Based just on what you have posted here, it sounds as though the compromises are not even. Is there a way for the two of you to set aside time to talk that through calmly?You're 100% right, and I strongly suspect that my disappointment in DH is more a reflection of my character than his. That's why I keep a lot of thoughts to myself. I am afraid I have the tendency to be dissatisfied a lot of the time. I am working on it.
That said, DH has won on a huge number of big ticket battles that still stick in my craw. For example, he has completely controlled how we fall asleep at night. I used to read myself to sleep at night every night. With him it's lights out, total silence - non-negotiable. A little book light doesn't work because he still hears the ruffle of pages. A laptop fan is too loud for him (and the screen's too bright anyway). The iPhone has really helped because I can kind of make a tent over my head with a sheet at night and still compute on my phone.
He made me sell my Volvo convertible, my pre-Steve car, which I still miss terribly. Her name was maggiemillymollymay. He put his foot down for a long time about having a professional housecleaner, even though I've always had the higher income and wanted to pay for it out of my "slush fund". We have to visit his family every year, which means the funds and time off I would normally use for one of the annual international jaunts I used to take get eaten up by that. I tried to ask him if I can stay home, even for half the time we normally go out to visit his family, and that was the one time he threatened to divorce me. In general, I feel like I have been the calm one because he has the more forceful, hot-tempered personality.
Then again, maybe he feels the same way about me. I can be pretty stubborn and argumentative too.