You may think I am crazy but.........................

[newmami]

Oh I know Dani is ok the moment I leave the daycare... she had a blast yesterday, she painted with watercolors and danced like a maniac (wonder where she got that from..... :P )

So today I got a reminder on why I am here at work... to do the work that the other 2 assistants don't do because they are too stupid to do it!! :roll: at least I got couple of "Glad to have you back" comments, both from coworkers and from customers.

I hope next week I have some news about the other position... if not I would have to seriously consider looking for another job... or start bringing my crafts to work :lol:

[sarahlynn]

I booked our hotel for hte cities..iam so excited..aside from going with my DH's exGF's sister... :roll:

but oh well

YAY

now to plan the activities..

[without]

Well... I was going to get to go on a mini vacation for the 4th. The only way I could afford it was because I was going to be sharing a Hotel room with my mom and dad. Now my sister says my mom said they might not be able to go. :roll: RATS!

[sarahlynn]

that sucsk...you need a mini vaca!!!!

[newmami]

Sarah, I am glad you are going on a mini vac.... Pam, I hope you can take one too

I am in a horrible mood.... I don't know where I would be if I wasn't taking antidepressants.... I HATE coming to work, I feel completely useless in here... I told DH the other lady took over her old position (the one that supposedly is mine) and that honestly I DON'T CARE!!!... then he gets into my case saying I should speak up and blah blah.... why should I do that if I DONT CARE?!?!?!? honestly the best thing that could happen to me right now (besides getting the confirmation on the other position... the boss is in NC this week) is to get FIRED, so I can stay home

I hate coming to work, I hate leaving my kids crying at the daycare (yes both of them)... I HATE BEING A 30 MIN/DAY MOM!!!

Anyone care to join my pity party????????????

[without]

Claudia I am always up for a good pitty party! :wink:

I hope things look up for you soon. I am like you why fight for some thing you don't want?

[chellebelle32]

Yep, other positions open up in other departments here and I could care less. I have a decent boss right now and I have to process paper work from other departments. Why would I want to work for someone who couldn't care less about making his employees fill out paperwork correctly. It's not brain surgery here.

I'm sorry Claudia. Pam, you do need a mini vacation. Sarah, I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing time.

[sarahlynn]

oh man claudia i am so sorry... :( there is no way you can swing being a SAHM? or a part time SAHM? :( its even worse when you go to a job you dont care about. i hope things get better..what does yoru DH think?
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[newmami]

The only reason why I am holding a job is because we need the money... I am the one with the better salary and right now we are under my medical insurance (ROCKS!!!). The plan is to change next year to Dh's insurance (mine had better coverage for the c/section and whole PG), so if needed, I can quit without worrying (specially for the kids)

I do think I could swing being a SAHM.... eventually I would find something to do that would bring me money (have some ideas already :wink: ), but I had so much fun with my little ones I would make it work!!

I am so fed up today and with nothing much to do, that I am updating my resume and actually I am faxing it to another bank, I saw an opening on a similar position to mine.... I am giving myself until the end of July to get some definition on the other position... if it doesn't happen, I am out of here!!!

The other thing that has been bugging me is that DH is in a constant PMS mood :roll: . He gets like that when he doesn't get any sex.... but how am I supposed to be in the mood when I am so unhappy?? I gave in last Sunday and did the deed... but if he goes 2 days without any he gets grumpy.... and then I don't know what else is wrong, but he is very irritable, and snaps at Dani and yells at her, which makes me very upset. I told him not to yell at her, because she gets scared and cries more... so I have to calm her down and figure out what she wants... yesterday she was crying and DH yelled at her, and all she wanted was her Dora soap bubbles :cry: ... and then he things THAT will put me in the mood for sex?????? HELLO???????????

I am glad next weekend is July 4!! we will be grilling, maybe go to the pool and I am going to enjoy my kids like there is no tomorrow!!

[sarahlynn]

:( i hear ya girl..Dh gets on Cys case a lot and than i get on Dhs case and it goes around and around..i keep reminding him HE IS 7 NOT 14 give him a break! DH does really yell just raises his voice which makes cy feel horrible.he has always been a real soft kid doesnt take much to hurt him..

i hope things work ou teither way for you..findinga new job or staying at home..i would love to work just part time.but with bills i dont thin its possible..and with DH and the MS thing we never really know when he may not be able to work so having my income is almost crucial :(
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OK think this is possible..every morning i take lucea to bed with me and nurse her..well after she is done i susualy say "GO SEE BROTHER" or "GO SEE DADA" (dh usualy sleeps on the couch) :roll:

so this morn i said it and i swear she said "Go See Dada"

is it possible..i wasnt sure and she wouldnt say it again..hmmmm

[chellebelle32]

Totally possible, Sarah!

[newmami]

Sarah, I am positive she said Go see dadda
I am always telling Dani, where is Dadda? and now she says that
It is just too cute to hear your little ones talking!!! DH is still clueless with Dani, because everything sounds the same to him... Dani's vocabulary goes

Dadda
Agua (water)
Eche (leche=milk)
ugo (Jugo=Juice)
Ki (Chris)
Entes (dientes=teeth)
Maaa (Mickey Mouse :roll: )
bapa (backpack from Dora)
Ma (map from Dora)
e you go (there you go)
acias (gracias=thank you)
welcome
bye bye
hi
uno, tess!! (uno, tres=one, three)
Me, me (comer=eat) while she puts her hand on her mouth and moves it
Mi (dormir=sleep)
caca (Casa=home)
o eta? (donde esta=where is it?)

