Well, given that, I'll pop my head in and say I've been following in here but haven't posted since my trip because I didn't want to catch up on everything I hadn't responded to and didn't want to, well, seem totally self-absorbed. Which I am.
But I will take this time to say what a FANTASTIC time I had on my trip. Had really fabulous chats with my sister, my brother and almost-SIL (brother's gf of 8 years), my niece and nephew, three of my very closest friends from growing up, and one (former) APA member! Just typing that out, I'm exhausted! I've spent the last week recovering. It really brought home to me what an amazing group of people I am blessed to have in my life. I wish I were closer to all of them.
The last day of my trip, I had a dinner with two of my dear friends from growing up. One of them I haven't seen in at least 20 years and the other I think it's been 18 years. We had some really deep discussions of things that had been going on in all our lives. One friend (D) I had been in pretty close contact with for a while and then we lost touch. I had known things were hard for her, she had an eating disorder and had been very sick and dropped out of college with mono and never seemed to get her life back together. I had from another friend (who no longer lives in the area but whom I have been in touch with more recently) that she had some deep issues but never heard anything more than that. Well, D confessed that she had been in an abusive relationship for years and had pushed everyone away from her. I was so far away that it just slipped between the cracks. She drove me home afterwards and I just thought about everything and just felt how much I had missed from everyone's lives, moving across the country. I told her how much I regretted not being there for her. She gave me a big hug, and told me, "Let's look at it this way. We were great friends as children, before our lives filled up with drama. Then we both had the opportunity to mature without our drama getting in each other's way. Now, we have moved past the drama and can just be friends."
I'm crying just writing that out. I am SO glad I went on this trip. I wouldn't have missed sharing that evening with those girls for the world.
Me (40) DH (47) & furbabies * m/c 7/08 4/12 11/12