You may think I am crazy but.........................

[Momto3]

Pam - Morgan is just beautiful! A living doll. I'm sorry about the meltdown at the church, but that it alot to expect from a little girl.

Sarah - I wouldn't be as upset about the guy hitting the car but the drinking and driving would tick me off.

[bel]

Pam Morgan is such a cute princess!! I love her :wub:

[newmami]

I will see the pictures tonight at home... I HATE that they blocked photobucket at work.

Another unproductive day, I am loving it!!

[sarahlynn]

is anyone else worn out..i wish it were friday..

[Talliesue]

Good Morning ladies!
I think my coworkers have officially gone off the deep end. They keep playing Tom Jones and singing. It's almost a daily occurance now. I wonder if someone is spiking our coffee over here.
In other news... DD has molars! I didn't even know she had them till I turned her upside down the other day and peeked in her mouth! She hasn't even been crabby or had any signs of teething recently!
And we are officially done BFing - this girl has had the boobie for almost 17 months! I am proud of myself for making it that far! my only goal was a year and I surpassed that one by almost 5 months. YEAH!!!

[newmami]

Yay for painless molars and for the BF Natalie, that is awesome!!

I wish people in my office were a little more upbeat... they are a bunch of bitter people here!!

[Momto3]

Same thing happened for us with the molars too.

Its not unusual to be loved by anyone...

[newmami]

[quote=Momto3;1367669Its not unusual to be loved by anyone...[/quote]

???????? :crazy: what do you mean Lynn??

I need to go get me some lunch, I had NADA at home for today

[without]

Thanks girls! I think she is pretty cute myself! LOL

[without]

Claudia.... its lyrics to a song! LOL

[without]

Oh! and sarah when are you going to start selling your creations because I need a few for Christmas gifts!

[Momto3]

Its Tom Jones...lyrics... hehehe

[sarahlynn]

AHHHH $1600 in damage to my car and it will take like 3-4 days to fix it..rental car herei come..

[Momto3]

Wow Sarah. That's a pretty good deal of damage. Glad no one was in the car at the time.

[without]

Egads!!!!

[newmami]

That is some serious damage Sarah!!!
Ok I get the song now... I am challenged when it comes to music

Ok so Dani now can sing the ABC, and twinkle twinkle little star... it is so awesome!!!

[Momto3]

I wish I knew how to post vidoes. I have so many cute (well to me they are) ones of Katelyn. I got her singing twinkle twinkle while naked on the potty (waiting for her bath).

Yay Dani for singing!

[without]

Yah... know I have been impressed at Morgan also in the last few days. If I ask her to sing the abc's or count she won't do it but then last night she was counting the shells in the crab tank (she didn't know I was there) and she counted to 10 by herself. Little stinker just doesn't want to do it in front of me. Also the Video Lex and Ashley got Morgan is helping with the ABC's but she is still getting a little lost with those.

Way to go Dani with the singing!

I would love to see you videos, Lynn. Like you... I don't know how to do that and have yet to take the time to learn.

[willsmama]

Sarah, do you have to pay at all for it? A deductable?

[newmami]

I am going to get that Leapfrog video too... the daycare lady has it and she puts it on while the kids play or draw.

[willsmama]

Letter Factory, right? Will loves it!

[without]

yep thats the one we have... I have to admit I don't like the way they say some of the letters like the "L" says "el" some of them are just strange lol but maybe I just dont know my phonics!

[willsmama]

what do you mean...?

[Momto3]

I know what you mean Pam. When they say the "L" it sort of sounds like "uhl".

[without]

well...like it says the "O says Ah"... like in October but O also just makes an O sound like in Oat LOL

[without]

YES! Lynn! I guess I am just not used to Pah-hone-ics! LOL

[sarahlynn]

Sarah, do you have to pay at all for it? A deductable?

no i dont pay for any of it..it was all his fault..i think they will even cover the rental car for the 4 days.so that is good..just a pain i the butt ya know..

ps i love your siggy pic

[willsmama]

Maybe it is because i am Minne SO Tan...;)

[newmami]

I have a problem with phonics as well... I actually find it useless but apparently it works, so hey.....

Besides it is hard to do phonics in English when you speak Spanish to your kids!! :crazy:

I just read a horror story about the place I work... it was a complain from a customer... I am horrified by the way the bank handled everything... it actually made me uncomfortable to work here :shocker:

[willsmama]

really? Any way to kind of describe it to us?
I am addicted to gum.

[newmami]

**deleted**

I honestly hope she gets an Attorney and do this massive lawsuit.....

ok, I will delete soon, so please do not quote me... :)

[willsmama]

wow!
That is horrible!!
now you can delete. :)

[newmami]

I know... I read the whole complaint....

I really need to get out of Banking... me no like it anymore

[Momto3]

I missed it. oh well.

I am addicted to Ocean Spray Cran-Grape Suger-Free packets. yummmm-o

[without]

Girls now that the wedding is over I really need to buckel down and go back to grooming big time so that i will have a little money for Christmas. Pray I start getting a lot of calls! I am going to be sending out flyers in about 2 weeks but I need some calls NOW.

[newmami]

Pam, I hope something happens in AR and dogs hair start growing like crazy so you can have all this customers waiting on line!!

Another issue about this place... wow is all I am going to say.......... great customer service people!! and they wonder why I don't bank here!!!

[sarahlynn]

im doing my voodoo right now pam to make the hair of all surrounding dogs grow uncontrolably :)

im thinking for next years "take back the night" domestic violence rally..me and lulu adn my mom attended it last night we go each year..that im going to make purple scarves to hand out? since the color is purple for domestic violnce..i thought purple scarves and i could try crochet a light purple ribbon pattern into them? man sounds like work and a lotof purple yarn..i wonder if i could take up a purple yarn donation :lol: please send me all your purple yarn..thanks

[sarahlynn]

wth hell where is everyone :) im alll alone...

its 10:30 ladies and im about ready for bed..babies are in bed, dh is in bed..
OUR HOME EQUITY LC went through so i consolidated most of all our bills today man that was a lot though :( i feel like a financial failure..but i added it up and our monthly payments will be down from like 350 at least to 202 which will help us out so much each month..:) and the money we will be savin gon interest is gonna be big as well..

yay night see yoiu all tomarow

[Momto3]

Morning ladies! its hump day. no humping for me as AF is visitng.

Ugh...the teens Dad started some major drama yesterday. He suggested Shelly come live with him. When I asked her (through text) if that was what she wanted she replied "So much for not saying a word...Thanks!" I guess she thought she was writing to him. So I was upset. Torn between relief and feeling like a failure as a mother. When she came home from work, she said that she did not want to move, that it was her Dad's idea and that it would cost too much because she would have further to drive for school and work and that she would have to pay for her own food....crisis averted.

[without]

OH man lynn! I am srue that was stressful! I don't want Morgan to grow up!

I now have 2 newly weds living with me! There house wont be finished for 2 or 3 more weeks so it was a long night on the love seat. I let them have my bedroom. I have a 3 bed room house but Morgan has a toddler bed and my big body would't fit and my spare room doesn't have a bed so it was the love seat for me.

Happy Hump day every one! Any one here know what Yom Kippur is? I am about to google it.

Also will the banks be closed on Monday for Columbus Day?

[lexsmama]

Morning! You girls can TALK.

So I missed Claudia's story. Dang. I'm missing all the good stuff lately.

Morgan's a doll, Pam!

Poor Lynn. I'm glad you averted that situation with Shelly. Why'd he even bring it up?

I'm icky. AF is due any day. I don't like her anymore. :(

Okay, so I had a church meeting yesterday for UMW. I walk in late because I have a student I'm working with. Somehow, walking in late got me nominated for Vice President next year. Wha?? I'm all kinds of happy, but still. :)

Dh is calling the realtor about the house today. We have the earnest money, but we can't get up the deposit. It's almost $2500 for the whole thing. Dh said he's going to lay it all out for the realtor, let him know how bad we want this house, and then leave it in the hands of the family. We absolutely adore this house, but it's a little more than we imagined for the beginning. I'm so bummed that it may not happen, girls. I need to post pics of the house this morning.

[lexsmama]

My dress pants have a hole in the thigh! Noooo!!!

Eeek. What a way to have to go, being newlyweds. I bet you're stressed and grossed out, Pam. hehe.