:cry: I miss my little crazy girl

[sarahlynn]

:D YAY!!!

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ok my stomach is in knots...i just mailed in the paper work to cash out one of my retirement accoutns..its only 7,000 but i am doing it to pay off ALL our debt..but still i feel all nervous..its so dumb..paying off all this will mean we have more money each month, less money stress ( istress all the time about it) we can start to save instead of putting so much each month into revolving bills CC, car, etc etc etc....

why am i so darn nervous :lol:

[newmami]

Anything that has to do with money will always make us nervous Sarah, it is human nature

We officially stopped paying Credit cards.... in 90 days we will see the attorney to file Chapter 13

[sarahlynn]

Anything that has to do with money will always make us nervous Sarah, it is human nature

We officially stopped paying Credit cards.... in 90 days we will see the attorney to file Chapter 13

did you...i knew you were trying to decide what to do..but you had quite a bit higher debt than me..i cna totally see why you made your choice..

even the little debt we have stresses me out so much...i had $300 in CC debt when i met DH and now we have $5000...its from the wedding, new house, new baby all that stuff..i know this is the right move for us to cash this ira out..we take a 10% hti but its worth the peace of mind and reliefe i will get...dh can start investing in retirment at his job the begining of the year so we will get back in teh groose of investing..

[hanvan]

Sarah I just did the same thing this morning. I cashed in my teacher retirment so we can pay off some debt and that will be less stress!!!

[sarahlynn]

Sarah I just did the same thing this morning. I cashed in my teacher retirment so we can pay off some debt and that will be less stress!!!

OMG DID YOU REALLY!! can i say that totally calms my nerves..i knwo its the right choice..but when i talked to my dad about it he was like YOU DONT DO THAT BLAH BLAH BLAH..but he doesnt knwo the stress it causes me..i mean were 27 & 28 so its not like we are 55 and cashing out 100,000 we are only doing $7000 and it can be made up..we are gonna invest most of our taxes when they come back to make up for things as much as we can..you totaly eased my mind TYTYTYTYTYTYTY

[hanvan]

Know what funny mine was 6900 :) Almost the same amount! I mean if we could pay some of our debt down w/o doing that then sure that would be great but dh has retirement and I am going back to teaching in about 10 yrs or so and will probably work for another 20 yrs so I will get more retirement build up...I can't wait to get our check and pay off some bills :)

[newmami]

Sarah, I don't blame you from cashing your IRA... once you pay the debt, you will have peace of mind and start rebuilding the retirement fund.... believe me if I have the money, I would pay the debt

Maybe I just need to get a divorce.......... HA HA HA!! I need to send DH on vacations for a month, so I can be in peace again

[sarahlynn]

i hate to say it but i LOVE when DH takes a vacation..honestly its so peaceful at home and relaxing and my house is clean..but i miss him after 6 mnths :lol:
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my mom just called and asked if i would put their dog to sleep for them on monday :( i put mine to sleep a few years ago its so hard..but i know it would be to hard on them..

[without]

Oh, I am so sorry! I had to put my dog to sleep about a year ago! He broke his back and there was nothing they could do!

[newmami]

:cry: I hate when dogs get sick and there is nothing to do about it...

[sarahlynn]

yeah they have a 14 year old weiner dog..she cant see, cant breath well, cant hear, pees the bed, the floor anywhere else, her teeth are disgusting, she has growths all over her, she bites, and well she spends 99% of her day under the bed alone stareing at the wall...she just doesnt come out..i suppose since she cant see and hear its where she feels most comfortable..its so sad and breaks my heart...but i wouldnt want to live liek that so why make her..and my p arent are moving to a new home which will totaly traumatize her..the last time they remodeled their home she got so upset she was on antidepresents :roll: poor girl dog..

so monday morn is gonna be sad

just talked to DH,his dad is planning on visiting in July..his dad is liek an overgrown toddler..she is just nonstop and so well very nice but just overbearing :lol: he smokes adn than she stinks liek smoke and i dont like him holding the kids all smelly..and he throws cig butts outside my house..YUCK one of my petpeeves..and DH is to much of a pansy to say anything to him.. :roll:

oh well it will be fun anyways I THINK! :lol:

[newmami]

Eeks Sarah! I don't like smokers around... the smell is too much for me

Is it Friday already?? I am tired, sleepy and fed up... maybe I should get a drink on the weekend

Our daycare lady is PG, I am so happy for her!! now I am worried that she would keep my kids... good thing she is due in January, so I have time to look for something else, or put my kids on the waiting list on the daycare!!

So DH is going out on a business trip in July.... maybe 3-4 days... is it mean of me to be happy about being ALONE?????

[without]

Its not mean at all!!! And this is coming from some one who right now wishes she had a male to spend time with! But...every one likes there alone time and every one needs a break from time to time. I even remember thinking.. I wish I could have Morgan all to myself for 24 hours! Of course now its just the two of us and some times I wish I had some one to watch her so I could clean. LOL Anyways, its not mean its normal! :wink: Take the time to refresh and when he gets back who knows you might have missed him enough to give him some good welcome back bd'ing! :lol:

[haydensmom]

Pam, I haven't heard you talk about your numerous male friends lately... what happened to Michael? That was his name, right? How is everything going for you? I've been thinking about you.

