Hugs to you ladies being bombarded with questions/conversations. Things like that make my mind feel all and I get upset so I remind people to speak to me one at a time. Luckily or unluckily, depends on how you look at it, my DH doesn't really do that - try to get me to listen to him all the time. If I want information from him, it is like pulling teeth with needle nose pliers. He is not very forthcoming. But the kids are always coming at me when we get home. Luckily they know how to take turns pretty well. Ky of course is better at this than Elle and she will get a mini-tude when I tell her I am speaking to Ky and cross her arms and look all upset.
I hope you had a good time at the sushi joint Bridget. LOL at your DBF wanting to DTD more when he is acting childish. I tell my DH I don't want to DTD with him when he is being childish or if he is been hyper-critical, which he usually is.
We haven't done it in a while, like 10 days, which is a long time for us because he has been hyper-critical to me and I shared with him how much it bothers me and how in a way, I have developed a complex about it. If I get a zit or something he will go on and on about it. He told me and tells me a few times a year that I don't "look the same way I did when we met" and even though I know he is shallow about looks, it makes me think he must think I look disgusting. FWIW, most people I knew from jr. high/high school who I havent seen in 15-20 years and who I see again always say I look the same, I am the same height I was at 13, I have gained some weight, but I met DH when I was 21 and I am about 25lbs heavier now than I was then, so it is not like I have gained 100lbs. I don't know what to think of DH and his frequent complaints about how different I look, I even dug up some pics of me when Ky was a baby and I think I look the same then as I do now, I was the same weight I am now, I have many of the same clothes as I had then still lol. If anything, I am much more fashionable now than I used to be. His comment made me not want to share myself with him and it is once again making me feel disgust for him in his shallowness. I actually despise shallow people. And really, DH is not all that much of a looker IMO so I don't think he has room to talk and he is also about 25lbs heavier now than when I met him. He even has gray hair in his pubes LOL!! But do I say anything about it...no I don't. Because I don't care about stuff like that. He has told me plenty of times that I "don't care about how I look." I certainly do and I am actually quite beautiful IMO and I have always thought so, save a couple years when I had horrible acne, but even then I thought I had beautiful eyes and pretty hair, and a good shape (I was 13-15 years old then so a LONG time ago). When I asked him why he felt I didn't care about how I look when I work out 3-6 days per week now, I shower, I iron clothes, I even wear makeup sometimes (which he doesn't like) he said really he doesn't like it that I don't care "what he feels" about how I look. LOL. Why should I care about how he feels about my looks?? Maybe other women care about this sort of thing. It just made me see him as selfish, as if I am supposed to care about his feelings more than my own and do any and everything to please him. He frequently nitpicks things and if I am nice and address his feelings, he will find something else to critique, like after I lost 65lbs, I am thinking he thought I was doing it for him BTW, which I was not, I actually was considering leaving him at the time and wanted to get in good shape for a new beginning for myself - but after that huge weightloss, he started to complain about my skin, I have hyperpigmentation and it took me a long time to get used to it and be okay with it and he started complaining about it, which upset me. Or he will complain about how I don't mop the floor the "right way" or iron the "right way" or do something how he wants it done. He is so lucky I love him and I tell him this all the time, because if we didn't have kids and he was a fling, I would have told him off and been done with him years ago. I wonder if your DBF knows how lucky he is. I hope so. DH does and he is always apologetic but it is just in his nature to be hyper-critical, especially about appearances. He is working on it and I have seem some progress over the course of the 10 days since that conversation, hopefully it will continue but I am not confident it will.