[without]

lol at least some one is getting good use of my big ol'bed and some one is getting some in my house... I am sure the spiders are all in shock, they haven't seen that in a long time in my bed room. LOL

[lexsmama]

LOL! Omgosh Pam. I spat juice.

[without]

I am thinking of just letting them use the house and Morgan and I can go stay with my parents because they have 4 extra bed rooms fully furnished.

[newmami]

Aww Pam, you are too good!! I really hope your sister & DH appreciate all you are doing for them
You need to get a good rest, so yes, go take a mini vacation at your parents house

Ash, Congratulations on the VP!!! and I am sending you all positive vibes so you get the house.

Lynn, I am so sorry about things with Shelly.... I hope it is just a phase and that it can get better.... is it possible for you to do something like mom-daughter counseling???

YES BANKS ARE CLOSED ON MONDAY 13!!!

Yomkipur is a Jewish holiday, one if not the most important one. Comes after Rosh Hassanah, which is their new years... it has something to do with forgivness.... there is a website I think jew101 or something that explains the Jewish traditions.

Today I left a sick boy on daycare... he burn his hand this morning (BAD MOM :() and when we got to daycare he was crying and then I was comforting him and he threw up on me... so I had to calm him and go back home to clean up and change my shirt... I am leaving early today to be with my boy

[sarahlynn]

Lynn im so sorry what a hard situation :(

pam yay for the bed a rockin..your so nice lettin them have your room..

it is wednesday i was thinking of taking the kids to teh corn maze tonight..but its so darn windy out right now..and get this they are saying chance of snow this weekend NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[Momto3]

Holy crap! Snow already Sarah? Yikes!

Claudia - poor Chris. how did he burn his hand? Hugs to you both.

Pam - You are a wonderful sister. Yom Kippur is the day of atonement for Jews. They ask for forgiveness.

Oh and Shelly and I tried Mom/Daughter counseling. That didn't work. We fought more. She said she would not go back again if I went, so I let her go alone. I don't know what goes on there, but I hope she is getting help.

[lexsmama]

You're a wonderful sister, Pam. I hope they know that. :)

Lynn, hugs.

Snow?? Already? I'm so coming up there.

Poor Chris. I hope his little hand's alright.

[without]

Poor Chris! Hugs

SNOW???? I want some snow?? When I was a kid we got snow all the time... we haven't had reall snow in forever!

[lexsmama]

We get ice, but no snow. And people are ID-10-TS on the ice around here.

[willsmama]

Poor Chris...sick little boys are hard...
Poor Lynn....AF and that stress..
LAME on the hole ash...
heee heee Pam....

SNOW SNOW STAY AWAY. It is mid 60's here....I get to go on a run by myself today. I need it...I saw some FB pics that show the 5 lbs I have let creep back on.

[sarahlynn]

i heard its always nice somewheresupercool!!!

motivate me woman motivate me...

af is near and i just feel blah and emotional and irritable and *****y and worn out..anyone else get like that..totaly drained emotionally and physically

[willsmama]

I need all the motivation I got.....easy to slack in the wintertime....somewhere super cool is super nice. :) Maybe you should move out of that box in Abudabi?

[lexsmama]

You'll get it back off Tracy! I know you will!

[lexsmama]

Are we all on the same cycle?

[willsmama]

Maybe....But my AF won't come until sometime later next week I think.
Has anyone ever taken water pills? I am in a wedding and if I have AF, I want to take them.

[newmami]

I would not be surprised if we are on the same cycle Ash :laugh::crazy:

Chris burned his hand with the stove, I didn't realized that Dani moved the step stool next to the stove... BAD MOM!!! :(
He is feeling better, daycare called, he is playing and stopped crying.. my poor baby :cry:

Tracy, YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Snow??? OMG it is still mid 80 here, and we are grateful for the "cool" weather:happy:

Where is Candice? I miss her :crying:

[willsmama]

Yeah, she hasn't been on in forever. ;(

Poor Chris. :(

[lexsmama]

I've taken them. They make you go like a racehorse. :shocker: I like to do lots of water with lemon. Has a similar effect.

Where IS Candice? I can text her...

[willsmama]

I will do those then...I need to be the energizer bunny around the wedding anyway. :)

[CandiceLeigh]

I'm around you guys. Just been sick again! Strep throat :ohno: I've lost 8lbs over the weekend because I couldn't hardly eat anything. I'm just catching up on things around here and at work.

I wrote you back on FB Claudia :)

[CandiceLeigh]

Oh, and you guys know how I have PCOS and so my AF is really wonky and I pretty much always have to take meds to get it going? Well, losing 8lbs made it come! :eyeroll: Don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing? I'm about to go to lunch and go home and rest a bit. I'm still not 100%.

[lexsmama]

Maybe losing weight is regulating?? Not to be weird with my answer, Candice. I'm thinking it may help mine...

[Momto3]

Feel better Candice!

[newmami]

Yes it is a good thing Candice!! I replied back on FB :hugs:

[willsmama]

Feel Better candice. I secretly love when I am so sick I can't eat. ;)

[CandiceLeigh]

Maybe losing weight is regulating?? Not to be weird with my answer, Candice. I'm thinking it may help mine...

I know what you mean. One of the many reasons I need to lose weight is this very reason. My AF would be more regular if I wasn't so heavy. Before Chris it wasn't regular but I still got it every 2 months or so. Now here I am after Chris carrying around all this extra weight, and I don't get one at all! Now if I can only keep these 8lbs off! :indifferent: I realized earlier that the weight I am now is only 15 lbs over my pre-pg weight. I'm still big though.

[newmami]

Candice, I am sure if you put your mind to it, you can keep those 8lb of and lose some more!!

And yes, losing weight DOES help with PCOS... better than taking the yucky metmorfin (I did, it destroyed my stomach!!)

I am tired today, Dani woke up at God knows what time, and came to sleep in my room.. I think she is just going through a phase where she needs mom close on constant basis :wub:

[willsmama]

Candice, I am sure if you put your mind to it, you can keep those 8lb of and lose some more!!

And yes, losing weight DOES help with PCOS... better than taking the yucky metmorfin (I did, it destroyed my stomach!!)

I am tired today, Dani woke up at God knows what time, and came to sleep in my room.. I think she is just going through a phase where she needs mom close on constant basis :wub:

its good to feel needed, isn't it?

[newmami]

Yes, the bad part is when you have 3 people demanding your attention at the same time!!! :crazy:

[newmami]

Ok so why is it that at work, you go above and beyond constantly and no one says anything, but when another person who does a ummm ok work constantly gets all this recognition just for doing her job??

Bitter, table for 1........ :lol:

[Momto3]

Bitter, table for 1........ :lol:

Sorry Claudia but I totally LOL at that!

[newmami]

I have to joke about it, otherwise it really upsets me.

We have been through SEVERAL audits, both internal and external. I am the first to have the files ready and perfect so everybody looks good and we get a good grade in the Audit.... I am still waiting for a "thank you for all your effort"........

[CandiceLeigh]

:hugs: Claudia. Big dummies!

[newmami]

maybe I should join the mediocre worker bandwagon... they I may get some recognition for doing something extraordinary!!! :lol:

[buttercup]

Gosh this thread has a lot of pages! :D

[willsmama]

We try! HI!

[Momto3]

Morning. I have so much stuff due before noon. I'll see you guys this afternoon.

[buttercup]

We try! HI!


HI! back at you! :D

[without]

Susan, Hi and what a pretty baby!

Good morning all!

Claudia... if I send you some money could you mail me a package of goodies that I can't buy here? LOL

Lynn good luck with all the work you have to do!

[lexsmama]

I know what you mean. One of the many reasons I need to lose weight is this very reason. My AF would be more regular if I wasn't so heavy. Before Chris it wasn't regular but I still got it every 2 months or so. Now here I am after Chris carrying around all this extra weight, and I don't get one at all! Now if I can only keep these 8lbs off! :indifferent: I realized earlier that the weight I am now is only 15 lbs over my pre-pg weight. I'm still big though.
That's my big issue. I'm so irregular, it's not even funny. I'm glad you didn't take that the wrong way. :hugs: I was worried.

