Originally Posted by
3andMe
How are you doing now? Any update now that you've had a chance to talk to another specialist?
I had an anterior placenta with my girl twin, and could barely feel her during my pregnancy. I felt (erroneously) that she would be mellow because she seemed to hardly ever kick or move from what I could tell, but that's just because she was so muffled in my sensation. Turns out she can't hold still at all and she's all kick all the time. I guess you can't really ascribe a personality trait to a baby in utero. The same thing happened but to a lesser degree with my next boy.
I want to give you congratulations on your twins and to give you support for the difficult times ahead. I spent a lot of time reading other stories of loss after I lost my first child, and I found the stories on an anencephaly web site particularly poignant. I think it can be also hard to cope with the conflicting feelings of excitement and joy on the one hand and grief on the other. I know there are some resources available about grieving the loss of one twin while caring for the surviving one, and can try to find some if you want.
But again, first and foremost, congratulations, and I'm glad you joined us in here and will be sharing your journey with us.