Oh no Suja....I'm so sorry to hear that.
omg-these people are too much! Here's one of my emails to "Mr. Mitchell"
Most the day later, this is his response. Word.for.word.Just to follow-up, I expect this to be resolved today or I'll be writing the State Attorney General's office and anyone else that is a governing authority over you. I've attached a picture of the claim as reported by the adjuster and circled where the error is that needs to be rectified. Like I said, TODAY.
Tomorrow I'll be calling attorneys, which you will pay for as this is clearly a mistake on your end. I will not be paying for your errors. I also will not wait. Please escalate and resolve asap.
I assume that means when my new insurance runs the check on my license, I'll no longer have a 'partially at fault' thing come up? No apology? WTF? Who are these people?
ps-as you can see, I'm very much not nice when someone (a business) makes such a blunder. I have zero tolerance. If it's a small mom & pop joint-sure. But this is Safeco-a large insurance industry. They don't have checks and balances to prevent this sort of error? And the above pissy message was in response to the non-answer I initially got from them to begin with. I didn't start off being a snit. Jerks.
I've used them for nearly 10 years and they've always been great. I don't know wtf happened, except this was the first claim we've ever had.
Suja, I am so sorry How is your DH?
I'm sorry, Suja.
"Any idiot can face a crisis; it is this day-to-day living that wears you out." -Anton Chekhov
Gretchen, he was diagnosed with a large tumor on his liver last year. Now, it has progressed, and he has cirrhosis as well. They took him in because he was generally feeling unwell, had trouble with his bladder, and then started to have swelling of his legs. That bit appears to he from the kidneys. His potassium level is sky high, and he started to have heart problems as a result, so he had dialysis today. If his kidneys manage to come back up, he will probably have a little more time. If they don't, this will likely be the end.
He is in India. DH will likely leave over the weekend. Something happened during this last trip, when he came back sick, and now he doesn't want to fly at all. Scared to, in fact. Dunno what to make of it. I think that he might be depressed. Or maybe have some sort of tropical disease.
So sorry to read your fil is doing poorly, Suja. And hope your dh can feel well enough to go see him.
I need some advice, ladies. Decided to keep it in here to avoid any debates (well, we can debate but nicely, like good heathens;)) So, I still have Sawyer rear facing which has sort of been a no brainer since he's such a wee lad at just over 20 lbs at 28 mos. He sits in the middle row of the van, facing Savana and Kai. Driving is a nightmare and I mean that really. It gives me a feeling that I don't know if I've ever had before. Usually it starts as him being entertained by whatever they are doing but it always, without fail, turns into him SCREAMING. I'm talking blood curdling. Like, I feel like my stomach is filled with something that is boiling. And usually they aren't even doing anything. OFten it's that he wants what they have. Or he threw what he had at them and now he wants it back but no one can reach it from their carseat. Or he doesn't like the way they are looking at him. Or he loves the way they start out laughing at his screams but end up pleading with him to stop. They try to make him happy but he only screams louder. It's. Awful. Like, him crying in his seat as an infant was heartbreaking, but this. This is bad and it makes me very, very stressed and especially if I am dealing with traffic at the same time. Distracting, to say the least. I feel like if I turned his seat to face the front and he could not see them, it would all be eliminated. But I do know in my heart that he is not as safe forward facing and he really is so small. Be honest and tell me what you would do.
It's been a long time since we turned Josh. Doesn't height matter too? I honestly don't remember.
I remember I went to car-seat.org and asked their advice. There are a lot of certified people there. I think you can ask one question before you have to sign up for the site, but if you tell them Sawyer's measurements and what seat you're using and all that, they should be able to help you. There are some people who are pro-rear facing as long as possible but I think you have to weigh how safe it is to have a child screaming in the back seat, too. I honestly cannot drive safely if that is going on.
I admit I know next to nothing about car seats, so take my advice for what it's worth, but I have to say that if he is screaming g to the point it is distracting your driving, he is much less safe than if he would be, properly secured and forward facing, with you able to drive without distractions. Just think if you did get in an accident ... You hear about little ones who survive a bad crash because of their car seat, but everyone else in the car (parents and family) is killed. Is it worth it to risk the entire family?
Good point Mandy. I don't have much experience either but law says you can forward face after 20 lbs and sometime at 1-3 years. He's in the middle of the van which is better. I mean could he be getting carsick? It's hard to ride backwards.
I think I would probably turn him around and see if it helps. If it does, great. If it doesn't, he goes back to rear facing. Safety is important but you need to be able to drive safely as well.
Suja, so sorry to hear about your father in law.
I'm sorry I've been so scarce lately. I had a really hard time managing without my left mouse button. I just got my new mouse but now I'm really busy getting ready for a camping trip in (gulp) 100-degree weather. Plus I'm working the next few days.
Bridget, I would totally try turning him. Size isn't as important when FF as is age (want those bones stronger!), that's why even if an 8 month old has outgrown the infant seat, you DO NOT TURN THEM FFing!! Just because Sawyer is smaller, doesn't mean it's less safe for him FFing than a larger 28 month child. At least, that is my totally unprofessional opinion. I ended up turning Maiya temporarily FFing at 28 months because we had guests, and two car seats wouldn't fit in my small car with one RF. Then she outgrew it RFing at like 32, so she's FFing now. I think 28 months is fine, especially if he is THAT miserable. And if it doesn't improve the situation, you can just turn him back! Though I hope you find an answer, that sounds miserable.
