You may think I am crazy but.........................

[lexsmama]

Glad you've peed! It's probably all the stress and irregular AFs.

[without]

2 months ago she lasted 3 stink'n weeks then last month I spoted for maybe a day and a 1/2 and then this month nothing.

[without]

Really 1/2 of it was probably the guilt over having sex! Ugh! That makes me think...

How do I walk that line as a mother .. Teaching Morgan that sex before marraige isn't the hotest idea but not making her feel guilty when she does have sex.

[Momto3]

How do I walk that line as a mother .. Teaching Morgan that sex before marraige isn't the hotest idea but not making her feel guilty when she does have sex.


Welcome to my world as a mother of a teen who has had it. I can only tell her how I feel and what my beliefs are but if it were to happen, then what's done is done and you make sure they know that you love them no matter what.

[sarahlynn]

Pottying will be done at bathrooms away from the cabin i guess .. lol i dont know..dig a hole

[without]

Growing up my mom preached the no sex, sex is BAD so long that I still feel guilt after sex even if its to a man I am married to. I don't want Morgan to have that.

[Momto3]

Pottying will be done at dig a hole

THAT is what I am afraid of....ewww

[Momto3]

Growing up my mom preached the no sex, sex is BAD so long that I still feel guilt after sex even if its to a man I am married to. I don't want Morgan to have that.

Totally understandable. So you can tell her the best idea would be to wait. But don't drum it into her head that sex is bad.

[lexsmama]

Growing up my mom preached the no sex, sex is BAD so long that I still feel guilt after sex even if its to a man I am married to. I don't want Morgan to have that.

I'm still working through that one. It about kills dh.

[without]

thats what I hope to do but I already see myself in conflict over her just touching her whoha. I mean I tell her not to because her hands are dirty or what not (if she is in the bath I don't say any thing) but come on her hands are so dirty after playing outside some times you just have to say eww... dont' touch your girly parts while you hands are dirty and smile at her. Its all I know to do but you just pray and hope your now scaring them for life by telling them not to touch themself!

[Momto3]

thats what I hope to do but I already see myself in conflict over her just touching her whoha. I mean I tell her not to because her hands are dirty or what not (if she is in the bath I don't say any thing) but come on her hands are so dirty after playing outside some times you just have to say eww... dont' touch your girly parts while you hands are dirty and smile at her. Its all I know to do but you just pray and hope your now scaring them for life by telling them not to touch themself!


Oh I don't think you are at all. You are not saying "Don't do that, that is bad" you are giving her a reason not to do it at certain times and then you let her do it when she is in the bath. She'll get the connection.

[newmami]

Oi, a serious conversation here huh???

I never had the sex talk with my mom, yet I never thought it was a bad thing... on my own I decided to wait until I was married, but curiosity got the best of me... do I regret it?? not really!! at least not the first time.... couple of guys in between, absolutely but nothing I can do about it....
When it comes to Dani, I want her to understand that sex is more than the physical part, that there needs to be an emotional connection, so it is worth it.... BTDT when it comes to sex without any feelings, and it is not nice..... it leaves you empty inside...... :ohno:

Anyways, YAY for the BFN!! I am sure it was all stress and apparently your hormones are a little messed up....yes talk to the OB Pam!

Sarah, you are braver than I am.... I could not stay on a place without running water and real beds.....

Vacations.... not sure if I told you but DH got all whaa whaa about me picking vac this year, so I said OK we cancel trip to Mexico, you decide (he guilted me into not going to see his family, but I know he really doesn't want to go).... so we were going to go to Vegas... but it is too darn expensive, so he said NEVER MIND and we are back to the plan of going to Mexico (because it is cheaper as we stay with my parents) :clap:. Best part is I KNEW the Vegas trip would not happen!!!

[sarahlynn]

yeah i agree, you arent telling her she is bad or doing somthing bad. Just say "your hands are dirty dont touch your bottom"

[lexsmama]

:clap: You knew, eh? How funny and YAY on staying with your parents!

[Momto3]

Yay Claudia!!! Reverse psychology. good for you!

[sarahlynn]

ok hang on am i the only whore here, who actually enjoys sex with no attachmetn :lol:

[without]

Humm... I don't enjoy sex with no attachment. I get to emotional when we add sex into the mix. yep I am one of those girls who mixes up love and sex. LOL

Well... Claudia I am glad your back on for Mexico. I wish Ms. M and I could go with you. :)

[sarahlynn]

Man not me..

ugh its only 2

[lexsmama]

I prefer attachment, myself.

[without]

Sarah honest... I wish I could have sex with out needing the attachment. But so far have not learned how. LOL

1 1/2 hours to go until job #2

[Momto3]

Oh when I was between DHs sex with no attachment was PERFECTO! They came to me, had sex and I kicked them to the curb when I was done. Um, no, sorry, you can't sleep over.

[bel]

How do I walk that line as a mother .. Teaching Morgan that sex before marraige isn't the hotest idea but not making her feel guilty when she does have sex.

I dont think the non sex before marriage teaching is a good idea, since if it´s doable is very uncommon and like a far away in the history plan...I do will teach mine how much responsability it takes for her own body, because of desease and unplanned pregnancies. To have sex I believe we have to be mature enought to be able to deal with the consecuenses if we fail. In other hand I wanna teach her how important is to feel the conection with the other person, from the soul. It´s a huge step and should take a lot of thinking...because sex means to give your most important belonging to someone else, your own body.
I wont give her one talk, I wanna teach her throw different stages of her development. I still dont have the guts, she havent asked either. This year they are learning reproductive organs at school, so I bet Im near "that conversation" *glup*


Growing up my mom preached the no sex, sex is BAD so long that I still feel guilt after sex even if its to a man I am married to. I don't want Morgan to have that.
Me either :dunno: I would never encourage to have sex either, but you get the point.

Oi, a serious conversation here huh???

I never had the sex talk with my mom, yet I never thought it was a bad thing...
we are back to the plan of going to Mexico
I never had it with my mom either, the most she told me was about periods but that´s all, she asumed they taught me in school I guess. Im sure she didnt talk with her mom about it ether.
Even now, I never talk with her about sex, even getting preggo makes me a lil shy LOL

Yayayya for Mexico!!! wooohooo!!!! andale, andale, andale!!! :cheer:

ok hang on am i the only whore here, who actually enjoys sex with no attachmetn :lol:
I havent tried it, so I cant compare :rolly:

Well Pam, Im happy you got what you wanted, but must say I was wishing you were preggo :wink: you make such beautiful babies, and are a great mama! babies are always a huge blessing :)

We had sex after lunch. No protection. Im nuts, it´s confirmed.

[without]

yeah for Bel and a nooner!!!

[lexsmama]

Bel... Are you still on your pills?

[bel]

nop :shock:
Im shaking, I just saw it´s day 15th.

[lexsmama]

Oh crapola. I bet O will freak. Hey, you make cute babies, though. So, how many do you have to miss or take late to have the chance to get preggo??

[bel]

Im not taking them at all, so I guess this is a regular cycle :shock: might ovulate on 15th? Im not sure and dont want to know either.

[without]

Ahh... Bel.. don't sweet it I have HPT I could send you LOL

[bel]

yeah i should test like lina on 2DPO :lol:

[sarahlynn]

HEY BEL we are in the same boat, i quit takin my pill this week.. :)

[bel]

werent we waiting 3 years? we are both nuts! :lol:

[lexsmama]

Okay, now I HAVE to miss pills to keep up with you two. HAHA

[sarahlynn]

werent we waiting 3 years? we are both nuts! :lol:

well i am NOT gettin pregnant for at least three years .. at this rate in my sex life it will be about three years before any BDin goes on.. :ohno:

oh well..i always wanted to be a nun :batman

[bel]

k, it´s gone.

[sarahlynn]

its 11:30 and i am ready for bed....waiting for luceas blankies to get out of the wash

[Momto3]

Morning ladies! Hump day!

Pam - Did you try the mint M&Ms?

[lexsmama]

Morning!

Lex still had nasty nightmares last night and dh chose to sleep in lex's room so I'd get rest. All I got was a crick in my neck! I can't look to the right today. lol. Tylenol me up!

They're putting a newspaper ad out on the nursery job...

[without]

Pam - Did you try the mint M&Ms?

Yes... and call me nuts but I like them but I don't think they should be called M&M's because they are nothing like them! LOL

OH no sorry to hear about Lex's bad night! and your neck!

