You may think I am crazy but......................... [Archive] - Page 90

newmami

09-12-2008, 08:19 AM

IT IS FRIDAY!!!

Ash, take care of yourself sweetie!! glad to hear your Dad is in a safe place

Well, this morning I was told pretty much take the job or else..... so I really do not have an option.... I knew that is how it was going to be, so no surprises there

Yesterday I had a MISERABLE afternoon, I told DH about the whole conversation I had at work and how it made me feel, he said NOTHING!! we went to the supermarket after picking the kids from daycare and he had this horrible attitude the whole time, so I just wanted to rip his head... we didn't talked at all!! once kids went to sleep I told him how his attitude made me feel and how much I resented his lack of support.... what was his answer? he is hurt because I didn't told him "I love you" yesterday when he left to work... seriously dude WTF?? I am running like crazy trying to get the kids out on time, so I can drop them on daycare 8 am and rush to work so they don't give me grief there (all this while he just stares like an idiot)... and you are waiting for me to say I love you??? WHAT ABOUT SOME HELP HERE!!! WHAT ABOUT SOME CONSIDERATION TO YOUR WIFE???????
I am BEYOND pissed!!

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:35 AM

Morning! Happy Friday!

Dude, Clau, your dh needs to grow up a little. I'd hug you if I were closer!

Why're they doing the "take the job or else" bit? I don't understand.

We got gas this morning. It's nice around here around 7 a.m. lol. Dh's still in freakin' bed. He's hurting worse and worse and won't call the freakin' dr. I'm getting tired of this. I'm tired of being the strong on and taking care of everything myself. Granted, he helps at night with putting lex to bed, but the mornings are horrid. I was sweet and got him his favorite breakfast this morning, and I got lex some donut holes. (He's had almost a bag and a half, btw. :shocker: )Dh won't get up for anything. Ugh. I'm sorry for the rant.

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:36 AM

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:36 AM

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lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:36 AM

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lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:38 AM

Stoopid computer..

I don't get to even put on my makeup or other essential things a lot of mornings. I have to take it to work bcs I'm too busy doing everyone else's work for them. It's like i've got work at home now. Dh won't get up on workdays until nearly 7:30 and then he hops in th shower. We have to be at work by 8. I've got to get all his stuff done, all lex's done, and then me. I barely have any time with lex up at 6 and whining like you wouldn't believe. Ugh.

willsmama

09-12-2008, 08:49 AM

(((HUGS))) ash and clau.

Things are "meh" with me and DH. We both admitted pure exhaustion was the culprit.

Still no AF.

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 08:53 AM

Can i have a hug pleaze :ohno:

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:55 AM

Could it be the exhaustion? Hope she shows up, Tracy! :hugs:

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:55 AM

:hugs:

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:55 AM

:hugs: :comfort:

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 08:55 AM

What's wrong Sarah?

Momto3

09-12-2008, 09:00 AM

Hugs Sarah

Hugs and the MIA AF Tracy

Hugs Claudia - I wouldn't take the job. Let them "or else" you. Then stay home and collect unemployment and be with your babies. Pfffft to your DH.

Ashley - Hun I know your DH is hurting but you are enabling him to lay around in bed til 7:30 and not help you. Stop getting his stuff ready in the morning. Get yourself and Lex ready and when DH is ready to go out the door and his stuff isn't ready for him....he's gonna wisew up and realize he has to get up earlier. If its all done for him...why should he ? Be safe baby girl!

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 09:00 AM

we had such a horrible night...me and dh had the worst fight ever..me and the kids spent the night at my parents :(

without

09-12-2008, 09:05 AM

Happy Friday!!!
There worning us that we might be out of power a lot this weekend due to Ike! Ugh! I don't even own a flash light! Sigh... they also said to get a weather radio and keep it on because it looks as if Ike might be bringing us some nasty tornados! Blah! All you gals in TX be safe!!!!
Claudia! sigh...Grrr!!!Hisssss!!!! Give me 5 minutes alone with your DH!!!

Ashley, sorry sweety that your not getting any help. It must suck being supper woman.
I can't thank you enough for the package you sent me! This braclett is so cute! The note book is great! I needed some thing small enough that I could carry with me! I am going to look for the leap frog ABC movie thing you girls have been talking about for Morgan with the gift certificate you sent. I also can't wait for 2009 to be able to use my new purse sized calendar!! Whoot Whoot!!! It couldn't have come on a better day! I had a really bad meeting with the lawyer yesterday. They said that there ins't a judge in the state of AR who will allow me to take ALL of Grants rights away but that they may and she said MAY take away visitation if he signs the papers willingly. She also said she doesnt' think i gave them enough money even though the other lady said that the 850 would cover every thing. ONe of the worst things is ... she doesn't think a judge would ok our name change! She said that I could change mine but probably not Morgan. WTH!!! I don't want my name changed if hers isn't! And why are they siding with a man who is in prison for child porn!!! I am hurt broke and scared but your gift was an extream blessing!!!

without

09-12-2008, 09:07 AM

Oh!!! Sarah!!! I am so sorry!!! HUG!!! Is there any thing I can do to help?? If you ever want to talk I am here!! Hug!

Momto3

09-12-2008, 09:13 AM

Oh man! Hugs again Sarah...I know its getting tough with you guys. Seems worse and worse each time.

Pam - I am not even sure what to say. Offering HUGS to you too. It must be very discouraging to hear that from the lawyer.

without

09-12-2008, 09:17 AM

Its very upseting I feel as if I can't protect Morgan. :(
on the other hand I can hardly think of my own problems in light of what Sarah is going through!
Sarah, I am so sorry my heart is breaking for you! Come to AR and you and Cy and Lulu can hang out here for a while and leave your troubles (AKA Matt) behind you!

Momto3

09-12-2008, 09:26 AM

I haven't seen Stacy in forever. I wonder how they are doing.....

willsmama

09-12-2008, 09:31 AM

Hugs Sarah...Pam, i hope I remember to do that WW thing for you..I remembered when I was in bed this morning, then I forgot by the time I got downstairs.

I am hoping it is just my diet that is making AF not come, and I am running 8 miles today, so maybe it is that.
If it skips a month, that'll be a first..

Sarah...hugs.

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 09:32 AM

i dont know what to do..my dad says i cant do this for 50 more years..and i know that..after the blowup me and matt talked on the phone for a long time and we just cant agree on anything we just dont ever see eye to eye..its blame blame blame..:( i told him we either need to separate or we get help cause we cant do thsi on our own..he agreed to counseling..together or alone..but to find the time for him is like pulling teeth..:( the fight was so bad you guys..i was so happy i had taken the kids to my parents when he started gettin mean..i came back to get our stuff and things got so bad..his temper was through the roof and he was saying such hurtful things..he ended up throwing the ottoman and screaming for me to get out :( i took off..im just sick..

willsmama

09-12-2008, 09:38 AM

Your dad is right, you can't do that for 50 years.......I mean, communication issues are one thing, but rageful interactions are another, hurtful things you can't take back....it is like, they slowly chip away at what you were.

Momto3

09-12-2008, 09:42 AM

Yep I agree with Tracy. Its also not good for the kids. They sense this stuff. Especially Cy, he's old enough and he is such a sensitive kid. Don't work around Matt's schedule. Schedule the appt and say this is when we have to be there. No hunting or fishing or whatevers. Be there!

willsmama

09-12-2008, 09:46 AM

Ita!