So, I am having a HARD time with this stupid STC thing. I've been busy, which is a lot of why I've been more inactive, but as AF starts and I'm being forced to skip YET ANOTHER CYCLE, I'm hurting more and more. The last few days, and the next few days, I'm sure, I've been a mean, nasty, snarky, useless thing. UGH, I need to GROW UP!! So, anyway, all that whining to tell you ladies that I'm sorry I'm not being more supportive.
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B-I agree with everyone else. Flip him. but...don't expect miracles. He may be happy for the first day or so because it's a new perspective, but Conner behaved much the same way and nothing but time cured his auto-temper tantrums. He simply hated to be restrained. Period.
Thank you, Chrissy! I was actually just coming in to edit that and make it a little more mild, hah. I'm not quite as bad off as I vent. It's just because AF is starting now, and that makes me moody, plus I'm faced with a frustrating choice, so I'm just mad. Though I still need to grow up! Instead, I'm sitting down with way too many chocolate chip cookies, hah.
And I'm sorry, Suja.
Suja, I'm sorry to hear about your FIL; I hope your DH can sort it out to go see him.
Janet, I hate that you are STC. I can't imagine how hard it must be. I'm sure we all understand when you need a break from this place.
Bridget, I think in your situation I would try to turn him forward-facing to see how he reacts to being in the car then. I agree with the others about a screaming child causing a distraction. I can't see how you've dealt with it for so long.
This week is going by so fast (I have the week off school as our last 7 week term is coming up;school is out for the summer on the 19th July). Today I am taking the boys to meet up with the 'yummy mummies.' I am hoping it won't be too hectic, but there is quite a large group of us with small children, so I'll make sure to have a nice coffee and cake. Tomorrow, we were supposed to be meeting up with some other American expats, but they've all flaked, so I'm not sure what we'll get up to. I also have this coming Monday off but the boys go back to school, so I actually have a day to myself.....I am brainstorming so hard as to what I should do to take advantage of this precious, precious time!
B I have been debating turning Nolan has well and feeling really guilty for it. Mine is selfishly motivated though, getting him in and out of the car seat is starting to get really difficult for me. I just can't stretch (being the shorty I am) the way I was able to previously. He's only 25 pounds and it makes me nervous, so I'm sucking it up for now.
I agree that his screaming and the distraction it is causing you (the driver) is not safe. I would turn him if you think that it will help or at the very least try. I can't drive with someone screaming in the back seat. It would rack my nerves.
FIL is going for another dialysis today. He is feeling better, but his kidneys are not picking up. This is, unfortunately, a temporary reprieve.
I got DH's ENT appointment moved up to today. I essentially told him that not going is not an option, and what he needs to do is to tell the ENT as much, so that he can travel as safely as possible. He is afraid he'll lose his hearing. I'm pretty sure if my dad were that sick, I wouldn't care about that. It's SO frustrating, because he is generally not so wishy-washy. I'm just not sure what to do with him anymore. And I'm not at all sure that the ear thing is all that's going on. Maybe he just doesn't want to deal with his father's death, or thinks it would be easier if he put distance between them.
I'm just SO fed up with the other parents in Mira's classroom as well. This month has been South America, so every Friday, they do some sort of themed food. There has only been one week previously where someone needed to be creative enough to think of something, and no takers. No one signed up for tomorrow, so I'm doing it again. There are 14 kids in class. There is no reason some of us have to do this every 5 or 6 weeks. I'm doing some sort of truffle type thing. And bought a bag of plantain chips. If I have time, I'll make a coconut flan. I know no one asked me to take all this on, but seriously, if I can think of stuff to do in about 1/2 hour of research, surely someone else could've as well?
Janet, I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Chrissy, can you tell if the sooper seekrit insurance database has been updated to remove the erroneous information?
Perhaps some at Mira's school are overwhelmed with work or other obligations? I know right now, I couldn't even think of something like that. I just have far too much going on at home and work & don't have the bandwidth to expand to 'fun' little lunches at school. As sweet as they may be.
I have to call the guy who I want to get insurance through and I haven't had time yet. Yes, I'm that busy. I'm hoping to get 30 minutes tonight after work to call them again. I'm not certain that's gonna happen.
Gender Ultrasound on Tuesday
So far the poll at work is leaning towards girl - silly people
Chrissy, this is an ongoing complaint of mine. There are like 6 parents that actually participate in school stuff. Anything from providing stuff, to helping with setup/breakdown for various events, and donating/lending supplies. I have met most of the parents. There are 5 moms that work outside the home, full time. Of these, 3 of us help with all sorts of stuff, regularly. The other two are working in the school, and pitch in when they can, but it isn't always possible. Of the rest, all but one have just the one kid. The one with two kids (she just had her second in December) at least tries, and I totally understand that she has her hands full, but at least she participates from time to time. The rest are mostly MIA. There are a couple that have brought something, maybe once or twice since September, and the rest have never participated in anything.
Anyway, no one is even under any obligation to cook. Just bring something culturally relevant. Like, I plan to bring a bag of plantain chips for tomorrow. How hard is that? Bring some tortillas and cheese, or a couple of mangoes, or chips and dip. It ain't rocket science.
In a way, I'm glad I have some cooking to do, to take my mind off all the other crap happening. Pan has regressed in her eating, and I'm force feeding her once again. DH is acting weird. His dad is dying... this crap just seems endless.
That's so much, Suja. I have started feeding my old cat with a syringe now because she just won't eat. Part of me thinks that I need to just let her choose whether to eat or not, but then I just want her to stay alive and think that maybe if she just gets something in her system that her appetite will kick back in.
"Any idiot can face a crisis; it is this day-to-day living that wears you out." -Anton Chekhov