AP and Traditional Rooms

[APA President]

There is probably nothing that we are more passionate about than our children. Anyone spending time on a site like this and in the forums like this is interested in doing the best for their children.

The "best" for one family may easily look different than the "best" for another family, but neither best represents more love or better parenting than the other.

There is no doubt that there is a tremendous opportunity for feelings to get hurt. 1) We are passionate individuals who love our children, 2) we are missing the 60 to 70% of the meaning of a message which is usually determined by tone, facial expression and body language, 3) we tend to talk in generalities (which lumps people together) and 4) we tend to talk in absolutes (although usually not our meaning). Collectively, these things create the opportunity for easy debates, arguments, misunderstanding, and hurt feelings.

Unfortunately, the AP and T parenting styles have so many different facets that involve passionate differing beliefs. Much of these beliefs are grounded in theory and philosophy versus solid research. Similarly, many of the benefits or concerns are lacking operational definitions. All this only adds to the potential for arguing, debating and hurt feelings.

As you have heard stated numerous times, these are support and educational forums. If you do not have something positive to add in support of the topic at hand, then please choose to not post. When someone posts something like, "When is the best time to..." and you don't do that - you don't need to post "I don't do that."

It seems that the "debates" just tend to rear their heads more in these rooms. We expected it when they were first created, and it did settle down as we expected, but unfortunately they just keep coming back. Accordingly, the moderators are going to start trying to tighten things with quicker warnings or closing of threads in these rooms versus hoping that things work themselves out. Please avoid threads like, "I don't want to start a debate, but..." or "Why do people ....?.

The intent is to have more APer mods watching that room and more Ter mods watching that room to reduce the chances for some one to feel that they are being mistreated. This does not mean that any/all mods won't be moderating the rooms. Almost all actions of regular members are discussed in the mod room before anything is done.

[jedigirl]

wow...... I guess I'm really layed back.... I'm not passionate about either side. I don't know what I am.... I guess I just follow my gut.......sometimes Attached, sometimes Traditional.......... But I don't really think I'm either...... :chinscratch:

[sarahlynn]

When someone posts something like, "When is the best time to..." and you don't do that - you don't need to post "I don't do that."

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:laugh: that drives me nuts

[jedigirl]

You causing trouble again Sarahlynn? :wtf: :P

[jedigirl]

Does everyone need a big dose of crazy jedigirl love? :loveshower: Wwwwweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!

[ShannonG]

Thanks Brad!!

So um...does this mean I get to be a Traditional Room Mod now? :winks: :lol::rolly: :bradrules::pray:

[sarahlynn]

You causing trouble again Sarahlynn? :wtf: :P

NOOOO! not causing trouble just stating how i feel on the subject matter that brad has so nicely posted for us....

:P

[APA President]

So um...does this mean I get to be a Traditional Room Mod now? :winks: :lol::rolly: :pray:

Maybe when you start following guidelines (ALL OF THEM CONSISTENTLY), like the size of your siggy. Change please :winks:

[lethaliz]

Maybe when you start following guidelines (ALL OF THEM CONSISTENTLY), like the size of your siggy. Change please :winks:


:sofunny: That was funny :laugh:

[ShannonG]

I read the siggy pic guidelines by ~Heidi~ (http://www.americanpregnancy.org/forums/showpost.php?p=400062&postcount=1)and I interpreted it to say that that photos had to be 320 pixels high but there could be multiple pics going across??

My biggest one is only 300 pixels high...what am I doing against the rules? :bigeyes:

[Heidi]

I read the siggy pic guidelines by ~Heidi~ (http://www.americanpregnancy.org/forums/showpost.php?p=400062&postcount=1)and I interpreted it to say that that photos had to be 320 pixels high but there could be multiple pics going across??

My biggest one is only 300 pixels high...what am I doing against the rules? :bigeyes:

Your photos were showing up stacked on my computer. I need to get rid of that guideline since the only one that matters is Mr. Presidents.

[DucksLikeRain]

Your photos were showing up stacked on my computer. I need to get rid of that guideline since the only one that matters is Mr. Presidents.

Are we allowed to have multiple pictures, then? As long as they're not stacked?

Sorry...total thread-jacking here...