Yes, the bad part is when you have 3 people demanding your attention at the same time!!! :crazy:

:comfort:

Ok so why is it that at work, you go above and beyond constantly and no one says anything, but when another person who does a ummm ok work constantly gets all this recognition just for doing her job??

Bitter, table for 1........ :lol:

LOL! Sorry.

I have to joke about it, otherwise it really upsets me.

We have been through SEVERAL audits, both internal and external. I am the first to have the files ready and perfect so everybody looks good and we get a good grade in the Audit.... I am still waiting for a "thank you for all your effort"........

And I bet they'll never do it. Jerks.

maybe I should join the mediocre worker bandwagon... they I may get some recognition for doing something extraordinary!!! :lol:

Heck yeah. I'm learning the mediocre bandwagon myself. :lol:

Gosh this thread has a lot of pages! :D

Hi! :hi:

Morning. I have so much stuff due before noon. I'll see you guys this afternoon.

I hope I don't miss you! :hugs:

[lexsmama]

Oh, and I thought I was done with my two week's notice list, and she's got me another one hanging in the wings... :shocker:

She also wants me to come back ont teh 30th to help her after work. :shocker:

[without]

Wow Ashley! They are not going to give you a monents rest.

[lexsmama]

I'm sick of it. It's like she's starting to freak out that I'm actually gone in less than a week. I'm going home in the evenings, and I'm falling asleep on dh and Lex. The other job's treating me so well, but I'm on a learning curve.

[without]

Wow! I hope DH is steeping up to help and ease the stress!

[lexsmama]

Not a chance. He's "hurting too bad." He'll help with dinner, and he'll put Lex to bed at night, but mornings are too hectic. And he wants to dtd. How praytell when you're so exhausted??

[without]

LOL I wonder why??? men like it first thing in the morning?

[lexsmama]

weird. He's a night owl... lol.

What can I tell church so that I can get out of the big Sunday this weekend??

[without]

Hmmm... multi colored toe flu?

[newmami]

Oi Ash, I am so sorry they are abusing your last days... apparently now they are realizing what a valuable employee you are and fre aking out that you are leaving.... :pokey:

We had an AWFUL night, Dani woke up a million times, coughing, wanting to come to our bed, then back to her room... I probably slept 3 hrs :sleep:
Went to Starbucks and got a pumpkin spice latte... not very impressed...

Pam, what kind of goodies do you need? bubulubu??? I am going to get you some from Mexico, I promise!!

So I told DH about how I felt with the ungratefulness at work, I was only venting and he just went on and on on "I cannot believe you still let this affect you so much".... the thing is that it doesn't, it bothers me when I realize what is going on, but I move on... I just got super upset with him because he just cannot keep his smartarse mouth shut and be a little empathetic... ARGH!!! :headbang:
Sometimes I feel I should just avoid telling him certain things.......

[lexsmama]

hahaha! multi colored, huh? Wow.

I'm just feeling bad about having to put off another weekend with my parents, knowing that they have things planned for us, and then UMW Sunday is on Sunday, and I have a bulletin board to stand next to all morning. Crap. My sister got ticked that I was going to put it off again. And my cousin will be in from Austin.. I haven't seen her in ages. I wanna go home.

[without]

Than if Mutli colored toe flu doesn't work try honesty! LOL Tell them its been a while since you have gone home and at the last minute you found out some family is coming in from out of town and its been forever since you have seen them. Ask if there is any way some one can stand in for you. Worst that could happen........they say NO.

[sarahlynn]

how is everyone this morning?

Im at work working..impressive huh!!

ok so i talked up and talked up the corn frickin maze last night and we get in the car get to the place and ITS NOT OPEN WEEKDAYS i had two angry crying children in the car..AHHHHHHH wtf..it was not a good night last night my kids were monsters..so i took them to a halloween store and to the dairy queen..than home adn i told DH YOU TAKE THEM so i can take a relaxing bath..he said he was on his way up to bed but agreed to keep them while i took a bath..lucea freaked out so i pouted said whatever and dh went to bed adn i took a bath with a lucea hanging over the edge..

MAMA JUST NEEDS A BREAK LADIES>

[without]

OH man Sarah! I know how you feel! I miss being able to was my 2,000 parts with out little eyes watching and trying to help.

That reminds me! Last night Morgan touches where her boobies are and says I have two like Papa not like Mama! I burst out laughing!

[lexsmama]

I send the girls an email saying that my grandma needs me. She does. She broke her water pipe in the front of the house last night, and it's EVERYwhere. I'm going to see if someone can stand in.

Oh man, Sarah. I'm sorry! :hugs:

I had a lake on the outside of my tub last night... LOL. Lex decided to take cupfulls of water and chuck them over. I laughed and cried at teh same time.

[without]

I feel ya Ashley! I have to mom my floor after Morgans baths if I don't watch out. I am telling you my bath room floor is cleaner than my kitchen floor!

[lexsmama]

LOL! I'm learning that now...

So, anything new?

[willsmama]

Hi ladies. I can't keep up sometimes!

[sarahlynn]

Oh Pam that is so funny...

Lucea calls her chest her NUM NUM!! im like you dont have num num just mommies..she says " NO MY NUM NUM "

she has been such a little hellion lately

[lexsmama]

I think it's the age... It's driving me batty sometimes. :laugh: What's up withthe whining when they get up in the mornings?

Love you siggy pic of Lucea, Sarah!

[newmami]

Ack Sarah, I am so sorry that Matt doesn't make an effort to give you a break :rant:

My kids love water too, Chris can climb to the tub now... so we have to be very very careful when there is water around...

Today the daycare lady's DD was at home (school closed), she is 3.5 years old and the QUEEN of tantrums. Dani was playing with a balloon and Sophia decided she wanted the one Dani had.... OMG the drama!!! like someone was taking the life out of her.... Dani was like :eyebrow:, completely ingoring her...
That is one thing I don't like about daycare, Dani is learning how to be a drama queen.... not that she needs help!! :laugh:
But Chris has a little buddy now, another boy named Chris, he is like 3 months older than Chris, and they are starting to play together :wub:

[lexsmama]

Oooh, how cute! A little friend!

[newmami]

Forgot to tell you guys, Dh keeps apologizing for being such a butt about me speaking only Spanish to Dani... she can put sentences in English without any problems, and understands both (when she feels like)......

Wish I could scream "I TOLD YOU!!!"

[without]

Oh no girls!!! My sec. is trying to be nice she brought me some Pot Roast she made. I am sure its good but.. I am not much of a meat eater and ... I really dont like Roast! I am trying my best to eat some of it and then I am going to sneak the rest to the trash can. Is that mean of me?

[Momto3]

Ugh! I go to KFC for lunch. I ask for cole slaw and seansoned rice and I get green beans and seasoned rice. Stupid!

[lexsmama]

Hehe... Knew he'd come around, didn't ya? :wink:

No, Pam. It's not bad. You don't eat meat. It was REALLY nice of her, but it's your preference. :silly:

[without]

I am sitting here eating the pasta salad and veggies I brought and looking at that Roast thinking .. I just can't do it! I can't eat that LOL

[lexsmama]

Then take a tiny bite, tell her how good it was, and that you'll take it home tonight. You had already brought your lunch. :)

I had tow ladies offer to help this weekend. Thank goodness.

[buttercup]

It is hard to keep up with you ladies!

I know I am new to this thread...but I thought I would say Good Morning...well Afternoon to you all!

[lexsmama]

Hi Susan!!! Nice to "see" you again. Blaise is gorgeous, btw.

[without]

Thats GREAT!

Yeah I ate the veggies out of it and put the roast in my trash under some papers cleaned the bowl and put it back on her desk. Now my office smells of pot roast! LOL

[without]

Hi susan!!! Its great to see new faces around here we sadly have lost a few girls! :( Don't worry about keeping up because most of us can't. LOL

[lexsmama]

LOL. It's okay. I'd eat it if I were there, for you. :silly:

Girls, I don't want noon to get here. I miss APA something goshawful. I won't be back on until 3 or so. :(

[without]

OH NO!!! You'll be gone that long!!! EeeKKK what will I do without you!! Your the only one talking to me today. LOL

[Momto3]

Don't gooooooooooooooo Asssshhhhhley!

[without]

Sobb Sobb SsssoooooooOOOoooooBBBBBbbbbssss!

