Ugh, Bridget. I have been having the same type of problems with my dh these past few days. I got really ticked off at him today and I know it is against the rules but I will be going to bed mad. It's just too big to hash out before bedtime and neither one of us really wants to do it. I'm feeling that he is the one making all the decisions, I have no control over anything, my opinion means nothing, I'm being judged and nit-picked to death on what I buy at the grocery store. I asked if we were going bankrupt or something and he said he was just trying to get a handle on what we spend so we don't rack up the cc again which I totally understand but I also know that I am not an extravagant spender. I usually by my own clothes with egg money and about half of J's clothes too. I rarely buy new clothes, but when I do I go to Marshalls or some other discount store. I know that there are ways to limit spending, but quizzing me on what I bought at the grocery store is not going to help. I am ashamed to admit that I don't have access to our accounts, have no idea of money in/out. I am so afraid of money that I just let it go. He said he will be giving me access and I need to pin him down on it tomorrow so I have an idea of where the money is going. We aren't rich, but we are NOT poor so I don't like feeling like I am breaking rules when I buy myself $40 of new underwear (I haven't bought new underwear in at least a year). Ugh. I want to go to bed. These past two weeks have been terrible. Sick and sad and mad and frustrated. Yuck.
"Any idiot can face a crisis; it is this day-to-day living that wears you out." -Anton Chekhov