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    I realized the other night (after saying something shockingly crude) that I am a lady in the bedroom and a whore in the living room, and it's supposed to be the other way around. Dh laughed when I told him.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lydia View Post
    I realized the other night (after saying something shockingly crude) that I am a lady in the bedroom and a whore in the living room, and it's supposed to be the other way around. Dh laughed when I told him.
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    Anyone remember me telling about the guy I was friends with in AK, who didn't tell me until I was pregnant with Charlie that he was totally bummed when I married B because "now he knew he really lost any chance"??


    I confess now that I am a single lady, he invited me to meet him in Vegas for a long weekend this summer.........

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    Quote Originally Posted by atenielle View Post
    Anyone remember me telling about the guy I was friends with in AK, who didn't tell me until I was pregnant with Charlie that he was totally bummed when I married B because "now he knew he really lost any chance"??


    I confess now that I am a single lady, he invited me to meet him in Vegas for a long weekend this summer.........

    Ooooo...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lydia View Post
    I realized the other night (after saying something shockingly crude) that I am a lady in the bedroom and a whore in the living room, and it's supposed to be the other way around. Dh laughed when I told him.
    That is awesome.
    Quote Originally Posted by atenielle View Post
    Anyone remember me telling about the guy I was friends with in AK, who didn't tell me until I was pregnant with Charlie that he was totally bummed when I married B because "now he knew he really lost any chance"??


    I confess now that I am a single lady, he invited me to meet him in Vegas for a long weekend this summer.........
    Are you going to go?

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    I confess that I have been in denial for three days now but I think today I have to admit I'm sick. I haven't been sick in at least 3 years. Seriously, not even a sniffle. Now I have a pounding headache and my throat hurts. I plan to continue munch on garlic and have it kicked by the end of the day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by atenielle View Post
    I confess now that I am a single lady, he invited me to meet him in Vegas for a long weekend this summer.........
    ooo la la!! Are you going to take him up on his offer?

    Quote Originally Posted by bridgetwu75 View Post
    I confess that I have been in denial for three days now but I think today I have to admit I'm sick. I haven't been sick in at least 3 years. Seriously, not even a sniffle. Now I have a pounding headache and my throat hurts. I plan to continue munch on garlic and have it kicked by the end of the day.
    Hope you feel better. What are you going to do about your daycare kids?

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    Quote Originally Posted by missychrissy View Post
    omg-I can totally see myself doing something like that! Glad you caught her!

    As for the anorexia, I honestly don't know what anyone can say or do for a person suffering from it. I'm assuming she's an adult, and if so there really isn't anything anyone can do. My SIL is anorexic. She knows it, she knows the risks and she doesn't care. She says she'd rather be dead than fat, and she has an issue with 100. If she hits that mark, she will not eat till she's lower, even if it takes 3 days to get there. She's 34 years old and a single mother of 3 children. It sounds selfish of her-and maybe people would say it is-but anorexia IS a disease. Unfortunately, you cannot force someone into treatment if they don't want it.

    I've told her flat out she is going to die if she keeps it up. She's in school for nursing and works as a nurse's aid. She knows what she's doing to herself. I'm totally at a loss as to what anyone could do for her.
    Yeah, that's the problem with anorexia - it's a mental illness and most sufferers are very secretive and will avoid treatment. It's incredibly difficult.

    Obviously you can't force an adult to comply with treatment, but I think that sufferers of the disease have better chance with support and encouragement. It's a disease that thrives in secrecy and isolation.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lydia View Post
    I realized the other night (after saying something shockingly crude) that I am a lady in the bedroom and a whore in the living room, and it's supposed to be the other way around. Dh laughed when I told him.


    Quote Originally Posted by atenielle View Post
    Anyone remember me telling about the guy I was friends with in AK, who didn't tell me until I was pregnant with Charlie that he was totally bummed when I married B because "now he knew he really lost any chance"??


    I confess now that I am a single lady, he invited me to meet him in Vegas for a long weekend this summer.........