[Heidi]

Yep, multiple pictures no higher than 320, next to each other is fine. A couple of reasons for the guidelines is to limit the amount of scrolling in the threads as well as download time for those that may not have a fast connection.

[APA President]

OK, thanks for trying. It is not fair that you have a 24 inch monitor and mine is only 19.

So if screen size messes up siggy's how will we ever police that????

I am the boss, so everyone will have to submit their siggies to me and make sure they look right on my screen :ohno:

Back to the drawing board to ponder through :sleep:

[ShannonG]

Your photos were showing up stacked on my computer.

El Presidente and I talked and it appears that it is because I am using a 24" monitor, the siggy wasn't appearing stacked to me and I didn't know it was stacked to you guys either.

All I knew was I was getting raves and compliments on it from all the old school 'Sesame Streeters'.:winks:


I need to get rid of that guideline since the only one that matters is Mr. Presidents.

True dat, true dat.:laugh:

OK, thanks for trying. It is not fair that you have a 24 inch monitor and mine is only 19.




Sorry Brad. :shame: I can forward your complaint to my company's IT department if you'd like? They may have an old 10" black and orange Apple IIc monitor that I can use instead? :lol:

[DucksLikeRain]

Yep, multiple pictures no higher than 320, next to each other is fine. A couple of reasons for the guidelines is to limit the amount of scrolling in the threads as well as download time for those that may not have a fast connection.


Hmmm...so my next question...Mine are pretty large, however they're only 320 pixels. is there a guideline regarding the dpi?

[Panda]

Brad you are a funny man!!

[Heidi]

I read the siggy pic guidelines by ~Heidi~ (http://www.americanpregnancy.org/forums/showpost.php?p=400062&postcount=1)and I interpreted it to say that that photos had to be 320 pixels high but there could be multiple pics going across??

My biggest one is only 300 pixels high...what am I doing against the rules? :bigeyes:

Yep, new monitor for you!!! And that guideline is El Presidente's, fancy that.

[Heidi]

P.S. It was super cute and I have been singing it all day long, thanks. =) What's tomorrow song?

[ShannonG]

P.S. It was super cute and I have been singing it all day long, thanks. =) What's tomorrow song?

Thanks. :hooray:

I think I'm feeling the Jack in the Box Don't Stop The Funk (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0hWCZdNhsM) commercial crew... :lol:

maybe not tomorrow, but soon. Very soon, my pretties...








:laugh:

[Heidi]

Thanks. :hooray:

I think I'm feeling the Jack in the Box Don't Stop The Funk (http://americanpregnancy.org/forums/%3Cobject%20width=)commercial crew... maybe not tomorrow, but soon. Very soon, my pretties...






:laugh:

I don't know "my pretties" sounds more like munchkinland.

[ShannonG]

I don't know "my pretties" sounds more like munchkinland.


Yeah, they kinda do, don't they?


Hmmmm... I'll have to think up some creative siggy for tomorrow.



Oh, the pressure!!

[APA President]

This WAS a very important thread that had nothing to do with Siggies. But carry on - who am I to post something that matters.

[newbie]

This WAS a very important thread that had nothing to do with Siggies. But carry on - who am I to post something that matters.

:topic: Wanna borrow this smiley?

[missychrissy]

You causing trouble again Sarahlynn? :wtf: :P

Always. :) You know her! lol

Maybe when you start following guidelines (ALL OF THEM CONSISTENTLY), like the size of your siggy. Change please :winks:

You may as well bark at the moon...Shannon marches to the beat of her own drum. :laugh:

OK, thanks for trying. It is not fair that you have a 24 inch monitor and mine is only 19.

So if screen size messes up siggy's how will we ever police that????

I am the boss, so everyone will have to submit their siggies to me and make sure they look right on my screen :ohno:

Back to the drawing board to ponder through :sleep:

Yes, before you posted this, I was thinking it's all stacked from my blackberry. :ohno:


Back to topic Newbie? :chinscratch: :hooray:

[Carey]

This WAS a very important thread that had nothing to do with Siggies. But carry on - who am I to post something that matters.

By the time I got to the end, I had forgotten what the original post was about! :chinscratch:
So, I had to go back and reread! :lol:


Thanks for this post, Brad- it is much appreciated!

[haydensmom]

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