I don't mind the way ear stretching looks, but it does have a definitive cultural vibe to it, and along with a lot of other visible body modifications, I would discourage people from doing it until after they've settled down and know what they want to do for the rest of their lives. Of course, the teen and young adult years is when people most want to express their individuality outwardly, so it's hard.
Chrissy, I also have a friend who was a very outspoken lesbian for a time during her late teen and young adulthood, and now she is happily married and has a couple of kids. It doesn't mean it's not totally real when it's happening, but it does seem that there are quite a number of young women who are 'college lesbians.' I just tried to google that to see if it's actually a thing, and came up with a bunch of porn, so either it's a term my friends and I made up or it just got buried under the avalanche of other stuff.
Here is the back yard of our house when we first moved in, 7 years ago. It was bare dirt that turned into mud when it rained. No drainage.
Here is our back yard now. DH and I put in the flagstone tiles one long three-day weekend ourselves (pre-kids). We set up planting areas. DH built a french drain. We just got the grass put in 2 years ago. We still have one area that is pure dirt, and we have to rehab some of the plants that are dying. We are thinking about putting in a little climbing wall against the back wall of the shed, on the grass. Last week was the first time we ever ate outside at the picnic table since we moved in there.
ETA: We didn't remove the sunken BBQ pit area; I took the first picture from the top deck so you can see it more easily and the second picture is at ground level. We are actually not using that as the BBQ-ing area, though, because it would be too hard to keep the kids away from it. We have a lot of plants on it.
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Does anyone here have MS Publisher AND Adobe Acrobat on the same computer who could help me convert a file? I have to convert my newsletter to .pdf and it's in Publisher. My dh used to convert for me because he had both programs, but the last time he got a new laptop, they didn't give him Publisher. He tried using some free program he got off the internet last time, and it just didn't work right.
Which version of Office do you have? Microsoft should have a free add-on available for download to simply save the Publisher document as a pdf.
Your back yard looks great. It looks like just the sort of place I'd love to hang out, chit-chat, and bbq with friends and family. It's triggered a desire for me to have my own little backyard refuge again. Some day.
Conner opted to stay with me rather than go with his dad, 2 sisters (Bobbie had to work), Aunt Jay and "Tousin" Brianna to NC. We both tried to tell him how great it would be to go, but he didn't want to. I cannot lie...this just pleased me immensely. We had a great night last night and have lots of plans for the day. Just me & my boy. I cried a little with shear happiness. I'm a dork.
It's still possible with Publisher 2003, it's just a few more steps. http://office.microsoft.com/en-us/pu...006207402.aspx
It's just Conner and I and we spent most the day at the park. It was the best day! I waded with Conner, and then laid down on the grass under a tree. Conner is to the age where I feel like I don't have to literally keep my eyeball on him every second, so I just stared at the tree above me and sky. I did keep sitting up and eyballing him, and I could hear him. Plus my mom was sitting up in my chair. But for me, it was the first time in what feels like 20 years that I've been to a park where I could relax at all. It was very therapeutic. Between that and the lack of other stressors, I'm really feeling happy way down inside again. And I'm so relieved.
Conner cuddled me a bunch of times and told me he loved me. He also ran and jumped on me and knocked me over. Plus tried to sit on my head and fart.
Sad occurences here at our house today.
Our oldest dog went on a walk with DH and had a heat stroke. DH ran him home and put some water on him them rushed him to the vet, but he passed away and Ky especially is really devastated since he loves Mr. Hyde and likes to lay on him on weekend mornings. Very sad for us. Even though I don't really like having dogs all that much, I did love Mr. Hyde because he was the sweetest dog. We found him on the streets when he was a puppy around 8 months old and took him in and he was only 7 years old, but since he was a bigger dog, the emergency vet said that 7 is old and that he was more susceptible to heat stroke. Oddly enough, I have been more worried about this happening with our younger dog who lives outside most of the time, because it has been hotter than normal for this time of the year so I made sure both dogs have been inside and watered well.
It wasn't even that hot when it happened, around 85 degrees. DH feels awful and blames himself since he decided to jog with Mr. Hyde to get him some exercise when it happened and he initially was not planning on jogging, just taking their regular walk. I will miss him. He was such a great pup and gave pit bulls (he was a mix but mixed with pit) a great name.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Erin. Khan nearly had one a couple of weeks ago, when it was 100+ outside. I'm not sure I could've forgiven myself if something had happened to him, so I have some idea what your DH must be going through.