OK so... I yard sale (great way to find clothes for Morgan) and stopped by one and Morgan saw some PJ's with Dinosours on them. They were boys PJ's but she fell in love with them and they were only 50 cents so I let her get them. Here is were the problem comes in. We have had them 4 days now and the kid wants to wear them all the time and she wont sleep in any thing else! Last night the only way I could get her out of them was to tell her that the dinosours needed to take a bath and her new Dora jammies from Aunt Claudia really missed her! Ugh! the things we make up to get things done. LOL

[Momto3]

Morning!

Lex still had nasty nightmares last night and dh chose to sleep in lex's room so I'd get rest. All I got was a crick in my neck! I can't look to the right today. lol. Tylenol me up!

They're putting a newspaper ad out on the nursery job...


Sorry about Lex's nightmares and your neck. Just turn left all day.

I'm sure they have to do that as a formality to get some sucky candidates in so they can see how wonderful you are Ashley. Keeping my fingers crossed!


Last night Katelyn woke up when DH and I went upstairs to go to bed. (Keep in mind her crib is in our room) So she is sobbing cuz she wants in our bed and he wants her to stay in her crib. I said "I am NOT going to listen to her cry" and brought her in our bed. DH was pissed. Too bad buddy...my baby comes first. So once she fell asleep he picks her up and puts her back in her crib which is fine with me, but I will NOT listen to her sob for me. She's so good at it too! "Mama pleease let me out! Mama pleeease let me out now!"

[lexsmama]

:lol: Yep, my sister was the same way with her receiving blanket. If you washed it, she wouldn't talk to you for days. It took "the smell" out. Ick! All you can do is keep on what you're doing!

[lexsmama]

Sorry about Lex's nightmares and your neck. Just turn left all day.

I'm sure they have to do that as a formality to get some sucky candidates in so they can see how wonderful you are Ashley. Keeping my fingers crossed!


Last night Katelyn woke up when DH and I went upstairs to go to bed. (Keep in mind her crib is in our room) So she is sobbing cuz she wants in our bed and he wants her to stay in her crib. I said "I am NOT going to listen to her cry" and brought her in our bed. DH was pissed. Too bad buddy...my baby comes first. So once she fell asleep he picks her up and puts her back in her crib which is fine with me, but I will NOT listen to her sob for me. She's so good at it too! "Mama pleease let me out! Mama pleeease let me out now!"

You're the best, Lynn. I'm just paranoid. :lol:

And yes, I will be going left around the world today!

Aaaw, your baby needed you! Dh can deal. :silly:

[without]

I agree!!! DH can deal with it! LOL

I still sit beside Morgans bed until she falls alseep (if she ask me too) and she is 2 years old! I see nothing wrong with helping your babies get to sleep. ;)

[without]

OH did I tell you Morgan has decided she wants hermit crabs!!! Eeeekkkk YUCK!

any one know any thing about them. Guess I'll be reading up on them today.

[Momto3]

OH did I tell you Morgan has decided she wants hermit crabs!!! Eeeekkkk YUCK!

any one know any thing about them. Guess I'll be reading up on them today.


Yes, I know about them! My teens love them and we went to the Petsmart to get dog food and Shelly was holding one and it pinched the crap out of the palm of her hand! They also can spread some type of germ too. Yuck! I don't recommend them, but that is just me.

[sarahlynn]

:lol: Yep, my sister was the same way with her receiving blanket. If you washed it, she wouldn't talk to you for days. It took "the smell" out. Ick! All you can do is keep on what you're doing!

Cy is the same way..he doesnt now want his Dee Dal Dee's (blankies) washed because it takes the smell out of them :X not that they smell horrible but he is a smelly little boy :rolly:

HOLY **** i just called to see about having a company come out and clean our couch the sais starts at $120 OMG doesnt that seem outrageous to me..thats the same as carpets..i wonder if you can rent one of those cleaners at the grocery store and use that on the furniture..

[Momto3]

Not sure I would use the carpet thingy from the store on the couch Sarah...it doesn't seem to always get all the water out of the carpets, ya know? I just imagine a squishy couch.

Hmmm I wonder how Stacy, Tara and Zack are doing?

[sarahlynn]

:( i miss stacy and tara and zach...


yeah i was wondering about the water, hmm i wonder if it would stay in there. i might give DH a call and see what he thinks..

[sarahlynn]

i was gonna look the cleaners up online those shampooers you can rent at the grocery store..what the heck is the brand of them..

[lexsmama]

Can you rent a carpet cleaner?

Btw, hermit crabs are awesome! And so easy to keep.

And I still sit next to lex's bed, too. Last night, I crashed on teh floor next to him! :lol: I wasn't a happy mama when dh woke me...

[sarahlynn]

we used to have fiddler crabs..they were wacky and the best to watch..but man i cant do anymore animals :)

[lexsmama]

they even come with painted shells sometimes! yee haw!

[sarahlynn]

Man i realized this morning on the way to to work i have some really long nose hairs..wtf is that about..

well just emailed MIL asking her if she wanted to help with the playhouse for lucea..i hate doing that..i hate telling someone what to buy ya know but she always asks what they want or need..if her and us and my parnets split it that woudl be $40 a piece..not to much huh?

[lexsmama]

that wouldn't be bad at all!

[Momto3]

Sounds good Sarah!

[lexsmama]

so, lunch?

I have a sandwich, baked cheetos and baby gerkin pickles.

[without]

Sarah are you thinking of Rug DR???

Lunch for me is green beans and those little home made pizza you make with cresent rolls. I used light cheese and no peperoni or olives. :(

[without]

Has any one seen hide or hair of Claudia???? I hope Chris is feeling OK!!!

[lexsmama]

me too. I hope she got to stay home with him if he isn't.

[Momto3]

No sight of Claudia at all!

Lunch, you guessed it...grilled chicken, coleslaw and an orange.

[without]

Lynn your a saint for sticking with the grilled chicken for so long! That or your DH is one killer cook when it comes to chicken!!!

[Momto3]

Lynn your a saint for sticking with the grilled chicken for so long! That or your DH is one killer cook when it comes to chicken!!!


Yeah he does switch it up a bit with the spices and somestimes we have tuna instead of chicken. He made homemade sauce and meatballs for the kids to have macaroni for dinner tonight...I want sauce!

[Momto3]

Do you guys think you could leave your child at an airport?

I was reading an article online that said this family left their 23 month old boy at the Vancouver aiport cuz they were in a hurry and throught the other members of the family had him and they didn't figure it out until they reached Winipeg because the family was scattered on the plane!

OMG don't you think someone might have said "Have you got Little Johnny?"

[lexsmama]

Have you tried making talapia or salmon packets?

On a foil or parchment section, put a piece of fish in the middle. Add chopped garlic, onion or onion powder, basil, parsley, lemon juice and olive oil. Close up packet and bake for 15-30 minutes, or until fish is flaky. Serve with potatoes or rice. Yum.

[lexsmama]

Do you guys think you could leave your child at an airport?

I was reading an article online that said this family left their 23 month old boy at the Vancouver aiport cuz they were in a hurry and throught the other members of the family had him and they didn't figure it out until they reached Winipeg because the family was scattered on the plane!

OMG don't you think someone might have said "Have you got Little Johnny?"


Ummm... no! Sounds like a bad version of Home Alone to me..

[sarahlynn]

WOW that is nuts, i cant imagine that happened but stranger stuff has happened. Wouldnt you notice on the flight he was not there?

MIL agreed to go in with us for the playhouse for lucea..:)

Im having a turkey salami samich a cheese stick and some grapes..mmmmm

[without]

Um... I am a mama of one so I can't see ever losing her like that but on the other hand if it was the Dugger family I could so see one of them getting left behind. LOL

[sarahlynn]

YES PAM the rug doctor

[lexsmama]

rug doctor? what'd I miss?

[Jenny]

Hi :)

Lynn, I just read that article and posted it in random. WTF. I don't understand how that happens. :ohno:

I'm hungry. I made stuffed cabbage rolls for dinner last night. I think I'll heat one of those up.

[without]

I have used the Rug DR on my sofa but it took a while for it to dry. but it wasn't soaking wet.

[Momto3]

Agreed Jenny I don't get it either. We are always looking around making sure someone has a hand on her at ALL times!

[Momto3]

Have you tried making talapia or salmon packets?