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 09:53 AM

i know i told him i feel like a rotten parent cause im putting my kids through this...time after time when he yells and gets irrate i tell him never again do not let it happen around the kids..but it continues..i hate my kids haev to hear it and see it, its not who i am..he is so confrontational and has such a bad temper..ive vowed to myself that this will be the last time..if it happens again we are finished..its not fair to either of us..if i make him that person why be with me..ya know..he talked about it being time to get rid of the house..i told him i will buy him out im not taking the house from my kids..well he isnt ont he house anyways i am so it would be mine anyways..ugh im just sick..i told him how i want him to be more involved with the kids, i want appreication, i want to be loved and desired..he said than i need to fine soemoen to do that and than he will leave..he told me he tries and im not receptive..he asks how my day is, says i love you and i dont repsond :( i tol dhim ive been this way for a long time im numb really, im just not happy..eveyr fight every mean word stays with me from 9 years ago..i carry it all along..i dont just forget like he does and now after this long and this many figths im only in this marrige 45% the rest of me has given up.

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 10:00 AM

Hey everyone, I'm back at work! Doing ok, but I've gotten dizzy a few times which I did not expect to happen. Sounds like everyone is having a rough Friday :grouphug: I hope everyone's weekend gets better.

As for me, I was admitted to the hospital Sunday evening with viral meningitis. DH took me to the ER Sunday morning because I had a terrible headache (thought it was a migraine) I mean I've never felt pain like that before. It hurt to frown. :ohno: Initially, everyone assumed it was a migraine but the Dr's said they could do a spinal tap to be sure I didn't have an infection. I didn't want to do it (I was scared) but DH insisted so I did. Sure enough, there was an infection so they admitted me. It was really scary because if my cultures had come back bacterial I was going to be put in isolation. Thank goodness it wasn't that serious. I was in the hospital until Tuesday and have just spent the week trying to get my strength back. It sucked and I missed Chris soooo much. I never want to be separated from him like that again! But I'm back now and trying to get in the groove of things. Bright side, I got a week's "vacation" from work. :)

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 10:03 AM

Oh Candice im sorry your sick (((hugs)))

willsmama

09-12-2008, 10:03 AM

willsmama

09-12-2008, 10:04 AM

newmami

09-12-2008, 10:06 AM

OMG Sarah, I am holding back the tears here, because I know exactly how you feel...
I am so sorry sweetie... I think a time apart from Matt would be super helpful
:comfort:

Pam, sorry about the Lawyer... seems to me that all they want is money, and not to help you... our Bankruptcy attorney was the same......
:hugs:

I had yet another meeting with the super supervisor, she made me so upset... UGH condescending and patronizing beotch!! I told her I didn't appreciate the way the offer was set, and she pretty much told me to suck it up... so I am taking the darn job because I need the paycheck, and suck it up..... I am getting used to sucking it up, hey except from my kids, I just hate everything else in my life.

I am in a terrible mood now, and I have a pounding head ache....... ARGH!!!! maybe I should change plans and look for another job out of here PRONTO!! if only it was easier..........

Life sucks, I just want to go away and never come back...........

newmami

09-12-2008, 10:08 AM

Candice, welcome back sweetie!! I am glad you are better now, sorry for the scare.
:hugs:

without

09-12-2008, 10:08 AM

Momto3

09-12-2008, 10:10 AM

Oh Man my girls need some big hugs today!

Sarah - I'm so sorry I hope you guys are able to come to some understanding no matter which way it has to be. We are here for you.

Candice - I am so glad you are feeling better. Where did liuttle Chris stay while you were in the hospital?

Claudia - I know it is easier said than done but you really need to get a new job. That place is sucking the life out of you my friend.

willsmama

09-12-2008, 10:13 AM

Man....This group does need LOTS of hugs.
Love you ALL ladies.

without

09-12-2008, 10:17 AM

Claudia, I hate that things are not going well for you! How long until you can move?

without

09-12-2008, 10:19 AM

newmami

09-12-2008, 10:19 AM

Thanks for the hugs girls, they really mean a lot.
DH dosn't understand, he thinks I blame him for not being able to quit here... the problem right now is that the medical insurance is through my bank, and we cannot sign on DH's until next year.... I made the decision to keep it here because it was cheaper, I never thought it would get so bad..... :/

I am going to use some time today to look for another option.... if I go to another bank, they will offer insurance, so that would be covered..... if not, we will have to pay out of pocket or figure something out......

I wish DH was a little more supportive..... yesterday night I was ready to just throw the towel and say I am out of here... from work and from my marriage.......

willsmama

09-12-2008, 10:21 AM

Too bad you can't just become a criminal and take the kids to mexico and leave it all behind.

Or COULD you..

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 10:22 AM

Sarah, is there any way you guys could just seperate while you work on the issues? "HE" needs to leave the house... "he" needs to lose it all... and you guys could still get help... if he will do this and get help maybe you could work it out but.. if not sweety you and the babies are worth more than he is giving you!

i talked about that a separation till we get things figured out..i dont know where he would go..has no family around here..and we cant afford an appartment or anything like that for him..thats why we stayed at my parents last night..i stood my ground though he asked for us to come home and i said i just couldnt..i hate the kids not havign their beds, toys and stuff it just made me sad..:( i wish he could get his temper under control.its like a time bomb and last night was the worst ever..i was so scared..he has neve rever hurt myself or the kids but punched the occasional door , wall and so on..i told him besides gettin help we need to stop the situation before it starts whether its a code word or sign that means were done stop well talk about it later..

want to hear how it all started..i noticed when i came home last night he had been there and left..so i called im and said where ya at..he said car shopping..instantly inside i went OMG how can we afford a car right now..i know his pickup sucks but honestly we coulndt pull a $300 payment if our live dependd on it..so i said ok im feeding the kids talk to you later..he called back 15 min later said "where is your mom want ot come look at this car" i siad "NO i dont want to look at something we cant afford" and we hung up done and over..well i decided to take the kisd for a walk to play tennis..and to breath and get over the car call..well i was sitting with the kids at my parents and guess who pulls up in a new suv well used but new..he is like look at it..i said who is gettin the 2nd job to pay for it..joking ya know..and he says come look at it..i said i'll look at through teh windwo..so eh pouted off and left..so i went home and he showed up 20 min later..and just freaked out on me for not looking at the suv..said i disrespected him and made him look like an ass in front of my parents..i said MATT i told you i didnt want to look at it..i told yoiut hat on the phone you knew that and you still drug it to me..and thats what happened to make him explode.

newmami

09-12-2008, 10:22 AM

Candice, glad your feeling some better but remember to take it slow!
Claudia remember... you cant put a price on life! I mean I know the bills need to get paid but come on you can't live like this! Your DH may just have to steep it up and get a 2nd job so you can take a pay cut for a while.

Yeah right!!! :laugh:. The problem is that
1. he would never do it because it takes from family time (which usually means computer time for him)
2. his job demands him to be available 24/7.........

We should have taken that offer in TN.............

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 10:23 AM

Geez, what a horrible Friday for some of you! :hugs: I'm sorry, no good advice here. My head is still kind of fuzzy. :shame: I am here for each and every one of you if you need a shoulder to cry on though.

Lynn, Chris was with his Grandma all day Sunday and then DH picked him up at night (I wasn't admitted until 7:00! we were there 8 hours in the ER) and they slept at my house. Then Monday night, they slept at DH's apartment. They were supposed to sleep at my house, but apparently DH thought it would be easier to stay at his place. Then Wednesday when I came back home, DH stayed late until Chris went to sleep and then came early in the morning to take him to school.

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 10:31 AM

glad you have some help candice..how ya feeling?

without

09-12-2008, 10:31 AM

:hero:Claudia I am going to come and get you and the kids and fly you out of there!:mad:Your DH makes me so mad!

:hugs::hugs:I love you girls!:wub:

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 10:32 AM

I feel pretty good. I just can't walk around a lot 'cause I start feeling dizzy. I guess that'll keep me in my chair today!