We're driving 7 hours up to NY for the fourth tomorrow night. I'm totally not looking forward to the drive. We're leaving at 8pm so Hayden will hopefully sleep the whole way. :?

[Momto3]

Claudia - Its not mean at all. On occasion DH will work nights on a project and apparently I am a little too obvious about enjoying my time alone because he has commented on it each time. Oops.

[newmami]

He he Pam... I wish I could be the one watching the kids and have someone cleaning!!!

Jess, good luck with the drive, if Hayden usually sleeps it should be a breeze... Dani doesn't sleep on the car... it is not fun hearing her cry for 2 hrs :roll:

[without]

Pam, I haven't heard you talk about your numerous male friends lately... what happened to Michael? That was his name, right? How is everything going for you? I've been thinking about you.


Well... I am single again. I broke up with Michael about a week 1/2 ago. He just didn't make enough time for me. We were dating almost 3 months and only went out on 2 real dates (the otheres consisted of me cooking while he sat and watched my TV) and one of the 2 dates I had to pay. Also he started making fun of me for this and that and putting me down. I gave him the boot. :roll: My sister told me I should stick with him because I wouldn't find any one who would want me and my baggage (meaning Morgan) ouch! that hurt. :cry:

[newmami]

Pam, don't listen to your sister. Morgan is not baggage, she is a beautiful little girl who will make anyone around her happy. A man who wants and love you will take you with the whole "package", and will realize that was the best decision in his life.

How many women are out there with kids from a previous relationship, and now are happily married with other kids on the way???

You are a beautiful and wonderful woman Pam, you don't need to put with anyone's (read Michael) crap

[sarahlynn]

OMG your sis said that..holy crap not nice at all..

well darn it start dateing more i miss the stories and gossip :lol:


MMMMMMMMMMM peanut MM's

[without]

I had a twix! Yum Yum... LOL

My brother said he is riding with a new cop this week and he is good looking and single! :lol:

[sarahlynn]

i ordered my new table...when we bought our home we got a new table but it was really big and took up our whole dining room, when lucea was born we decided to use the dining room as a play room and were stuck with this huge table so i sold it..and bought this one to go in our kitchen nook area..
http://i24.photobucket.com/albums/c10/sgoethe/414F1B4MMSL__SS500_.jpg

[newmami]

I like it Sarah, it is cute!!

A cop....... mmmmm.... gotta love me men in uniforms :oops:

[chellebelle32]

I love that style of table, Sarah.

[without]

Cool Table!! I love it! I hope to get one kind of like it some day but for now I like my table.

Are you kidding after Michael I just want a man who will leave the house. :roll: But oh ,,, a uniform.

[Momto3]

How many women are out there with kids from a previous relationship, and now are happily married with other kids on the way???

You are a beautiful and wonderful woman Pam, you don't need to put with anyone's (read Michael) crap

Me!!! I had two TEENS when I met DH. He took the whole deal! Loves us all and we are a complete family now with Katelyn added to the picture.

Pam I agree with what Claudia said about you. You do NOT settle for less!! You and Miss M are worth much MORE and deserve much BETTER than that. The right one will be there...you'll see. :wink:

[newmami]

Apparently I work for Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde... the lady who (tries to) makes my life miserable came and told me she was signing me for the Underwriter training (something I always wanted to do), and she is being all nice to me... she even wants me to bring the kids to the office (I can see Danielle running in the halls screaming and destroying whatever she cannot climb :roll: )

As for the other position, I spoke with the boss today, and he is still working on getting the approval :? . In the meantime, I am opening doors with another department, and I just applied for a job in another bank... yeah! I am tired of taking crap from people

I was wondering, am I the only working mom who has 2000 pictures of her kids in the office???? my wall looks like a shrine :oops:

[Momto3]

Naaaa... do these count?

This is my corkboard above my desk. I don't have them in frames (bad momma :oops: )
http://i49.photobucket.com/albums/f266/LMSwanson/Desk2.jpg


these are taped to the bottom of my computer
http://i49.photobucket.com/albums/f266/LMSwanson/desk.jpg

[sarahlynn]

i have 3 pics framed

[MarchMommy]

OMG i love that table sarah!! its gorgeous!

[haydensmom]

Pam, I haven't heard you talk about your numerous male friends lately... what happened to Michael? That was his name, right? How is everything going for you? I've been thinking about you.


Well... I am single again. I broke up with Michael about a week 1/2 ago. He just didn't make enough time for me. We were dating almost 3 months and only went out on 2 real dates (the otheres consisted of me cooking while he sat and watched my TV) and one of the 2 dates I had to pay. Also he started making fun of me for this and that and putting me down. I gave him the boot. :roll: My sister told me I should stick with him because I wouldn't find any one who would want me and my baggage (meaning Morgan) ouch! that hurt. :cry:

That is awful. Did you slap her? I probably would have! So you should live with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself and expose your daughter to that so she goes and finds someone who does that to her? I don't think so! You are such a wonderful mom - the right guy WILL come along for you... ugh that irritates the crap out of me.