On a foil or parchment section, put a piece of fish in the middle. Add chopped garlic, onion or onion powder, basil, parsley, lemon juice and olive oil. Close up packet and bake for 15-30 minutes, or until fish is flaky. Serve with potatoes or rice. Yum.

Sounds yummy Ashley. I love tilapia but for some reason this diet place says we can't have it.

[lexsmama]

Aaaw, I'm sorry!

[without]

sigh... is this day ever going to end???

[Momto3]

sigh... is this day ever going to end???

eventually :clap:

[without]

I just need some sleep. I think I am going to take a nap as soon as the boss steps out.

[lexsmama]

Yeah, I tried that. She came in laughing. I get to go home at 2:45, though.

[CandiceLeigh]

:hi: Hey everyone, just wanted to let ya'll know I'm still alive! Love ya'll!

[Momto3]

:hi: Hey everyone, just wanted to let ya'll know I'm still alive! Love ya'll!

Glad you are checking in Candice! Love you!

[lexsmama]

hi candice! love you bunches!!

I'm on apa from home tomorrow. Lex has his last day of school today and his end of year program at 9 in the morning. Twinkle Twinkle has to be adorable!!

I'm about to go get him.

[Momto3]

You guys is the picture in my signatue of my girls huge?

I can't get it to resize...

[CandiceLeigh]

I don't see girls, just Katelyn and Tyler and it's normal size to me.

[Momto3]

I don't see girls, just Katelyn and Tyler and it's normal size to me.


Thanks I deleted it because it looked huge and I didn't want to get yelled at by any mods.

[sarahlynn]

Jenny i need more just tomato garlic..i use that on everything..

[without]

I just woke up from my nap... It was an hour long but now I want another one. LOL Oh well I go home in about 20 minutes maybe the sun will wake me up.

Candice!!! So nice to see you! How ya been girly!!! I have been a bad friend I have not text you since Sunday!!!

Oh... I wish I could go see Lex's program!!

[CandiceLeigh]

Hey Pam, you don't have to text me every day! I know you love me! :happy:

[sarahlynn]

its huge now ..

[without]

Oh so now you think I am annoying aye!!! LOL Just kidding!!!

[sarahlynn]

candice how are you???

[Momto3]

Hmmm I wonder how Stacy, Tara and Zack are doing?


Ok I am going to quote myself but...how bizarre is this...I was just asking about them and Stacy just called me!

They are all good. Tara is feeling good! Stacy has just been really busy with work and school and getting ready for the baby!

I always knew I was telepathetic, but who knew I was telepathic too!

[bel]

I wonder about them every day too Lynn :( I miss Stacy so much :cry:

[CandiceLeigh]

candice how are you???

Hey! I'm pretty good. Just feel like I'm floating in limbo right now...:dunno:Ugh DH, I want to kick you in the head! Repeatedly...

Pam, you're not annoying! :P

Aww, so great to hear from Stacy. I've been wondering how she's doing. She PMed me last week to check up on me, but I hadn't heard from her since.

[sarahlynn]

Candice,

yeah i feel ya, its a hard situation where your at. Not over and not new yet. Just hang in there, you have one lucky little man there to have such a wondeful mama..

[CandiceLeigh]

:hugs:Thanks Sarah.

[sarahlynn]

well ladies 15 minutes and this woman is heading home..well i have a PTA meeting so to that first i guess..than home..im so ready for the weekend already..im thinking of takin 1/2 a day off on friday..what ya think? good idea? just to lounge around and spend time at home with DH

[Momto3]

Morning Ladies!

Absolutely Sarah take 1/2 friday off! When do they start you leaving at noon on Fridays anyways?

[without]

Sarah!! Go for it !!!

:)

[newmami]

Hey ladies!! I am back at the office
Stayed home yesterday because Chris was super clingy and needed to be held 24/7, and for obvious reasons the daycare lady could not comply
he is doing better now, thank you Dimettap!!!! still sick, but at least his throat and nose are clearing up

Dh is coming back today.... is it bad that I am not overly excited about it???

Anyways, yesterday I had a productive day while Chris slept, I cleaned my house BIG TIME!!! and I had the cutest helper ever!! (Dani)

[Momto3]

Welcome back Claudia! Glad Chris is on the mend!

[willsmama]

I'm back! No time to be on right now, but I'll update you all later! HI!

[Momto3]

Welcome back Tracy! How was NO? How were the Beignets?

[newmami]

WELCOME BACK TRACY!!! let us know how the trip went when you have time

[sarahlynn]

Hey Claudia welcome back, glad to hear things are ok at your house.


LADIES drum roll please :) 138.6 this morning EEEEEEEEEEEEEK! I'm down 11.4 lbs..


AND YAY i just took tomarow off to get a pedicure, clean my house, maybe get a massage..

[Momto3]

Go Sarah!!! What are you doing that is making this weight just melt off of you?

[without]

Welcome back Tracy

Aww... Poor Chris!! Don't you love it when they help clean house!! I bet Dani was a doll. Claudia... its confession time... I just got your check off in the mail today! I was so lazy I didn't want to have to go buy a stamp. Forgive me??? :)

Sarah!! Whoot Whooot Way to go on the weight loss!

[newmami]

Which check Pam???????? :huh:
Yes Dani has been a doll, so helpful and understanding... this morning I was finishing getting ready and Chris was in their room and started crying, Dani came to me and said "Mami, Chris room.....", I told her I would be there, and she went to keep him company (she also helps getting tissues and binky for Chris, and keeps telling him "it is ok Chris") :wub:

I saw a show yesterday on Discovery health called "the truth about food".... OMG I don't want to eat processed food EVER again!!!! :yuk:

[without]

Oh, I know I watched how they make bologna once and it was so nasty!!! No more fried Bologan sands. for me and I used to love those!

[sarahlynn]

Go Sarah!!! What are you doing that is making this weight just melt off of you?

I LOVE TO EAT!! so i really had to cut back on calories to loose the weight..i cant wait tilli get to my targer weight and i can eat eat eat again :) i said 135 but really would like to try for 130...i need to find a website that tells you your ideal weight..anyone got a link


YAY took tomarow off and i have my pedicure scheduled for 8:45 :)

[Momto3]

...i need to find a website that tells you your ideal weight..anyone got a link


So weird that you asked that. I just found a cool one but I will pm you since I don't know if we can post them here.

[without]

http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm

[sarahlynn]

How sad is this, i worked out tuesday and you guys when i sit to long at work i can barely walk it hurts so bad..if that isnt a sign to me i am out of shape than nothing is..i have no excuse to NOT work out at least 3 times a week..ok excpet maybe lack of time :)

whats for lunch..

someone brought bread from the breadpoets..mmm cinnamon and sugar bread..lord that cant be healthy..

well the one page i went to said for my height between 115-150 was a good weight..now if that isnt a wide range what is..the other site said 130 was ideal..hmmm

[lexsmama]

hey! i will post video in the morning when i have a better connection. it was so cute! yay sarah! take the day tomorrow! glad to see you clau and tracy! we are about to take a nap. will post in a bit.

[sarahlynn]

anyone have any weekend plans?

The weather here is supposed to be beautiful!!!

[newmami]

No weekend plans, I just need to go get a book for food ideas for toddlers... that show seriously freaked me out about processed foods!!

Sarah, yay for the day off to pamper yourself... I may need one of those soon.... I need to dye my hair and get a decent pedicure!

[Momto3]

Mine was 94 - 124 pounds.

[newmami]

I am not even going to see my ideal weight because I am going to cry........

Lets just say I want to go back to a comfortable size 12... THAT would make me super happy!!!!

What I don't like about those tables is that they don't take into consideration your genes and how you are built.... I would NEVER be a skinny person!!!

[sarahlynn]

man i did nothing but drive around my lunch hour...i just had time to cram my samich down now that i amback at work..ugh i hate rushing..

so whats up ladies this afternoon...

[CandiceLeigh]

You guys, I'm soooo upset right now. :crying: Today is DH's day off and we had already discussed that on his days off he would spend the WHOLE day with Chris. Well fast forward to today, I took Chris to daycare in the morning and I assumed that DH would be there to get him early in the afternoon (like 11-12) and I tried calling and texting him to get an exact time. He NEVER answered any of my calls and texts and I finally got a hold of him just now. Apparently he's been asleep all day (it's 1:30 here) because they had a work dinner last night and then all the guys stayed out late drinking. :crossed: Now I knew about the dinner (which BTW he didn't visit last night because of it) but I was really hoping that he wouldn't stay out all night drinking when he knew that he was supposed to have Chris the next day. My heart is absolutely breaking for Chris right now and I'm so glad I didn't tell him that daddy was going to be picking him up. :( I just feel like DH is being so selfish and not taking Chris into consideration at all.