We think Nero had one when it first for super hot here, back in May. He was out on the shaded, screen porch and wasn't exerting himself at all, but suddenly got very sick. We got him through it, but it is a scary thing. We really limit his time outside now, which we never had to do before.
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Oh, Erin, I'm so sorry for your loss. (hugs)
Chrissy I'm so glad to hear you talk about your happiness way deep down inside. Awesome.
Erin, so sad about Mr Hyde. Sorry for your loss.
I can imagine it is very quiet without the kids around, Chrissy. On the days that Travis goes to school and it's just me and Cash, and then Cash takes a nap, the quietness is crazy! I've actually just put Cash down for his nap, so I plan to go tidy the kitchen while I can. This is Travis' last week at pre-school; they have a 6 week break and then he is a full time reception student as of September (kind of the equivalent of kindergarden in the USA, but kids start at 4 here). It's also the last week that I'll be able to drop him off and pick him up from school since I start my new job in September, so I'm feeling a little melancholy over it all. But, it's a start of new beginnings for all of us (Me and my new job, Travis at full time school and Cash at daycare), so I'm sure we'll all be fine, but part of me will miss what we have now. I got Travis' end of school report today and his teacher had nothing but good things to say about him. His targets for next year are to be able to write his numbers neatly, to be able to read c-v-c words (ie 'cat,' 'dog,' 'bag.') and to be able to interact more with his peers when he needs help with something.
Change is always hard for me too, Ash. The start of new beginnings is a great way to look at it.
I had an awful weekend. Between dbf drinking too much on friday, keeping the kids up late both nights for the fireworks, and my bff coming over with her husband whom I cannot stand, it was just very draining. I love her and her kids so much but he grates on my every single nerve and it's hard for me to fake it. By the time they leave I'm practically boiling inside! I was so happy to go to bed last night and put an end to the whole weekend. I'll follow your lead, Ash and call this monday morning my new beginning so I can let go of all my sour feelings about the weekend.
Other than Mr. Hyde passing away our weekend was decent. My Dad and his girlfriend are in town, which means I am getting dramatic calls from my mom about what they are doing. She is really nosy and even though they are divorced, she likes to know his business and I have to tell her I'm not telling her his business and then she will just go on and on about how bad he treated her (mom) compared to this new girlfriend. Also that sooner or later he will treat the new girlfriend bad too which I don't doubt because that his pattern, not necessarily bad treatment, just that he likes to talk to a lot of different women on the phone and socialize with women at different NA events, and he usually picks women that are jealous, like my mom, which causes trouble for him in relationships.
Luckily, his new girlfriend is a nice lady and not crazy like some of the other "main squeeze's" (what my dad calls his girlfriends lol, he is very old fashioned and almost chauvinistic IMO, I joke about it to him all the time). His last girlfriend was pretty aggressive and jealous (like my mom) and wanted to physically fight him because she thought he was cheating on her. The one before that was my mom, who is also jealous and slapped him up side the the head with a Bible for talking to women on the phone when he promised her he wouldn't anymore. Before mom he had another wife, who was downright crazy and who our whole family didn't like. She used to be a prostitute when she was younger and the family felt that she must have been turning free tricks on Dad and rocking his world in the bed since she wasn't very attractive and had a horrible attitude. She also, anytime they had an argument, would go downtown and put a warrant out on my dad and claim he had beat her up. Luckily most of the times she did this, he had proof he was out of town (he was an over the road truck driver at the time) so the judge threw all of the charges out, but he now has a criminal record about 10 pages long due to her lying and is trying to get them all expunged.
This new lady is really nice and sweet, but young. She looks my age and my friend J, who went to a baseball game with us on Friday said she looked younger than me, which was pretty shocking to me since I don't think she looks younger lol! But his girlfriend is 42 I believe and I'm 33 so we do look pretty similar. Dad is 56 and this is the youngest girlfriend he's ever had. She has jealous tendencies so I am worried about their relationship but won't get into it. I do know he still talks to B, the crazy warrant lady (B was the lady who took me into a sex store when I was 12 so she could buy some "edible panties" for my dad to "eat off her." She told me this when I was 12 and I never told my mom about it then because she would have gone steretoypical on her. I told her about it a few years ago and mom wanted to call her up and curse her out, but I stopped her).
