from her ER visit tonight. She wasn't sexually assaulted, so I guess that's a good thing. I never imagined "I'm glad she was only choked" would be a thought I'd have. Irony.
The Investigator asked us not to grill her, as tempting as it might be. If she's protecting someone or lying because she's afraid of getting in trouble with us, he said he's usually good at getting kids to open up to him but if we interrogate her ourselves, it will give her time to build up more lies. It's possible she was given a drug and he's not ruling that out either. That's what the lab work will reveal.
Ugh. This mommy business is hands down the most difficult role any person could ever play. I don't know if I'm cut out for this. A little late now, huh? I'm not saying she's not worth it. It's just so tremendously heartbreaking and now I'm questioning everything I ever did as a mother. Where did I go wrong where something like this could happen, just a mere 7 months after my oldest daughter was sexually assaulted?
14 months of hell with no end in sight. No wonder why I'm in therapy and on anti-depressants. Cripes.
As always-thank you all for your support. It means so much to me. My phone died so I couldn't update sooner. I'm sorry.
This wait must be agonizing for you. I am so so sorry.
I'm really sad and sorry right now for all that has happened. This latest is just another truly terrible thing. I hope you can get to the bottom of it without too much more drama or upset. Big big big hugs for you right now.
"Any idiot can face a crisis; it is this day-to-day living that wears you out." -Anton Chekhov
I'm so sorry you're family is going through all this. I hope your daughter's physical trauma heals quickly and that the police can get to the bottom of all this.
2/09 6/09 4/14
You didn't do anything wrong.
Remember what we discussed about not taking our kids' behaviors personally? ;) I know it doesn't help much to compare her to our younger kids because she's so much older and she should have more awareness of how her behaviors affect the whole family. But at the same time I remember teenagehood as being this weird time where I was blissfully unaware of how my actions could possibly affect my parents or anyone else. And I turned out to be a relatively not screwed up person.
Chrissy, I am sorry you're having to go through this. Like others have said you didn't do anything wrong. Being a mom is hard, and being a teenager is hard.
Shelley-mom to DS, 5
Chrissy, I'm so sorry that you've had to go through all of this heartache. I can't even imagine what you must be feeling right now. I really hope that things calm down for you soon.
Oh, and I agree with you all - British accents are super hot! Except Cockney. lol
Karen (28), DF (28), DD (3), DS (2 months)
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