Gwenn, big squeezy hug and good luck on your IUI today. I hope for the best outcome here.
And thanks for sharing your thoughts on white lies. I do like a good scruples discussion and hearing how people handle these things. Honestly, I don't like having to put any sort of spin on things. I think the substance of my original question was if there'd be any way to offer my exact reasoning in a nice way such that she might learn about herself ...at least as far as how we felt she behaved badly as a guest last year. Doesn't sound like anyone here is in favor of that.
Sooo...last Sunday after my race, while B was napping and I should have been napping but couldn't sleep, I decided to whip up yoga shorts out of old t-shirts. The top one was the prototype I'd made awhile back. Sharing here because I wanted to share, but didn't feel like showing my "short shorts" on FB (some ex- might think I'm flirting with him ;)):
Happy Tuesday, all.