Secular Confessions

[elmobo-n-lexi]

My sister called me and said "I am so sorry for your loss" and I was like "huh???"

I didn't put two and two together since my husbands step dad died this morning too, although I didn't think she knew about that.

She says "Yes, I'm so sorry that your first boyfriend has passed away."

When I was little I always said Michael Jackson was my boyfriend. I also had a poster of him in my bedroom and said he protected me from the monsters.

[sunrider]

I confess that filing bankruptcy was one of the best things Jimi and I ever did. We had a condo that we couldn't have gotten out from under to save our lives, medical bills and his car that got repo'd after his DUI. Add to that the facts that he lost two family members in a year and in that same year my brother and his family of five moved in with us and didn't do crap to help out.

Two more years and we will be buying a house.

Same here! DH and I filed back in 2006. We were really really on the verge of pretty much being homeless. Filed for bankruptcy, and i'm telling you, the stress that it relieved is like no other. We are now debt free! We still don't have a lot of money, but we don't have any debt either.

OK, this makes me feel slightly better that the two of you don't consider it a huge mistake and regret it . . .

Yep and we haven't been over thirty days late on any payments since. We filed February of 2007. We could have saved the condo but we chose to walk away, it would have dug us even deeper in the long run. It was a POS and we knew when we went to sale it, we would be assed out big time.

OOH - so you had the option of keeping your home? THAT is my single biggest fear. Losing the house. Mortgage is in good standing and we're not at all late (in fact it's usually paid about a week early). But our CC minimum payments total more than the mortgage. If I could just get rid of those - we'd be fine. Like, with a surplus of money to pay off remaining stuff fast.

[sunrider]

Yeah it is Evie's vibrating boppy
Actually Red is a freak he turns it on and gets in it. Too bad the batteries are dying.

Awesome dog!!!!

[The10Eels]

I confess my nipples hurt SO bad that even just having a shirt on is bugging me..

[The10Eels]

I confess I am in awe of all the different celebrities in this video (and its a good song too)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WmxT21uFRwM

[3andMe]

I'm worried about Bean. I wish she'd post again.

[The10Eels]

I'm worried about Bean. I wish she'd post again.

Me too... Though it is only 8:40 am in Alaska

[Bean]

I'm here. Last night was... interesting. I had a bad reaction to the percocet and thought I was dying. My back is still the same today. It got worse last night, the spasms started radiating around to the front, it was what I imagine back labor to feel like. Now they're still sort of radiating around the sides of my body towards my stomach but I'm used to it now so I've sort of numbed myself to that pain. We'll see how today goes.

[The10Eels]

I confess I am worried about my BFF, and really wish I was in AK to help her right now...

She just went through ANOTHER surgery for her kidney stones, and was feeling a little better. Then a few days ago she started getting a fever, and her kidneys were hurting. She went into the ER, worried that she had another infection. They said its not infected but did give her an MRI or something to check the placement of the Stent they put in.

She has to have another surgery next month, all the while working, and raising her son (16 months old) on her own.

[3andMe]

I'm here. Last night was... interesting. I had a bad reaction to the percocet and thought I was dying. My back is still the same today. It got worse last night, the spasms started radiating around to the front, it was what I imagine back labor to feel like. Now they're still sort of radiating around the sides of my body towards my stomach but I'm used to it now so I've sort of numbed myself to that pain. We'll see how today goes.

So what about medical attention? Hmm? Glad you only thought you were dying, and it wasn't the real thing!

Thanks for reassuring me.

[3andMe]

I confess I am worried about my BFF, and really wish I was in AK to help her right now...

She just went through ANOTHER surgery for her kidney stones, and was feeling a little better. Then a few days ago she started getting a fever, and her kidneys were hurting. She went into the ER, worried that she had another infection. They said its not infected but did give her an MRI or something to check the placement of the Stent they put in.

She has to have another surgery next month, all the while working, and raising her son (16 months old) on her own.

That sounds awful! I hope she gets better.

[The10Eels]

That sounds awful! I hope she gets better.

Thanks.. I hope so too! It doesn't help matters at all that she's dealing with her baby's daddy being a total asshat!

I confess DH has an interview on thursday!!! Keep your fingers crossed ladies! He'd be driving a party bus for $12/hour! That's not GREAT money for around here, but it's not bad from what I have been told!