    Quote Originally Posted by bridgetwu75 View Post
    I confess that I have been in denial for three days now but I think today I have to admit I'm sick. I haven't been sick in at least 3 years. Seriously, not even a sniffle. Now I have a pounding headache and my throat hurts. I plan to continue munch on garlic and have it kicked by the end of the day.
    Get well soon Bridget! I'm sick too. Having a cold is so gross.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lydia View Post
    I realized the other night (after saying something shockingly crude) that I am a lady in the bedroom and a whore in the living room, and it's supposed to be the other way around. Dh laughed when I told him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by atenielle View Post
    Anyone remember me telling about the guy I was friends with in AK, who didn't tell me until I was pregnant with Charlie that he was totally bummed when I married B because "now he knew he really lost any chance"??


    I confess now that I am a single lady, he invited me to meet him in Vegas for a long weekend this summer.........
    First- from the killjoy mom in me- if you are just looking for a good time, by all means go, but if you think it is going to lead to a longer lasting relationship, choose another venue that is less exciting to get to know each other again. This guy didn't jump when he could have the first time, which leads me to believe he has commitment issue of his own.

    Second- from the whore in me- GET ON THAT PLANE, GIRL!!! I'LL BABYSIT!!!
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    I think it's really funny we're all using the weird smily finally. I think we found an appropriate use! Haha

    Man...tough morning. Does anyone else's preschooler have silent fits of rage? When Josh is mad sometimes he won't scream, he'll just go in his end of the living room and destroy it quietly. DH says "You're going to let him do this?" and I'm really not sure but I always though it was better to let him get that stuff out of his system. DH says if I don't stop him he'll think it's okay and he'll get more destructive as he gets older.
    So after a few minutes I pulled him away and said ok now that you've made a mess, you're going to help me clean it up. He refused. I tried to make a game. I said "You were just throwing stuff--how about you throw the stuff into the basket?" I demonstrated. Still nothing. So I took a bunch of the toys and took them up to the guestroom. I was really at a loss. He never plays with 90% of it anyway. I took away 3 of his puzzles yesterday and hasn't mentioned them yet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by atenielle View Post
    Anyone remember me telling about the guy I was friends with in AK, who didn't tell me until I was pregnant with Charlie that he was totally bummed when I married B because "now he knew he really lost any chance"??


    I confess now that I am a single lady, he invited me to meet him in Vegas for a long weekend this summer.........
    Oooo, exciting!

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    Quote Originally Posted by daylilies View Post
    Man...tough morning. Does anyone else's preschooler have silent fits of rage? When Josh is mad sometimes he won't scream, he'll just go in his end of the living room and destroy it quietly. DH says "You're going to let him do this?" and I'm really not sure but I always though it was better to let him get that stuff out of his system. DH says if I don't stop him he'll think it's okay and he'll get more destructive as he gets older.
    So after a few minutes I pulled him away and said ok now that you've made a mess, you're going to help me clean it up. He refused. I tried to make a game. I said "You were just throwing stuff--how about you throw the stuff into the basket?" I demonstrated. Still nothing. So I took a bunch of the toys and took them up to the guestroom. I was really at a loss. He never plays with 90% of it anyway. I took away 3 of his puzzles yesterday and hasn't mentioned them yet.
    That's tough. Conner gets destructive, but he's not really silent about it. We usually take away his favorite toy of the day, and we put him in time out. He really hates time out and losing his favorite toy, so that works well for us.

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    Nothing bothers him. We're about to go to a playgroup and I asked him to put away his giant pad of paper and he said no. I said we're not going until you clean up and he said I don't want to go. And I really don't think he'd care if we didn't go. I just don't get how you're supposed to teach consequences when he doesn't care.

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    I think I'd stay home then. After days of not going anywhere, he might be motivated to care. (?) Just a thought. I know it wouldn't be easy.

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    I honestly don't think it would bother him. LOL Me on the other hand...I'd be rocking in a corner somewhere.

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    Quote Originally Posted by daylilies View Post
    I think it's really funny we're all using the weird smily finally. I think we found an appropriate use! Haha

