That’s fine. It’s always good to know what our big picture is. Unfortunately, like you, I have my share of bills outside this set, and my debt is bigger to match my bigger income. I think we should always try to make sure we’re each allotting a percentage of our income towards our shared expenses and then use the rest for our separate expenses.
Like, if I net about $n a month and I’m putting in $x a month towards our expenses, that’s 57% of my income. If you net $a after your taxes/business expenses, and you put $d of your income towards our shared expenses (house, health, Bodhi), that’s about 48% of your income, that would be pretty fair and reasonable, right? That still means I’d be paying about 75% of our shared expenses.
I’m just throwing the $d figure out there to play with. It seems like a pretty good target amount to me based on what I think your income is (about $kkk gross?). If you just paid the $d into our joint account, then all our shared expenses from below could be paid out of that one account. That would keep things fairly simple.