That sounds like a fantastic trip! Just my kind of vacation right there.
Ok, I promise to stop with all of this soon but I am tripping right now! I texted my dad to thank him yet again for driving mil to the airport for me. Get this! She told him the story about Kai! And pretty much blamed the whole incident on Kai being rude. She said, "I told Kai that I was a guest in his home and he was being very rude by asking me to leave the room that I was staying in." My dad said he just started laughing. (God I love him!) and said that it's crazy to try to "explain: something to a child when he in the midst of a tantrum. And I know he wasn't telling me everything she said but he told me that he wanted to be honest and tell me that he really let her know that the way he sees it, I am raising the kids alone and that if there is a problem it's that. That to critisize me, or the kids' behavior, is just avoiding the obvious. That he loves dbf, he's family, but he doesn't pay attention to his kids, that it's blaringly obvious to anyone that spends time with us. I was crying during this conversation because it did hurt to hear my dad say it, and the blaringly obvious bit was like a punch. Anyway, I think he was afraid I was mad but not at ALL! So glad he had my back.
On a side, my dad often gets hooked on phrases and one liners, using the chosen one as often as he can for a period of time. His most recent is, "Awkward!" and it came in handy several times during the breakdown of their conversation. So he had me laughing through my tears.