    Man...tough morning. Does anyone else's preschooler have silent fits of rage? When Josh is mad sometimes he won't scream, he'll just go in his end of the living room and destroy it quietly. DH says "You're going to let him do this?" and I'm really not sure but I always though it was better to let him get that stuff out of his system. DH says if I don't stop him he'll think it's okay and he'll get more destructive as he gets older.
    So after a few minutes I pulled him away and said ok now that you've made a mess, you're going to help me clean it up. He refused. I tried to make a game. I said "You were just throwing stuff--how about you throw the stuff into the basket?" I demonstrated. Still nothing. So I took a bunch of the toys and took them up to the guestroom. I was really at a loss. He never plays with 90% of it anyway. I took away 3 of his puzzles yesterday and hasn't mentioned them yet.
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    I have no idea (about the silent fits of rage). Mine are both very noisy when enraged. I have been teaching them recently about counting to 10 and taking deep breaths when they're upset, and they get a little distracted by that and are frequently calmer when they're done. I have also read (haven't tried) that giving an acceptable option to beat up on or destroy, like a piece of paper or hitting a pillow, can be a good way to vent. That way they learn that random violence is not okay, but there are acceptable outlets.

    I can totally see him not helping clean up afterward, though. Mine only help or listen to me half the time at best, and certainly not when they're upset about something. How are you about following through when you say that you're not going to the playgroup if he doesn't put away his paper? I think you've mentioned in the past that you've had a hard time being consistent, so he may just not believe you.

    OTOH, I would be reluctant to use a threat like that for not doing something you want him to do, esp. if it punishes you as well. I tend to use negative consequences for doing something bad (I would use other words besides bad, but it's easy and I'm trying to be clear) and positive consequences for doing something good, but not vice versa for not doing something good or not doing something bad, kwim?

    So with behavior I WANT to see more of, I compliment, I high-five, I could do sticker charts, I could do a special treat. I tell other people like dh in front of them what a good job they did with such-and-such. If they don't do it, I don't punish them. So with cleaning up, I get very specific and ask them to pick up this one particular toy and put it in one particular spot. I might try a couple of times in a couple of different ways, and if it doesn't get done, I do it myself and don't say anything more about it. If it's something that they're ignoring on a recurrent basis, I try coaching. Like yesterday, before we got home from our outing, I said 4x that we are going inside, taking our shoes off, and sitting on the potty. What do we do when we get home? Yes, taking shoes off and sitting on the potty!

    If they are hitting each other or doing something else I want to stop, I put them in time out.

    Of course, you don't have to listen to me. I just posted in NM about Ronin totally ignoring me all the time, to the extent I was starting to worry if something was wrong.


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    Quote Originally Posted by daylilies View Post
    Nothing bothers him. We're about to go to a playgroup and I asked him to put away his giant pad of paper and he said no. I said we're not going until you clean up and he said I don't want to go. And I really don't think he'd care if we didn't go. I just don't get how you're supposed to teach consequences when he doesn't care.
    He would eventually care. You just need to be just a smidge more stubborn.

    I was easy as a kid, my DH wasn't so easy. He would be the kid who mouthed off to mom so got some soap in the mouth. When I did that once...I was crying and gagging (it was hardly any soap too) and throwing a big old drama queen fit. Dh on the other hand looks at his mom and says, Mmmm tastes good. Eventually his mom used hot sauce and horse raddish I think. And he stopped going mmmm tastes good. I hear he didn't mouth off and swear at his mom after that.
    Now maybe soap in the mouth isn't PC anymore, I don't know. I do know that I didn't try that again because I KNEW mom would follow through.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lydia View Post

    OTOH, I would be reluctant to use a threat like that for not doing something you want him to do, esp. if it punishes you as well. I tend to use negative consequences for doing something bad (I would use other words besides bad, but it's easy and I'm trying to be clear) and positive consequences for doing something good, but not vice versa for not doing something good or not doing something bad, kwim?

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    This sucks when you do that. I used to do that with the kids...if they didn't behave in the morning and through lunch and help clean up after lunch, we wouldn't go swimming in the afternoon. I REALLY wanted to go swimming myself. I only had to forgo the afternoon swimming usually only 1-2 times each summer.

    I'm really mean though. I expect to be listened to and if I give two warnings, that is it, third time I will follow through. If in the pool, you were messing around, you sat on the deck and watched others swim for time out, if you were in the house, you had a time out in the corner. If we were out in public, like the library, we would leave. Even my really difficult girl (so smart but soooo stubborn!) learned quickly I wouldn't put up with her BS like her mom did.

    Plus a lot of that is safety. I had other peoples kids and my own sister...and we were doing things like going to a nearby park and I couldn't have them running off on me and getting hit by a car or stolen (I'm paranoid like that)...or especially swimming in the pool. When first started with the swimming, I was only 15 yrs old and I HAD to be the alpha in charge or someone could have gotten really hurt.

