This is a curriculum, developed based on the research done by the author of the article above, that I have used to teach social thinking skills (i.e. teaching the thought processes behind social behavior rather than teaching explicit behaviors, which is the focus of traditional social skills training). I think Kai might really enjoy this:
Without realizing it, those of us who develop along a normal trajectory of social learning ("neurotypicals" or NTs) intuitively develop an "inner social coach." This coach gets started in infancy and continues evolving non-stop through our lifetimes. The social sense we gain helps us negotiate the changing, shifting, context-driven world of social interactions. Without direct instruction we learn how to behave in the presence of others. We stumble along a little while we're young but quickly learn more sophisticated skills. We come to understand that interactions with one or more people involve more than just outward behaviors. Their success depends on a careful back and forth dance that includes assessing our own needs and those of others, the history (if any) between us, and the thoughts we are thinking about each other during the interaction. It's complicated! And, constantly shifting and changing! A child learns that when his play partner turns his body away or his peer starts looking around the room, those are signs of boredom and he'd better change something to keep the partner engaged. As an adult we learn to wait until the boss shifts his focus away from us in a meeting before looking down at our watch for the time.
Those born with their social thinking brain wiring fully functional may find it difficult to appreciate the absence of this social intuitive learning. It's so second nature to NTs that trying to imagine any other way of thinking is perhaps, unthinkable! We teach and coach others predominately through a framework that is built on social thinking. But, what about those who don't have this innate framework? How do we reach them?