Erin so sorry about your dog.
We had a pretty good weekend. Saturday G had his swim class, he is doing so well. He is the youngest in the class and I think it's good that older kids encourage him to try the next step.
My mil took G out for awhile and I am supposed to be cleaning and starting my laundry. But I had to check the internet first ;) We were gone a lot this weekend and now I have to play catch up getting house tidy. If I don't straighten up/clean up every day it looks like a hurricane hit!
Chrissy, your nice day at the park sounds so nice. The best kind of therapy there!
Ash, I can understand why you are feeling that way.
alright off to my chores. Good times.
Shelley-mom to DS, 5
What was best about the weekend is how well Conner behaved for me. I know him, and i know how to respond to keep him calm and happy. Where I struggle is when there are others involved (sometimes even Rich). When they say stuff, or even just roll their eyes, Conner picks up on it and acts out even worse. We didn't have none of that. I know it's something we have to work on because he's going to be exposed to people that irritate him in life, but for me it's a relief because I was beginning to think I utterly failing at being a mommy to him.
And did I mention that there were no tears at bedtime? He went nighty-night just as sweet as pie. Although, when I pointed out that we had a great time and mentioned he could spend the night with Mommy more frequently now, he said no, that's ok. He'll stay with Daddy. Stinker!
Erin, I'm so sorry you lost your doggie this weekend. I'm sure you gave him a wonderful life! It's sweet that his last day was spent on an outing with your hubby. I'm sure he loved that. I hope Ky can bounce back from the loss in due time.
L, I wouldn't recommend where we went camping. Too far for a weekend (7+ hrs drive to the Southern Sierras, mostly on a rutted 1-lane road) plus the Tulomne area of the Sierras is so much more beautiful IMHO and half the distance from us. If we'd known it was this far, we wouldn't have agreed to meet up w/ the other family. My GPS said it was 6 hrs,which was a gross underestimation. But, it was PRECIOUS to see B and his best chum tramp around the woods like little mountain monkeys. And we love his family. They are such good people. Just stinks I got my period on the way there and it basically ended as soon as we got back. I am still amazed that I am finally regular after 25 years of irregular periods and all it took was seeds recommended by our naturopath. I just wish I were irregular this one weekend. It was like a tampon commercial about your period slowing you down."You get all excited about your big camping trip, and then when you're finally on your way, wouldn'tcha know it?..." LOL.
I got totally sucked into a autobiographical book while I was up there called "Wild" by Cheryl Strayed about a woman who hiked much of the Pacific Crest Trail solo after her life had become a mess. It's really well written and devastating and engrossing. I'm only on page 80, and a slow reader, so if anyone wants to start it, I'm sure you can catch up and we can have mini book club. Lol!
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Heh. Two out of three above paragraphs ended in "lol". Happy Monday, everyone!
Erin - I have to say I lol'ed at your descriptions of your dad's many ladies. It sounds like that situation is maybe not so fun for those of you who have to deal with it, but it has the makings of a good movie!
D-Mama (37) D-Dada (43) and D-Baby (11/02/2011)
I will look for that book Myles. I may have to order it though and since I haven't forayed into the e-reading land yet, I may just get a paper book and read it when it comes. I am a quick reader and am planning on buying some GRE study material on amazon so will look up that book too. I have thought of hiking the silver comet trail, it is something DH wants to do, but he thinks I'm too lazy to do it. It is a pet peeve of mine that he thinks I'm lazy, even though I do a whole lot more day to day work than he does and I have done more than him throughout our relationship, but he thinks I'm lazy because I don't like exercising outside when it is hot, or I'd rather relax on weekends than clean, stuff like that. It makes me sigh and lose a little respect for him but I cannot change the way he thinks so I just let it go, his weirded out opinions.
