Just had a very strange thing happen.
This weekend I got a call from a coworker. She was my partner when I did evaluations and so we worked very closely together. She's about 20 years older than me and she was around my age when she had her kids but she's really nice. She called to tell me that she for certain hasn't been hired back next year due to budget issues and the fact that she was hired back as a retiree. Anyway, she was very down so I shared with her that we were going the see the RE and we talked about that for a little while.
Today, she called again because she wanted the name of a company I used for pet sitting and while we were talking she mentioned that yesterday she learned that her 19 year old daughter's friend is pregnant and considering an abortion. The friend herself was adopted and my coworker was thinking the girl might consider adoption and wanted to know if we want the baby!
I'm a little in shock. DH and I have discussed the possibility of adoption as something out there, but it isn't something we have made up our minds to do. I'm actually a little excited to see what the RE can do for us so I haven't written off conceiving our own child. We talked and we definitely want to still go through with the RE, which would require money that we wouldn't want to be taking away from an adopted child. We wouldn't mind adopting this baby, actually I'd be excited to, but we don't have cash on hand to cover the mother's medical expenses. If I got pregnant, my insurance would cover it but it wouldn't cover expenses for a potential adoption. Plus, there is always the chance she would back out of it. So after our talk we decided to tell my friend that if the girl needs a family we would be happy to take the child, but she could very likely find another set of adoptive parents who could provide her with financial support for her medical expenses, which we could not do. I hope that is the right choice and we don't end up regretting that down the road, but I think that is exactly what DH and I are both feeling and we're very clearly on the same page with this.