I think my definition of cool is not the general one though. I think people who are cool are themselves and they are not acting like something or someone else just to fit in or make people view them in a specific way.
"Hipsters" to me are not cool. They are lost souls who haven't found themselves yet IMO. Some play the game their whole lives, some become cool by being genuine.
I love someone who can have a conversation. To me being able to speak about your interest is very cool. That is the main reason why I was attracted to DH. Even though he has some far out ideas and believes a lot of stuff written in books that I think are propaganda, he is very passionate and intelligent and can speak very well about most any subject.
But nerdy people are my people so of course I think pretty much all nerds are cool.
I also think good mom's are cool and good dad's.
To me, anyone 'cool' is just someone I like. I don't know if I even know what a hipster is. I tend to take people as they are with me though...I don't care what they're in to or how they dress or what their philosophical ideals are about life. If we can talk, laugh, have a good time and they're honest...then they're 'cool' in my book.
I tend to be goofy too Erin. I play the dumb blonde role very well and have fun with it. Sometimes at work It makes the day go by faster. Rich used to call me "GoofTroop" as a pet name.
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As I have gotten older my definition of cool has changed. When I was young it was irony, non-involvement, judgement and stillness. Now I am much more interested by people who are enthusiastic about something, super-excited means super-interesting person usually. Now I find myself drawn to enthusiastic people.
My comedy wasn't really goofy. Maybe a little scatter-brained, dorky but still kind of cool. The last set of managers I talked to told me that they would only represent me if I would dye my hair blond as it would match my persona better than brunette.
"Any idiot can face a crisis; it is this day-to-day living that wears you out." -Anton Chekhov
Happy belated birthday to Karen too. I didnt' get the chance to give you my wishes yesterday. Hope it was awesome.
Not very many people intimidate me, least of all people who would be considered cool. I've been around enough musicians and artists to generally be annoyed by hip people. I also purposely wear crocs and pastels to rock shows, just to offend hipsters wearing their vague shades of gray and Onitsuka Tigers.
I don't know what my internet forum personality is, but in real life, I don't really like very many people. Not that I'm unfriendly, but I make friends for keeps, so the list is short.
Have you checked out the new Creativity museum in SF yet? I'm thinking of taking Bodhi there. The beach is a nice place for mellow kid interaction too, I find.
I call people who try to use the kidding angle "verbal snipers". They say something offensive and then retreat behind the cover of it all having been in the name of fun, and then try to pass it off like you need to lighten up too. It's cowardly is what it is.
(Did you like that last sentence, Ash?)
And avoid talking to her as much as possible. LOL.
I like that you don't like many people. Reminds me of my sister....it's a rare person that doesn't annoy her....and yup I'm sometimes on her annoying list.
I have two people other than DH and my sister that are my close friends IRL....one I met at age 15 and the other at age 16.
Haaa! Verbal snipers is perfect!
Anyway I told him something wierd that DH said or did (I forgot what it was) but he did tell me that we should have our own reality show. I told him that DH has already thought of that but it doesn't involve regular every day life it is of the X rated variety and I shot that idea down really quickly even though it is not truly XXX or intercourse related, it is just something that DH likes to watch and he thinks someone else would want to watch it too. But I was like, um....No! My co-worker also thought that hilarious and the fact that I made sure to tell him I wasn't sexually harrassing him. Our company has had a lot of people get fired for sexual harrassment so any sort of conversation that involves gender or any reference to anything to do with sex, even if I don't mention sex or anything sexual, I make sure to introduce my statement as not intending to cause sexual harrassment. He also thinks that is hilarious as well (my co-worker, actually all of them, they swear they won't accuse me of sexual harrassment but I don't believe them).
And Bridget I agree with making your own instruments. Do any of the homeschoolers have any sort of African percussion instruments? If not you can make a lot of them out of gourds and beads and other easy to find materials. We made some sort of rattles out of gourds when I was a kid. I wish I could remember how to do it, I would let you know. But we made our own drums as well and had a percussion jam in a music program I was a part of.
I also don't have many true friends. Not including relatives I only have 2 people in my real life I consider friends. The one I mentioned before who throws the Mardi Gras party and one who was my roommate in college. He doesn't live far from me and comes over a couple times per week.