Baggage my *** - she's a precious gift.

Claudia, I hope you just get a new job at a different bank where people won't jerk you around. No, I take that back. I don't want you to get a new job. I think DH will get a big promotion and you'll get to stay home. :wink:

[without]

Claudia,
Looks like doors are opening around you! Yeah!!! I pray you find some thing that works out GREAT for you and your family. About the pictures? I have 8 framed pictures and 2 that are not framed. :)


OK girls get this..................
My sisiter takes Morgan for a walk last night. Down to the end of the street and back. They were gone no more than 5 minutes because Morgan fell and skinned her hand. To big deal she fall all the time. :roll: But as I am washing Morgan up I hear my sister (who is about to be 21) talking to some one on her cell phone and she says "Oh, you should smell me! I smell like a stinky kid thats been playing out side all day!" :shock: "Ya, know that smell kids get when they go outside?" Then later she gets out the air fresh. and starts to spray it! Grils my house is clean! And it doesn't stink! Morgan gets a bath every night and we wash her hair every other night! I know kids have a smell after they play but come on Morgans clean and she hadn't been outside more than 5 minutes! Also at one point in the afternoon. Morgans Puppy scratches behind his ear and my sister starts to freak and says my dog has flea's! :roll: Dogs scratch! People Scratch! It doesn't mean they have flea's! UGH! So I told my mom that I wish Lisa and could get along like we used to and my mom said I should just get over it! :cry: So if your brother/sister/friend would have done/said this would it have hurt you?

[haydensmom]

It sounds like your sister needs to grow up. I would have told her so... :roll:

[newmami]

YEah, your sister needs to grow up

One day she will appreciate the smell of a sweaty kid, which means he/she played outside and had a wonderful time. I love to see Dani sweating after we dance... the glow on her face means she had a BLAST!!
And honestly I think adults smell worse than kids... so probably it was just her sweat!! and she was blaming it on Morgan

And if your sister sees me scratching, she will think I have fleas too.... I am constantly scratching because I am neurotic

Ok, about pictures, I have 13 on frames and 12 on the wall.... :oops:

[hanvan]

Shes only 21 I would ignore her comments...

me and my dh call that smell "sunshine"...its our nice way of saying you stink like outside :)

[CandiceLeigh]

:lol: Claudia, I have tons of pics! Let me see if I can find a pic...

http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i279/candiceleighfy/Tag/bday042.jpg

and there's more on the walls on either side of me and I was just saying the other day I needed more magnetic frames to hang more pics! I am obsessed with my kid!

[newmami]

I am obsessed too, and now I have 2!!! so it is a double obsession!!!
But who can blame us when we have such adorable kids???????

[without]

ignoring is easier said than done when its an all the time thing. Why is it that I am always having to ignore her rudness? My mom says the same thing as if you can just ignore it and it not hurt any more. I don't know I guess its just my soap box. We as a family let her get away with so much becuase she is the baby. I am not upset that you said ignore it I hope I don't sound that way. It seems to be what every one thinks I should do but.. Its just not that easy at times.
:roll:

[CandiceLeigh]

I definitely agree with you Pam, that it's not always that easy to just ignore snarky comments. Especially when it's coming from someone you love and respect and you just want that in return. I'm sorry your sis is being a meanie, hopefully she'll realize that the things she is saying aren't ok to say to you. Also, IMO her age shouldn't be her get out of jail free card. I'm 22, was 21 when I had Chris and I would never say those things about a child, espcecially to the parent. I mean come on, "extra baggage?" :?

[newmami]

I know it is hard to ignore her Pam... would it be possible to talk to her and let her know how much her comments hurt you??? maybe she is clueless about it!! (I know I was self absorbed when I was 21.... wait! I remember that??? it was a loooong time ago)

Anyways, another day with nothing to do in the office... so I keep printing pictures and adding them to my wall.... I am starting to look psycho, but WHO CARES!!!!

And it is FRIDAY!! nothing will ruin a Friday..... now if I can sneak out and go buy a cookie...... :P

[Bells614]

Hi Gals!

Pam, her age is definately not an excuse. My sister is 21 and would NEVER even think to say something like that. And I tend to think my little sis is immature.

Sarah, I love that table. I want something similar, but it just will not fit in our house. We have no dining room :roll:

This last week has been surreal with DH's uncle's death and all. The visitation is tonight, he is with the family right now seeing him for the first time (since he died out of town, they just got his body flown back yesterday). DH and I are at one another's throats. It has been so good for the last 2 months and now BAM! I'm trying so hard to be understanding, but he's not giving me a chance to mourn and deal with the crappy news I got Monday....my mom's cancer is most likely back. Trying to come to grips with the first death I have ever had to deal with and to find out my mom's relapsed with the very thing that killed this person. It's a lot to digest. I know we will be okay, but man......

[CandiceLeigh]

Oh Kelly, ((BIG HUGS)) I know what it's like to have a mom with cancer. :cry: Unfortunately, my mom lost her battle about 4 years ago. I hope your mom does not. PM me if you ever want to talk about anything.

[newmami]

I am so sorry about your mom Kelly, please know we are here for you

HUGS

[newmami]

BUmp after the weekend....