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    I'm fried today. Annie woke up at 3:30, wanting to nurse, and I couldn't get her to go back to sleep and stop nursing at the same time...so at 5:30 I gave up. This is a child who normally sleeps til 7:30am..at least. She finally took a nap at 7:30am, but since I'd been drinking coffee....no nap for me

    Today should be fun. Oh, and DH and I aren't speaking, because somewhere in there we got into an argument, because that's when all the most productive arguments happen right? So I'm being super stubborn and not speaking to him this morning - super adult of me, I know. I'm just tired of being walked on at 4am.
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    I'm sorry! I wouldn't be a very happy person either getting up that early. DH's should know better than to try to talk us when we are super tired and half asleep.

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    I confess I have not read the last few pages and feel out of the loop. Big hugs to everyone - whether you need it or not.

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    Thanks for the advice. Sometimes it just takes a little bit of encouragement for me to come back down and remember some useful tips. After I posted, he did put away his paper, so we went to the playgroup. I want to go--it's at the church I've been going to and most of them also attend the church so it would be helpful to get to know those kids and parents--but it's just so hectic. It's a small room and with 4-5 preschoolers and their baby siblings it gets so noisy we can't even carry conversations. Well, we try, but I can't follow it. Soo it's more hectic than anything but it gets us out of the house and into some interaction.

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    What DOES he care about? Start there and work backwards, but taking away things they care about isn't always the best discipline. I used TV with Oscar for a while and it backfired and he started obsessing about watching "his shows." Now that I don't use it as a thing "to take away or reward with" he's much less TV-obsessed.

    And sorry Cosmosmom, but washing a kid's mouth out with soap, hot pepper, or anything else is a violation of personal space and isn't going to do much but teach a lack of trust and potentially damage their spirit. IMO.

    He sounds like he's certainly being a booger - but you can find ways of keeping him in check (or just dealing with it when nothing seems to work, because sometimes, no matter the kid or mom, nothing DOES). Sounds like things got better.



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    Oh and special stickers have been the rage lately. He has an "accomplishment chart" and I put the real stickler things on there - listening and responding, setting the table when I ask him to, whatever is a big deal that week and he looooves getting stickers. I save a special sticker that he gets to pick at the store for when I ask him to do something really "important" (like yesterday, chill while I had to talk to my contract administrator). It works.



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    I also confess I pissed my midwife off today because I told her I didn't want to hear it. I decided I didn't care to see my weight this pregnancy, told her so, and she told me the laundry list of reasons why I might want to a) keep track of my weight and b) see a nutritionist/stay on some "diet" to keep from gaining 60 pounds and I nicely told her to pack it up and put it away, that if SHE needed my weight for medical reasons, I would close my eyes.

    I like her, but we have to get through some of the territory. It's MY pregnancy.



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    I cannot believe how weight-obsessed some health care practitioners are. Grr. Yours is not the first post I've seen today about a diet-obsessed midwife. Does she know that despite any weight gain, you eat a very healthy and unprocessed diet? Probably better than she does?

    At my first OB appt. I was told I was gaining so much weight I'd get diabetes and have a huge baby and I better stop eating for three. I was unhappy and annoyed, but tried (and then failed) to be good. I ate a ton because it was the only thing that kept me from feeling constantly sick. And I talked to my regular OB later about how much weight I was gaining, and he patted his own belly and said "Well, we're both a little older now, it's easier to gain weight, and although it's good to make healthy choices, don't stress over it too much." And he also gave me some Zofran, which helped slow down my weight gain.


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    Quote Originally Posted by stash View Post
    I also confess I pissed my midwife off today because I told her I didn't want to hear it. I decided I didn't care to see my weight this pregnancy, told her so, and she told me the laundry list of reasons why I might want to a) keep track of my weight and b) see a nutritionist/stay on some "diet" to keep from gaining 60 pounds and I nicely told her to pack it up and put it away, that if SHE needed my weight for medical reasons, I would close my eyes.

    I like her, but we have to get through some of the territory. It's MY pregnancy.
    Exactly! They only weigh you once here in England to see your BMI. I wouldn't want to be weighed either. Stick to your principles. I'm much more assertive this pregnancy, too.

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