Hey Bridget - sounds like you did the right thing. You avoided an even bigger situation that would have developed. I think your dbf hasn't learned that when you have kids it doesn't really matter what you "feel like" - you have to be consistent and follow through on promises, even implicit promises like reading one story before bed every single night. When that happens every night, then it becomes a promise. I wish there was a way to make him understand that your intervention is about the kids and not about him.
"Any idiot can face a crisis; it is this day-to-day living that wears you out." -Anton Chekhov