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 10:47 AM

im just gonna gorge myself to feel better :) i had a perkins blueberry muffin, cup of coffe, indian taco, some knefla and kraut, now what..sheesh i feel like im gonna explode already..maybe another muffin.

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 11:00 AM

ok so next question, i am pretty close to Matts mom..should i let her into how thing are? that they have gotten to this point> or just leaver her out of it. my parents know well cause they live here and i run to them..lucky them huh..but i feel like shouldnt she know it sucks and if things just do not work out it doesnt seem fair to just sppring it on her..oh by the way were divorcing.. :(

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 11:03 AM

I would tell her Sarah. I practically ran to Chris' mom when all this stuff went down with us. She has been a great support for me and Little Chris. :hugs: I'm so sorry. Y'all decided on the big D?

newmami

09-12-2008, 11:04 AM

Sarah, I would let Matt do the talk to his mom

willsmama

09-12-2008, 11:11 AM

I can't believe he bought a car.
That is huge.

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 11:25 AM

no he didnt buy the car..that was his big arguement..i didnt BUY the car i was just looking..i said thats fine i dont enjoy looking at things i cant buy..im the type where i want to sit down, figure out our finances and than go together to find something we can afford..he knows how i stress about money and our debt so to drag a 12,000 vehicle home for me to look at is assanign..especially after i said flat out I DO NOT WANT TO LOOK AT IT..ugh..

we havent decided on the big D..last night my final words were we either need to get help for our marrige cause we cant fix it or else decide the easiest way to end it.. it sucked so bad to say that..i could barely choke out the words end..:( how can it be such a love hate relationship..

i just dont know about his mom ..i want to tell her..i want her to know hwat we go through..

willsmama

09-12-2008, 11:27 AM

I personally would tell her if you are close.
You and Matt have been through a lot.
If he had time to go car shopping, he has time to go to conseling.

newmami

09-12-2008, 11:34 AM

oh so true Tracy... if he is interested, he has to make the time to fix the marriage.

I am so very sorry Sarah!! :hugs:

Haven't heard from Ash... hope everything is ok!!

willsmama

09-12-2008, 11:48 AM

Have a good weekend ladies. I am off to get a jacket from craigs list, then run 8 miles (eek) then hopefully clean my shower and get ready for church pics tonight.
Everyone have a non-arguement filled, healthy, dry and drug free and DH free (?) weekend.
:)

without

09-12-2008, 11:53 AM

Sarah, I would talk to her! I mean didn't she see some of it when she was visiting. You need some one to talk to who has an insight on his life! Sweety... you.. need some one to talk too.

Momto3

09-12-2008, 12:32 PM

Sarah - That would have pissed me off too. I think he disrespected you in the fact that you told him over the phone you did not want to see the vehicle and here he comes waiving it in your face. Ugh! I'm sorry. I hurt for you!

Candice - I'm really happy to hear that your DH was responsible and stepped up to take care of your little one!

Claudia - Hugs hun. I know it doesn't help.

Tracy - Have fun on your run and a good weekend!

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 12:33 PM

ok he just called, said he is going to talk to his doctor about gettin on antidepressent meds..said he is just not comfortable seeing a psych right now but he wants to try the meds first and see if that helps with some of the tension and anger issues he is having..he did briefly say his mom told him over her stay that he was very short and upset easily..so that made me feel better like she saw it as well..i told him we need to find better methods for communication, i tol dhim last night really scared me..scared the sh it out of me..so that is wehre were at..he is heading to the lake now after treatment, which is good i need a break.

Sarah - That would have pissed me off too. I think he disrespected you in the fact that you told him over the phone you did not want to see the vehicle and here he comes waiving it in your face. Ugh! I'm sorry. I hurt for you!

i knwo thats what i told him..i said matt i todl yiou i didnt want to see it , i told you that because i knew it would be a stress on me..i tried to avoid that situation and a big fight and you instead tracked me down after i said no and demanded i see it..

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 12:35 PM

Oh Sarah, I so feel for you right now. I am SO SORRY you are going through this right now. :hugs:

Lynn, yeah I'm so glad Chris stepped up! Not only did he take care of Chris, but me too!

newmami

09-12-2008, 12:55 PM

That was very very nice of Chris, Candice... I am glad he was there for his son and for you

I am starting to believe that the supervisor HATES me... not sure if she is scared I would take her position (no thank you) or she is upset because her former boss (the one she was sleeping with) moved back to Atlanta and he didn't took her with him (like he usually does).... she is getting super particular with me, about the reports I have to send her... I am usually the first one to respond to her and comply with her moronic demands... and she is just getting super picky... AGH!!!
DH told me to call HR and report her for harrassment... yeah because that would go anywhere... HR in here is a JOKE!!!

I am a little more calmed... I talked to my ex office DH... he kept apologizing that there is no open positions there, but will keep an eye for me, either in his bank (which would be great because they are super considerated with the employees) or anywhere else... he always makes me laugh

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 12:59 PM

oh claudie i hope something comes up for you at his office..

i just love your siggy pic such happy babies

Momto3

09-12-2008, 01:01 PM

Sounds like things are turning around here on this yucky friday.

I am so worried about Ashley. Looks like its headed straight for her. She better keep in touch by texting.

without

09-12-2008, 01:11 PM

I wish I had her phone number but I left my cell at home! Ugh!

Morgan baby sitter just called me and told me the "sore" on her booty looks like staff! now I have to take her to the DR at 4. Man, I can't afford this but I know Morgan is in pain because she keeps telling every one "my boddy hurts!" meaning booty.

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 01:20 PM

Okay, who called me this morning? Anyone have a 402 area code?

I'm okay, I fell asleep and had a very whiny little man. Dh's not talking to me for some reason. I wonder if he read my apa this morning.

Sarah, BIG BIG hugs! I don't have any advice, but i'm glad he wants meds. He needs them. They make all the difference.

HUGS to all you girls!

It won't hit til tonight or in the morning...

Momto3

09-12-2008, 01:23 PM

I did not call and I don't have 402 area code. But I am making sure you keep in touch over the weekend girlie!

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 01:24 PM

I am going to take dh to the hospital to pre register for his mri. I'll check back in a bit. I have my cell if anyone needs to text me or call at any time, k?

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 01:24 PM

:grouphug:

Momto3

09-12-2008, 01:26 PM

call at ANY time? heheheheheh

without

09-12-2008, 01:27 PM

Be safe Ashley!

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 01:45 PM

NO WAY...eek will you keep us posted..?? that is so scary :(

only 1 hour and 15 minutes left to go and i get to head home..

newmami

09-12-2008, 01:46 PM

Please be safe Ash!!!

Pam, ugh..... I hope it is not an infection, poor miss Morgan
I hear you, I hate when everything hits at the same time

So apparently the big kahuna told our supervisor that she needed to work on her manager skills... so as she is clueless on what to do, she thought it meant permission to become a boetch......:pokey:
I think I need to get something fun from this... the poor idiot is so clueless that she thinks being a boetch means being a good manager....
Would it be too cruel if I get her MANAGING FOR DUMMIES for Christmas??????

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 02:00 PM

Claudia i think it would be a graet gift, give it to her as an early christmas present :) and take a picture of her clueless expression..

oh poor Morgan i hope she is ok :(

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 02:35 PM

Is today over yet? I should have stayed home...work is so boring!

sarahlynn

09-12-2008, 02:38 PM

man im the only one here today..everyoen left since were doing the rotation now..which is nice..

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 02:55 PM

You're about to leave though, right? Lucky!

Pam, sorry about Morgan's bum! Poor thing! :(

newmami

09-12-2008, 02:59 PM

I am here, trying to figure out where we screwed up with a customer..... ack!
Day is dragging horribly, seriously by now it should be like 11 pm!!