[Momto3]

weeeee"lllll missssssssssssss youuuuuuuuuuuu

[without]

I need to pee!

[newmami]

Go pee!!

Hi Susan, yeah don't worry about keeping up!!

Yay for finding someone to help on Sunday

I am off next Monday and DH is out of town Tuesday night and probably Wednesday... how domesticated I am that I am using the nights off to clean??? :lol:

[newmami]

:rant: are this people for real???

We are having a Credit review sometime next week, we the assistants are responsible for making sure our files are complete and in order, before sending them to the auditors. I got the list of files last week, reviewed them, requested missing information and mine are ready to go.
The other assistant has been SLACKING all week, saying she is too busy to do that (no comments there...) she always does the same thing, has no commitment to do her part when it comes to Audits, and leaves everything to the last minute and for other people to take care of her job because "she doesn't have time".....
So the files NEED to be ready tomorrow, and I just got an email from the supervisor asking me to do the other assistant work and review her files and make sure I get the missing information... WTF????

BTW I responded: I am busy doing files for my NEW assignment, so I will get to those files tomorrow........

Oh yes, this is the assistant who recently got a recognition for being the "super star".........

ARE YOU KIDDING ME????????????

[buttercup]

Hi Susan!!! Nice to "see" you again. Blaise is gorgeous, btw.


Thank you! I think so too! :)

Here are a few more pics....

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y237/GC4662/0806081009.jpg

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y237/GC4662/0825081712.jpg

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y237/GC4662/0830081526b.jpg

[Momto3]

Good for you Claudia! You let them have it! Bam!

[newmami]

It annoyed the crap out of me... I just went to her desk, she is doing NOTHING!!! she could be working on what is her responsability, right???

[sarahlynn]

OMG look at him smile :) i love it!!!!

its only 3:00 ladies..motivate me please.......

[Momto3]

Sarah lynne! You know I was only joking in the pm right? right? really? I was.

[sarahlynn]

NO NO NO i know you were kidding :)

silly girl!!!

its about 10:13 and im chattin with heather on the phone so she can calm me down and i dont wrip my husbands head off..

[Momto3]

What did Matt do this time? hehehe

Its Friday! Yipeeee!

[without]

GM girls! Yeah for Friday!

My dad just gave me a 30 minute talk about how I need to lose weight. :( No news there! Its sad but o so ture! I do really well for about 2 weeks and then CRASH!

OH MY gosh!!! Those pictures are so cute! I miss having a lil baby to smuch on! (yet another reason to lose weight) :)

[lexsmama]

:rant: are this people for real???

We are having a Credit review sometime next week, we the assistants are responsible for making sure our files are complete and in order, before sending them to the auditors. I got the list of files last week, reviewed them, requested missing information and mine are ready to go.
The other assistant has been SLACKING all week, saying she is too busy to do that (no comments there...) she always does the same thing, has no commitment to do her part when it comes to Audits, and leaves everything to the last minute and for other people to take care of her job because "she doesn't have time".....
So the files NEED to be ready tomorrow, and I just got an email from the supervisor asking me to do the other assistant work and review her files and make sure I get the missing information... WTF????

BTW I responded: I am busy doing files for my NEW assignment, so I will get to those files tomorrow........

Oh yes, this is the assistant who recently got a recognition for being the "super star".........

ARE YOU KIDDING ME????????????

:rolleyes: Ugh. People.

weeeee"lllll missssssssssssss youuuuuuuuuuuu

Sobb Sobb SsssoooooooOOOoooooBBBBBbbbbssss!

OH NO!!! You'll be gone that long!!! EeeKKK what will I do without you!! Your the only one talking to me today. LOL

Don't gooooooooooooooo Asssshhhhhley!

I feel LAH-VED!!! Thanks girls.

Thank you! I think so too! :)

Here are a few more pics....

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y237/GC4662/0806081009.jpg

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y237/GC4662/0825081712.jpg

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y237/GC4662/0830081526b.jpg

He's gorgeous! And so happy.

It annoyed the crap out of me... I just went to her desk, she is doing NOTHING!!! she could be working on what is her responsability, right???

Ummm.. yeah. She needs to take on HER work. Sheesh.

NO NO NO i know you were kidding :)

silly girl!!!

its about 10:13 and im chattin with heather on the phone so she can calm me down and i dont wrip my husbands head off..

What happened Sarah??

GM girls! Yeah for Friday!

My dad just gave me a 30 minute talk about how I need to lose weight. :( No news there! Its sad but o so ture! I do really well for about 2 weeks and then CRASH!

OH MY gosh!!! Those pictures are so cute! I miss having a lil baby to smuch on! (yet another reason to lose weight) :)

I got the talk from dh last night, too. Apparently mil somehow got from me that we're trying for a baby now. Ummm... When did I say that? Dh told me that I say things that I don't realize I'm saying an awful lot. Am I getting dementia or something? How can that happen?? :chinscratch:

Oh! Good news! I'm all alone in my new office today. I'll be on APA mucho lotto today. teehee!! :silly:

[lexsmama]

hehehe I can use thsoe multiquotes.. :lol:

[Momto3]

You go with your bad self Ashley!

[willsmama]

I still don't know really how to use them...
;(

[without]

I don't know how to use them...sigh...

Any ideas how to drum up some business? I am going to put flyers up at the hair shop, and the post office and I am sending flyers out to all my customers that I have there address. I am needing money bad!!! I have to get some grooming calls. I have 3 RX that I can't pick up because I have NO fundage!

[Momto3]

What about putting them in a vets office?

[without]

We have 2 vets offices that are kind of close I will put one in each and take by some business cards. Hmm... I need to make some business cards today!

[newmami]

YAY ASH IS OURS TODAY!!! :celebrate:

Pam, yes I agree, the Vet's office is a good idea!!

My poor princess was sick yesterday, she actually had a mild fever, but she had a good sleep and she was ok this morning (just congested) so I took her to daycare.... I just hope she does ok.
Oh!! I need to go buy some sweaters for my kids, all I have is summer clothes

So I decided I am going to play dumb today and do not check those files... if the assistant has time to take 2 hrs lunch, then she has time to review those files... her responsability, not mine :mad:
Besides she will be out next week, and I have to take care of her customers, plus the customers for another assistant who had to leave because her MIL passed away....

Wanna bet I don't get a thank you for next week???? :eyeroll:

I told Dani we are going to SeaWorld tomorrow and asked if she wanted to see fishies, penguins and dolphins... she turned and asked Chris if he wanted to see fishies, penguins and dolphins :wub:... she is killing me!!!

[Momto3]

That is so cute Claudia!

You guys are going to think I am so dumb but I have lived in Florida for 35 years. If the weather is going to be 57 days and 40s nights...what type of jackets and long sleeves do we need? Light weight? Fleece? heavier?

[newmami]

I will bring fleece to keep you warm and something that is windproof... when it gets windy in CT it gets COLD!

[willsmama]

Fleece you'll be ok.
:)

[Momto3]

See!? I don't have fleece for the baby and the teens! Argh! Its gonna cost me a fortune!

[willsmama]

heavy sweatshirts?

[newmami]

go to Old Navy, they have good prices.... ot hit the outlets!! Sawgrass anyone?????

[Talliesue]

Ok Ladies, go vote for my Fall Picture in the Random forum - cuz you know mine is the bestest

[lexsmama]

You go with your bad self Ashley!

:lol:

I still don't know really how to use them...
;(

I don't know how to use them...sigh...

Any ideas how to drum up some business? I am going to put flyers up at the hair shop, and the post office and I am sending flyers out to all my customers that I have there address. I am needing money bad!!! I have to get some grooming calls. I have 3 RX that I can't pick up because I have NO fundage!

We can teach you... :)

I'd go to vets, Hastings, local small businesses...

YAY ASH IS OURS TODAY!!! :celebrate:

Pam, yes I agree, the Vet's office is a good idea!!

My poor princess was sick yesterday, she actually had a mild fever, but she had a good sleep and she was ok this morning (just congested) so I took her to daycare.... I just hope she does ok.
Oh!! I need to go buy some sweaters for my kids, all I have is summer clothes

So I decided I am going to play dumb today and do not check those files... if the assistant has time to take 2 hrs lunch, then she has time to review those files... her responsability, not mine :mad:
Besides she will be out next week, and I have to take care of her customers, plus the customers for another assistant who had to leave because her MIL passed away....