When I finally got him on the phone I asked him why he didn't call me and he said, "Candice, I don't have to check in with you." That's not what I meant! I meant, "Hello you a$$hole, today is your day with your son that you don't even see every day and you'd rather nurse a hangover all day than be with him!" I wish I could have told him that, but I'm at work and there was someone in the room, so I just hung up the phone. I don't know if he's going to come get the car seat (We only have 1) but I'm just wanting to go get my baby and keep him away from his loser dad. I literally feel sick. I'm pretty sure they'll will be a BIG fight tonight because I just will not let this go.

Once again, sorry for just popping in here to complain.

[newmami]

Candice, I am so sorry Chris was such a butt.... like you said, you are only thinking about your LO.... at least he wasn't expecting Daddy to be there for him :(
It is so hard to deal with men who are so selfish they cannot make time for their children, or whose things are higher than their kids in the priority list (I know, I have one of those :pokey:)

Vent away sweetie, remember that is what friends are for!!
:hugs:

[CandiceLeigh]

Thanks Claudia, my heart is just aching right now. It literally hurts and I'm doing my best not to cry here at work.

He just called and said he'll by in a bit to get the car seat. Whatever.

[newmami]

I hope at some point he realizes his selfishness is only hurting his relationship with Chris

After 2.5 years, my Dh is noticing how the kids do not relay on him when they need comfort... that has to hurt!!!
See the other day Dani was crying at night, I was on the phone with my parents, so DH went to see her.... NOTHING!!! so I ran upstairs (with the phone), my mom talked to her and then I hung up... I talked with Dani for couple of seconds and she calmed down.... and she would NEVER call for Daddy when she is upset, scared, hurt, it is ALWAYS me (same with Chris)

[sarahlynn]

I'm so sorry Candice, i hate to say i know how you feel but i do :( and it hurts. It hurts to see them make such stupid choices and pick such assanign things like partying over their children. :( im sorry girl ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))) hang in there

[sarahlynn]

where is everyone its so slow in here right now...

EEEEEEE it snack time :clap: granola bar here i come


OMG you all will be so proud of me..my boss just asked if i wanted some ice cream..i said NOOOOOOO

[newmami]

WTG Sarah!!! strong will power, Love it!

I was actually working, now I am on my way out... hoping Chris is better, and I am not too thrilled to see DH....

[CandiceLeigh]

I'm here! Just being mopey. Good for you turning down ice cream! I'm probably about to have some myself here in a bit...:shame:

I am so ready for this weekend! I can't wait to go to Sea World! Plus, I get to meet Katie & Abby!! :clap: I'm taking tons of pics!!

[Momto3]

Yay for Sarah turning down Ice Cream!

Candice - I say this in the most loving way and consider me the voice of experience, but...as much as it pains you, you are going to have to let ex-DH formulate his own relationship (or lack thereof) with Chris on his own. As much as it hurts to see this, thank God Chris did not know DH was supposed to get him. But even if he did, that is all apart of how he will come to feel about his Dad. Its nothing you can make happen, but just be there for your little one so he knows who his rock is and who will always be there for him. Hugs hunny!

[Momto3]

Candice - I hope I didn't piss you off.

[CandiceLeigh]

Candice - I say this in the most loving way and consider me the voice of experience, but...as much as it pains you, you are going to have to let ex-DH formulate his own relationship (or lack thereof) with Chris on his own. As much as it hurts to see this, thank God Chris did not know DH was supposed to get him. But even if he did, that is all apart of how he will come to feel about his Dad. Its nothing you can make happen, but just be there for your little one so he knows who his rock is and who will always be there for him. Hugs hunny!

I understand what you're saying, it just hurts me to see DH's lack of caring. One good or maybe not so good thing, is Chris really doesn't saying anything (like, Dada?) on those nights that DH doesn't come over. It's like he's already used to not seeing him too much because he's always worked long hours. Honestly, this hasn't seemed to affect Chris at all. He's been fine without DH around, I'm just afraid it will in the long run.

If you don't mind me asking, what happened with you and your ex-DH? Do the kids still see him?

[CandiceLeigh]

Candice - I hope I didn't piss you off.

Yeah right! I take everything you say to heart because I known you've been thru it already! I am sooooo grateful for your advice about all this crap. :hugs:

[CandiceLeigh]

Ok, so it's 4:15 and DH called at 2:00 saying he would be a little bit longer but that he was going to get Chris soon. I text him just a bit ago to see if he had him and he said no. :shocker: So I text him back and wrote, "You are such a piece of $hit. Don't even bother coming over tonight. We don't need you." Was I too harsh? Oh wait, I don't effing care! :wtf:

[sarahlynn]

OH no i dont think you were to harsh at all...in fact i think you were very polite and nice considering the situation :)

its hard candice it really is..matt saw cyrus a few times a year 2-3 when he moved away, he came up and visited for a week about at a time..cy didnt think negative of him he just knew thats how it was. I didnt talk negative about him i let cy formulate his own thoughts on dad..and i was there if he was upset or whatever. Which honestly cy took everything in stride and did fine through the whole thing. A lot has to do with your attitude and how you handle things. Hang in there hun, im sorry again he is doing this what a asshat..

[lexsmama]

Nope Candice, you're just fine! Not too harsh or anything. I do agree with Lynn, though. I'm so sorry you're going through this! hugs!

[sarahlynn]

night ladies, it late i just finished making our shirts for the ms walk. I will post pics after we do the walk :) or before if i get time to take some of the kids..

im off to bed its 11:30

[lexsmama]

Morning.

I'm home again today. Mil couldn't watch Lex today. Michael's Mema was put in the hospital again yesterday with fluid on her lungs and not being able to breathe again. We met them at the ER yesterday and she was so pale and tired looking. I called my boss yesterday and let her know. So, I'm home.

We get our van today. I never in a million years thought I'd be driving a mini van! It's 2 years old. Good grief. But, I AM fortunate MIL wants to share it.

Good news and bad news on the job. The preacher wants to take this opportunity to change and fix up the children's ministry, and link it to the preschool like it should have been before, so they're not hiring until late summer. They have the position temporarily open for 6 hours a week at $10 an hour. Lynn didn't think I wanted that. I told her hours didn't matter. Happiness is what matters to me right now, not a 40 hour work week. She said she offered the summer to another girl, but to talk to dh about it all. She did say my letter of application and resume were good... i'm just tired of everything messing up my tummy.

[Momto3]

If you don't mind me asking, what happened with you and your ex-DH? Do the kids still see him?

I don't mind you asking at all.

My teens are from my first marriage. Let's just say that man doesn't have a responsible bone in his body...and he is 51 years old. We were raised different and wanted different things from life. Yes, the kids still see him (unfortunately I do too every time I take my son there and pick him up.) When they were little he would pick them up from school on Monday nights and thursday nights, they would sleep over and then he would take them back to school Tuesday morning and Friday mornings. He worked in the restaurant business so weekends he needed to work. And the schedule worked for us.

Fast forward to 2003 and he loses his driver license so now whenever the kids needed to go there (which turned around to weekends) I have to take and pick them up. He started living in some "not so savory" places so my DD started refusing to go and stay there. My son saw it as an adventure. He still does. So now Shelly has the relationship with him where she calls him up and asks for money for this or that and he can't open his wallet fast enough. My son goes there every weekend to see his Dad and to this day STILL has not received a christmas or birthday present (his birthday was in feb). Breaks my heart because he is old enough now and sees his Dad bend over backwards for his sister who doesn't give her father the time of day, but Tyler who is true to his Dad...gets the shaft.

Bottom line is as long as they aren't in danger, you can talk to the exes until we are blue in the face. We will get "yes ma'am'd" and then they are going to do whatever it is they are going to do because we have no control over them and their lives.

All we can do is be there for our kids. Hugs hun!

[Momto3]

Morning.

I'm home again today. Mil couldn't watch Lex today. Michael's Mema was put in the hospital again yesterday with fluid on her lungs and not being able to breathe again. We met them at the ER yesterday and she was so pale and tired looking. I called my boss yesterday and let her know. So, I'm home.

