Book recommendations on modesty?

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11-09-2011, 05:52 PM
KC's wifey

Book recommendations on modesty?

A friend of mine is struggling with her 14 year old daughter on the topic of modesty. The latest tonight was asking for a neon bra with a white tank top for a rave party. :laugh: :eyeroll: Yes, as you can imagine that went over brilliantly with her parents. :P

I know Leslie Ludy has a couple books, but I was wondering if there are any others out there that are good for her age group that she and her mom could read together?

TIA!
11-09-2011, 05:57 PM
JJorn

I think that this one Secret Keeper is the one that my church uses for a yearly event when moms and daughters go and learn about modesty. I think that event is for ages 8 until 16.

ETA: This one might also be good: Lies Young Women Believe

I haven't read either, though.
11-09-2011, 06:12 PM
KC's wifey

Thanks Jessica! I'm looking that up now. :)
11-09-2011, 07:02 PM
caligirl07

http://www.amazon.com/Ways-Keep-Litt.../dp/0736929797. Tis one is a quick easy read, I thought it was good!
11-09-2011, 07:08 PM
KC's wifey

Thanks Katie! :)
11-10-2011, 11:13 PM
proudmommaof5

While we haven't had any issues with modesty, so I can't offer much there, I'd be concerned about letting my 14 yr. old go to a rave party. :ohno:
11-11-2011, 10:23 PM
KC's wifey

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Originally Posted by proudmommaof5

While we haven't had any issues with modesty, so I can't offer much there, I'd be concerned about letting my 14 yr. old go to a rave party. :ohno:

My friend called the parents and apparently they are right on top of things. The daughter was wanting a white tee shirt with neon bra, and cutting slits in the shirt, but the parents of the kid hosting the party are saying "white tee with neon poof paint splattered on it." lol And they do have black lights in the garage and will have techno music, but the parents don't allow ANYTHING food or drink in, not even water bottles. They supply everything. And they are there mingling with the kids the whole time, dancing and embarrassing their kid and all that. She named off all the kids coming and my friend knows them all and says they are good kids. So the parents hosting this party are making it fun, and ensuring that it is safe.

Point being... the type of party the daughter was thinking, and the type of party it actually will be... very different. And that's a good thing.

But the modesty issue is still there, since it was the daughter wanting to dress that way. KWIM?
11-11-2011, 10:47 PM
proudmommaof5

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Originally Posted by KC's wifey

My friend called the parents and apparently they are right on top of things. The daughter was wanting a white tee shirt with neon bra, and cutting slits in the shirt, but the parents of the kid hosting the party are saying "white tee with neon poof paint splattered on it." lol And they do have black lights in the garage and will have techno music, but the parents don't allow ANYTHING food or drink in, not even water bottles. They supply everything. And they are there mingling with the kids the whole time, dancing and embarrassing their kid and all that. She named off all the kids coming and my friend knows them all and says they are good kids. So the parents hosting this party are making it fun, and ensuring that it is safe.

Point being... the type of party the daughter was thinking, and the type of party it actually will be... very different. And that's a good thing.

But the modesty issue is still there, since it was the daughter wanting to dress that way. KWIM?

That's awesome...sounds like they are on top of things :)
11-14-2011, 02:09 PM
LuTruPeMo

I don't have any book recommendations, but just what we are doing with our children. I think it's good to have hard-and-fast rules when it comes to modesty. Because there can be a lot of gray area and arguments (especially with tweens/teens) otherwise. So since birth, we have never allowed our children to wear anthing sleeveless except pajamas in summer. Never anything sleeveless outside of the house. They also can't wear 'short shorts' or anything that shows their tummies. I think when children are used to these standards from a very young age, there is less room to argue as they get older and parents get more concerned about their sexuality.
I'm not saying there is anything sexual about a toddler in a two-piece bikini, or a four year old in a sleeveless sun dress... but for us, it's easier to start young with the dress and grooming standards that we will expect from them when they are older.
11-20-2011, 05:18 PM
PreggoinWV

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Originally Posted by LuTruPeMo

I don't have any book recommendations, but just what we are doing with our children. I think it's good to have hard-and-fast rules when it comes to modesty. Because there can be a lot of gray area and arguments (especially with tweens/teens) otherwise. So since birth, we have never allowed our children to wear anthing sleeveless except pajamas in summer. Never anything sleeveless outside of the house. They also can't wear 'short shorts' or anything that shows their tummies. I think when children are used to these standards from a very young age, there is less room to argue as they get older and parents get more concerned about their sexuality.
I'm not saying there is anything sexual about a toddler in a two-piece bikini, or a four year old in a sleeveless sun dress... but for us, it's easier to start young with the dress and grooming standards that we will expect from them when they are older.

This is also what we have done. My dd is only 8 so I'm hoping this approach works. :)