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 03:53 PM

Hehe.. I've got Marketing for Dummies if it helps. I'd so do it.

Well, any time if you don't care how I sound at 3 a.m. :laugh:

Pam, did you get your package yet?

I feel like crap. Dh couldn't register bcs he was past the 30 days for the mri. Ice is limited. Lex said "tea." He looooves sweet tea. I spilled chinese food down my arm. And dh is all touchy about our sex life right now. He said it's been 3 weeks since he got any action (not true, btw) and I told him how can I do things when he can't feel anything. I feel bad for anything I do, and he can't get done. This is too much. Plus, AF is supposed to be here any day.

|Sorry, off I go ranting again.

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 03:55 PM

:hugs: Ashley!

lexsmama

09-12-2008, 04:07 PM

I'm Debbie Downer today, girls. I'm sorry.

CandiceLeigh

09-12-2008, 04:18 PM

Don't ever be sorry for that! I used to be THE Debbie Downer!

Ugh, I need to go to the store after work and I am absolutely dreading it! I know it's going to be insane. I wouldn't go, but we have like no food at home. Wish me luck!

lexsmama

09-13-2008, 08:11 AM

It's just getting rainy and gusty out. We look pretty good on radars. They think maximum winds around 65 mph. Not bad. I can't believe it's still so strong, even if it IS a cat 2.

Stay safe Candice! You may get some rain today, too.

without

09-15-2008, 08:19 AM

GM!!!! Alll!!!!
MY A/C went out this weekend. I don't know whats wrong with it and I can't afford to call some one to look at it. Its been so hot that Morgan and I have a hard time sleeping. :( then the storm knocked down part of my tree and the the neighbors tree feel and part of it hit my car but thank goodness it didn't leave a mark. Shwwww....................
Ashley, sorry sweety that your not getting any help. It must suck being supper woman.
I can't thank you enough for the package you sent me! This braclett is so cute! The note book is great! I needed some thing small enough that I could carry with me! I am going to look for the leap frog ABC movie thing you girls have been talking about for Morgan with the gift certificate you sent. I also can't wait for 2009 to be able to use my new purse sized calendar!! Whoot Whoot!!! It couldn't have come on a better day! I had a really bad meeting with the lawyer yesterday. They said that there ins't a judge in the state of AR who will allow me to take ALL of Grants rights away but that they may and she said MAY take away visitation if he signs the papers willingly. She also said she doesnt' think i gave them enough money even though the other lady said that the 850 would cover every thing. ONe of the worst things is ... she doesn't think a judge would ok our name change! She said that I could change mine but probably not Morgan. WTH!!! I don't want my name changed if hers isn't! And why are they siding with a man who is in prison for child porn!!! I am hurt broke and scared but your gift was an extream blessing!!!

willsmama

09-15-2008, 08:52 AM

Happy Monday ladies.

:)

without

09-15-2008, 09:13 AM

Were are all the girls at??? Looks like its just you and me!! They'll all come back about the time I have to head off for the staff meeting.

Momto3

09-15-2008, 09:14 AM

Happy Monday! I am here....but so is the boss...for now!

newmami

09-15-2008, 09:21 AM

Hi ladies!!
Pam, so sorry about the storms breaking your trees and the A/C... were you able to get it fixed?? I hope so, I know how miserable it is to be without air

Ash & Candice, everything ok girls?? No problems because of the storm?? :hugs:

Sarah. how are things with Matt??

We had a fun weekend, went swimming and it turns out Chris loves to just hang in there in a floating ring by himself, and he learned how to kick :shocker: and move... Dani decided to venture in the pool without floaties, and she didn't got scared.... SOMEONE STOP THIS!!
Dh and I had a big conversation where "leaving" and "go back to Mexico" were said..... everything is ok now, but girls, I am having a hard time dealing with someone who is so selfish and who tends to thing that I blame him for everything bad that happens in my life..... I told him he needs some help dealing with those demonds, but he is set in NO THERAPIST... ugh!
Oh yeah, today is our Wedding Anniversary... yesterday morning I just wanted to forget the whole thing (I am better now)

At work, I am to the point where I am going to feel sorry for the supervisor, because she is an idiot who has no idea what she is doing... and I think she hates me because I know this job better than she does, and because I confront her and put her in the spot...... HA HA HA... boetch who is laughing now???????? :laugh::pokey:

without

09-15-2008, 09:25 AM

Yuck! Lynn, tell your boss to go away!

No Claudia I have not had it fixed. I have no money. :( It will just have to wait.

Dani and Chris are getting so brave!(and to big!) Sorry your DH can't get his head out of his butt! I know how hard it is to be the only one who works on the mariage!

sarahlynn

09-15-2008, 09:30 AM

morning ladies.

newmami

09-15-2008, 09:32 AM

Oh Pam, I am so sorry sweetie...
Hey, last time our AC broke down, it turns out it was not broken, but something got stuck in the pipes and it shut down before the whole thing blew... do you think maybe (hopefully) it is something like that?? can you ask Mike to take a look and see??
I wish there was something I could do to help :(

without

09-15-2008, 10:00 AM

Hi Sarah! How was your weekend?

I hope its some thing like that Claudia, thats what it was last time all they had to do was snake out the pipe that drains the A/C and it was fine after that. But right now I can't afford to have them come even do that. I would ask Mike but... won't do things like that for me... makes him feel like we are a couple. Sigh... I haven't really spent much time with him the past week or so because I am sick of playing games. I don't mind waiting on some one if we are making a little progress but this is stupid. LOL

willsmama

09-15-2008, 10:04 AM

Mondays = Blech.

without

09-15-2008, 10:06 AM

I know Tracy! I am about to go to staffing and I always come back from staffing mad!

sarahlynn

09-15-2008, 10:07 AM

weekend went fine..matt stayed at the lake all weekend..sat i toook cy,lucea and my nephew to Sesame street live, i will post pics tomarow. Sat night me and my sis went to jewel..lvoed her :wub:

im calling cys doc now im concerned about his heart.

willsmama

09-15-2008, 10:11 AM

Ooh, I am jealous you got to see Jewel. She is awesome.

let us know what the doc says.

sarahlynn

09-15-2008, 10:29 AM

she just has theee most amazing voice..and it was cool..just her and her two guitars.

i left a message for the doc..i think im just panicky with teh appt coming up

newmami

09-15-2008, 10:32 AM

:hugs: Sarah, I hope it is nothing wrong with Cy

Pam, just an idea, do you have a shopvac?? what about trying to suck up whatever is stuck from the pipes that go outside?
The other thing that the A/C tech told us was to put 1 cup of white vinegar every month, to clean and unclogg the A/C.
I wish we lived closer, I would send DH to take a look at it!

willsmama

09-15-2008, 10:56 AM

I have natural A/C.
I live in Minnesota.
hahahaha.

Momto3

09-15-2008, 11:11 AM

Ok the boss is gone. Ugh! DH is done with work for today. It sucks big time that he can't get a full day in!

Claudia - Sorry your DH is a butt.

Pam - Sorry about the A/C and about Mike. Geez friends help friends, thats what they do. Doesn't have to make you a couple! butt head!

Momto3

09-15-2008, 11:12 AM

Oh yes, forgot to mention at the therapist, apparently Shelly doesn't want to go to college and its all my fault cuz I have not taken her to look at any colleges. Like we have the money. And Apparently I haven't downloaded any applications for her to fill out. So its all my fault. Blech!

CandiceLeigh

09-15-2008, 11:26 AM

Hey everyone, I am here! I just got a little bit of rain, nothing too major. I was kind of disappointed, I wanted some storms but we didn't get much at all.

willsmama

09-15-2008, 11:27 AM

She also needs to show some responsiblity would be my comeback for that Lynn!

