I'm only on for a second, Janet, so I can't peek at the counselors, but want to say that my dh does the "I'm always wrong, you're always right" thing too. It's completely infuriating and is a perfect way to shut down communication and end the conversation "on top," while passively blaming the other person. In short, it sucks. I hope you find the perfect person to help you guys. I contemplate couples therapy all of the time but the price tag always stymies me. Not that I don't think it's worth it - I totally think it is, and in my experience with other kinds of therapy, when you pay out of pocket for someone who's really good, you get what you pay for (ie, much better counseling than with the yahoo your insurance might assign you).
I love Maiya's penis/uterus song!