AW Janeen! I love that he keeps a journal of all the cool stuff! He's so sweet.
AW Janeen! I love that he keeps a journal of all the cool stuff! He's so sweet.
Ashley - 25, Chris - 27, Elizabeth - 9-22-04, Alexis - 12-19-08
Senior Member
Hopelessly Devoted
Just the fact that he did it is what blows my mind. I mean the majority of stuff in there isn't mushy or whatever but the fact that he kept up on it all and typed it so he could remember it is to me. I asked him today "Where did you come from? Most guys just don't do this kind of stuff!"
Janeen - 30, Jimi - 42; Married October 21st, 2006;
Naw, most of what he wrote wasn't mushy, but it's the thought that is mushy. If that makes sense. lol
Ashley - 25, Chris - 27, Elizabeth - 9-22-04, Alexis - 12-19-08
Holy crap, how cute is he? I'm charmed. He is going to be a great dad.
Norah! (3 yr)
Senior Member
Hopelessly Devoted
Janeen - 30, Jimi - 42; Married October 21st, 2006;
Awesome diary. Thanks for sharing.
Me (38) DH (45) & furbabies * m/c 7/08 4/12 11/12
Senior Member
Hopelessly Devoted
I confess...
Does this girl look comfy to you?
I swear, she knows when I am grabbing the camera. Her eyes (well, eye) will be closed and as soon as I grab the camera, it's open!
Janeen - 30, Jimi - 42; Married October 21st, 2006;
Every day is a gift. It's just... does it have to be a pair of socks?
Hopelessly Devoted
Jimi's Journal just brought tears to my eyes. No, not mushy, but I could just feel the emotion behind it.
Senior Member
Hopelessly Devoted
Okay I confess...just one more pic for the night.
Janeen - 30, Jimi - 42; Married October 21st, 2006;
I confess it totally snuck up on me that Josh's birthday is in 6 days. LOL Thank goodness the party isn't until the 22nd! (of course we will still do something as a family on his actual birthday)
I confess that I feel like an unsympathetic shlup. Dbf came home, again, yesterday around 5:30 with a good buzz on and continued to drink throught the evening. As the night went on he was wallowing deeper and deeper in self pity. Oh, and course most of his problems are my fault because I don't have sex with him enough, and I'm not "helping" him with what he's going through.Well #1 is that I don't know what he's going through because he's been telling me all the counseling is for his short term memory function. #2 is that I don't have time to take care of him. I have 2 children and a full time business and I am 100% responsible for all of it. #3 is quite simply that his attitude and lack of helping me out is a total and complete turn off for me.
I just really believe that self improvement has to come from within. No one can help you with that. I muddle through things on my own all of the time.
This post probably barely makes sense and it's because last night didn't make much sense to me either. The only time he opens up to me is when he's drunk and then he just spews bitterness and blame. I can't bring myself to feel sorry for him. I just can't.
AWWWW, I think that is completely and totally awesome! It doesn't matter that's it's not mushy - you can tell how excited he was that things were progressing and he's happy. That's just so cool.Originally Posted by Janeen
I confess that I like my ticker baby again!! It looks so grown up now and those ugly veins in the face are gone!
I confess that Jimi informed me today of a diary he has at work. Every morning his outlook pops up with it and he adds a note for the day on some days. Oh, my, goodness. He sent this diary to me via email and he has logged just about everything along our entire course of trying to conceive and up until 10/26. It isn't quite daily but every appointment, every pertinent bit of information is on it and it melted my heart.
I confess that I thought about sharing but am kind of worried you guys would think I was weird if I did.
What did he say? I want to know!I asked him today "Where did you come from? Most guys just don't do this kind of stuff!"
Krista & Jonathan: Liam, our one and only, born 9 Sep 2008
Senior Member
Hopelessly Devoted
Aww
6[/B] pounds down 34 more to go!
You shouldn't feel sorry for him. Do you really think he's on the road to self improvement, or is he feeding you a load of BS so you don't leave him?I confess that I feel like an unsympathetic shlup. Dbf came home, again, yesterday around 5:30 with a good buzz on and continued to drink throught the evening. As the night went on he was wallowing deeper and deeper in self pity. Oh, and course most of his problems are my fault because I don't have sex with him enough, and I'm not "helping" him with what he's going through.
I just really believe that self improvement has to come from within. No one can help you with that. I muddle through things on my own all of the time.
This post probably barely makes sense and it's because last night didn't make much sense to me either. The only time he opens up to me is when he's drunk and then he just spews bitterness and blame. I can't bring myself to feel sorry for him. I just can't.
Senior Member
Hopelessly Devoted
He made up some planet.
Janeen - 30, Jimi - 42; Married October 21st, 2006;
Bridget if there's one thing I learned it's that some men (and even some women LOL) turn into pathetic blobs when they drink and it's best to just let them wallow.
My husband is a total wuss when it comes to alcohol. He drinks like 1/4 of a Jack and Coke and he's already "feeling a buzz"!