Most people get on my nerves though and I am honest and will tell people when they are getting on my nerves. Especially my former roommate as he can get needy and even though I always feel horrible later I am always trying to tell him how to manage his money since he is always broke and complains about not having money. But I also joke with them because I saw this movie with Jim Carey in it where he was a gay guy who figured out he was gay after he was married and have a kid...okay remember now it was called "I Love You Phillip Morris." And one of the parts of the movie that made me crack up was when he was talking about how he got into a life of crime because he didn't realize that being gay cost so much money to have all the designer clothes and go to parties and date and have a cool car. I always joke around with my friend since he is gay that he shouldn't be living the gay life so hard and he better watch out before he turns to a life of crime.
Yaknow, I'm not cool, I don't care, and I don't spend a second of my life worrying about it. I don't think any of my friends can be classified that way either. I am who I am, like who I like, take it or leave it. And if you decide that I'm not cool enough for you, then your loss, not mine.
On a related topic, I have stopped talking about how cool I'm not, because that seems to have become the battle cry of the hipster too(ETA: not to imply that you were making any sort of hipster maneuver, Suja!).
Those pesky hipsters have co-opted everything!
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OMG, you guys, me in high school...I was the weird girl that lived in her own reality. I was so uncool that I must have been cool. LOL. Kurt Cobain was my style icon, so you can imagine me there amongst the girly girls in high school with my wool cardigans and unkept hair. I cringe when I think about high school. I mean, it was great in some ways but in other ways, I was soooo unaware of how other people saw me. Oh, and I was a band geek, too. Nowdays, I am more girly in my style, but I'm still a quiet person. I like me, though. I'll do the whole Stuart Smalley routine in the mirror sometimes just for a laugh. Some people just talk all the time, though, like my MIL...she's a hairdresser, so it's in her blood to just yap yap yap! A lot of times, I feel like I should talk just as much back, but I just don't talk that much!
Erin, your comment about how you had to preface your conversation to your colleague with that you weren't sexually harrassing him reminded me of a conversation I had with a teacher friend the other day. She was telling me about how she'd taken a group of students of France for a week and when they'd gone to a goat's cheese farm, the kids were asking to do something and she'd told them they weren't "risk-assessed" for that. She said after that, for every activity the kids wanted to do, they'd say, "Miss, are we risk-assessed to do this?" LOL.
I Love You Philip Morris was a GREAT movie.
"Any idiot can face a crisis; it is this day-to-day living that wears you out." -Anton Chekhov
I've now ordered a ton of shoes off Zappos, because I need new shoes. I just need one pair, but I have sensitive feet and I'm very particular about how shoes fit. I really only have one pair at any given time, then when I notice they start to wear out, I order another. They don't carry my old shoes, so I need to find a new kind.
I ordered 7 pairs, I had to return all of them, I ordered 7 more, and all are going back as well (free shipping both ways). Today I ordered 7 more and the credit card people finally called my husband and said "I don't mean to alarm you, but this women has ordered a high quantity of merchandise from an online shoe store. Can you validate the purchase?" He just said "Well she has sensitive feet, and it's hard to try on shoes with a toddler." I think the guy meant "approve" and not "validate" but Dh took him literally.
Anyway. I never understood how some women have just a ton of shoes or a "shoe fetish" because I can't stand this. And how do they find that many pairs of shoes to fit their feet?!
Thanks for link Myles, I'll be doing research tonight.
I love shoes-the older I get, the worse it is. But for as many as I might have (and it's not many compared with what other women have), I only wear 1 pair every day. The others are my 'special occasion' shoes. I can't order online though because the few times I tried they didn't fit me at all. I don't go shopping for myself often because I hate it, but every time I do I try on at least 10 pairs of shoes. I rarely buy myself a pair though because I can never find a pair that fits me well.
I hate shoe shopping My feet are really skinny and I have a super high arch so its a PITA to find shoes!!!
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I'm most likely going shoe shopping Saturday. I have flat feet and a heel spur....no way could I order shoes online. So off to Minneapolis I go....nice part is no taxes on shoes and clothes in MN and I'm guessing a new pair will likely run me between 120-280 so that helps. After that is the Lego store at MOA.
I really need something to wear as I have been in my sandals all spring/summer/fall and well it's getting cold! And I can't wear my tennis to work. My Naot shoes from the past few years are just too worn and not comfortable anymore.
Going here http://www.schulershoes.com/Search.a...0'Tailored'
Kind of interested in trying this one http://www.schulershoes.com/Womens-F...ebec-P308.aspx
Maybe this one http://www.schulershoes.com/Womens-B...ila-P6762.aspx
Or maybe http://www.schulershoes.com/Womens-R...-03-P2887.aspx