[daylilies]

I confess I am in awe of all the different celebrities in this video (and its a good song too)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WmxT21uFRwM

I confess I know that song but it must have been a really long time since I heard it because I don't think I knew who all those people were last time I saw it LOL

[Jenny]

I confess that I have weight watchers this morning, but last night I had ice cream. The first time in a long time. Why or why did I do it on the night before a weigh-in?

[Janeen]

I confess DH and I are in a nasty but not really nasty argument right now.

I confess that he posted his first blog in quite a while and it was about this argument, in his artistic, subtle way and I commented on his blog in my bold but subtle way.

[shutterbird]

I confess I haven't really put my personal/marriage life online for a while now, but I told DH if he got a screaming Lorelai out of her crib again (at 2 am) and let her watch The Jungle Book while he slept, I was going to divorce him. Just thinking of all the things she could have swallowed/choked on, got into and made a mess, got hurt on... I hate when he doesn't use his head.

[sunrider]

I confess I'm concerned about the wedding I'm going to today - for all of us, Liam included.
I hope it's going to be as short as the bride says it will be. It's outside in a park - forecast for today is 96 with heat index up to 110.

[The10Eels]

I confess I'm concerned about the wedding I'm going to today - for all of us, Liam included.
I hope it's going to be as short as the bride says it will be. It's outside in a park - forecast for today is 96 with heat index up to 110.

YIKES!
How do they tell the heat index? I really hope its short and sweet for you guys!



I confess I woke up to a text from my BFF, and it made me even more upset for her. I shared about how she's having kidney problems... Well she was talking to her grandmother about everything thats going on, and this is what her grandmother told her..

"Well if you hadn't decided to be a punk kid and actually do something with your life, you would have a great job with great insurance,and wouldn't find yourself single with a baby and health issues. I know you don't want to hear it but sometimes the truth hurts"

[Rin]

I confess I haven't really put my personal/marriage life online for a while now, but I told DH if he got a screaming Lorelai out of her crib again (at 2 am) and let her watch The Jungle Book while he slept, I was going to divorce him. Just thinking of all the things she could have swallowed/choked on, got into and made a mess, got hurt on... I hate when he doesn't use his head.

(((Hugs))) mama... I think my Dh has done that a few times too. It's scary.

[3andMe]

I confess I haven't really put my personal/marriage life online for a while now, but I told DH if he got a screaming Lorelai out of her crib again (at 2 am) and let her watch The Jungle Book while he slept, I was going to divorce him. Just thinking of all the things she could have swallowed/choked on, got into and made a mess, got hurt on... I hate when he doesn't use his head.

That is just crazy. Was he at least asleep in the same room? I'm sure some day my dh will do something that will make me gasp in horror, but so far I've been really lucky and he has shown a lot of common sense and has been just as safety conscious as I have been--plus we have agreed that no matter how ridiculous it sounds, we will listen to each other's concerns and err on the side of safety. Was your dh there and really involved when you lost Ally? I think part of my dh's concern about safety is just knowing that babies aren't invincible. I'm glad Lorelei is okay.

I confess I'm concerned about the wedding I'm going to today - for all of us, Liam included.
I hope it's going to be as short as the bride says it will be. It's outside in a park - forecast for today is 96 with heat index up to 110.

I hope your day goes smoothly. I went to a very hot wedding last year, and it went really well. The wedding was short, and they handed out glasses of cucumber-infused ice water and parasols as we were seated. It would have gone even better if Claire hadn't decided to noisily slurp the water during the ceremony and if it was possible to hold a parasol, a glass of water, and two babies all at once. Good luck!

YIKES!
I confess I woke up to a text from my BFF, and it made me even more upset for her. I shared about how she's having kidney problems... Well she was talking to her grandmother about everything thats going on, and this is what her grandmother told her..

"Well if you hadn't decided to be a punk kid and actually do something with your life, you would have a great job with great insurance,and wouldn't find yourself single with a baby and health issues. I know you don't want to hear it but sometimes the truth hurts"

Maybe the truth hurts, but sometimes people say hurtful things and family members are unsupportive and judgmental. That was the last thing she needed in a time of crisis. And even if she'd had a great job, she could very easily have been laid off in this economy and had no job. And what do her health problems have to do with her punk-ness? Last I heard, being a rebellious teenager was not a risk factor for kidney stones. However, not having a good support system IS a risk factor for delayed recovery from health problems, so thanks a lot grandma.

