That's another issue, Bridget. He sees nothing wrong with any of it. To hear him say it, I'm considering separation, because he won't let me have a dog, or do the dishes. Of course, if you ask me, it's because I'm more maid than partner, and I am tired of having the better angels of my nature squashed underfoot.
Sorry about venting, and not responding to anyone else. Just in a bad place right now.