We get our van today. I never in a million years thought I'd be driving a mini van! It's 2 years old. Good grief. But, I AM fortunate MIL wants to share it.

Good news and bad news on the job. The preacher wants to take this opportunity to change and fix up the children's ministry, and link it to the preschool like it should have been before, so they're not hiring until late summer. They have the position temporarily open for 6 hours a week at $10 an hour. Lynn didn't think I wanted that. I told her hours didn't matter. Happiness is what matters to me right now, not a 40 hour work week. She said she offered the summer to another girl, but to talk to dh about it all. She did say my letter of application and resume were good... i'm just tired of everything messing up my tummy.

Ashley I hope Michael's Mema is doing better. I will pray for her.

Welcome to the world of Minivan Moms! I love how much "stuff" I get in the van. Especially when you end up having another little one!

Try not to stress about the position. Good things come to those that wait and whatever is meant to be will happen. Relax and enjoy the ride!


I am such a cliche artiste!

[lexsmama]

Nah, not cliche.

I'm just ready to get out of this job and be happy again. Until then, I have lots f vacation hours. LOL.

As for the minivan, I know Lex likes it, so it'll be okay. It's about time we don't have cute little "alone married people" cars anymore.. lol.

[Momto3]

Its going to be so slow today. Sarah is off getting her pedicure..


Where is Bel, Claudia, Candice and Pam?

[newmami]

Hey ladies, it is Friday!!!!

Candice, I do not have personal experience,but I agree in allowing DH develop (or not) a relationship with Chris... if he is an absent parent, Chris will figure it out pretty soon.... I see that with DH's son! and even with my kids, Daddy is there for only couple of minutes

Ash, sorry about Michael's Mema, I hope she gets better soon!!
and about the job, I agree with Lynn, the perfect job will show up in no time!! :hugs:
And congratulations on getting a Mommy van!!! you are on the right path to be a soccer mom!! :clap: (I love my minivan BTW)

I had an awful night, Chris woke up coughing, DH went to see him the second time and Dani woke up, calling for me.... so up I go, then she was restless all night, calling me couple more times... :sleepy:

So Dh came back yesterday, and apparently he didn't missed me or the kids that much... he hugged both of them and carried Chris for like 5 min because he was cranky, but DH gets upset that Chris is so Clingy, so he leaves me to take care..... then he went to his stupid computer while I made dinner... and then comes back acting surprised "oh I was going to make dinner"... sure dude, whatever........... :pokey:
At this point, I am too annoyed with him to even want him close..... ugh!! I either need to get out of this funk or make a decision

And his son is coming this weekend..... GREAT......... :headbang:
I think I am going to put up the kiddies pool and let them enjoy it for a while

So here is my confession of the day, I am secretly jealous of Candice and Pam, because they do not have to deal with a DH!!! :shame:

[without]

Candice!!! My gosh! ugh!!! I know just how you feel! I dread with EX gets out of the pin! I don't want him hurting Morgan but I know it will happen. Hugs! How did last night go.

Yep as much as I hate mini vans... Morgan loves her grandma's van lol.

OK girls I will try to make this short...
*year 1/2 ago I took out a 10 thousand dollar loan to built the "Claudia Room" I took 4, 000 out in cash and left the rest in the bank so as not to have to pay intrest on it or to have to make payments on the part I wasn't ready to use.
*contractor that was working on the job screwed me over and didn't finish and my dad and I have been doing the work ourself and its taking forever! But now we have the finishing touches left so I need to take out a little of that money I had left in the bank
* yesterday I get a letter from the bank sayin g my line of credit is suspended due to a din on my credit report of 13 months of non payment! I was like WTH!!!! I have 2 credit cards Lowes (it has a credit on it of 2 dollars where I over payed) and Lane Bryant (it has a credit on it of 25 dollars where I forgot and paid the bill twice) as you can see i am very anal about making sure I keep my credit spotless!!
*I pull my credit report to see what in the world is going on and there it is a Discover card with almost 7,000 dollars of debt in my name. I Discover and tell them that I don't have a discover card yet is is showing up on my credit report. And you guessed it ... come to find out it was EX who had before he went to prison run up the credit card but put it in my name!!! So now I have to fight the whole thing and once again the building project is on hold. And I have huge bills to pay. I bet I owe one company 1,000 for stuff the delivered the other day and now the bank has suspended my credit line with no notice! Sigh....

[without]

Claudia.... I don't blame you!! Now that its been a year 1/2 I feel so blessed to not have to worry about a DH!! If it were not for wanting another baby and some one to do adult things with every once in a blue moon I don't think I would ever date again!!! All I need are my girl friends really guys are so over rated. LOL

[Momto3]

Where is all that stuff he ordered with that card?

[without]

Evidently 5,000 of it was to pay for have of his defince atterney. :pokey:

[newmami]

Eeks Pam, I am so sorry about the whole mess with Grant.... UGH!!! :po:
My best advise is to call Discover and let them know your ex STOLE your identity and opened a card under your name.... as far as I know, you are going to need to press charges, otherwise they will not pursue (sad but true) :pokey:

Thanks for understanding!!! :ty:

[without]

Discover is going to go after him when he gets out. It will take around 72 hours to get it off my credit report but they have done the steeps to get it off. I guess I am more creditable than he is seeing as how his is in prison! LOL

[bel]

Hi girls! :D yesterday was holiday here MDay!!! I got a heair iron :gome: It isnt pink since O went and asked for the best they had and they told him the Philips Jade was the best in the market to avoid heating too much the highlights...so that´s what he got me and it´s awesome, has a case and everything :P Ceci made me a wood plate to place under hot pans and containers, she is such a sweet heart, kept saying "te amo mami!" all day :wub:

Sad note...well not sad but bummer.
So we needed some good sex after having santi for 2 years in our bed, which we actually have from time to time but not as often as we would like...so I told O maybe we should rent a porn movie, try new things, just to fool arround, he went and picked a movie :shock: and came back.
So we watched it together but the kids werent sleep already (they were playing in the playing room while we were lock out in our room) I dont like that stuff that much, but does get me in the mood.
Then Santi was with us, we tried to make him sleep and we were very tired, we both woke up at 6am...so we all slept:headbang:
Then yesterday morning, after the congrats, presents, and all, kids were up and playing again...he said "we should do what we didnt yesterday" and I was like "YES YES!" lol so we did until he said "Im so ready" and I said "Im not WTF? we just started"...but I told you Im gonna do what you want to until you finish but you will make it up to me tonight ( mean I didnt O, at all) and he said "yeah". Of course he didnt.
Sorry might seem stupid but I feel sad about it. Had to take it out :(
Im so mad at him. It suposed to be about me, right? Wasnt MY day? :huh:

You all sorry about moron DHs and ex DHs, men can be such a dorks sometimes.

Ill miss you Saratoo, you made me remember I have a pedicure appointment on tuesday. The lady comes to my home, so I shouldnt forget it...

[newmami]

Bel, I am sorry about the fiasco with DH.... do you feel comfortable talking to him about it?
I am not a good person to give sex advise, because I have no desire right now, so if it is all about DH, I am fine, I just want him to leave me alone!!!

Our server is having some major issues today and my outlook is on and off.... grrr!!!! :headbang: I guess I should go make those 2000000 copies....

BEL, FELIZ DIA DE LAS MAMIS!!!

[Momto3]

Sorry Bel. Mother's Day should be about you...but with porn, sometimes it makes the men ready before we are...

[without]

:truce:i feel blue :headbang::yuk:

[Momto3]

:truce:i feel blue :headbang::yuk:


Why? What's going on?

Blue? You want to hear blue...I've had 1064 calories of my 1200 calorie a day diet so far...blech and its not even lunch!

[newmami]

Can I join your blue day Pam??????????
:grouphug:

[without]

I dont' know... I think part of it is stressing out over the money thing but another part of it is here comes another weekend where all I will do is work. Gas is to high to be driving back into Fayetteville to go window shopping even if I felt up to it. I feel like with two jobs all I ever do is work. Morgan and I can make any thing fun because I try to make every thing a fun game for her. But I know that even though she is having fun vacuming up dog hair with the shop vac. its not really fun for me. LOL

[newmami]

Awww Pam, I hear you... all we do on the weekends is run errands, and then house work.....
But on the bright side, next weekend is a 3 day weekend!! so you have an extra day to do nothing!!!

