Ah okay. Thanks for the heads up.
I didn't realize topics about gay rights weren't allowed, period. My post in Random was made to celebrate, not offend or start anything. Just thought I'd get that out there.
I confess I love being surprised by how there are still kind people out there. A lady I play Zoo with on FB (don't laugh I'm an insomniac!) messaged me tonight with the sweetest message and offering of support. She heard about my grandmother being put in the hospital again today and was really kind. I live pretty far away from my family, and I'm usually the last one to hear about anything. In fact, I just learned this morning that she was in a different hospital last week, released, and put back in last night. Nobody bothered to call me, but I get a message from this stranger offering support.
I confess a girl I graduated high school with just posted on her FB "Just found out my husband is in love with someone else....."
I am crushed for her.. They were to me the picture of a perfect marriage. Seemed so in love, and just had their second baby.
Things like this make me think that there really is no hope for marriage.
That's so sweet Kim! I'm sorry to hear about your Grandma.
That sucks Ashley.
I tend to agree with the marriage thing...I just don't see it work out that often. When I do see it work out it's mainly because both people have an extremely busy life and never see each other. LOL
Honestly I should have known marriage would not be for me. I hate sharing my space, I hate cleaning, I hate talking to people. I get bored with everything very quickly. Why did I think living with the same person for decades would work out for me? Sheesh.
I'm sorry about your grandmother Kim
It bothers me that we find out about everything via fb and email, etc. these days. I miss getting happy phone calls and I also miss the personal touch of a phone call bearing sad news. Now it's like you just post it on fb and hope everyone sees it.
I'd even go so far as to say I don't necessarily think that just because one ends in divorce that it wasn't a 'good' marriage. I view my parents marriage as a good one while it lasted. I'm certain if my mother didn't have such an awful illness they would have been together till death. They do still love each other very much, but are both more mentally healthy apart. If something happened to me & Rich (this last year or 2 has made me consider leaving), I still wouldn't consider our marriage a bad one or a mistake. I know we both have had a lot of happiness in it.
Everyone's circumstances are different though. Life is hard, there's no 2 ways about it.
Kim I'm so sorry about your grandma and that no one in your family notified you.
As for marriage, my parents had an amazing one so I know they exist. Not for me at the moment but maybe someday.
I confess that I have a former family that called me a few days ago needing care again. The only problem is that she won't be able to pick up until 6pm. I don't want to do it. I get done at 4:30 now and it allows me to go see my dad during the week, take my kids swimming, to the park, to dance. We could use the extra money so it's probably selfish of me but I'd also be putting in an 11.5 hour day. I'm leaning toward not even telling dbf because he'd tell me to do it. Of cours, he could always get a full time job himself....
Don't do it, Bridget, and don't tell DBF. Pllllllp.
I missed last year's homosexual discussion. Too bad insanity reigns sometimes. Difficult to believe that we can't talk about current events that are relevant to our parenting and our children. I'm delighted for the judge's rule because it truly upholds the constitution and makes it so that my family can live with the same rights as anyone else.
At any rate. Bridget how far along are you now ms no ticker and my brain is pregnant-fried?
And... as for marriage... it's not doomed. We're just not taught how to choose partners properly, when to choose partners, for what reasons, and we're sure as snot not taught how to WORK on a relationship to make it permanent. Our marriage failure rate is simply a symptom of a completely sick and dysfunctional society that raises people incapable of having truly healthy intimate relationships.
I still believe in marriage.
Mine's been pretty great so far, which is a surprise. I have no healthy marriages in my life as an example. Well, DH's parents have a pretty healthy marriage, but I didn't know them until I knew DH.
I've been with DH for 12 years, married 7 years and are happy. Only thing we are missing is a baby that isn't furry with four legs and a tail.
I confess that I'm seriously considering selling my Grand Caravan and getting myself a little Cabriolet...'93 or older. I had a 93 before and loved it. Bobbie and Jessica will have a car of their own soon, and Rich's pick-up seats 6. We rarely go anywhere together as a family, and when we do we often take both vehicles anyway. I am done with owning a minivan!!
Second marriage, different story. Not good almost from day one.
So I have a gay uncle and a lesbian aunt. And in high school one of my closest friends was gay.
When I was dating DH, before we even met in person (we met online)....what are your thoughts on gay people, especially gay men. I had to know because if he was some big ole homophobe, that was a deal breaker.
His response.....gay guys are great....less competition for me when it comes to girls.
Turns out my gay uncle is one of his favorite relatives of mine.
After I finished my gyro, I had some cucumber sauce that had dripped onto the plate, and some chunks of feta.. so I scooped it up with the sweet potato tortilla chips... I think I could have eaten just that as my meal and been totally content...