I also thought of that video Katy and didn't think you looked 40.
I do get hit on still, even though I don't think I am looking my best right now. Guys always have hit on me and I never like being hit on, but I have big boobs and honestly I got sick of hiding them in t-shirts. I look good in V necks or square neck shirts and so I primarily wear those and in the summer I wear a lot of sun dresses and I get a look of oogles at those times. Plus I am usually really friendly and talkative to most normal people but some guys start off normal then veer towards crazy really quick. One guy who used to work out in the cardio room at my local rec center asked me to go out with him one day and I told him no, that I was married and he kept going on and one about how my husband didn't need to know, that he didn't want to steal me from my husband he just wanted to spend some time with me (in my mind meaning he wanted to F me - but not the letter F in my mind) and so I had to get kind of tudey with him and ask him how he would feel if his wife went out with some guy behind his back and his response was he didn't care since he probably would not have been "handling" everything at home. I informed him my DH handles things in that department very well but he was free to come over to spend time with me DH, and the kids cleaning the kitchen or doing yard work. He looked at me like I was nutty. I get guys like that quite often. Most African guys I meet ask me if I'm married and if I'm not would I consider marrying them, like right from the get-go. It makes me LOL for real.
I don't think I dress to attract it as plenty of times I go out in sweats and a T-shirt and look like crap with crusties in my eyes and go take the kids to the park on a Saturday morning and I'll have some guy trying to talk to me and asking me if I want to go out. I truly don't understand it. Even though I have a lot of confidence in the way I look, I know that I am not some extreme beauty. I figure it is because I am friendly but even when I'm not friendly a guy will ask me if there is something they can do to make me look happier. It is a mystery to me.
I'm not really dreading 40 but am looking forward to it. My mom just turned 50 and she looks really good and people think we're sisters. My grandma was good looking too as well as my great grandma well into her 80s. I do fear the health/body aspect of deterioration, not so much the looks as the aches, pains, fatigue, etc. that can come with getting older. I figure I'll take more naps though and am looking forward to that.