[bel]

Bel, I am sorry about the fiasco with DH.... do you feel comfortable talking to him about it?
I am not a good person to give sex advise, because I have no desire right now, so if it is all about DH, I am fine, I just want him to leave me alone!!!
BEL, FELIZ DIA DE LAS MAMIS!!!
Gracias Clau. Well I can talk about this with him without problem, I already did. He said we will do it tonight :duh: I hate begging for sex KWIM? makes me feel so stupid. I enjoy tons he should feel acomplished right?
He is just insensitive, he doenst know how to say things to make me feel better...men!

:truce:i feel blue :headbang::yuk:

So sorry sweetie :comfort: You know where to find me if you need to talk and get it out! :love:

[without]

just looked for you on MSN and your no where to be found LOL

[newmami]

can someone please PM me your MSN address? I want to see if I can add you on the messenger we have at work!!

[newmami]

*** crickets *** *** crickets ***

[Momto3]

I am here

[lexsmama]

mine's lexsmama@live.com, Clau.

Lex took his nap early and slept 2 hours! So did I. :angel:

[lexsmama]

Wanted ya'll t read what I send the lady at church after yesterday's conversation. Did I do alright?

Afternoon L,

I talked to Michael yesterday, and he agreed with me: happiness is
worth a million times more than a 40 hour work-week pay check. The
children make me happy when I am able to settle them when hungry,
tired, or a scraped knee. Even when they giggle from something funny
I've done. I didn't realize that they 4 & 5 year olds were so
imaginative and creative, and I tried to touch that on the days I had
them. The lights in their eyes are what keeps me going some days. I've
learned so much from the little ones that you've allowed me to teach
and learn from.

I know it doesn't mean much, but I have been thinking about all of
this and just wanted you to know how I feel.

Thank you for helping me and keeping me in touch with the director
position and everything else you do.

I hope you have a wonderful weekend,
Ashley

[newmami]

Oi, I would KILL for a nap!!
Ash, I sent you a message, see if you got it!

I have one of those digital frames at work and the picture showing was Dani eating cake... now I want chocolate cake!!

I am picking up the kids and going to Target, need couple of things, and I am in no mood to see dh

ETA, sounds good Ash!! it was very honest and very emotional
Keeping my fingers crossed for you

[lexsmama]

Mmmm... cake.

Thank you Clau. I just wrote what I felt today. I'm tired of all this hoop jumping.

I haven't gotten anything, but I'm online now.

[Momto3]

I agree...Sounds good Ashley and at leat now she knows where you stand if it isn't a full time gig, she won't count you out. I want cake too...or twinkies...

[without]

humm... I would love to be going to Target! I love that store but never go because I end up buying things I don't need. :)

[without]

Claudia whats yours and I will try adding you as a friend

[lexsmama]

or swiss cake rolls...

[Momto3]

or swiss cake rolls...


Oh yeah! They have those and twinkies in the vending machine down here but they are in a cooler so they come out fresh and cold...yummmmm

Good thing I am short 35 cents for the vending machine.

[without]

Its "Fun Friday" and I don't feel like doing any thing fun. I just want to sit down on the loveseat and sleep. LOL

[lexsmama]

I bought some of those last week as a treat, and dang they're good. Lex loves em too. Oh! Speaking of! Dh got lex to eat chicken!!! Wahoo!

[without]

I just had a music freak out in the NKOTB thread!! LOL

[newmami]

He he Pam!! I saw....... :clap:

Not a NKOTB here, guess I was too old for them...... but I know the songs as they played them on the radio... boy bands were never a big thing in Mexico

CRAP, apparently my super communicatios software is only for internal use.... booo :pokey:

I do not like twinkies..... shoot me now!!! :truce:

Fun Friday????? I have to do something fun then.... Dani LOVES to be out, when we are driving home, she goes NO HOUSE!!! she wants to stay outside

[Momto3]

Yummm...so I went to the Clerk's office and they were haing birthday cake! Chocolate Cake with strawberry filling and whipped cream icing.

[sarahlynn]

LUCKY!!!

the weather was beautiful today, i had a good day off. I need more of them.

tomarow is the walk and MIL comes man i need to finish cleaning..

why arent you ladies here helping motivate me

[lexsmama]

Morning.

Yummy cake!

I need to clean, too, Sarah. I have a bunch of little old ladies coming to my house Monday night for church stuff. I'm not even remotely close!

Good luck on the walk today!

[lexsmama]

Morning.

I've got to be home yet another day. Mil said she has errands to run today for Mema, but should have Lex the rest of the week.

I have my church circle meeting tonight, and I have so much cleaning to do and a little tornado running right behind me. Yay.

[without]

GM!!! Hope all had a great weekend!

[newmami]

Monring ladies!! how was everybody's weekend?

Mine was OK, DH got sick so he was waah waah all weekend :wtf: saying the kids annoyed him and he felt too crappy to do anything... is it bad that I just couldn't feel sorry for him?? I mean 3 weeks ago I was there, and he had no sympathy for me :pokey: I still had to run the house like I was ok and take care of the 2 sick kids

Anyways, yesterday I took both kids out and went to get Dani a haircut... she cried like there was no tomorrow, but her hair looks better now, less messy. Then we were supposed to go to the produce store but they now close on weekends, so we went to the supermarket to buy some fruit and veggies and we had a wonderful time.

Then yesterday night I was complaining how tired I was (I cannot even pee without company) and he said "we need to divide the house work"... I just laughed and left it like that, because besides dishes and sometimes dinner, DH is no help!! oh wait.... he put a load in the washer, and it never made the drier... that is help!!! :headbang:
His stupid excuse is that his son keeps him busy... umm I am sure he does, specially the 8 hrs/day he spends IN HIS ROOM!!!!

I am so tired of all this..... tired of being upset and frustrated....... ugh!!!

So please give me some good/funny news?????? :sun:

[without]

Hum... good funny news??? Well....Funny new... on Friday you know how I just wanted to sleep and didn't have the umph for fun Friday. Well... I told Morgan Mama doesn't feel good and doesnt' feel like Fun Friday. So we watched little M. Maid and Morgan played DR. LOL I layed on the love seat and she brought me blakie and bunny and kissed all my boo boo's! LOL She had a blast and I got to lay and rest. :rolly:

Good news... your check should be getting to your house today so maybe you can use it to go get ice cream with the kids!:clap:

[newmami]

Awww how adorable from Morgan!!! I love to see that our LO are such caring people

Another funny thing, Dani & Morgan have the same messy curly hair!

[without]

I know! Man it takes some work to keep those lovely locks tamed!!! LOL Morgan hates it when it falls in her face or gets in her eyes. Its one of the few times she really starts to wine!

[sarahlynn]

Good monday morning laides (wait good - monday - and mornings can not go in the same sentence rigth?)

Weekend went fine, the weather was beautiful so there was a great turnout for the walk, DH sprinted through it to get to a golf tournament..we got lucea her playhouse and they her and cy love love it, they played forever in it sat night even though we had 500 mile an hour winds..MIL is still in town, she has lucea all day today so that will be fun for her. Lucea caught on right away to saying "GA MA" GA MA" all the time its all she says now when she wants anything "GA MA" needs to help her..

other than that nothing new, irritated with DH or lack there of a DH :lol: im gonna ask tonight if he can just give me permission to find some attention elsewhere :) how ya think that will go over :chinscratch:

[without]

im gonna ask tonight if he can just give me permission to find some attention elsewhere :) how ya think that will go over :chinscratch:

LOL Maybe he will say go for it and you can find you a good sugg'ah daddy! :)

[lexsmama]

How sweet of Morgan!!!

Maybe you and the kiddos can have an ice cream visit, Clau. Or something fun for the 3 of you tonight. Picnic in the living room for dinner??

A sugar daddy would be nice, Sarah. I still don't know... lol.

[sarahlynn]

A sugar daddy would be nice, Sarah. I still don't know... lol.

see exactly what i mean...just someone to keep me busy ya know since DH lacks the interest and time :) i think its a splendid idea..:clap:

[newmami]

I say go for it Sarah.... I am starting to think I should get my DH one, so he can leave me alone!!! :lol: geez!! he is now sick (had the same bug I did) and that would not stop him from wanting to DTD :pokey:

We are going out this weekend, so YES!!! I will do something fun with the kiddos..... is Chris old enough to have icecream?????????