Momto3

09-15-2008, 11:33 AM

newmami

09-15-2008, 11:46 AM

Wow Lynn........ my parents were not involved when I applied for college... although my mom took my sister to apply for hers, but because my sister was a huge procrastinator
I say if Shelley has the interest, she will ask for help if she was stuck on what to do!!! she is old enough, isn't she??

hi Candice!! Glad Ike was not a big problem for you guys

Anyone seen Ash?? I am getting worried about her!!

willsmama

09-15-2008, 11:47 AM

I totally agree Tracy. I was like "She has a computer and she can do this stuff and come to me for "help" but she has to show some interest." and the therapsit was like no, children will not do this we need to push them and do it for them! Stupid guy/girl about a thing!

Then, if you did that, they would turn it around and say you are "pushing" them too hard..'forcing' it.
You can't win.

Momto3

09-15-2008, 12:35 PM

You are right Tracy...I can't win. But I am not going to let her say that I am the reason she never went to college. We shall see.

I got a text from Ashley on Saturday. They had no power and were going to her in-laws where there was a generator.

sarahlynn

09-15-2008, 12:35 PM

hmm yeah mom get on the ball and apply to colleges for her :)seems right doesnt it :lol: oh man kids man oh man oh man

whats for lunch??

Momto3

09-15-2008, 12:37 PM

I suppose I should fill out the application and write the essay answr for her too. I never went to collegte so I have no idea what the process is.

without

09-15-2008, 01:10 PM

Ugh! Staffing took for ever today!

willsmama

09-15-2008, 01:14 PM

I had Peanut butter sandwich. :)
Mmm.

sarahlynn

09-15-2008, 01:22 PM

i had a banana and granola bar..hmm im hungry..

willsmama

09-15-2008, 01:24 PM

I am ALWAYS hungry.
Sigh.

I am freaking about packing for Will and I for a week!
What am I forgetting!

newmami

09-15-2008, 01:42 PM

Tracy, relax!! if you forget something, you can go buy it!!
my best advise, bring diapers for only couple days and buy some in here,... less suitcases!

Lynn, I am not liking the guy about a thing for Shelley... I wonder if he/she did the college thing for his/her kids :pokey:

I am so busy it is not even funny!! ugh I want to fool around for a bit

without

09-15-2008, 01:54 PM

I had a WW meal... blah and another 24 oz of water.

Humm.... main thing is don't forget his favorite blanket, toy or what not if he is attached to some thing ever thing else can be bought

Momto3

09-15-2008, 02:01 PM

I just sent and received a text from Ash. They are still without power and are at her inlaws!

DH came by for lunch and we had our grilled chicken and salads together. It was nice.

newmami

09-15-2008, 02:11 PM

Oi poor Ash... I hope they restore her power soon! thanks for the updates Lynn

willsmama

09-15-2008, 02:16 PM

Things going better with DH then Lynn?
How warm is it still in FL this time of year?

Momto3

09-15-2008, 02:18 PM

Yes, they are much better with DH. We are much more relaxed when we don't fight over the teens and we even discussed that too.

Its in the high 80s and low 90s during the day.

willsmama

09-15-2008, 02:18 PM

ah....:)

without

09-15-2008, 02:41 PM

I need away from this place can I go with you Tracy???

willsmama

09-15-2008, 02:43 PM

You can. But It is my mom, my dad, my sister and 3 of her kids and my other sis and her 3 triplets and me and Will.

See why it is so chaotic Lynn? :(

Momto3

09-15-2008, 02:44 PM

I totally understand!

willsmama

09-15-2008, 02:57 PM

I wanted to see you though. :(

If it were just will/DH and I we could have.
:(

Momto3

09-15-2008, 03:20 PM

I's okay (think Eeyore kinda voice) I'll get over it! So close but yet so far!

newmami

09-15-2008, 03:21 PM

Ladies, I am off.... I will try to be here more tomorrow, they kept me busy today at work

sarahlynn

09-15-2008, 04:21 PM

So Question .. How Long Do I Give It Before I Ask Dh If He Talked To His Doc About Meds?

(sorry For The Caps, Im On An Ms Chatroom And They Haev Sight Issues)

lexsmama

09-15-2008, 09:17 PM

Hey girls. I'm at the inlaws for a while. Our power's out and it doesn't look like we're getting it any time soon. Businesses are up and running but residential areas are not. I'll get pics up in the morning. We only got a few. Our yard looks like a pine tree barber shop, all over the place. We lost everything in the fridge and deep freeze.

Lex had to go visit the ER Saturday night. He got overheated and delerius. I can't spell. We went in today, and come to find out, he was over heated, and he has a mild ear infection in his right ear. We got medicine and are good to go. Allergies are raring, too. He has a serious cough from drainage.

We're alright, and thank you for looking out for us. I'm on sporatically tomorrow, so feel free to text away if you need to.

Pam, I still didn't find the post about the box. I'm so out of it, but I'm sooooo glad you liked it! :hugs:

:grouphug:

sarahlynn

09-15-2008, 10:50 PM

aww glad to hear your all doing ok..sorry to hear that baby lex was sick poor guy..keep us posted on how your doing..

~~

its 11:00 well about there..im trying to download pics to post of sesame street live..

Momto3

09-16-2008, 07:21 AM

Morning ladies!

Ashley - Good to see you. Sorry about the trip to the ER with Lex. I'm glad you got him some meds for it.

Sarah - How did you guys like SSL?

lexsmama

09-16-2008, 07:40 AM

Oh, I bet it was great!!

I'm off to bed. Just sent the boss an email that I don't know when I'll be at work.

without

09-16-2008, 08:27 AM

I can't tell you how much I loved the box! No words can express how thanful I am and the bracelett is so pretty! The little heart on it matches the book I am reading lol. Thank you! You are a very kind and thoughtful friend!

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 08:55 AM

SSL was great..

Lynn ~ you likey your buttered popcorn jelly beans LMAO

willsmama

09-16-2008, 09:26 AM

I just itched a scab by my nose and it is making me sneeze!
AHhhhhchooo!

Momto3

09-16-2008, 09:41 AM

SSL was great..

Lynn ~ you likey your buttered popcorn jelly beans LMAO

lol...

newmami

09-16-2008, 09:59 AM

Yet another busy day here at work... it is crazy!! I have been putting off fires all morning, and getting info to people who are just too lazy to find it on their own

We went to PF Chang's yesterday for our anniversary, it was Ok... as good as dinner with 2 toddlers can be! bad thing is that it POURED when we left, so we got wet

Ash, I am sorry about the power problems, I hope it gets restored soon. My Dh says the facilities in the gulf coast are in bad shape as well... I am thinking about you!! let us know if you need anything, ok?

How is everybody else doing today???

CandiceLeigh

09-16-2008, 10:03 AM

Hey everyone!

Ashley, gosh I hope they get the power back on soon. I can't even imagine. Has it been any cooler there? It's been really nice here this week. Good thing about Ike, he brought in a cold front!

Momto3

09-16-2008, 10:17 AM

Oh Claudia I LOVE PF Changs! Yummy.

newmami

09-16-2008, 10:28 AM

best things... I have leftovers!! it was so much fun, Dani was trying to use the chopsticks (she did quite well for a 3 year old!)

CandiceLeigh

09-16-2008, 10:46 AM

I'm 23 and I don't know how to use the chopsticks! :lol: I am sleepy today ladies, seriously considering going home and taking a nap at lunch time.

lexsmama

09-16-2008, 11:00 AM

I don't know if there's anything anyone of you can do right now. We're headed over to check the house and get rid of all the food we have and put it out for trash day tomorrow. We don't know what's going on, but I'm not able to go to work until everything gets back in order. And they've called it all back in session at teh university!! Grr.

