Gus is so sweet. Thanks for sharing.
Kate, it does sound as though you are really unhappy and I agree it's a two way street. If he really isn't willing to attempt to find common interests, even when it comes to raising Josh, it isn't much of a partnership.
And I agree with Bridget about control. One of the trainings I went to for work I remember the presenter bringing up the "control" issue. For some reason people who work with special needs kids often get caught in this power struggle and will dismiss something a child is telling them by saying "oh, X just wants to be in control." Or maybe that's most people who work with kids in general? As the presenter said, all us want to be in control of our lives and what happens to us. That is normal and we shouldn't discount it. Sometimes having no control is what brings out these meltdowns ... I know I feel that way too when my life seems out of control and deep down I want to react the same way (and maybe I do if the snippy email I sent to a coworker today is any example).
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