Checking your homocysteine levels is apparently what will tell you if you actually have a clinically significant MTHFR (it always sounds so dirty when I write out that abbreviation), so it seems like knowing that should make a difference as to how you are treated.
And Bridget, that sucks. DID you tell them how that made you feel?
DH and I were having a nice dinner the other night and then he talked about how tired he was and how he wanted to take the child voted most likely to sleep for his bedtime duty. I said the baby's bedroom included some chores, like putting sheets on the crib first and hopefully putting away laundry. He pretended he didn't know what the word chores meant and was laughing about it with the kids. He took time to explain to them what "jibber-jabber" meant in the context of how the word "chores" sounded to him. He did not know why I went from lighthearted to unhappy. He got angry with me, and accused me of having so sense of humor. He followed me around angrily asking me what he did wrong and not letting me answer him when I tried to tell him. I told him later--and I had to tell him to shut up and listen to me-- that I could survive with him not helping me around the house, but it drives me crazy that the children never see a man sweeping the floors or doing laundry or cleaning the bathrooms or cooking dinner, and him laughing about not knowing what the word chores means is just driving the point home. He told me that I was reading too much into it, and the children didn't understand the greater context of it, but I was upset that he seemed to think it was so trivial. After quite a while, he finally admitted that he still didn't quite get it, but he apologized, which is more than he usually does when we argue, and I gratefully took it.
I was thinking of that when you talked about temper tantrums, Bridget. When I get upset about anything (whether or not it's directly related to DH, and whether I'm sad or annoyed), DH gets angry, as if I have wrongfully accused him of something and he needs to immediately show me exactly why I am completely incorrect. No matter how often I tell him that the best thing to do would be to say that is too bad, I'm sorry you're hurting, or whatever, he just gets mad. It's very frustrating.