[Momto3]

Morning ladies...hmmm Claudia something funny...(or patheticly funny)

Katelyn is in teh crib this mornings (its in our room right next to me) and she is moaning ..."Mommy, mommy, let me out, mommy let me out...of here"

[without]

Oh... Claudia I am a bad person to ask about ice cream because Morgan had already ate ice cream by 6 months old. Not a bunch by any means but I let her eat some of my Cold Stone on a vacation.

[newmami]

Ok then, I will give Chris some icrecream!!!

I am still craving cake.........

[without]

OHGosh!!! I bought those little betty crocker cake microwave bowls! Morgan loved making her own cake and it only takes like 2 minutes and I was shocked at how good they taste!

[willsmama]

Ok ladies...I am back.
DH lied to me about dipping AGAIN. He's been hiding it from me since February. What would you do?

[Momto3]

Ok ladies...I am back.
DH lied to me about dipping AGAIN. He's been hiding it from me since February. What would you do?

Refuse to kiss him ever again if he doesn't stop.

[sarahlynn]

Sorry Tracy that stinks..i guess i would be more upset about the hiding it than anything. DH has been smoking again for some time, he knows it doesnt happen in the house, outside the house, in the car, near me or the kids..so pretty much on break at work or when he is driving for work..i cant make him quit and believe me threats dont to squat..the other day he informed me he was quittin cold turkey..hopefully he sticks to it.

sorry that stinks :( he hid it..but IMO like i said not much you cando about it..sucks they do it but what can ya do they are grown men.i just make sure it doesnt happen near me

[newmami]

Ugh Tracy... I would be upset about the lying..... can you talk with him about the lying part, and let him know you are disappointed and hurt??

[lexsmama]

Oh Tracy, that stinks!

As for ice cream and cake, Lex had his at 6 months. Yep. Bad mama here... lol. He NEEDED a cake for his happy 6 months! lol.

Funny... hmmm... I am frantically cleaning right now, seeing how lex is asleep. I have 10-15 old ladies coming to my house at 6:30. So, the funny part. I've tried cleaning all day, with little tornado in tow. He keeps grabbing for something. It's a fake gerbera daisy. He keeps grunting til I give all of them to him, and then he hands them to me! And proceeds to throw kitchen toys...

[newmami]

Eeks Ash, I know how hard it is to clean when you have those little helpers.... I hope it goes smooth for you

[willsmama]

I did let him know that it was the hiding that got to me. He apologized and now I just have to get over it I guess...

[lexsmama]

I hope he quits, tracy!

I'm wishing i had some serious help right now. lol. The house is a disaster, and I'm starting on the kitchen/dining area... Eek. Dh's domain... MEH-ssyy!

[without]

Its not easy to just get over! I know! But you have to look at the big picture. As long as you don't see it or have to put up with it is it worth ending your relationship over? Because being mad at him and harping on him in the end will drive a wedge between you both. Sucks for you I know but its the truth. For me it was the lying and the money! We didn't have extra money for him to be buying that stuff but he did it any way. We didn't have money for me a birthday gift but he could buy cig. all years.

[willsmama]

Yeah, we can 'kind of' afford it, but not really. It was more that he felt he could hide it from me.
:(

[lexsmama]

Can he chew spearmint gum or something? That's what my dad does after 15 years of dipping an a mouth/tongue cancer scare. Eclipse, I think.

[without]

Sorry sweetie! It was crappy of him to hide it from you!

[sarahlynn]

ladies how is lunch..?

[lexsmama]

I was bad. I had 4 baked chicken rings with amazing bbq sauce and a coke. Not much, but I'll have a nutragrain bar in a little while. just recouping.

[without]

I am back to the water diet. :(

[newmami]

I don't see why you just have to get over it... the fact is that he lied to you and that is what is hurting you... in my book, lies are lies..........
:hugs: I am sorry yet again you have to deal with this Tracy.... he needs to understand that you are hurt about the lying!!

So Dh got kind of upset because I didn't told him about the blog.... I didn't saw the need for him to know, as it is in Spanish and for my parents... besides like he cares about what I do... so anyways, I told him it was a way to keep my family updated on the kids, no big deal, but he got upset.... UGH!!!

[newmami]

Water diet?????????

I was bad too... I did soooo good on breakfast (an apple and cottage cheese) but I had leftover tortilla casserole, so I had that for lunch

[lexsmama]

Yeah, in order for my dh not to freak a little, I had to make it open to certain people only. But I opened it back up to public for you girls. Oops.

[lexsmama]

Water diet?????????

I was bad too... I did soooo good on breakfast (an apple and cottage cheese) but I had leftover tortilla casserole, so I had that for lunch

Yummy!

Isn't the water diet the one where you drink all the water you can for like a week? That's what my co-worker did to fit into a bridesmaid dress... She had no energy. Not healthy imo.

[sarahlynn]

OOPS :lol:


Tracy i dont think you need to just get over it, im just saying you cant make him quit ya know so why beat yourself up over it just make sure he respect your boundaries and keeps it away from you. But he definetely needs to know how bothered you are by the hiding it..i hate when DH hides **** and he is bad about it..grrrr

i had a lovely pot pie for lunch..maybe it will hold me over till 3:00 snack time..maybe..

[newmami]

Pam, if you are doing only water for a week, I am going to AR to make you eat!!!

[sarahlynn]

yeah only water is not good for you ..darn it woman

[newmami]

Sarah, how is your mom??

[willsmama]

Yeah, I only know I have to get over it or _____? There isn't any other option. We talked about it Saturday night and I told him how I lost trust/respect for him because he lied/hid stuff from me.

I married him knowing he dipped.....I don't care what he does with his body (but if Will ever starts dipping I will blame him!!!)

I am just struggling with how I can really trust him again. I mean, I know it was such a small thing to lie about, but what about big things? How can I be SURE he won't lie about those? You know? I have to trust that he won't, and to do that I guess I'll have to have him slowly gain that trust back.
I know deep down that no matter how much trust I've lost it isn't enough for me to end it with him...it was a small enough lie...that didn't hurt me directly-except by the act of lying itself... and I still love him, so I have to go from there.
Wow.
I think I just figured it out. I love you ladies. :)

I had a lean cuisine pizza. Am chewing gum like mad, cuz I am still hungry.
I weigh in tomorrow, hopefull 18 lbs total down so I can get my 10% lost key chain.

[BBKCD]

Just a sandwhich for lunch here....roast beef and provolone....
The Tortilla Casserole sounds awesome!

[BBKCD]

Ciara started day care today....will update on how it went.
She was excited to go, though, and it will be good for her.

[willsmama]

Ok, I am done being selfish.
How are all of you. i missed you!

[without]

Well I think I would die if all I let myself have is water but I am trying my best to limit to water most of the day.


I hope Ciara has a great day I am sure she will make lots of friedns.

[without]

PS its not selfish at all!!! Thats what we are here for. I would be upset too if I were you.

[sarahlynn]

Sarah, how is your mom??

pretty good, she switched programs and is going to a independent counselor now. but found out that the first program which was more group related and to religoius for her already sent the recommendations they had (intensive outpatient) to the DMV and courts so they want her to have that program before she can get her liscense..well this new lady who she really likes does not do int out she does/recommended low int out so it doesnt match what the dmv/courts see her having ..so its buggin her. She has to go talk to the DMV courst and see how she can get that changed..i mean how can the dmv tell her what type of therapy is best, its like she got 2 opinions and shouldnt she be able to chooose which one is best for her? im affraid if it gets to much of a mess she will giveup ya know..so who knows..btu she is doing good so far from whati have seen..

[willsmama]

They shouldn't make it so compliated.....so people will actually get help..

[without]

I agree!! If you have to jump through to many hoops you give up

[without]

:bow::dance::yeehaw::gome::celebrate::party:Seeeee ee.... if I was doing any one of these moves right now in my office I would be burning some calories!:lol::babydance::bding::hooray:

[newmami]

HE HE HE PAM!!

Sarah, that sounds too complicated... I hope your mom can figure out things, but the good news is that she is feeling OK!!

hey Sherry, nice to see you around here! how are you doing sweetie?? how exciting that Ciara is going to daycare, I hope she has a blast!

Where is Candice?? I want to know how was the trip to San Antonio

[without]

I text Candice yesterday but she never got back with me. I hope she is OK! I am sure she is just having a blast on her vacation.

