I also had no problem separating sex and emotion in the past. At least, some of the time. Other times I got involved post-sex and that turned into a huge mess. I don't miss that part.
Bridget, I agree that he is being selfish. He should recognize the timing of his request and it's relative level of importance to your family. I'm sorry he's putting you through this. I'm still dealing with my own DH trust issues despite the fact that things are going well between us now - I just keep coming back to it. It will be a while before I completely let it go.
I do have to brag about DH, though, if that's okay - the other day we were at Barnes and Noble looking at DVDs and he pointed out to me they had a Led Zeppelin collector's set - all their CDs packaged like the original albums, not in jewel cases. It's one of those things I love the idea of but would never buy for myself. He went home and ordered it for me on the internet for no reason, just for something special, and it came today. It was so sweet of him.
Although he also bought himself a truck today (we've been talking about that for months) so we're both feeling the difference in our savings account - ouch. But it's still really sweet of him.
Lydia, it never occurred to me to be offended by what you said. Although I admit it is the sort of thing that I might have been offended by if it had come across differently, but I "know" you enough that I know what you meant. I suppose it's all about delivery. Someone else may not have said the same thing in the same way.
Originally Posted by Lydia
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