So apparently I AM needed at work, all 3 assistants are out this week, so I am actually going to have work to do!!

How was your weekend?? mine was OK, lots of rain and heat, and I FINALLY got a haircut... and ordered a new sling :wink:
Oh! Dani started calling herself NANI.... and I was able to calm her from a temper tantrum, and she did as I asked her to!

[YellowRose]

Awww!! Dani is soo cute!!! That's adorable that she's calling herself Nani!!

My weekend wasn't too good. :cry: We had to return our dog to the shelter we got him from. I'm soooo upset over it. I really didn't want to get rid of him, but he has seperation anxiety and we just couldn't have him destroying things. It's crazy, but I really miss him.

[chellebelle32]

I'm glad you won't be bored at work Claudia!

Aly, I replied in the other thread, but wanted you to know that I have been in your shoes as well.

I hope everyone has a wonderful week.

[Momto3]

Kelly - Sorry to hear about your Mom. I hope she (and you) are doing good.

Aly -

We also had to return a dog one time. He shredded an antique book and ate my wooden coffee table. Its still sad tho.

[newmami]

Looks like I am the only one keeping this one alive...

OK, time to go talk to myself... HE HE HE!!!!

[without]

Kelly, Sorry to hear about your mom I will be praying for her.

Aly, Sorry about the dog! I once had a dog that if you left him outside to long he would eat on your car! He chewed the back bumper 1/2 off my Neon! He had to go back to. I just didn't have the time to train him not to do that. I had no clue about crate training at that time.

Hope every one has a great 4th!

[without]

Where did every one go?



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[YellowRose]

It's awfully quite around here today. Where is everyone?!?!

[chellebelle32]

I'm supposed to be working, but my mind is on other things.

Aly, I wanted to let you know that Morgan started taking an interest in the potty around Caleb's age, but she has only been fully potty trained for about 4 months now. She turned 3 on May 25th. She is a smart cookie, but hard headed (as her momma).

I have been trying to clean up the outside of my house. I have never really taken an interest in keeping up with the flower beds and such. Please tell me why someone would plant a tree six inches from the house. I know it's ornamental, but please, the roots could grow into the foundation. Oh well, it's about to be gone if I have my way. I want to put in some of that ornamental rock and little boy/girl statues you can find at Wal-mart. Much less up keep that way. Yes, I'm lazy.

[newmami]

I am at work trying to work!! The daycare lady's daughter is sick, so I had to keep the kids, and as the 2 assistants are out, I am in the office with my 2 kids :shock:
Chris is behaving well, Dani is destroying my office and anything available, and then being cute with everybody

I am soooo happy tomorrow is holiday!!

So apparently they are going to put one of the assistants on long term disability (she has multiple sclerosis and it is getting bad), so I may have a job offer that I am not sure I want

[without]

LOL its always an adventure when Morgan comes to the office too!

[newmami]

So we survived the day at the office. Actually both kids behaved really well. Dani was happy walking around the office, waving bye bye and sharing cookies with my coworkers... everybody loved her!!

How was your Holiday? we had rain here, but BBQ with friends and had a nice time. Dani discovered that dogs are fun!!

So my boss talked to me today, they "offered" me the position I had before (because the assistant is not coming back) but being on a Team Leader position, and "making sure I use my expertise" and blah blah blah... basically he BS me to take over for the lady who is gone, promising it would be wonderful...
Then I talked to the other Manager who wants me to work with him (BTW I will be helping him as of today) and he told me he is working with his boss to have me full time (which is what I want); his boss is coming to visit and wants me to get together with him... WOO HOO!!! (he is such a nice guy, neurotic but I really like him... and Dani too!!)

At home things are not that great, DH has been PMS since Chris was born... we are back to not really talking, unless it is about his stupid hobby... he doesn't seem to care when I tell him about the kids, and dedicates just couple of minutes a day to them. He seems to be upset with me, but expects me to BD with him... it is such a joke!!!
Worst is I don't know how I feel about the whole situation, except frustrated.... sometimes I wish he would go have an affair and stop bugging me for sex..... or just leave me and let me move to Mexico with my kids.... so again I am all in the MOM mode... he better not complain!!

Anyways..... 2 more days at work and then WEEKEND!!!

[chellebelle32]

Claudia, I wish that men could understand how important these early years are whether the kids remember them or not. My husband is just now beginning to understand that Morgan needs AND wants him around. He sometimes stays out late on the weekends and it is next to impossible to get her to go to sleep. I told him last night that I might be willing to have sex more often if I wasn't so stressed out and tired from taking care of everything.

[newmami]

told him last night that I might be willing to have sex more often if I wasn't so stressed out and tired from taking care of everything

The sad thing is that we went through this when Danielle was born.... and he changed and helped more, but now we are back to me doing everything, and I work full time just like him!!
I guess it should not come as as surprise, considering the lack of parenting his son has.... :roll:
And I really don't mind taking care of my kids, I LOVE IT!!, but it annoys me when he wants dinner ready, clean house, clean clothes, and a beautiful wife DYING to have sex with him

[newmami]

Bump

Where are my friends?? Sarah, Jess, Alison, Pam, Jenn, Christi??
I miss you guys!! the only ones here are Michelle and me

[chellebelle32]

I'm still here! I really need to find some motivation to get back to work. It has been raining here almost nonstop. Did Sarah go on vacation? I miss hearing about Lucea and Cy.