Wanna bet I don't get a thank you for next week???? :eyeroll:

I told Dani we are going to SeaWorld tomorrow and asked if she wanted to see fishies, penguins and dolphins... she turned and asked Chris if he wanted to see fishies, penguins and dolphins :wub:... she is killing me!!!

She's a doll!

Don't do it. You have your own things to do. :)

That is so cute Claudia!

You guys are going to think I am so dumb but I have lived in Florida for 35 years. If the weather is going to be 57 days and 40s nights...what type of jackets and long sleeves do we need? Light weight? Fleece? heavier?

I'd do fleece. Go Old Navy.

Ok Ladies, go vote for my Fall Picture in the Random forum - cuz you know mine is the bestest

On my way.

Oh, I get on and tell you girls I'm on all day, and then I google the blood disorder for Lynn... And I get a Trojan Horse virus that took 3 hours to get off my computer! Ack!

Oh, and I made P cry today. I started cleaning out my desk. All I have left is a lamp and hand sanitizer. :shocker:

But, I'm off to put a few things around the church and will brb! :silly:

[without]

hmm....i need to pee AGAIN

[newmami]

Ha Ash, you were punished for being on APA instead of working!!

So I am still not doing the other assistant's work... she has been fooling around all morning... so no!! I am starting to believe she does this on purpose, go around complaining how busy she is, so other people can do the work she doesn't want to do..... yeah very nice but I am not THAT idiot!!

I hope she gets scolded because her files are not ready for the audit!!!

[lexsmama]

Karma, huh?? I dislike karma... :laugh:

Hey, let her get in trouble. Maybe this will teach her a valuable lesson.

Pee, Pam. Pee.

[Momto3]

Karma...I know her.

[lexsmama]

Really? Is she as bad as everyone says she is?

[newmami]

Pam, did you pee??? I have noticed that green tea makes me pee a lot!!

I don't know if it is because of the way the market is, but people in my office are in the worse mood, and making all this stupid questions....
This is the conversation I had with the Account manager (I swear his brain just doesn't work correctly)
AM: Claudia, do you know Jane Doe (obviously that is not her name, but she is a coworker)
C:..... is that a retorical question???
AM: no, do you know her?
AM: how do I spell her last name
C: gave him the spelling....

Seriously, what about hey Claudia, how do I spell Jane's last name???
Am I off or I am expecting too much from this idiots????? :lol:

[lexsmama]

:lol: You have weirdos as coworkers...

http://americanpregnancy.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1387462#post1387462

[willsmama]

I Love It Ash!!!! Wowwww!!

[willsmama]

I Love It Ash!!!! Wowwww!!:hooray::hooray::hooray:

[lexsmama]

Us too. I hope they accept our offer. I'll tell you the whole thing later. Weird financial stuff.

Off to get Lex and pack. Say a little prayer my mom stays civil. MUWAH!

[willsmama]

MWAH! Good weekend vibes to you all!
;)

[newmami]

Good luck with your Mom Ash!! I will see the pictures of the house at home :rant: but I hope you get it!!

About to go home, have a wonderful weekend ladies!!

[sarahlynn]

wow apa was down all weekend, i wonder if things are working right now? sounds like in random there are lots of strange things happening..

hmm its about 10 why isnt my daughter in bed yet??

ive had a freeking headache since like 1oclock...i just want to sleep..

[buttercup]

Good morning all!! I am so sleepy! I am going to get some coffee!!

[Momto3]

Morning Ladies! Yay its my vacation at the end of the week! Friday cannot get here soon enough.

Guilt:

This morning Katelyn syas: Mama where am I going?
Me: To Grandma's house.
Katelyn: Again?
Me: :eyebrow:

Oh and I know that she dreams cuz this morning she was still asleep (eyes closed) and she goes "Mama can I be a princess...pretty please?"
Awwwwww

[without]

Good Morning!

Girls if I have to sleep on that tiny love seat one more night I may kill some one. Pray my sisters house gets finished ASAP!

Lynn.... Morgan asked me if she could be Pirate Bones for Halloween day! LOL Crazy the things these kids come up with.

[lexsmama]

:hi:

Lynn, the princess thing was so cute! :wub:
What happened at grandma's? ":laugh:

I hope they get the house done, too Pam. :silly: No weird sounds from teh bedroom, right?

Weekend went alright. I kept trying to check into APA, and it was down. I was lost. :lol: Mom threw a cute little party Sunday afternoon. Lex had a blast. I'll post pics asap. Poppie took me shopping Saturday. I got a couple pair of COMFY trousers at GAP ON SALE. :silly: A pair of DKNY jeans on sale and a couple of cute, cute tops. Dh wouldn't let me look at purses or shoes. He said it's time to buckle down. I said:eyebrow:. He sad, "I just got a call from the realtor. We sign Monday at 4:30."

AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHhhhhhhh!

[Momto3]

:hi:

What happened at grandma's? ":laugh: I have no idea. I think its just that she goes every day, 5 days a week from 7am to 5pm

. We sign Monday at 4:30." Yay! OMG!!!!!!!:hooray:

AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHhhhhhhh!
:hooray:

[without]

Congrats on signing on the house!

[lexsmama]

Thanks girls. The realtor told us that a family was looking at it either Friday or Saturday to buy, so he said as soon as dh gets off today, we need to head that way before anyone thinks about making an offer. :silly:

[willsmama]

YAY Ash! That Rocks!

DH threw me a suprise 30th birthday. SO fun. :)

[lexsmama]

HOW cool! Did you take pictures?

[sarahlynn]

YAY for a new home !!!!! keep us posted and take pics :) what an exciteing time..

pam that is funny what she said..heeh you can be bones..

[lexsmama]

I did before pics in Random. Now, when we move in December 1, I can do progress pics. :silly: (I love that smiley.)

[willsmama]

HOW cool! Did you take pictures?

There are some on facebook. Note: I overserved myself...:)
:P

[lexsmama]

off to see. :)

[sarahlynn]

k im off in 40 min to see a man about a thing..he will not be happy i fails miserably at my homework :( bahhh i was never good at homework anyways..

[lexsmama]

Homework isn't there for pass or fail. It's just there to help you get through quicker. :)

[sarahlynn]

true..

oh well there is always next week..

[lexsmama]

Always!

I'm off for lunch and will get to new job at 1-ish!

[without]

Sleep I need sleep! On not on the love seat but on a real bed! I love my sister but I will be so happy when she has moved out and I get my bed back!

[willsmama]

has anyone been having trouble gettng on???

[Momto3]

Yes, I have. Its not you its APA.

[CandiceLeigh]

I was just now able to get on! Hi everyone! :hi:

[without]

Yes... I have two.

[willsmama]

Hi ladies!
:)

[Momto3]

Do you guys remember Katelyn's comment about the moon being broken when it wasn't a full moon? Well last night I pointed out the moon to her. I always start by singing "I see the moon and the moon sees me..." then she frantically looks around for the moon. She gets so excited and says "horray! Its fixed!" needless to say, its almost a full moon.

[willsmama]

Too cute Lynn...I can't wait for those days...:)
Toddler humor.
:)

[Momto3]

This kid cracks me up!

[sarahlynn]

has anyone been having trouble gettng on???

Im having troubles getting off LMAO does that count...??

Ok my man about a thing is cousins with a lady in my office..im kinda weirded out..you wnat your man about a thing to not know anyone right? but i like him so much..he said im doing great and can come back in a month :) yay

~~

aww lynn that is so funny...write it down

[CandiceLeigh]

That's cute Lynn! :)

That would weird me out too Sarah.

[sarahlynn]

its rainy, cloudy, than sunny, than sleeting, than raining, windy, than not windy MAKE UP YOUR MIND MOTHER NATURE OK!!!

this weekend is supposed to be nice im excited i want to take the kids to the corn maze and the pumpkin patch..

gymnastics tonight..oh can i vent..i was looking at next months schedule to sing the kids up and they got rid of luceas class which is fine now its all parent with the child till they are 3 which id ont mind but the times are 5:00 and 5:15 how the **** can i get there after work by that time. i wrote them a note saying this does not work for working parnets..

