Hi, all. It's thread has been so busy and I've actually had work to do at work so I've been working and not sneaking onto APA. So much to catch up on I'm just starting fresh.
I will say my mom says my sister was the only one of us who ever had tantrums (not that I didn't cry or get upset but not full-on, kicking and screaming breakdowns). Mom never did anything differently and my sister has always been so much higher needs than my brother and I. Still is. Some kids do, and some don't.
Had a talk today at work with parents of a little guy who has undiagnosed autism - parents have absolutely no idea their son has anything other than a "speech delay" which is what they all say - but they were talking about dealing with their him having a breakdown in stores and everyone around them feeling the need to give them parenting advice. I just feel so strongly that it is so not okay to judge a parent and their handling of their children's tantrums. Sometimes, and especially with a child on the spectrum, talking is the worst thing you could possibly do. Backing off and giving them space while ensuring safety is the only way to handle it because the more you say, the worse it will get and well-intentioned passersby who want to give advice about what works with their typically developing kids does absolutely no one any good. And no one knows what is going on with someone else's child.
Now, I DO get judgmental about kids who poke the back of my chair in a restaurant while their parents are completely unaware that the situation is even happening. Totally different.
So much for my not commenting! LOL!
Me (40) DH (47) & furbabies * m/c 7/08 4/12 11/12