And Myles I did not even think about how Mr. Hyde probably did enjoy his walk the other day. He really did love to go exercising. He even ran miles and miles with DH almost every day. He loved going jogging and just going outside in general. Walks were the highlights of his day and he was jumping around all excited before they went out for that walk. He was so excited he could barely sit down when DH was trying to attach the lease to his collar. I am missing his jumping around in the morning when we get up. And in the evening when we come home. He also loved eating. And he loved eating every, freaking, day LOL! I would joke to him that it was the same old food as usual, but he would jump around in circles and run back and forth, everyday for his dog food. He usually wouldn't even eat all of it either. He was such a hoot. I also usually pet him every evening for about 20-30 minutes. I called it his "affection." I always thought he acted like he didn't get enough affection so I liked for him to end every day with a good pet and hug and I have missed doing it even though he used to get on my nerves on days I didn't feel like petting him with his constant moving of my arm with his cold nose in order to get me to pet him. I will remind DH about how excited he was going for that walk though as like you said, he really did love outings. I also am happy he had a road trip recently to AR when we went. DH's grandma doesn't like big dogs, but she thought he was "the sweetest baby" she had ever seen who was a big dog. She has 3 dogs herself, but only little ones and was afraid of pit bulls. She invited us to bring him back in Sept for Labor Day. She will be sad about him passing too since she also gave him a lot of affection on our trip.
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Yes, my dad is a character and so are his "main squeezes" even his minor squeezes are characters. Dad and I, personality wise are a lot alike. He is pretty no-nonsense and funny, witty, and smart and I joke that I got all of his good characteristics. His life would make a great movie. I told him before I pass, I'm going to write a book based on his life. He has been through a lot and has always maintained a really positive attitude, but he does admit that the ladies are his downfall. He has been afraid of this new relationship because he has had so many bad experiences with women and he thinks that he attracts "the crazies" LOL!
Luckily, the ladies don't bother me. I find something I like about all of them. Even B was a nice lady, even though I really do think she had/has some sort of mental illness like a personality disorder or something. Dad has 4 sisters though and ALL of them hated B and still do and was happy when she finally remarried recently so she wouldn't have our last name. Our surname is unique and everyone with it in my hometown is related to us in some way so my aunts would get upset when people ask them about B. Like their faces totally change lol! They really don't like her. They remember when she was a prostitute and how "nasty" she used to look downtown selling herself. I remember her too and I agree she did look pretty nasty (fishnet stockings, black dress, bright red lips) a stereotypical hooker and she was on drugs really bad back then so I thought she looked nasty and felt sad for her for being strung out. She isn't on drugs anymore but has a potty mouth and was a pretty crappy mom to her own boys but even through all that I could see her internal struggles and how she really felt bad about herself so I never had any hard feelings about her, not even to this day.
Oh, Erin. You're breaking my heart over here with your descriptions of Mr. Hyde. I'm completely in tears. I will be lost for weeks when it's Lulu or Cayo's turn to go. Thanks for the reminder to give my doggies the extra love... even when they're doing crazy things like rolling around in horse manure (yes, Lulu actually did that this weekend when we went on a "girl time" hike, just us, over the weekend).
Also, I am reading the hardbound version of that book, Erin. I picked it up at Costco for I think 30% off the cover price. Maybe your library would have it?
Chrissy your day with C sounds perfect I am glad you got to spend some one on one time with him!
Erin I am so sorry. The loss of a pet is devastating
Bridget I am sorry you had a crummy weekend It really is draining….
My weekend was nice, mostly. My Aunt came down for a visit (whom I love dearly) and we had a really good time thrift shopping (which she is the queen of) and talking. She really helped me to talk out what I was feeling about my mom without any judgment, which was nice. I am determined to make a trip to North Florida to visit her for a weekend before classes start back. I think it’ll be good for us. We went up there Memorial Weekend (a month before we got pg with Nolan) and had THE greatest time. A part of me almost wishes we could move there, but alas there is nothing there
Winner-Winner went into the hospital on Friday (which I found out by way of someone other than my mom) and had a double bi-pass done today. He’s in recovery so all is well. My mom got really attitude-y with me when I asked if everything was ok (all I knew is that they were at the hospital, not for who or why at the time) and didn’t even want to tell me because “You don’t want me to talk about HIM”. Um… OK… Like a text saying I am at the hospital with S would have been so hard Oh and I found out she is running around telling people that I am keeping “her grandbaby from her" Uh no, I won't let you take "my" son to a drug dealers house, but I knew that was coming…..
She is already having issues with J staying with her, Surprise Surprise I told her to leave his butt in jail that he hadn’t learned his lesson. It took one tid bit of their conversation for me to make that assumption, about a week before she bailed him out he was still claiming that he “doesn’t” have a drug problem. Um… OK buddy.
Anyway, just an update on my drama saga. Oh and for some reason one of the books for my class that starts NEXT month is still saying "To Be Determined"
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