The cool front was nice, but it's still too much for little bit.

I'll teach you chopsticking, Candice. I've been at it since I was 4. lol.

:hugs: Pam.

I'll check in later.

newmami

09-16-2008, 11:10 AM

Just let us know, K Ash???

Candice, go take a nap... otherwise you may end up with the keyboard printed in your forehead!!

I am so used to having time to fool around... me no likey not being able to breathe!!!

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 11:10 AM

oh man i thougth we were talking about chopsticks on the piano..drats..

i can kinda sorta use chopsticks but not totaly..i probubly look like a weirdo when i do..

ash keep us posted on how things are

speeking of that wahts for lunch?

Momto3

09-16-2008, 11:30 AM

Can't you just see...a s d f j k l ; printed across Candice's forehead! bahahaha I crack myself up.

Lunch was a burger with cheese...no bun.

without

09-16-2008, 12:05 PM

Lunch is taco bell... *ashamed* but I didn't have time for breakfast and I have gymnastics with Morgan tonight so I knew I couldn't skip lunch or I would be eating every thing in sight about 8 tonight.

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 12:15 PM

aww is this her first or second night of gymn? i coulndt remember..!!

Lucea had her 2nd night last night and had so much fun..i felt bad for the teacher she was alone and had 6 toddlers..luckily one of the dads of an unruly boy inthe class was trying to help while he corraled his child..

without

09-16-2008, 12:20 PM

Its our 2nd night of class... I wouldn't have ate out but with it being a Mommy in Me class well.. i didn't think I could do all the stuff if I was weak as new born kitten from not eating LOL. Morgan loves it and she crys because she doesn't want to go home. LOL

CandiceLeigh

09-16-2008, 12:36 PM

Haha guys! I went home and napped on lunch! My lunch was some cheese its and a nectarine! :)

without

09-16-2008, 12:47 PM

I am so full and now my sugar is going crazy.... I think I need to lay down too. Candice can you tell them to let me take a nap? LOL

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 12:58 PM

glad to hear she likes it pam..

candice i want a nap darn it..i dont mind running home on my lunch but it takes 10 min there and 10 min back and well with gas prices and all..im bummed i dont haev any snacks for this afternoon :(

CandiceLeigh

09-16-2008, 01:14 PM

I'm hungry now, darn it! I knew I should have got a real lunch, but I just wanted to sleep. :yawn: I don't know what I'm gonna eat now, all my work buds have already left to lunch.

without

09-16-2008, 01:40 PM

I am all out of Water additives and don't want to go to walmart... looks like its plan ol water for me!

newmami

09-16-2008, 01:48 PM

Water additives, that sounds scary!!! :)

I am still super busy, one of my account managers is making a HUGE deal out of something somehow simple, and the customer is on the freak out wagon.... ugh people!!!

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 01:53 PM

what the heck is a water additive???

im confused..

CandiceLeigh

09-16-2008, 01:57 PM

Is that the stuff like Crystal Light? Flavors it?

willsmama

09-16-2008, 02:09 PM

I love bubblegum.
That is all. :)

Momto3

09-16-2008, 02:09 PM

I just heard from Ashley...they have power so they are off to get cleaning supplies and smell good stuff.

newmami

09-16-2008, 02:14 PM

YAY ASH!!! glad the power is back!! I hope everything is ok in their house.

willsmama

09-16-2008, 02:20 PM

Yay for power! :)

newmami

09-16-2008, 03:02 PM

Ok, people in my office are going bananas after the bad economic news this morning... ugh!!

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 03:20 PM

yeah i work for brokers..so its been the talk all morning..how bad the market is..clients call and come in just in a mess..

heeh glad i dont have any money..

hmmm who jsut called my cell phone.?

willsmama

09-16-2008, 03:34 PM

Yes...market schmarket.
I am poor irregardless.

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 03:37 PM

u guys i think our home eq loan went through which would mean we can consolidate and have one payment with a low interest..keep your fingers crossed for me.

willsmama

09-16-2008, 03:39 PM

YAY Sarah! :)

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 04:43 PM

hmm still waiting to hear..i have no clue what a home equity loan/line of credit even is alli know is it will allow us to have one bill instead of 5 and also give us a reserve incase dh truck takes a dive on us or he is out of work again for whatever reason..

ugh i wish she woudl call back..

hmm

cy has a dentist appt tomarow morning..

hmm

what else..

CandiceLeigh

09-16-2008, 04:52 PM

You still here Sarah? About 7 more minutes and we are free!

lexsmama

09-16-2008, 07:02 PM

I've been cleaning like a madwoman today. I've had to take some of Lex's toys and put them away. I'm taking off again, but Lex won't have school all week. :shocker:

We have power, and the house reeks. I got black cherry smelly good stuff and febreeze. Next, the yard...

sarahlynn

09-16-2008, 10:47 PM

oh hun im sorry what a mess you have to deal with :(

Momto3

09-17-2008, 08:06 AM

Morning ladies...happy hump day.

without

09-17-2008, 08:16 AM

Ashley! wish I was there to help!
yes,,, I use this stuff in my water that is sugar and calorie free but adds some flavor in your water. Yum!

sarahlynn

09-17-2008, 09:33 AM

you said hump...sh it i forgot to send you your address for the swap..grr sorry sorry i will send it tonight i promise..

tonight i want to try make fleischkuekle

CandiceLeigh

09-17-2008, 09:36 AM

That sucks Ashley, I'm sorry! :(

Ugh, I'm irritated with these shoes I bought. They are hurting my heels so bad and I want to take them back, but the bottoms are white so you can tell I've worn them. :headbang:I wonder if I clean them, could I take them back? This is the 1st day I've worn them and I've literally only worn them to walk to and from my car. I'm sitting at my desk with them off 'cause they were hurting too much! :truce:I knew I shouldn't have gotten them, they were just so cute!

without

09-17-2008, 09:52 AM

Candice... I would take them back!

without

09-17-2008, 09:53 AM

fleischkuekle Whats that!

CandiceLeigh

09-17-2008, 10:06 AM

I want to take them back, I just don't know it they'll take them. I got them at Target, but I'm going to try. I'll clean the bottoms and put the tag back on and hopefully they'll take them!

Yeah Sarah, what's that f word?

sarahlynn

09-17-2008, 10:30 AM

you take dough and role it into circles and than put hamburger, onions with spices inside fold them over like a 1/2 moon pie ya know..pinch them closed and fry them..sounds healthy huh? its a big german food up here but iven ever had them.

its so slow today laides..

Momto3

09-17-2008, 10:41 AM

Oh those are Jamaican Beef Patties!

CandiceLeigh

09-17-2008, 10:41 AM

Mmm, that sounds pretty good! :drool:

I'm hungry, but I don't know what to get for lunch. I gotta run home to change my shoes, then take some movies back to Blockbuster, then run to Target to get some diapers, and then grab lunch. I have a feeling, I'm either gonna be late back from lunch or not be able to run all my errands! Schlotzsky's sounds good for lunch, but they're so expensive! Do ya'll have that? It's a sandwich place and yummy!!

without

09-17-2008, 11:17 AM

It is slow today!

He he Beef patties!! Its been way to long when that sounds sexual!!!

Oh forgot to tell you all ... I had them look at my A/C and was told I need a whole new unit! Guess who will be going with out A/c!! the said it would be 4,000 dollars! theres no way I have or will have that kind of money!

Momto3

09-17-2008, 11:21 AM

Well at least the fall weather is coming...hopefully soon!

without

09-17-2008, 11:22 AM

Doesn't help me in the long run but your right for now... we wont die of heat.