[CandiceLeigh]

Ohh, sounds like crazy weather! I think we are getting rain tomorrow. I :wub: rain! Sucks about the class, I wonder what they'll say? Did we ever see pics of Lulu in her gear?

[buttercup]

We are getting professional pictures made this Saturday! I am so excited! I hope thing go smoothly!

[Momto3]

Morning Ladies!

4 more days until our vacation! I can't wait. We are taking the kids to a real pumpkin patch and corn maze up in Connecticut too. My son said he is sitting out of the corn maze because I had them watch Children of the Corn.bahahahahahahaha

Ok I am NOT looking forward to driving for 20 hours straight thru with 4 other people...two of them being teenagers!

[lexsmama]

Morning!

Last day of work today...

[without]

We are getting professional pictures made this Saturday! I am so excited! I hope thing go smoothly!
OH I want to see them when you get them back!

Yeah!!! i got to sleep in my own bed last night!

Any one have Jai's address I want to send her a card.

OK here is my anger and sadness for the day... I suspect one of our clients is being abused... the director or our clinic says we have to report it but she is going to wait a week almost two to do it! Also the guy in charge of the case doesn't think we should have to report it because the "parents" don't think there is any thing wrong with it! WTH!!! He is making his younger brother touch his privates and he is humping his brother "but has his clothes on when he does it" He is 14 and his dad sleeps with him in the nude and takes nude showers with him! Ummm... ever thing about this is screaming abuse why am I the only one who sees it? AHHH!

[without]

Ugh girls between the little boy I just told you about (14) and Jai I feel so helpless! I can't even thing to post any thing else!

[sarahlynn]

I know i feel so bad for Jai its so scary to be in that situation... :(


OMG pam that needs to be reported NOW by someone..cant you make an annonymous call to CPS?? i mean there is no way i could sit around and wait for a week or two while this child goes through hell.. :(

[without]

I know!!! The part thats tricky is I would have to get there information out of ther file and call on non work hours. Getting Pt. information and taking it out of the clinic could get me fired!

[without]

OH!!! and forgot to tell you!!! When discussing this case in staffing they really stated going off on how sick co-sleeping is! I was fuming! I co-sleep 80% of the time but I have my PJ's on and so does Morgan and there is NOTHING sexual about it! How in the world could they see what this Father is doing the same as normal co-sleep! For them being so educated they sure are stupid!

[newmami]

Hi ladies!! I am trying to catch up!! quite busy at work as I am covering for 2 people

This morning was the best ever.... the supervisor got SCOLDED BAD!! and publicly (via email copying everybody) because of something she did wrong!! I know karma is going to come bite me, but I am :celebrate:!!

[newmami]

I am back from catching up.....

YAY Ash on the house!!! it is lovely, CONGRATULATIONS :hooray:

Congrats Natalie on winning the photo contest!!:cheer:

Pam.... ugh what a rough situation.... is there anything in your HR manual that talks about what to do in those cases, without risking your job??

Sarah, I am sorry things are not progressing at your house. We are stuck here as well... Dh has been in a horrible mood, and I am honestly not making any effort with him, because I am tired of being the one trying... I told him he needed to prove me that he wants me here, but so far I am still waiting..
I see my guy about a thing on Thursday and will work on the couple's therapy.....

So now that one of the assistant is gone (she is out 2 days) everybody talks nice to me because they need my help.... ARGH!! sometimes I wish I could just leave, so people would appreciate all I do here........ :headbang::pokey:

My rant for the moment: why did they bothered assigning the Manager to another assistant, when I am the one still doing all the work because she is clueless???????? :rant::scream:

[CandiceLeigh]

Hey everyone. Sorry I haven't been especially chatty in here lately. I think I might be depressed and I can almost feel myself receding into myself, if that makes sense? Send me hugs, I could use them!

[lexsmama]

That's a tough situation.

What's going on with Jai?? What'd I miss?

[lexsmama]

Hi ladies!! I am trying to catch up!! quite busy at work as I am covering for 2 people

This morning was the best ever.... the supervisor got SCOLDED BAD!! and publicly (via email copying everybody) because of something she did wrong!! I know karma is going to come bite me, but I am :celebrate:!!


Sometimes karma bites those in the butt that don't pull their weight, too. :silly:

[Talliesue]

Good morning Ladies!
Well California is burning again - what else is new right! at least it's not in my neck of the woods this time.
How were your weekends?
My grandfather took my mom and I to see Swan Lake - it was so awesome! I haven't been to the theater in ages! And it gave me an excuse to dress up too.

[sarahlynn]

Candice...girl can you see a doctor? talk to your doc about how your feeling? youdont want to close up not at a time like this in your life..hang in there..((((hugs))))

actually things have been really good the past two weeks in my house..im surprised my last visit two weeks ago with a man about a thing helped me so much..ive learned to ASK FOR HELP it does not good to do everythign adn stomp around and be mad when all i have to do is ask ya know..this past week matt and his Gf BBQ'd together and messed up the kitchen i just cleaned at midnight the night before..now usualy ide have stomped around and cleaned it up after them and been angry about it..but i instead said "matt can you guys clean the ktichen up before you go i just did it last night" and get this THEY DID AND i was not stresed :) its liek sarah duh ask and ye shall recieve at least soem of the time.. :) now i need to take steps to make my move and jump him in the BDing department :)

And yay pam for her gettin her ass chewed...:) bout tiem somthign happy happens for you at work

[lexsmama]

Candice, I'd go see a doctor, sweetie. You've had a lot on your plate lately. Maybe you need some talk therapy or something else.

[CandiceLeigh]

Ok, so the logical part of my brain sort of agrees with you guys that maybe I should see a Dr, but there's another part that just doesn't want to. Plus, I don't even know if I could afford the $30 co-pay right now. I am soooo strapped for cash lately. :ohno: I was barely able to get my swap gift. And I have some things I need to come clean with ya'll about regarding Big Chris. So much stuff has gone down between us and I just haven't had the energy to tell ya'll. :crying: Claudia knows some of the story, but it's such an awful story I don't even know if I want to tell ya'll. My life is a mess right now. :indifferent:

[without]

Candice... My insurance wasn't covering my Lexapro and my DR wrote me a sript for the generic version and it only cost 4 dollars a month at Wal-mart. I was paying 50 maybe you could try getting a generic.

Whoot Whoot Claudia! I know its not nice to be happy for some one elses miss fortune but... its time that they see your the one who keeps things together around there!

Sarah...are you finished with all your consoladation stuff yet?

Where is Lynn?? Did I miss her?

Did Ashley post pictures of the house? I didn't see them... hmm.. off to go recheck. :)

[lexsmama]

Candice, call me sometime, please! If you want to get it out, I'm here.

And if you're depressed, you need to get it fixed. TRUST me, I know firsthand. As well as many of us girls in here.

[lexsmama]

Generic prozac's only $4 too.

[lexsmama]

In random... :)

[without]

Hugs Candice! Really look at all you have been through and all thats going on it is 100% understandable and normal for you to feel down and depressed. Do some thing nice for you and little Chris tonight like bake cookies, but don't forget to also call your DR. He/she can help you.

[without]

OH MY Ashley! I love it! I love the wide open space! Its pretty from the outside too! Nice shade, also like that the walls in the house are all pretty much white it will make it easy for you to paint your own colors and make it your own. I am so happy for you.

[willsmama]

hi ladies!

[willsmama]

Candice, we're here for you hon.

[newmami]

:hugs: Candice, I agree!! Please call your doctor sweetie... it is hard to see things clear when you are depressed.
And about seeing a Therapist, does your work offer Employee Assistant Program? usually you can see someone at no charge for you
Either way, we are ALWAYS here for you!

Sarah, yay for things being better at home!!!

I am so busy... but I just don't want to work today!!

[sarahlynn]

Candice i hope your able to share with us whats going on so we can be here to support you..you know were always here.. :( im sorry i didnt realize you had MORE on top of waht you already had to deal with :( im sorry (((hugs)))

Pam yes all of our Home equity stuff went through adn finalized last friday..i paid off all our CC debt well 99% of it..and its all on one bill now..one interest rate adn one $200 payment compared to 4 payments totaling over $350...so yay im excited now to turn around the spending and stuff like that i need dh to adhere to a budget..grrrr adn now with hunting season so much money goes out it makes me sick..