[amorton1437]

I confess I am ready to pull my hair out All I want to do is book a flight and go home. But I have to make sure its ok to travel at 28-29 weeks pregnant and I can't get a straight answer. I know, ask your Dr but its hard to just call her up since we are military there is this weird process... I just wanna go home!!!

[AlishaAnew]

I confess I am ready to pull my hair out All I want to do is book a flight and go home. But I have to make sure its ok to travel at 28-29 weeks pregnant and I can't get a straight answer. I know, ask your Dr but its hard to just call her up since we are military there is this weird process... I just wanna go home!!!

Well apparently Palin went on a plane while her water was broken...I think you would be fine now.

[amorton1437]

Well apparently Palin went on a plane while her water was broken...I think you would be fine now.

Well its not until August when I will be 28 weeks along and 29 weeks when I come back. Delta doesnt have any regulations for pregnant travel so I think I should be fine. As long as no complications come up in the next 7 weeks

[girlwonder]

I think the limit is later than that. I traveled around 30 weeks - just do a lot of those leg exercises when you are flying.

[stephmama]

I confess I am ready to pull my hair out All I want to do is book a flight and go home. But I have to make sure its ok to travel at 28-29 weeks pregnant and I can't get a straight answer. I know, ask your Dr but its hard to just call her up since we are military there is this weird process... I just wanna go home!!!

It should be fine. I did a little inter-island Hawaii travel at 28 weeks and I traveled at 30 weeks from HI to CA and back with no problems.

[stephmama]

Oh, and our regulations with I worked for travel with the military was a doctor's note was needed from 34 weeks until 6 weeks postpartum.

[AlishaAnew]

Alcohol is good.............THAT is all.




Mmmmm wine......

[3andMe]

I confess I'm really annoyed because my specialist went out of town for two weeks and said that my primary care doctor would be able to take care of the disability paperwork for me, and I spent two hours trying to get it taken care of on Friday, running from one office to another, only to find out eventually that she refused to take care of it and said my specialist would have to do it and she ignored my med refill request as well. I was already unhappy with her because she was the one who told me to stay on clear liquids until my symptoms improved (which of course, after five weeks, they still haven't--luckily I gave up and contacted another doctor after five days). After not getting paid last week, and not being able to submit this paperwork for the next two weeks, and the weeks it will take to process the claim, I fear it will be months that we're living on one paycheck.

The office manager spoke to me and said that someone would call me on Monday, and I asked her for a primary care doctor that she would recommend. I have loved every single specialist I have gotten through Kaiser, but I just picked a primary at random, and wound up with someone who is stubborn and unhelpful.

Things that were just annoying pre-babies have turned into monumental inconveniences post-babies. Just the thought of having to go back there, through multiple offices, multiple doorways, cordoned-off lines that are too narrow for a double stroller, parking garages, elevators, ramps, different buildings, back and forth, with my double stroller and babies who don't like to sit still, seems like something out of a nightmare.

[3andMe]

Oh, but on the bright side I confess that dh and I had only our fifth time out sans babies since they were born. We rushed out to lunch and to a movie yesterday afternoon. It was heavenly! It was a belated Father's Day present from my mom, a few hours of babysitting.

We saw Star Trek, and loved it.

After eating with the babies for so long, we cannot stop ourselves from asking for the check while we're still eating, and we ate really fast. But that gave us time to browse at the bookstore before the movie started. What did I buy? Books for the babies, of course.

[Jenny]

I confess that we got some bad news last night. Our next door neighbor is dying of bone cancer. He had liver cancer a few years ago, actually recieved a liver transplant, did chemo, radiation, the whole 9 yards, and 2 weeks ago had to have a PET scan which is typical for cancer patients. Well he just got the news that it has metastasized in his bones. He is in a lot of pain. He is such a nice guy. The same age as my parents (57) and is my dh's best friend. He is deeply religious and came over last night and I was cleaning up the kitchen and the trio were doing an art project at the counter, so I couldn't really get into the conversation, but I could hear him and dh talking about religion and our neighbor is deeply religious and he kept going on about Jesus and God and this morning my dh told me he's very uncomfortable with Steve now b/c we do not believe in Jesus/God and dh doesn't know what to tell Steve. I told him to tell Steve that he's glad he can find comfort in his god, and then just offer to be supportive. Offer to mow his lawn, walk his dogs, whatever. I don't think you need to share religious beliefs in order to be a good friend. Sigh.