Oscar is OBSESSED with how things work. Not vehicles, but anything that moves. Machines. I don't think it's a boy thing because he doesn't sway toward other typical boy things. It's just the way his brain works. He's getting a variety of erector set-like things for his birthday. He's constantly telling me about "his machines" - the machines he imagines building in his head. It's lovely.
Krista, I'm going to be blunt. There is nothing to feel shame for. **** happens. You guys screwed up. We all screw up. Your screw-up happened to land you in an awkward place that you WILL work your way out of. Shame and guilt will be abso-freakin-lutely nothing to help the situation and will most likely dig your butt further into a hole of some sort. You'll be paralyzed with fear and shame and not have the freedom of mental space to think of strategies to make things better. You'll continue to gain weight and feel even WORSE, compelling the cycle to continue.
Your husband is wrong. Things won't simply be okay. I mean, they WILL be okay, but someone needs to acknowledge your feelings. It's scary. It's stupid. It's annoying. It's going to be difficult. No doubt. Saying it will simply be okay is dismissing and denying the reality that even though it WILL be okay, it will suck. Tell him that. That even though you appreciate his positive attitude, he needs to get real and talk about what this really MEANS. I can empathize with this, because I have a husband who is super-optimist-man. It's great, but sometimes I have to look him in the face and say DUDE THIS SUCKS ADMIT IT.
Okay, so exercise sucks. Agreed. Where do you live and what do you like to do? Are walks an option? Gardening?