[Momto3]

I'm here. Boss decided to work from our office today.

Hugs over and over again Candice. We are here if you need to talk. No judging!

[CandiceLeigh]

I will tell ya'll the whole terrible story after I get back from lunch. Warning in advance, it's a long one.

[without]

Talliesue, hope the fires stay far far away from you!!!

[Momto3]

Warning in advance, it's a long one.

I've got all the time in the world for you girls.

[without]

Candice, we love you girl and we are here for you no matter how long it is or how bad you feel. You are worth every minute of our time.

[Momto3]

Isn't lunch over yet?

[CandiceLeigh]

I'm back Lynn, was having some problems getting on APA again though. I'm off to start typing...

[Momto3]

I wubb you!

[without]

I am so ready to go home!

[CandiceLeigh]

Ugh, I don't even know where to begin. I guess I'll start with where I sort of left off last time we discussed him. I had sex with him and of course all my feelings came slamming back at me. I cannot separate sex and love. At all. To me, sex is love. He was acting like a boyfriend. Taking me places, just me and him without Chris there too. Spending time with me, and just being really great. We weren't fighting about anything and were just getting along really great. I thought he may even be on his way back home. Then I got an email. It was from my SIL, so his brother's wife. You guys remember how he's real into cars and is in a car club and everything? Well, that week there was a car show and he was in it. I knew about it, but he didn't ask me to go and frankly I didn't really want to go so I didn't. Well SIL went because her DH was in the car show too and while she was there, she saw Chris with another girl. (the girl that co-signed his car for him) She was there with her baby and SIL said she just hung around Chris the whole time. Well, right before she left, she kissed Chris and SIL saw this. Of course he didn't realize she was watching them. Now, I have known SIL for years and years. Before I even knew Chris and I know she is not the type of person to lie about this or make up stories. Of course I was devastated. I mean the night before I had gone with Chris to his car club meeting, so I was really hurt and embarrassed. All his friends know he's married to me and there I was with him and then the next day he had this other girl with him? Super messed up! :ohno:

So as soon as she emailed me that, I text him and told him to never come around me again, that I didn't want to have anything to do with him. At first he was like, "what? are you being serious? is this a joke?" When I told him what SIL had told me, he immediately tried to turn it around on me. He said, "I can't believe you would believe that. This is 8th grade rumors all over again. Here I thought you had changed and I was going to come back home. I can't believe you would believe a b!tch that doesn't even like me." Now I know he was saying the coming home bit just to hurt me, but it still worked. I was still hurt by him saying that. I put up a brave front, but all I really want in the end is my family back together. :shame: We had it out of course the next time he came over which was a few days later. His story was she's just a friend and SIL didn't know what she was talking about.

Now here's the part where ya'll are going to say, "Candice, what were you thinking you idiot??" I told him, "You know what, despite all the sh!t you've put me through, I still love your dumba$$. I wish that I didn't but I do. This is your absolute last chance Chris. I will never ask you this again. Do you want to come home? If you do, you need to figure it out and do it because I am done after this. I can't take anymore." In retrospect, I'm still not sure what I was thinking? Long story short, he decided that yes he would like to come home so he did. He came home on October 1st as a matter of fact, exactly 5 months after he had left. We were doing really good too, I was happy he was there and he seemed happy to be there. Then that Saturday I wouldn't BD with him because I just didn't want to and he swears that doesn't have anything to do with it but it was like a light had been switched and he started being really distant. :eyeroll: I was like, seriously? Because I wouldn't have sex with him now he's mad? Surely not. Well that was the weekend I got really sick with strep throat and was basically in bed all weekend. I mean I had high fever, couldn't eat, the whole 9 yards.

Well he wasn't exactly the doting husband during that time. The whole time I was sick, I got a vibe from him that he was irritated with me. When I mentioned that to him, he was like no, I'm not irritated with you. That Monday, when I was still sick, I got a text from him in the afternoon, "I'm not happy. I don't know what to do." I was like :shocker: "Chris, you haven't even been back a week (5 days at the time) and I told you this wasn't going to be easy. It's going to take work to rebuild our relationship. Let's talk when you get home." So we talked that night and he said that he thought things would be different once he got back and that all the old emotions would come back right away. I just told him, "this is going to be hard. I told you that before you came back and it sure as heck isn't going to be perfect in 5 days. Then on top of that I've been sick for like 4 of those days, and you're still acting like it's ok for you to go out whenever you want and do whatever you want." (he had gone out Fri & Sat & been gone all day Sun with Chris) He was just like, "Well, I just thought things would be different." Then at one point he said, "I still love you Candice, but I'm not in love with you." I was like, wow, am I in a really bad movie or what? So, I asked him if he was going to leave and he didn't really give me a yes or a no. Just didn't really say anything at all. I asked him how he could do this to Chris? He was just getting used to having him back in the house and now he was going to leave again? Not fair to Chris! :po: And it really pissed me off.

He was just like, "I don't know. I f*ck everything up." I told him I wasn't going to feel sorry for him, this was his own doing. Then I asked him if he needed help. Is he depressed? He didn't really say anything. So we pretty much stopped talking at that point and a lot of things were left unanswered. Oh and this is an important point that I need to add. Earlier that day, I found some mail that had been sent to his mom's house. It was a returned money order from his car insurance because they were canceling his insurance. They sent back the envelope it had been sent in too and it had been sent from that girl's apartment and everything was filled out in her handwriting and even signed by her. When I asked him about it he just made up some BS about how since she was the co-signer her name had to be on the money order. :eyeroll: Do I have dumb tattooed across my forehead?? So I had brought that up again, and told him that he needed to realize how hard him moving back in had been on me. "I fully believe, even thought you won't admit it, that you were living with that b!tch and I'm still willing to work on our marriage. doesn't that mean anything to you?!?!" I think I kind of gave up then, and was just like I don't give a sh!t what you do, I'm going to keep living my life whether you go or stay.

So Tuesday, he was real distant, hardly talked to me at all and I was just like whatever. Wednesday though, he was in a pretty good mood, talking and just being normal. Thursday he had an appointment to get his wisdom teeth pulled, so he was off that day. His brother was going to drive him and all that jazz. The procedure was pretty quick and he text me when he was done. So we text back and forth all morning, and I was like, "You should get home and rest. Tell me when you get home so I can come check on you." "Ok, I will tell you when I'm home." That was the last I heard of him. So of course I was worried about him all day. I tried to call him and text him and never got an answer. After work I went to get Chris and then went home thinking surely he would be there. He wasn't. I text him again, "Who the f*ck are you with?" No answer. So I called his mom and the brother he had been with that day. They didn't know where he was.

Well, let's not forget that I had seen those returned envelopes with the whores name and address. So what did I do? I went to that address. I drove all around the apartment complex to see if his car was there. It wasn't. Yay! I didn't want to find it there. I was just suspicious, of course. So I leave the complex. As, I'm about to turn on the main road, who should pull into the turning lane across for me? Chris. My heart dropped and I started shaking. I had caught him. I didn't want to catch him, but at the same time I did. He saw me and refused to look at me. When he turned, I saw that girl in the passenger seat. I went around the block and by the time I got back to the apartments, he was parked and they had gone inside. I called him mom and told her what was happening. (God, I'm shaking just typing this) She asked me where the baby was. With me I told her. "I don't know what to do." She said, "I would tell you to bring me the baby, but then he might leave and you need to be there when he comes outside. Give me his number so I can call him and tell him to get his a$$ out there right now." As I was looking up his number, here he comes. I get out of the car, and just start yelling at him. "What are you doing here with this whore? What are you thinking?" "I was just giving her a ride. Blah, blah, blah. Whatever, I'm going to get my stuff. " D@mn right you are you a$$hole!

We got back to the house and he got all his crap and I just told him, "I don't know what you were trying to accomplish but you did it. My heart? Broken. Stepped on and set on fire. You're a piece of sh!t and a sorry excuse for a husband and father." He didn't say anything the whole time, just stood there. F*cking coward. So that's basically the whole story. I think I mentioned everything. He didn't come see Chris all weekend, but did come for almost an hour yesterday. Wow, a whole hour. Of course I was a total b*tch to him, not that he cares. I am going to start saving my money though so that I can file for divorce ASAP.

