Okay, Lydia. Got one!
Okay, Lydia. Got one!
Been trying of find something to help me fall asleep since I'm backing off the alcohol except for once in a while like some weekends or when we are celebrating or having family over. every night...not a good habit!
No netflix...we have a bunch of money channels and on demand instead. I might have access through there.
I will have to see if she does that. I never paid attention. Sometimes she will look me straight on though like if I'm in my lazy boy and she's on my tummy with paws on each shoulder. She's the only dog I have had that will just look me straight on in the eyes and not look away right away.
I'll have to see if my cats look at my face at all. Ever. Let alone one side or the other. And if they lick their lips as if they're thinking about me lying still enough to snack on me, or if they're thinking about me as a friend. Just curious.
Bridget, 30 WEEKS!?!?!
So, does this mean you are not finding out the sex? Because you must have had your big ultrasound already, right? I am picking myself up of the floor because I cannot believe how far along you are, you sneaky tickerless woman. You might as well just call your baby Misty or Sly or something hard-to-see because you almost had your baby without any of us knowing!
That was something else they talked about in the show. When a mother breastfeeds her levels of oxytocin increase which helps with bonding between mother and baby. They actually hooked a woman and her dog up to an IV and measured oxytocin in both woman and dog while they were cuddling, and they both released a spike of oxytocin that paralleled a breastfeeding mother. The researchers were a little surprised to see that in the woman, but really surprised to see it in the dog!
No wonder I call Nero my firstborn! I spent the whole summer he was a puppy on the floor playing with him, almost literally. Gwennie was DH's dog and I didn't bond with her in that way. I love her, but I don't feel the same about her. But I am still bonded with her.
So yes, you should totally be able to duplicate that with an adopted baby!
When DH came home for a weekend this summer I was so interested in the dogs' reactions, and typically they were very excited, jumping, barking, etc. What we did not expect was the cat - in her stand-offish way, she made her presence known and later we talked about it and we think she missed him more than the dogs did in her cat-like way.
Misty ... I like it!You might as well just call your baby Misty or Sly or something hard-to-see because you almost had your baby without any of us knowing!
Now, when someone cuts me off, before I start getting mad, my first instinct is to get calmer--I've practiced it that much.
I like your baby names better, Bridget; definitely go with your choices! LOL
That is interesting about the dogs!
And yes 30 weeks! So it's not just me, this pregnancy has gone so fast. I still can't believe I'm going to have 3 kids soon. It's going t be a trip!
Not finding out the sex. And baby is still head up which my midwives tell me not to worry about yet but of course I am. They gave me a bunch of little things to do to encourage baby to flip.
By the way it's 3:30 am here and I can't sleep. My cat woke me up because her dish was empty. I don't know what side of my face she looks at but she's relentless. She will just sit at the foot of the bed and stare at me meowing until I get up and feed her or let her outside, whichever she's after at the moment.
I actually think the name Misty is pretty but I knew a Misty in Hawaii and she ruined that name for me.
The stuff about the dogs is interesting. I like shows like that...what was it called? Is it available for streaming?
I wish I knew what you could take to try and calm down. I know for myself and my kids, I often ask myself if the issue is something that is going to be life changing (in a bad way) or not. If not, then I let it go. It just takes practice, and sometimes I don't think fast enough and react first but it has gotten better with time.
Road rage drivers don't seem to bother me...I just let them go. If someone is following too close and making me uncomfortable I simply pull over and let them go by. I tell myself that their lives must be really sorry if they are that bent while driving. It may or may not be true, but it makes me feel better!
From these 2 bits of advice, you probably realize I talk to myself a lot. I do!!
I can't decide if I want to hear back about an interview with the chemistry department or not. The position is for undergrad/grad coordinator. If it's anything like our English Dept, it's a hectic job and a high level of stress and dealing with irate students and/or parents. I guess I shouldn't worry till they call...either today or Monday.
Thanks Chrissy. I feel like some of these things matter, like when Josh doesn't listen to me or he treats his toys badly. I feel like these are important things to learn how to do right. I bought him a cheap discman yesterday and he brought it to me this morning and asked me to listen to it. Nothing was playing, so I was fiddling with it trying to turn it on. He freaked out and said I was ruining it, he grabbed it from me and attacked me.
Ouch! Conner has said he doesn't love me or various other people in his life. I think they're learning the power their words have and are just testing them out. While he hasn't said he wanted to make me cry, he certainly laughed when I pretended to cry once.
He also is rough with his toys. A good chunk of them are broken. I probably should address that issue better myself, but I don't. I just toss what was broke and if he gets upset I tell him, "Well, stop throwing your toys and they won't break." I assume he'll learn that lesson eventually (?). I hope!
Listening is an important one. I think Josh and Conner are a lot alike...Conner goes through phases where he'll listen very well, and then not at all. It's a day-by-day thing with him.
He has stopped wetting his pants finally, but still will not poop on the potty. We have a sticker chart (that did work for getting him to pee) and he has a new dinosaur set that he can get if only he'll poop just one time on the potty. He's made a number of attempts, but hasn't done it yet.
