I know what you mean. And if you get upset, he might listen but will he learn? That's something dbf and I argue about. Sure, they'll listen to him when he snaps but only because they're kind of freaked out, not because they have any idea why they are listening.
But, yay, by the way, because Savana and him are on their way home now. Super long travel day. Tons of layovers so they don't get here until 11pm. I can't wait to see her. And dbf insisted to me on the phone last night that he learned a lot with her and he's going to be a better parent. Oh how I hope he's for real. I can't take much more of his crappy parenting.
And his mom sent me an email that she thinks I need to help him find direction...that she thinks he's scared because he's getting old and doesn't have a steady career. That he needs to feel needed. I feel like a cold hearted biatch but my first reaction was that all sound like something he needs to do. No one found me a path. But now I'm thinking that tomorrow evening him and I will brainstorm together. He really is so insecure. And it's glaringly obvious but I forget because he has such a cocky and overbearing demeanor. It's hard to build someone up when it seems like they need to be deflated. I need to put different goggles on when I look at him and see if we can't figure out what to do about him. If I'm going to be in this I might as well not let it be stagnant. No point to that.