We have been a little short on money, so I have been trying to space out my depression/anxiety meds. I should be able to finally get my refill tonight. I find that they really do help me stay focused.

Claudia, how has the weather been in your area? We are having problems with some of the "back roads" flooding right now. (I'm in NE TX). Morgan hasn't been able to play in her little pool much because the water hasn't been warm enough. Have a wonderful weekend!

[Momto3]

I'm here too although I didn't make the list :( . You can almost set your watch by our afternoon thunder storms!

[newmami]

Hey Lynn, I have seen you posting, so in my book you are not MIA!!

Like Lynn, we are victims of evening thunders and rain... I AM SO TIRED OF THIS WEATHER!! I hate driving in the rain, and it is a hassle when I go pick up my kids from daycare, and the humidity is unbearable

Michelle, I've heard TX has been hit BAD with rain, I hope everything is OK where you live
Sorry about the depression meds, hope you can get back on it. I am taking Zoloft and it makes a difference... I think I would go NUTS without it :lol: or do something radical like leave DH :shock:

Anyaways, it is Friday and NOTHING can ruin it!! I am looking forwards to spending 2 looong days with my kids... I miss them :cry:

Have a good weekend and stay safe from the water!

[Momto3]

Claudia

I know what you mean about missing the kids. I miss the baby so much. My older DD is working where I work during the summer months so I don't get to miss her and and my son, well he's just a 14 y/o teenage boy... :roll: But the baby, I miss her so much when I am at work. I relish the days when we have long weekends and such. The part that stinks is I have to share her with 3 others in the family :(

[newmami]

That is why I like to be busy at work, so the day goes by fast
Still, my heart breaks a little bit every time I leave them... good thing is that it goes back to normal when I pick them up... specially when I hear Dani running to the door after I ring the bell, screaming MAMI MAMI....
Just melts my heart!!!

[Momto3]

That is so cute.

I've had both experiences. When the older ones were little, they were at a daycare. Katelyn stays at my Mom's. My Mom retired just after the baby wa born so she could stay home and watch her. We are very blessed with that.

My older DD thinks the picture of Dani is sooo cute!

[hanvan]

I don't post here a lot but I want to vent :x

I am sooo annoyed. We are going out of town for 4 nights with the inlaws. They are sweet and mean well but I don't want to go. The guys are going to golf and we are going to sit around by the pool. We are going to lake travis in austin but the freaking lake is closed because of all the rain central tx has gotten. Its not safe to swim in rihgt now. I feel like my MIL will watch every move I make with reese. I wish I would break my leg or something so I could just stay home :roll:

And my dad is coming over today with my step mom. She talks over everyone and is sooo loud. Then reese doesn't want to go to anyone but me but they both insist on holding her even when she starts crying. we are going to go to lunch and they are going to try to feed her EVERYTHING :roll: even if I ask them not to.

Oh and I am pmsing so it isn't helping :evil:

[Momto3]

Geez sorry you have to deal with both sides regarding Reese.

btw, love your new picture. She's a doll!

[newmami]

Sorry about the family!!! I wish people were more considerated

So I am the only IDIOT in the office, everybody is gone... guess what?? I AM OUT OF HERE!!!

[EvandAl]

Bump

Where are my friends?? Sarah, Jess, Alison, Pam, Jenn, Christi??
I miss you guys!! the only ones here are Michelle and me

Sorry I've started really cutting my APA time back! I realized I need to pay attention to my Real Life more :D So I often miss this post! I'm going to start making it the first thing I check :wink:

I'm to try and catch up on what's going on with everyone!

[without]

So So Sad!! I leave to take Morgan on a small vacation and you all let this post fall to the bottom of page 2! LOL


Glad to be back and hope you all had a great 4th!

[newmami]

Hey Pam, I have been trying to keep this up, but there is so much I can do on my own, right?
Hope you had a wonderful time in your mini vacation!!

I MISSED YOU!!!

[EvandAl]

Hey girls!! How is it going today??

I'm so off on my days! Usually DH's days off are on Mon & Tues, but he is in a training class now and is actually off on the weekend. I keep thinking it's Wed. already :?

[newmami]

He he, I wish it was Wednesday!!
I am busy at work, have tons of papers in my desk and things to do... and what am I doing?? HERE IN APA!!

I need help!!! :roll:

[EvandAl]

He he, I wish it was Wednesday!!
I am busy at work, have tons of papers in my desk and things to do... and what am I doing?? HERE IN APA!!

I need help!!! :roll:

HAHAHA, me too! I've been pretty good about staying off of APA during the daytime, but today I have been glued to the computer :roll:

[without]

I took 2 days off work and Morgan and I had a blast! You would have thought I had been gone for years from work! You should see all the stuff I have to do. :roll: Gosh do they really think I come here to work? I mean don't they understand I need at least 4 hours of uninterupted APA time? :lol:


Any way what do you girls think of this.....