Janeen, that was super cute!
Jennifer, 34, DH 36
I confess I now know someone with confirmed H1N1. Flutterbudget's son Luke was diagnosed earlier this week. And both she and her DH are sick with the exact same symptoms as Luke, so I'm sure they all have it.
I confess I can't imagine me, DH, and Liam all having a flu together. How miserable would that be?
Krista & Jonathan: Liam, our one and only, born 9 Sep 2008
ugh! I can't stand being sick, let alone having to take care of other sick people at the same time!
DH and I have been sick at the same time, but luckily Josh did not get it so bad, so DH and I just took turns laying around while the other entertained Josh. LOL
I do not think he's on the road to self improvement. After last night, I think at best he's trying to find someone or something to blame. He never takes responsibility for himself.
He's telling me today that he didn't mean any of the crap he said last night. So goes my life. Forever wondering if the things coming out of his mouth are genuine or BS.
Oh, if only I could have let him wallow! He would not leave me alone! I must have said 15 times that I just wanted to relax and watch the movie we had on so could he please just be quiet and I'd talk to him about everything when he was sober. He would not shut up so I eventually gave up and just silently walked out of the room and went to bed.
Yeesh. Men never want to talk and then the minute they're drunk they want to open up.
Aww! That's cool!I confess I was just looking at the website for the fashion design company my sister works at, when I see one of their shirts is named "Audrianna". So I texted my sister, and turns out -- Thats one of her designs! AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!
That is cool!I confess I was just looking at the website for the fashion design company my sister works at, when I see one of their shirts is named "Audrianna". So I texted my sister, and turns out -- Thats one of her designs! AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!
Jennifer, 34, DH 36
Every day is a gift. It's just... does it have to be a pair of socks?
Hopelessly Devoted
Bridget, am I understanding correctly that your dbf got drunk and unhappy about you not meeting all of his needs, in the bedroom and out of it? I don't even know what to say about that, except he seems to live in his own world, without a lot of self-awareness or reflection, and only occasionally has a shining moment of generosity to make all the bad times seem a little less miserable. I am glad he's going to a counselor (and I really doubt he's sleeping with her, since they are in a professional relationship with overt ethical guidelines) and I would try to ask him more about what his issues are. Probably not in the same way I said it, though. Maybe you could go together sometime? If he's having difficulties, it wouldn't hurt to insert yourself in a session and provide some input and give some context to his situation, and hopefully learn a little bit more in the process.
My mom has stayed with my dad for more than 20 years after his affairs, long-term mistresses (sometimes people call him "the man with two wives"), and his disregard, avoidance, and disrespect. She's living out here near me, now, but she doesn't think it's permanent and she still goes home 4-6 times a year. She ends up cleaning the house while he goes somewhere else for the weekend so he doesn't have to talk to her.
I have asked her why she has stayed with him for so long when he's not very nice to her, and she tells me that when he IS nice, he's so wonderful, and she hopes to be able to see that again. In the meantime, she can see him being charming around his friends, if she's in the vicinity.
I will support my mom no matter what she decides to do. I have no business telling her what to do with her relationship. It makes me a little sad, sometimes, thinking that if she'd left him 20-30 years ago, when he first started having significant affairs (and yes, I was aware of it even at the age of 7), she might have found a nice man and been happier this whole time. Or she might have been lonely and unfulfilled, too, but she is anyway.
I just want you to be treated with courtesy and respect. That doesn't seem like too much to ask, but it can be so hard to achieve.
I'm sorry if this seemed preachy. It really wasn't meant to be, and I have no more business giving you relationship advice than I have giving my mom advice.
I confess I'm tired and have been cold all day. And I'm watching the clock drag by until I get to go home in 40 minutes.
Jennifer, 34, DH 36
I confess I was just looking at the website for the fashion design company my sister works at, when I see one of their shirts is named "Audrianna". So I texted my sister, and turns out -- Thats one of her designs! AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!
That's really sweet.
I feel so wanted at work. I'm currently doing a maternity cover which is up soon, so I went for an interview outside my department. I've progressed to the second stage of interviews. And now, my current boss says she wants me to stay when the girl I'm doing maternity cover comes back! So, choices choices. I'm pretty sure I'll stay where I am.
I'm doing the same, except....i'm watching the clock until DH gets home. I swear this last hour just DRAGS on and on and on. I wish he never had to work and we could just both stay home together forever. UGH
Ashley - 25, Chris - 27, Elizabeth - 9-22-04, Alexis - 12-19-08
Every day is a gift. It's just... does it have to be a pair of socks?
Hopelessly Devoted
I confess I've been packing all day today and we're leaving for 9 days in Mexico tonight at 3 AM. I'm dreading the travel days, but I'm looking forward to a tropical vacation with good food and swimming. What are you guys going to talk about while I'm gone?
Posting Permissions
Reply With Quote