CandiceLeigh

09-17-2008, 11:25 AM

OMG Pam, that is awful! Thank goodness fall is coming, but still! When do ya'll start cooling down? Last year it was still warm in December here. :shock:

without

09-17-2008, 11:27 AM

kind of depends it gets cooler around the end of October but not cold until Late january and Feb and then we are right back into the just mild weather but... if all else fails we will get a window unit for my bed room and live in one room.

newmami

09-17-2008, 11:44 AM

I am so sorry about the A/C Pam... really really sucks... If I win the lottery, I will pay for it, ok??

I am swamped with work and just came back from seeing guy about a thing.. not a good day, DH emailed me and he made me ACK!!! then I am dealing with a fraud on one of my customer's accounts

Sarah, Home Equity line, they give you a line of credit based on the equity you have in your house. You don't have to use it all, it is available for you to draw at any time, but you do need to make monthly payments. Most likely the bank will give you checks that you can use to pay off those other loans, and just make one monthly payment to the bank who gave you the line... if not, then you can have them transfer the money to your checking account, and issue personal checks to pay off the other bills

Talliesue

09-17-2008, 11:45 AM

Hey Ladies! Happy Wednesday! How is everyone - gosh it seems like forever since I last posted here.
Work has kept me super busy lately.
Hope Ike has been kind to you gals in TX.

willsmama

09-17-2008, 12:29 PM

:hi:

CandiceLeigh

09-17-2008, 12:48 PM

Hey Natalie! Been busy?

newmami

09-17-2008, 01:20 PM

Hey Natalie, how are you doing??

newmami

09-17-2008, 01:21 PM

:truce::truce: someone stop this!!! :crazy::crazy:

Talliesue

09-17-2008, 01:27 PM

Busy busy busy - Working working working
there just isn't enough time in the day to get everything done.
Miss Emily is changing daily too! I sometimes hate that I have to work and don't get to see her during the day.
You'll have to check out our blog to see how big she is - and she's finally getting some hair - now I can put bows in and make her girly.
I love fall - I can't wait till the weather get's a little cooler and crisp.

without

09-17-2008, 02:08 PM

is it Friday yet?

Momto3

09-17-2008, 02:12 PM

Why when you call a business and ask to speak to someone does the receptionist think that it is perfectly ok just to dump you in their voice mail?

Um...are they there?

Are they off today?

Are they just on another call and will call me back?

Should I sit here and hold my breath?

Arrrrrrggggh!

willsmama

09-17-2008, 02:24 PM

blech!

without

09-17-2008, 02:30 PM

What I hate is when I say... I am sorry Dr. P isn't in today may I take a message? and they say.... No please just send me to there voicemail! Ugh!! I then say ....I am her voice mail so would you like to leave a message or not! LOL

newmami

09-17-2008, 02:35 PM

I hate taking messages, but I always offer to have them call back or the voicemail... and YES I hate when I am dumped into a voicemail without any other information

Ok finally things calmed down and I was able to finish all I had to do, YAY!!

So guy about a thing thinks Dh is depressed... ACK!!! he would not ask for professional help, even though my Therapist is available or he can recommend someone.... I just need an emotional break from all this!!!

newmami

09-17-2008, 02:37 PM

So in the mornings on our way to daycare we usually see like 3-4 school buses picking up kids. Dani understands now the dynamics: the kids go up and the bus takes them to school... this morning she told me with a very sad puppy voice, that she wants to go in the bus and go to school :P

without

09-17-2008, 02:38 PM

Claudia do you think your DH would go to his regular Dr. and see about meds or are meds some thing he wouldn't do? I am so sorry he won't get help. :(

sarahlynn

09-17-2008, 02:50 PM

no lynn not acceptable..when someone calls and they ask for someone i always say they are not available do you want their voice mail..or they will be back so and so do you want their voice mail..

claudia..i know my dh is..but he cant admitt it and maybe doesnt know it.he is so used to being ok and fine..but i know he isnt..i need to ask him today if he talked to his doc about meds..i have my guy about at hing next wed..wish dh would go with me.

newmami

09-17-2008, 03:01 PM

No, he would not take anything for a stomach ache... we talked about this on Sunday and I told him he needed help... he refuses to get help because he should be able to take care of things... ummm no, sometimes you need help to sort your feelings out and help you see things straight (he is like mega messed up about himself right now!)

without

09-18-2008, 08:21 AM

Awww... Claudia! I am so sorry! Its so hard to get some people to see that the "Stronger" person is the one who ask for help not the one who thinks they can just tough it out.

Good morning evey one!

newmami

09-18-2008, 08:53 AM

Hi everybody!! we had a cooler morning today, it was actually nice to go out and not feel like you entered the steam room

DH and I had yet another conversation yesterday.... I told him I need to understand what is so wrong in his life... turns out it is just one thing and he is just making a whole production out of it, because he is having a dejavu from his ex wife..... my guy about a thing said yesterday that DH is self sabotaging.....
ack, sometimes he is more complicated than a woman!!!

without

09-18-2008, 09:07 AM

Oh, Claudia you know how I feel about your DH but on this one... well.. I have been there done that! Its hard not to bring some thoughts of your EX into the new relationship as hard as you try not to. I some times catch myself looking for "GRANT" traits in men and if I see any thing that might make me think of him I get mad or just toss them aside.

On the other hand if his dejauv is any thing sexual... um... no wonder its not you and its wasn't his EX but the way he treats females in general! Does that make any since?

sarahlynn

09-18-2008, 09:41 AM

claudia i wish your dh would see someone :( just give it a shot but i know he is like matt and its a big NO WAY...ugh men..i said to dh last night did you talk to your doc yet..ye says "about what" i was like huh come again??? than he says OH yeah i have an appt tuesday for a check i will talk to her than..

i have an appt wed..it seems so far away..

cy has all his doc appt tomarow..my belly always aches befoer them..i know he is fine and will be fine but stupid mama brain ruines those thoughts..

work is sooo slow today..

hey pam did you find out when grant is gettin out? anymore stuff going on with the courts?

newmami

09-18-2008, 10:06 AM

Pam, I do understand bringing some issues from the past relationship... I just wish by now he would know I am not his ex, and I am not walking away when things get ugly... I started picking his brain and that is why he realized it was not the end of the world and that what was bothering him was something quite simple, and most important, fixable...

I just wish he would stop making this huge drama about how his "life just ended", and realized that 1)it is not that bad, 2) it can be fixed, 3) he is overreacting

newmami

09-18-2008, 10:07 AM

I am ticked... about a month ago I reserved our Board room for a customer, we are hosting a meeting for them. The meeting is next Monday, and TODAY I was told the room was needed for an internal meeting and I had to call customer and cancel... they ask us to book online, I did, no one else paid attention to my booking and booked again!!

lexsmama

09-18-2008, 10:11 AM

Hey ladies, I'm here. I'll be on in a bit to tell you what I just heard from my boss. Interesting story. Ugh.

CandiceLeigh

09-18-2008, 10:13 AM

Hey everyone! Just popping in to say :hi:

Oh, and send your swap info! :happy:

willsmama

09-18-2008, 10:15 AM

Frustrating Claudia!

I am too afraid of giving gifts...I feel like I get the wrong thing for people. I like gettnig books, but some people hate it, yadda, yadda. I FEAR SWAPS! :)

without

09-18-2008, 10:30 AM

hey pam did you find out when grant is gettin out? anymore stuff going on with the courts?

Grant should get out November 25th. Sigh... so not only can he TRY to ruin Christmas but Thanksgiving too! As far as the papers well.. I have signed them and sent them to him to sign. If he will sign them than it should be no problem if he doesn't sign them... well... I am just screwed.