When DH and I first split I was rip roaring reading to date! I think I wanted to prove I still could. I date James who I adored and still think he is an OK guy just a little to strange for me. Then dated Michael who turned out to be a reall wired o!
Now .... there is this guy named Ben a friend of my SIL's who is talking to me and wants to "hang out". Nothing against Ben I am just not in the mood! I just don't want to date! I am ok with it being Morgan and I in our little world. On the other hand I long for a husband I just don't want to have to do the dating to get to the husband part. :shock: Whats happened to me? I used to be a social butterfly and now I can't even bring myself to make comments on the board any more :?: I feel depressed and don't know why :!: I don't have a reason to be depressed I have ever reason to be happy. I feel like my depression is a sign that says I am not greatful but thats not true I am grate ful for Gods blessings and for every great thing around me still I would like to go into my room and hide for a while. :roll: Whats wrong with me :!: I wish I would just snap out'a it already. Here I wanted to date now that I have another guy who wants to go out... I don't! Ugh! Some one hit me! :o

[Momto3]

SMACK!! :lol: Pam I hope you feel better, but know that its ok not to date. Its ok to just be you and Morgan. It really is. If you aren't in the right place mentally then you need time to just be you! Its ok.

[newmami]

Pam, I am not into violence, so I am not going to slap you :lol: . But I agree with Lynn, it is OK to want to be alone and enjoy your time with Morgan, babies are so much fun and they grow too fast, so we need the time to BE with them and enjoy them as much as we can.
Don't feel bad because you don't want a man in your life right now, you will know when you are ready to be in a relationship again, and the perfect man will come to your life

If I could get rid of DH for a week and just be with my kids, I would be a happy mamma, so I know exactly where you are!!

speaking of work, I have TONS of things to do!!! my email keeps getting things to do.... they don't understand that I NEED my APA fix in the mornings... better than coffee!!!

[without]

Thanks!

Its funny but I feel like a compleate dork! There are things about a man I want. :oops: ummm....another baby and extra income and all that but I just am not up to meting new people right now and having to get to know each other just to decide I don't like them in that way you know and then to have to start all over again with some one new.

I have thought about on line dating that way you get all the yes I am divorced and this is what happened out of the way on line but in my area there are only losers on line! I have looked and let me tell ya Yuck-a rooney! :lol:

One minute its some thing I want the next minute its not.

Also I feel like I am ho humming on Gods blessings in my life for being depressed like this for no reason! Today is much better than yesterday so maybe its just PMS. :wink:

[chellebelle32]

I'm sorry Pam! I have decided that if something happens to my husband, I won't "replace" him. Most of the men around here want some woman to take care of them. I'm not going through that again!

I was thinking of you the other day after I gave Max (in my sig) a trim. He is now naked and a little ticked off at me. He hates to have his feet touched. My husband has been making fun of him looking so funny. I didn't realize until I shaved him that he is too fat (just like his mom & dad). I guess it's time for all of us to start back on the daily walks.

[without]

Oh, I had a bad day grooming on Saturday! My very first dog tried to bite me! I have been grooming him for 2 1/2 years! I don't know why he did that! But when he went to bite me I jerked my hand away and my clippers were in my hand and I skinned his back leg! I cried for hours! I called the owner and she was fine with it he wasn't really hurt just a little skinned. Still I couldn't believe I had done that after grooming for 4 years I have hurt my 1st dog. :cry: When she picked him up she said that since her husband died about 3 months ago (of a heart attack he was only 40) the dog has been biting at even her if her boys are in the room. :roll: I still felt bad even if she understood! Needless to say I also lost 25 dollars because there was no way I was charging her for that groom!

[haydensmom]

Sorry I have been absent, girls! I was on vacation!

Pam, I think it's totally normal for you to not want to date. I think that you need to be happy with yourself before you're happy with anyone else. It's also ok to NOT be happy all the time. It sounds like you're still focusing on all the positives in your life - you want to be with Miss M and who wouldn't? You are a wonderful mother who needs some time for herself. NOTHING wrong with that!! :wink:

Claudia, I love that new siggy pic. It looks like they are getting along so well!! :vibes:

Ugh I'm soooooo agitated. We have been told from the beginning that we would have a bay window in our house. We drove over there and it's a freaking box bay window (which I HATE might I add?)!!!! They say they can't change it blah blah blah. Kara (rep) has told us all along it would be a BAY window - the word box was never mentioned. Of course, she claims she told us that, but I would definitely remember. Idiot. :evil: Pisses me off.

Now I just have this bad taste in my mouth. Grrrr... I will love my house, I will love my house, I will love my house, I will love my house. :x

[Bells614]

Aw, Pam. I think it's perfectly fine for it to be just you and Pam. But, if you do just want to "hang out" with Ben, it's an option. I can only imagine the tugging at your heart in that situation. I feel guilty sleeping most of the day after I work all night. I know Manda is well taken care of with DH, but I still feel like I should be there with her....and that is work/sleep, not even another human!

Nothing much new here, just trying to get back to normal life after the death and all. We are getting there. Tonight we have a birthday dinner for DH's grandma (the mother of the uncle that died and that uncle lived with her), she has not been doing well and I'm not sure if this will help tonight. I can't imagine loosing a child. :cry:

[sarahlynn]

i wanna go home..its only 4:45...i miss my babies..

