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I am a 16 year old junior, who goes to one of the best high schools in the US. (Maryville High School). Saying that, a lot is expected out of me. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months, and I have just found out I am pregnant. Any ideas on the best way to tell my parents?
If you look into crisis pregnancy center there are usually counselors that will help you with telling your parents and offer support after you do. :hugs:
Yes, I agree with this.Quote:
Originally Posted by caligirl07
I hope it all goes well. :hugs:
I agree with caligirl - Crisis pregnancy centers offer a wealth of information and most importantly, support. You will meet the most loving, non-judgemental women who will talk you through, pray you through, hold your hand, walk you through - or whatever you need. I faced an unplanned pregnancy and was still living at home with my parents. Telling them was the hardest thing I've ever done, but they were beyond supportive. I pray God prepares and softens your parents' hearts to receive the news well. Just remember - while you may not have planned this little life, this little life was destined to grace this earth with his/her presence. I'm not sure how your parents will take the news, but rest assured when they see that little one's face, tiny little hands and toes, and those sweet little eyes peering up at them, it'll be instant love and you'll all realize this little life is exactly what your lives were missing.
As far as how to tell them, I would just sit them down and don't beat around the bush. Just come out with it. I was such a wreck, I just sobbed and I couldn't even get the words out. My parents had to guess! And it was my mom that guessed. As a side note, my mom is a minister, so I feel ya on the pressure to be great! My mom just asked me - She said, "Cristie, are you pregnant?" And then I just sobbed and she knew. And she just told me she loved me. And then my dad - oh, how I worried about telling my dad! I'd always been a Daddy's girl - what was he going to think of me?? He walked into the living room and saw me sobbing and asked what was wrong. My mom said, "She's going to have a baby." My dad said, "Yeah? Well, cool. You're still my baby!" It was the most SHOCKING response! I was truly blessed to have such supporting parents.
A friend I went to highschool with found out she was expecting and when she told her parents, the response was the exact opposite. They said they wanted nothing to do with her and nothing to do with the baby. And she lived with her boyfriend for about 3 or 4 months. When he kicked her out, she went back to her parents' house and knocked on the door. They saw her rounded belly and let her stay. They were cold at first, but their relationship slowly began to repair with time and by the time her little girl was born, they were the world's proudest grandparents. Complete shift from when they first found out.
Be encouraged. It's going to be hard, but you can do it. And no matter what, don't lose hope - if your parents aren't supportive immediately, try to understand it's just hard for them to swallow. They'll come around though. I have no doubts. Best wishes! I know this isn't the direction you thought your life would take, but take each day as it comes and ENJOY it! Don't hide away from people and be ashamed like I was. There is no reason to be ashamed of the life inside of you. That life inside you is pure and precious! Your body is going to go through some AMAZING changes. Your first one is always the most exciting and the most fascinating! Make the most of it. No, being a mom isn't ideal right now, and I don't know whether you've decided to mother your wee one or not, but regardless of your decision, this little one is here now and you've just gotta look forward, and not back! Embrace this special time in your life - it IS special, regardless of how old you are or what stage of life you're in.
Sorry for all the rambling. Just want you to have peace and not worry. And I want you to make the most of this time. Sending well wishes and many blessings your way! Don't be afraid - it'll all work out :)
this is never easy and I just wanted to offer hugs and support. there is an agency that will talk to you about all your options, offers counseling and will be with you in whatever you decide to do with your future, its called LDS Family Services. if you google that you can locate an agency near you and talk to someone for free. best wishes to you, your boyfriend and your little one.
Alexrose1995 - please be aware that this organisation is run by the Latter Day Saints AKA Mormons. They are pushing their religious agenda and aren't a source of unbiased advice. They seem to have a strong emphasis on pushing adoption (not that adoption is a bad thing, but not something you should be pressure into).Quote:
Originally Posted by bowlerchick
I'd recommend getting in touch with Planned Parenthood (http://www.yellowpages.com/maryville...ned-parenthood) if you're looking for an unbiased agency.