Yes, Claudia I know how you feel... I wish Mike would see I am NOTHING like his EX Carla and couldn't hurt some one the way she did. But alas the sting of Carla runs deep and I am havig to pay for the Crap she put him through!

OOOOOO Ashley do tell us abou the work thing! I hope they are not giving you a hard time!

Tracy, I stopped doing swaps for a while because I never felt like the things I bought were as good as what I got. LOL

CandiceLeigh

09-18-2008, 10:36 AM

Don't be silly Tracy! Most people are just grateful to get anything! It's so fun! :) I have your name on the list, but let me know if you want me to take it off.

Pam, sorry that sucks about G! :hugs:

willsmama

09-18-2008, 10:39 AM

You'd better take it off. I have my best friends wedding taking up all of my october!!! Maybe the next one.....if I can get rid of my fear. :)

newmami

09-18-2008, 10:39 AM

maybe we should do a swap between us... like for Christmas!!

Candice, do I still need to send you my info or you already have it?

willsmama

09-18-2008, 10:40 AM

maybe we should do a swap between us... like for Christmas!!

I'd love that.
:)

CandiceLeigh

09-18-2008, 10:45 AM

Ohh, I'd be so up for a swap between all of us!! :wub: I love that idea Claudia! I still have your address (it's the same right?) but I do need the kiddos sizes. :)

I'll take you off Tracy :(

newmami

09-18-2008, 10:51 AM

Kiddos sizes
Chris: 2T bottoms and tops
Dani: 5T, bottoms and tops

We should seriously talk about that Christmas swap!!!

Can someone please send me back the motivation to work??? ugh!!

lexsmama

09-18-2008, 10:57 AM

There's a swap?? Where??

without

09-18-2008, 10:59 AM

YES YES YES!!! Lets do a swat with the never ending girls!!! Whoot Whoot ! That would be fun to buy for because we know each other so well!!

lexsmama

09-18-2008, 11:10 AM

What'd I miss girls?

without

09-18-2008, 11:11 AM

Claudia... Recap girl!!! Ashley needs!!! LOL

lexsmama

09-18-2008, 11:12 AM

lol. That's usually me, but I'm so out of it. :lol:

newmami

09-18-2008, 11:12 AM

We missed you Ash...... :winks:

Candice was reminding us to send her the info for the Fall swap, then I had the idea to do one "petite commite" for Christmas :silly:

Could you please remind me to stay away from the BF forum?? thank you!! :cry:

without

09-18-2008, 11:21 AM

Stay away Claudia!!! :)
did that work?

lexsmama

09-18-2008, 11:43 AM

Stay away, Claudia!! Help any?

Momto3

09-18-2008, 11:46 AM

Hellllooooooooooooo

Sorry I've been in a meeting. Gaf!

lexsmama

09-18-2008, 11:48 AM

Okay, I have like 5 minutes to get through this and get back to work for a few.

I may have to put in my letter of resignation over all this. For some reason, the secretary of this dept always decides to do things when I'm gone. I missed 3 days in a row, and that has to be reported to Human Resources. I use up all my leave, and then they dock me pay for up to 3 days. My immediate supervisor told me she understood if I needed to quit for my health, or try making it up, or let them dock me the 6.75 hours. I open booked with her and told her all my ideas and plans, and she asked that if it were humanly possible, and she could make this a part time position, would I be willing to stay through the grant? I told her that might help with myself with almost having to go on blood pressure medicines and my eye twitching from all the stress since May, and with a toddler that is frequently sick.

She said it's all up to me, providing the chair approves what to do.

I'm a wreck today, and it's getting to me. BUT, we need the paycheck so we can buy a house soon. We need out of this place that we're in for our health.

Crud. I am lost, stressed, and uber tired. Why do they pull this crap during a natural disaster??

willsmama

09-18-2008, 12:09 PM

:hugs::hugs: sorry ash! :(

without

09-18-2008, 12:14 PM

Oh my gosh!!! What poo heads! Hugs my dear!

newmami

09-18-2008, 12:23 PM

Sorry about them being so insensitive Ash!! :hugs:
So let me get this straight, they want you there and they are willing to give you a part time? would you take that???

sarahlynn

09-18-2008, 12:29 PM

oh ashley i am sorry... :( (((hugs)))

a christmas swap with us girls sounsd great :) would give me tme to save soem money :)

Talliesue

09-18-2008, 12:32 PM

Hi Gals! so who's got weekend plans?
I so wish this was friday. I have to go out to find a present for a mommy friend of mine that just found out she has Hodgkins.
So what do you get someone to help them through their Chemo treatments?
I need some ideas ladies.
Lots of her friends are getting her tea, slippers, PJ's, warm socks, warm hats to keep her head warm when her hair falls out. I want to get something different.
I was thinking like a travel neck pillow, yummy smelling lotions, a small album for her family photos, sudoko book or CD. Small things she can take to with her to her treatments.
And I only have tonight and tomorrow to get something - all of us girlfriends are going to surprise her on Sat. morning with a big basket of love.
Do you gals have any ideas?

newmami

09-18-2008, 12:34 PM

What about vouchers for help? if she has kids, maybe you can give her a voucher for babysitting, or help to clean her house?
What about a gift certificate for a pedicure?

willsmama

09-18-2008, 12:59 PM

Yes, some sort of "relaxation" or 'Luxury"?

without

09-18-2008, 01:03 PM

Weekend plans?? More wedding stuff. :( Friday have to be fitted again (and so does Morgan) and then on Saturday is the Lingerie shower.

Oh man I bet that offering to clean house and cook for her family would be a HUGE help!

sarahlynn

09-18-2008, 01:13 PM

wow that sounds like a great thing to do for your friend...how sweet..ide do like yoiu said a relaxation basket? relaxing cd, lotions, bath stuff, puzzle books, maybe a good book, tea, ??

CandiceLeigh

09-18-2008, 01:23 PM

:hugs: Ashley. How awful of them.

newmami

09-18-2008, 01:43 PM

OMG is this day dragging or what??? ACK!!! it is not even 3 pm here

Talliesue

09-18-2008, 01:43 PM

I have already signed up to bring her family dinners and I know that she has a cleaning gal for the housecleaning - you know all my friends that are SAHM have cleaning ladies and I'm the only working mom in our group and I don't have one - maybe I should ask DH for one for Christmas.

I like the idea of a pedicure though! maybe a relaxing massage when she feels up to it would be nice too.

lexsmama

09-18-2008, 01:43 PM

Well, my immediate supervisor wants to try part time, but we don't know if it's possible yet. We will know Monday, I guess.

I'd say socks, cds, aromatherapy things, books, candles, ITunes gift card??

without

09-18-2008, 01:45 PM

i am starting to plan out our Halloween Party :)

willsmama

09-18-2008, 01:45 PM

Today is SLLLLOWWW.

CandiceLeigh

09-18-2008, 01:52 PM

:yawn: Barely about to be 2:00!

Talliesue

09-18-2008, 01:52 PM

i am starting to plan out our Halloween Party :)

oooo what kind of plans are you making?
I do an annual Halloween dinner with my family, I'm still trying to decide what to eat for this year's dinner that's somewhat easy to make with a toddler running a muck and on a Friday! Oye!

Talliesue

09-18-2008, 02:00 PM

Lunch time over in CA - I'm off to go nosh!

without

09-18-2008, 02:01 PM

oooo what kind of plans are you making?
I do an annual Halloween dinner with my family, I'm still trying to decide what to eat for this year's dinner that's somewhat easy to make with a toddler running a muck and on a Friday! Oye!
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Same here! I am planing what to cook so far I have pumpkin spice cake (got a new receipe out of "all*you" magiazine. And the night before Morgan and I always make candy apples. YUM'O Now I need to think what to serve as far as food.