Sigh. I am feeling sad and mad right now. We are taking a trip this summer and we had planned to stay with one of my besties from college who I haven't seen since maybe 1993 or so. She has a guest house that we could use. We sorted it out several months ago. Then I contacted her yesterday and she said that she lost track and accidentally scheduled her son's birthday party that one night we are supposed to stay there (we had actually agreed on TWO nights, but it seems she forgot that part too). We are welcome to come and stay but she can't really hang out with us because of the party and then the next day she has a funeral to go to in the morning so can't really hang out then either. DH is saying I should feel so upset about it, but I feel as big as a flea right now. If the situation were reversed, I would have at least put in in my calendar! I don't want to stay there because I feel like we would be a burden and I don't want to not stay there because then I feel like I would look like I was being *****y and nit-picky and self-important because she isn't making time to see me. We were supposed to spend two nights there, then drive to a town about two hours away to have lunch with her sister who was also a good friend in college. Now that will have to be moved to a different day if we do it at all - because at this point I haven't heard from the sister at all. Ugh. It's all a mess.
So I don't know what to do at this point. If we do stay there, I will feel pretty uncomfortable the whole time and will want to leave ASAP because I don't want to be a burden. If we don't, then I will have a really hard time thinking of us as friends anymore because she didn't bother to put me in the calendar. I know I am probably over-reacting and will wait to respond until tomorrow, but my feelings are really hurt right now.
"Any idiot can face a crisis; it is this day-to-day living that wears you out." -Anton Chekhov