As for talking to your parents, I don't think there's any easy way to do it. You just have to sit them down and tell them. We have some former teen moms here - I'm sure many would be willing to share their experiences if you ask. :)
I wish you the best of luck with everything. :hugs:
I'm sorry you have to do this, but I'm hoping that your parents will be your biggest supporters and surprise you. I think it would be ok to tell them together or to tell one and have them help you tell the other. All three of the above mentioned agencies are a wealth of information, but do know that Crisis Pregnancy Centers and LDS Family Services are strongly anti-abortion and Planned Parenthood differs from city to city and state to state as to how biased they are regarding abortion. You should not feel pressured into any one decision, though it is something that YOU will have to decide for yourself, soon, so get educated. Good luck to you :hugs:
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I hope it goes well for you, I was afraid to tell my parents and I was 18 and just finished high school.
I had my sister tell my mom :) I was 19 at the time my parents were really relgious and were pretty mad at me however in time they became supporitive and eventually very excited
I was 18 just fresh out of high school when I became pregnant I met my husband James and he was 25. I had an early m/c so it was hard to talk about at first and then we became pregnant again right away and we just simply told my dad we wanted one and he was a bit disappointed because of my age now he is loving being a grandpa. My mother on the other hand has issues and we don't speak but, she has had mental issues for years. It was hard to tell everyone at first though we wanted to get pregnant but, everyone was surprisingly excited. It's hard but, doable have your boyfriend be with you when you do tell them because if he isn't parents are quick to judge that he isn't in with you for the long haul. Think about what you say before hand. Think about what you want to do and your options. I'd call planned parenthood or a local teen pregnancy support line. Remember though do what you feel is best for you and nobody else. :hugs:
It goes hard to tell parents that they think you are too young to have a baby. So what i can give you is hugs and big support. Maybe the news will drive them mad but they are big support behind you. Whatever you make a decision to tell them yourself, ask friends for help or contact an agency, I hope you everything will go well. Good luck
Just sit down with them and be honest. I don't think there is any one best way to do something like this. Children are a gift from God, remind them of this. You are very young to be a mom so you might want to discuss adoption with your parents. However whatever you decide, realize that this is not the end of your life. Yes it will change but you can still achieve your dreams.
I'm sorry if you had a bad experience with this agency, but people I have talked to (even non LDS members) have said they had a very positive experience with LDS Family services. They offer unbiased advice and free counseling which is a huge benefit. I hope that Axelrose researches for herself and finds the best option for her and her little one. :luck:Quote:
Originally Posted by MammaMia
I realise that you mean well, but to say that they offer unbiased advice is simply not true. They are vehemently anti-abortion. I'm not saying that the OP shouldn't use this agency if she feels it aligns with her beliefs, just that she should be aware of who is running it and what their agenda is.Quote:
Originally Posted by bowlerchick
I was a 17 year old junior in high school when I had to tell my parents I was pregnant, so I have a good idea how you feel about telling your folks. For your sake, and your baby's, I hope that your parents support you and whatever decisions you make from here on out. Raising a child is hard, and if you decide to go that route, you will need your parents' love and support more than ever.
Also, whatever you do, do NOT drop out of school... Or decide to "wait" to go to college. I kept my baby, finished high school on time, and now am a junior in college with a part time job. Granted I don't get any "me time" but my parents are my support system (her father didn't stick around, so I've been a single mom for over 3 years now). Anyway, sorry, my point is, it can be done if what you want is to keep the baby. But it's really hard.
Good luck! :)
Thankyou everyone for your support and advise. It really means a lot.
As a young mother myself (i was pregnant with my first when I was 18), the best way is to sit them down and have a talk. Let them know that you understand that this is tough for them as well as it will be for you. Let them know what you are planning to do so that they can have that conversation with you. Be prepared for a lot of yelling. Dont expect them to act rationally at first.
My mom kicked me out of the house and i was living in my car for a good week. Yeah, it sucked. I dont think I ever felt so alone in my life and it was very difficult.
Eventually my parents came around. My mom was present for my sons birth, and has helped me tremendously while i was working and finishing school.
I pray that everything works out for you and your parents, and remember that you are not alone!