[sarahlynn]

I hope Candice is having a great time, she needs a good relaxing vacation and tiem to clear her mind..

[lexsmama]

Hi Sherry! Nice to see you around here again! How are you?

Tracy, you do have to go on and eventually forgive, but he needs to know that you were hurt with the lying before you just move on. :)

I hope Candice is having a good time. I'll text her, too! :)

I hope the DMV doesn't make your mom jump through too many hoops, Sarah. She'll give up, and that's bad all around.

Still cleaning, losing steam... Still vaccuumng and kitchen pick up. Darnit. And my taters are done! Waay too early. Crap. Keep the oven on warm? Or just turn it off? 12 humongo potatoes.

I have so many pics and videos to share tomorrow!

[sarahlynn]

hmm potatoes on low maybe? but i am the last one you want cooking advice from :)

one hour and 29 minutes to go..i was a bad mom and canceled piano just so i could go home..MIL is still there and leaves tomarow so i dotn want to run around all evening..

[bel]

I love you all :silly:

[willsmama]

Love you too Bel!

[sarahlynn]

I love you all :silly:

I;m gonna be sad when you go bel :(

[Momto3]

Morning ladies...I'm so tired today.

Had a counseling appt. I had to find a girl about a thing (actually for Shelly as she has some anger issues towork through) and it ended up that I am trying to direct her too much and that deep down she has pain and is covering it with anger. So I am the one getting the counseling...:eyebrow:

So then when I got home I chocked down dinner with DH at 8pm and then I had to help Shelly finish a project for school that was due today so we went running all over town to take different photographs taht she had to print and put in a book and describe with 5 adjectives each.

So we get home from that at 10pm and DH says Tyler doesn't feel good. He was at a "Battle of the Bands" thing at school and was "headbanging" and heard a pop in his neck and now he can't move it at all! So off to the ER last night with Tyler. Got there at 10:30. Home by Midnight (actually the quickest ER trip ever!) to find out its just a pulled muscle or muscle spasm and tha he needs muscle relaxers and he will be fine.

I crawled into bed at 12:30 once Tyler was settled and passed out.

I didn't even get to see my baby girl but for 10 minutes yesterday!

How was your Monday?

[lexsmama]

Oh man, sounds like you had a rough night, Lynn! :comfort: I'm so sorry!

I don't know how we did it, but we pulled it off last night! The house was clean (except one room) and the ladies were happy to be there! I can't believe we did it. Wow. :batman:

I'm exhausted. Dh's medicine's keeping him druggy in the mornings. Hmm.. He didn't look good today, but he won't take off.

[sarahlynn]

I hate when i come in on here in the morning and i am at the start of a new page...than i never know whats on the other page, in this instance its page 583..i could go back and look i guess..hmm or i could be lazy and ask for a recap :)

we had a good night last night. Lazed around the house, walked to the park after supper and played for awhile..cy drudged up old memories of school for me when i hear him say "helicopter helicopter over my head, i picked a color and the color is red" remember that jump rope game? we played that for awhile while lucea went up and down the slide a bazzilion times.

took lulu to the walk in clinic last night, she had a rash all over her face, neck, arms..i thought sunbut she was itching so bad so i was worried it might be bug bites or allergic reaction..but after a long time in the clinic lobby, chewin out someones kids i found out indeed it was the sun..go figure..oh well

[without]

Lynn!!! What a day!!! Your gonna need a nap today!

Ashley! Glad to hear it all went well last night. Sorry about your DH he needs to get some rest. Men.. you can't tell them any thing.

Bel... I am going to miss you I hope your not gone for long.

I feel horid! I know a girl who could really benifit from coming here and getting support but I don't want to give up my safe place. I mean I can come here and vent about co-workers and family or what ever or tell personal things. If she were to come here I could no longer feel comfortable doing that. :( I don't know what to do. I feel selfish.

[lexsmama]

Bel! I'm going to miss you so much! Hope you get to come back soon!

Don't feel selfish, Pam. I feel the same way with others I know, too. Do what you feel is right. That's all you can do!

Oh no for Lulu! I hope the sun rash gets better for her!

[sarahlynn]

Pam i am the same way...

LADIES GOOD NEWS the DMV accepted this letter from my moms therapist requesting her to take the low int outpatient treatment..and so she doesnt haev to worry about that..:) i was so happy..YAY now i dont worry about her not gettin the help she needs..

[Momto3]

Yay for the good news Sarah!

Ashley - So glad things went well for you last night. Sorry DH isn't feeling well.

Pam - Don't give us up to the rest of the world. Its your safe place!

[lexsmama]

:yeehaw: Yay Sarah!!

[without]

Whoot Whoot Sarah!!! Great news!!!

I am not ready to give you all up yet. This poor girl my heart breaks for her but I think I could be just as much help to her by asking her to do things with me and offering to baby sit her kids as giving up APA for her. Or at least thats what I am going to tell myself!

[newmami]

Morning ladies!!!

Lynn, I am sorry about the horrid night! I am glad Tyler is fine and I know you will work things out with Shelly... BIG BIG HUGS :hugs:

Ash, glad everything went well with the meeting, and the clean up!! where are those pictures??????

Yay Sarah that the DMV is working with your mom!! sorry about Lulu's rash... sucks to have sensitive skin

Pam, I know how you feel.... I have been THIS close to give this site to people at work, but no, this is my safe heaven, and I don't want intruders :rolly:

So Dh and I had a talk yesterday night, about the kids, and about me needing a life... anyways, he said he is going to be more involved with the kids and their daily routines, so I can take off if needed.... I am sort of skeptical about it, but willing to give him a chance to prove that he is willing to change.... it turns out that his dad was an absent father, as he worked for long hours, so DH is kind of lost on the present father role.

[lexsmama]

Pictures are in the Photo Section! Lots of em, and 2 videos, too!

I hope, hope, hope your dh has some sort of epiphany with the talk last night, Clau. He needs to shape up or ship out, lol.

I hope Lulu's better today, Sarah.

And Pam, don't worry aobut not wanting to give up APA. You can help her other ways!

[Momto3]

Claudia - I think its great that you are willing to give him a chance. Understandably, he doesn't have a role model to know how things should be but with guidance from a great wifey, I'm sure he will do great. If he backslides a little, just give him a gentle nudge in the right direction!

I need menu help ladies. On May 31st we are celebrating Katelyn's 2nd B-day. My family of 5, my parents and my inlaws. We are going to be out by the pool at my parents house and we were just going to cook out. Well that day (31st) also happens to be my father's 80th birthday so he wants to get a whole tenderloin and cook steaks on the grill. No problem that will be yummy. But I have to provide the side dishes to go with it. What shoudl I make? I don't want it too formal like mashed potatoes,, but we need a starch and a veggie that are kind of BBQish.

[lexsmama]

potato salad and baked beans? Macaroni salad? Green beans? Pie? Wish I were there to help!

[newmami]

I was going to say potato salad as well...... and then I would throw a yummy salad!!

or you can go mexican and do Rice and a side salad!!

[Momto3]

See I said Baked Beans too but DH turned his nose at that and said it didn't go with tenderloin.

[lexsmama]

I made a killer salad last night you could try!

spinich and spring baby green mix
sliced strawberries
mandarin oranges
almond slivers
feta
balsamic vinagrette

Toss and enjoy. Oh man, it was yummy!

Pintoes or white beans? Butter beans? Corn on the cob and carrots? Baked potatoes?
Roasted red or golden potato quarters with olive oil and italian seasonng?

[Momto3]

I made a killer salad last night you could try!

spinich and spring baby green mix
sliced strawberries
mandarin oranges
almond slivers
feta
balsamic vinagrette

Toss and enjoy. Oh man, it was yummy!

Pintoes or white beans? Butter beans? Corn on the cob and carrots? Baked potatoes?

Salad sounds soooo good Ashley.

My family won't do pinto/butter/white beans. I was thinking potato salad too. Got a good recipe?

Now if I could just find a "green" veggie.

[CandiceLeigh]

Hey guys, just wanted to check in with y'all and let you know that I had a GREAT time in San Antonio and I should be getting the pics up tonight or tomorrow! :hi:

[Momto3]

Hey guys, just wanted to check in with y'all and let you know that I had a GREAT time in San Antonio and I should be getting the pics up tonight or tomorrow! :hi:

:clap: Yay! Welcome back!

[lexsmama]

:clap: We've wondered how you were doing! Glad you had a good time!