I confess that I am just sick about the way a parent talked to her child at drop off this morning. I know she's really stressed out and I know she has a lot going on and I know she didn't mean what she said. But it was awful and I can't stop thinking about it and don't know if I should do something about it.
And yup Cosmo is my baby. She was so small, like 5 lbs when we got her and I would hold her and rock her in my chair. She liked having her head on my chest hear my heart. We did that for hours every day in between the crazy puppy playing. And DH would snuggle her in bed while i was at work (we have almost always worked different shifts).
She's 7 now and 25 lbs...but still her favorite things are in my lap in my arms while we watch TV or snuggling in bed.
My BFF has a kid and one on the way but no dogs (she's allergic). She just doesn't get the whole idea of a pet parent and thinks that only people without kids get THAT bonded to a pet.
Though both DH and I were raised with dogs that are the babies in the families....and obviously our parents had kids.
I was just reading this about dogs: http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/18...ex.html?hpt=C2
What did she say, Bridget?
Chrissy, I do the same thing! I say, well if you throw your toys and they break, I'll have to throw them away. And he says "Okay, throw them away." He doesn't even care! A brand new set of hotwheels cars and a special box to put them away in, and he still throws them around. I'm tempted to tell him he can't have the presents he gets tomorrow until he can treat the toys he has better.
Oh, we also reintroduced the computer. It's been off limits since he was about 3 and a half, and I said when he turned 4 we could try again. Yesterday I set a timer for half an hour and explained that when the timer went off, he had to stop. He said okay and then when the timer went off he threw a fit. *shrug*
I looked for valerian root when I was at the grocery store but couldn't find it. Next time I go to the mall I'll stop by GNC.
Kate have you tried deep breathing? I briefly saw a therapist in college for panic attacks I was having (also had major issues with IBS at the time). It really did help me a lot to take those couple of really deep and long breathes....each in and each out was supposed to take as long as it took to say in my head supercalifragilisticexpialidocious. Just taking a few minutes to get my mind on something else and concentrate on something else really did help me calm down and relax.
I still use it today if I get too freaked out or nervous.....I'm still prone to panic attacks if we get stuck in standstill traffic jams.
I don't even want to say what she said. It was bad. I called her and left her message. I just told her we needed to discuss the things she says when she's frustrated because it's inappropriate for other children to hear and difficult for me to explain to them. Also that everyone needs to feel safe here and when she says things like that, it worries the children and goes against everything I try to teach them about kindness and gentleness. She is going through a really hard time and so I try to be empathetic because I know her life kind of sucks right now. But I can't allow it. And I need to let her know it's being noted. I also let her know that I'm here if she needs a break, outside of my business hours. I think she's just at the end of her rope.
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I hope the mother will stop saying whatever things she is saying. I hate hearing parents speak to their children in a disrespectful way or yelling at them or basically de-valuing them as people. It really bugs me and most of the time I will say something because I am a big mouth and can't help myself even though I do understand sometimes why they are angry but I just think it can be said in a more productive way.
I saw that NOVA documentary. I NOVA it has been one of my favorite programs since I was a girl. That and The Antiques Roadshow . My mom used to wonder what was wrong with me since I was so nerdy all I liked was PBS as a teenager, it is still my favorite channel, DH teases me because I still love the Antique's Roadshow and I watch it every Saturday, he says I'm "old lady like."
Kate, I hope you can learn some ways to calm yourself down more. I used to get kind of snappy with Ky when he was Josh's age, between 3 and 4 especially, it was a very difficult age for Ky. I attribute it to the fact that I was younger and inpatient and didn't have the nonchalant attitude I have now about a lot of things that kids do that aren't really that big of a deal. I feel bad sometimes because I do think that I am way nicer to Elle than I was to Ky when he was a toddler. She is super easy though so far, much moreso than Ky whow was just more....I guess just more of a typical toddler. I truly think that Elle is pretty atypical of a person, she is like a grown up in a baby body most of the time.
But I did make an extra effort to calm myself down about Ky and his behavior. From how you describe Josh, he is very similar to Ky was. He used to say he hated me and wanted to make me mad and wanted to me cry and that I was the meanest mommy in the world, and oddly enough, it was during those times that I would smile the most because I just associate those feelings and thoughts with a frustrated child and I would respond in a funny or loving way. Most of the time he would still have his little 'tude as I called it. Plus I was and still am pretty silly. I remember once Ky told me he wanted to make me cry, so I threw myself on the floor and bawled like a baby. I am VERY dramatic, he just looked shocked LOL! I did that for a couple minutes, then got up and told him that since I cried he had to do what I wanted and he did .
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Conner doesn't seem to care if I throw his toys away either. I think if there are some that are particularly expensive or special, then putting them away till he can treat them better is probably a good idea. Maybe reward him for good behavior with some time with those special toys, but put them right back after that time is up. And just be patient...they often don't learn what's expected after being told once or a hundred times. Some things have taken years for my kids to learn. They promptly move on to something else equally trying and frustrating
Goodness Bridget! I like how you're offering to be there for her. If she is at the end of her rope, it may just be the thing she needs right now. You're an awesome person. I can't say that enough.