I also say go with the home birth. It does seem like something you really want and with your friends and a doula you will have plenty of support without him.
He is making himself seem like such an ass. I can imagine how exasperating he is for you. F him and go with the birth that you want. You be selfish with this decision and don't even think about him. I agreee with the above, that he will find something to complain about in whatever birthing situation you want, so just do what you want and F him.