Of course the pain of it all threatens to knock me to my knees at any given moment. But I won't let it. I kinda brought it on myself by ever trusting him in the 1st place.

[CandiceLeigh]

Dude, that took like an hour to type! Sorry for the novel guys!

[without]

Candice, Hugs girl! Chris is a jerk! You are an angle! Don't let him treat you like that! Its normal to hold on and try to save things but he just isn't willing to! I agree you need the Divorce paper and you need some set visitation time. You don't need him waltzing in and our of your alls life like that.

I wish I were there with you!

[Momto3]

You know what Candice. I think you did the best possible thing. You had to try. You had to know for sure and this way you can say for certain that you gave it your all and he was the one that gave up.

Hugs sweetie!

[sarahlynn]

oh girl...im sooo sorry you went through that...so sorry...

its so hard but your strong..you need to be you have no choice to be for you and baby..when matt left when cy was a year it took everything for me to put my chin up and say "go if thats what you need to do" man it hurt inside like hell but i knew that for me and cy i had no choice but to buck up and roll with the punches..


man i want to call hiim and scream at him for you...im so angry reading this.

[newmami]

Aww Candice, I wish I could give you a HUGE hug IRL :hugs:
you did all you could sweetie, and you gave it your best.... you gave him enough opportunities to fix the marriage, but it takes 2 to make it work, and if he is not willing to work things out, it is never going to happen....
I am sorry you had to see it so blunt....

Like I said before, his loss, because you are a wonderful woman and any smart man will appreciate you... he will NEVER find a woman as wonderful, caring and loving as you!!!

[without]

I agree with Lynn,,, I think you gave it a try. You had to try, you had to find out for yourself and thats ok. I know it hurts now but you can do this! Your stong!

Sarah can I sing up with you to call and scream at him! STUPID

[CandiceLeigh]

Thanks guys, it's really nice to have your support. I think I can finally let go knowing that I really tried. I gave it my all. I mean I was willing to do things that I never thought I would do, like take him back after he had cheated. That is so not me to turn the other cheek about something like that. I am done though. Feels a bit like freedom.

[Momto3]

Feels a bit like freedom.

Good for you! :hooray:

[sarahlynn]

hell yeah girl you gave it more than your all..you gave it your all and some more that is allll you can do..you cannot change him..you deserve so much better..

(((((hugs))))

[Talliesue]

Candice - Just wanted to give you some Hugs :comfort:
Your a strong, smart, beautiful mom and you need to do what is best for you and your kiddo.
Know that your APA gals will support you all the way.

[CandiceLeigh]

It does bother me though, that he never once said, "I'm sorry." And also that he wouldn't admit anything, even when I caught him red handed he still denied it. That irritates me. :wtf:

[Momto3]

He won't do that Candice...not yet. Mark my words...there will come a day when he relaizes just what he has done and that it is too late and he will one day say those words.

[sarahlynn]

candice hang in there..im so sorry..i wish he would show in some way he is sorry for doing this to you..i mean i know peoples feelings change and they move on but to hurt someone who loves you so bad and **** with their emotions and lives is not rigth and not fair..hang in there..i wish i lived closer to you..i wish i had that dirty whores number as well..we could go dump paint thinner all over his precious car...HA HA HA!!!! and pee on his wheels and dump sugar in his gas tank..and poop on his wind shield..take that...

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ok im gonna try be positive here..btu its hard cause i have some fierce anger stirred up in me with Jais' issue adn Candice..grrrr men grrrrr

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one of our clients gave me a $50 gift card for the gas station next door :) for just doing what i do

[CandiceLeigh]

Ohhh, the paint thinner is a good idea! :lol: Believe me the thought has crossed my mind more than once to put a brick thought that windshield! Can't do that though, gotta be responsible...blah! He is really lucky he had just had his teeth pulled that day or else I would have been swinging, no joke!

[sarahlynn]

lmao...i know its good to run these wild thoughts through our heads even though we dont act on them..it still makes me happy to think of them :)

ok lets have a vote..

Who things Dh will agree to take Cy to gymnastics tonight so i can either clean or do some running? DH lets not has been off today since like 1:00

Yes he will

No he wont

Yes only if you beg

[CandiceLeigh]

Yes he will. And he will do it willingly and with a smile on his face! (One of us has to have a good one!)

[sarahlynn]

ok i think your pushing it with the smile on his face hun...I WISH!!!

night ladies

im thinking of you candice...

[CandiceLeigh]

:buddies:

[Momto3]

Morning ladies! Half way there!

[buttercup]

Candice....I don't know you very well, but I am so sorry to hear your story. You and your son deserve better. Hugs to you!

[without]

Candice... I think you should gives us all his number and we could send him random your lower than pond watter skum text all day! LOL

Still wish there was some thing I could do for Jai! I am so worried for her. I hope a huge blessing comes out of all of this.

Buttercup, I have some EX family (now just firends lol) that live in GA.

Sarah, hope DH will take CY to gymnastics for you. I found out last night that the place I take Morgan is being sold and taken over by another lady. I hope they don't up the price! I am having a hard time swinging the price as it is.

Hey Lynn, hows family life going for you? I still keep them all in my prayers. When Morgan is a teen I am going to be calling you daily for advice!

It does bother me though, that he never once said, "I'm sorry." And also that he wouldn't admit anything, even when I caught him red handed he still denied it. That irritates me.

Hmm... Candice you know I love you and that I am only speaking about my experiance because I have not walked a mile in your shoes but... when I started to think like this is was my way of holding on to hope that maybe I was making a biger deal out of it than it was. Maybe since he didn't say sorry and didn't addmit it then.. maybe it didn't happen the way I "thought" I saw it. That line of thinking always took me back around to forgiving him and letting him come back. Sigh... I was trying so hard to make it work. I know you can do this on your own you don't need him to treat you like that! And your never really alone you have all of us and girlfriends from work! Don't let him minipulate you or your emotions. I know his type.

Claudia! Stop working!

[Momto3]

Family life is good...for the moment. Shelly has left the "dirtbag" behind and has moved on to a new guy that...goes to college...has a job...and has his own vehicle...I love the guy already!!!!! We leave Friday night driving 20 someodd hours with two teenagers and a 2 y/o for Connecticut for a week.

If you don't hear from me aft that...send someone to look for my body, please...

[sarahlynn]

NO DH DIDNT TAKE CY TO GYMNASTICS!!!!! :rant: he wasnt even home he was hunting cause lord knows hunting all last weekend and hunting this coming week for 8 days straight wasnt isnt enough i guess..lets just say i was not happy adn the house was a pig sty he came home cooked and went hunting so it was messy i came home with the kids adn broke down i was like doesnt he get it..will i ever come first..will he ever think of me and the kids first!!!!! i dotn think so he is selfish and i need to learn to deal with it..so i left a note saying "please clean to the house before i get home from gymnastics so i dont have ANOTHER breakdown" he was like i was in a hurry blah blah well fine but whatever..i was also irritated that he didnt pick up cy before he went hunting cy would love to go i mean a little effort here .. but i didnt flip on him i remained calm and did some home to a semi clean house after gymnastics..he claimed he was going to do it anyways when he came home..mmm hmm yeah ok sure :lol:

oh well the night wasnt bad..went to bed early..im tired mon and tues gymnastics wear me out..im gonna clean my whole house tonight cause dh and the dog leave tomarow night for hunting for 8 DAYS so it will actually remain clean for awhile..


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Lynn yay for her finding a new man..that is great news..and about the 20 hour trip OMG YOU POOR WOMAN YOU...keep us posted can you get us on your phone? laptap? how can we keep tabs on you :)

[without]

Lynn!!! Yeah for dumping the dirt bag!!! Whoot Whoot!! Isn't it so sad that we let bad men lead us good ladies down the wrong path so easy all in the name of "love". Sigh... I kind of feel for you daughter int that way but still... she is a smart girl so I hope she never falls for that again!

Sarah,,, WTG!!!! Keeping it calm! I know how hard that is to do when you are in the midst of a breakdown and want to rip there head off for not helping out. And yea for 8 days of clean house!

[Momto3]

Hah ! We are not taking the laptop with us that I know of. Feel free to text me though as I have unlimited text messaging! Also, I hope to be meeting with Cesy and her two kids on Monday the 20th!