[newmami]

Kelly, how nice of you to take care of Dh's grandma... I guess losing a child is always devastating, regardless of the ages

So I am upset with DH, yesterday Chris was fussy while we were eating dinner, DH said "I knew I should have stopped on kid # 2, Kyle & Dani were easy, but this one...." WTF??? I wanted to scream at him and tell him if he didn't wanted Chris, I could get out of that house in 5 minutes and move to Mexico with both kids...... HOW DARE HE??????

[chellebelle32]

Jess, I'm sorry about your window. It's not just a window, it's part of your dream. I love your siggy pic. Hayden looks like he can fly!

Sarah's back! Woohoo!

Claudia, I'm so sorry that your husband is being a donkey's behind.

Brad is finally taking some responsibility around the house without me nagging him. He seems to really be taking pride in working in the yard. It's amusing to me because the past 3 years he couldn't have cared less if the grass was 3 ft tall. This year, he likes to go up and down our street and compare our yard to everyone else. Yay for small steps.

[without]

Egads!!! Claudia!!!

Don't go to Mexico come to Arkansas!!! You could be my work at home wife! :lol:

[newmami]

He he Pam, at least living with another woman will be easier.... you will not be bugging me for sex, now would you???? :lol:

Jess, sorry about the windows... hate when people promises you something and they they conveniently forget.... :roll: :?

Michelle, I am glad DH is stepping on the plate and helping around... WHAT IS UP WITH MEN???????????

[EvandAl]

Jess that stinks about the window!! Isn't building a place a joy :roll: As I stress that our place is not going to be done in time :twisted: :cry:

Claudia, I'm soooo sorry about what your DH said. I think men really don't think before they speak!! I swear that saying really is true, can't live with them, but I can't live without him either.

chellebelle32 I'm glad that your DH is helping out some now :)

Man girls I think AF is about to visit. I was really hoping to make it a year without her :( My stomache is a little sore but I thought it was just from crunches, but I think it's really from the cramps starting. I hate AF!!! Is it bad that I want to get preggo again just to avoid her HAHAHA :P

[sarahlynn]

oh i am so happy...my $7000 arrived yesterday from my retirement account and i can pay off my car and many many bills :D YAY than we will have a total of about $1500 left in debt..YES!!!

[EvandAl]

Sarah that is awesome!

[Bells614]

Jess, that completely stinks about the window. Was it that way in the model??

YAY Sarah! It feels so good to get that debt out of the way!

AF....ick! I'm hoping Monday is a long way away, that is when I'm due :roll:

I totally need to clean or finish my paper and look what I'm doing....I'm such a slacker!

[Momto3]

If DH doesn't quit complaining about me not being affectionate I'm going to lose it! The more he complains, the less I feel affectionate!

[newmami]

YAY Sarah for no more debt!!!
Speaking of slacker... I have TONS of things to do at work, and here I am looking for new posts!!!

Lynn, I hear you on that one... I need to send DH on a vacation ALONE!! so I can feel free again

[sarahlynn]

i;ve been a slacker all week at work..just dont want to work.and after having a short 4th of july week last week it hard to get back in the groove of things..

[naturekate]

sarah what do you do exactly?

[sarahlynn]

sarah what do you do exactly?

well i work two differnt jobs..i work full time in an investing brokers office..i spend all day stareing at the computer figureing out what our clients are worth and what they are invested in and entering it into a program for them....this is my slack job..its busy at times but so not what i want to do forever

and i work partime at a Family safety center where i supervise visits and exchanges for families..say if there is a protection order in place..absue going on..i sit in and monitor the famlies visiting the kids..and exchagneing their kids for the weekends.summers holidays y aknow..i love it there and hope to get in full time somday..when i finish my bachelors..which IS IN 10 WEEKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

:D

[Momto3]

That is soo cool Sarah!~


DH just doesn't get it. So he's been pressuring me about being affectionate...we've been kinda fighting.

So we sort of made up by texting each other (yes a real techie world) and I text him and go "what's for dinner" and he goes "Me!"

Arrrhghghghghghghgh! He is just trying to be funny but he just doesn't get it that that comment at this time is NOT funny! Blech!

[sarahlynn]

DH just doesn't get it. So he's been pressuring me about being affectionate...we've been kinda fighting.

So we sort of made up by texting each other (yes a real techie world) and I text him and go "what's for dinner" and he goes "Me!"

Arrrhghghghghghghgh! He is just trying to be funny but he just doesn't get it that that comment at this time is NOT funny! Blech!

yeah me and DH go around about this..but i am the one beggin for attention :lol: i am a needy girl..i love hugs, kisses, i love yous' all that grose stuff :lol:

and i find it funny but me and DH usualy make up on IM its just easier for us to talk to each other on there ..

[Bells614]

Sarah, I think I've asked this before, do we have the same husband????

We are the exact same way, except we make up over cell phone calls. He drives for a living, so that is all we can do. I'm still waiting for the "regular hubby" to come back after this family death. He has been taking it really hard. I'm patiently waiting.......still.......

Yay for you graduating!!!! I totally remember that excitement! It's the best!

[haydensmom]

Hey girls! I feel like I'm a million years behind.

Our house is coming together. We get to do a walk through in two weeks.

Hayden is almost one! :cry: :D

[YellowRose]

Hayden is almost one?! WHEN did that happen? Seriously, it seems like just yesterday you were posting newborn pictures!! Any big party plans?

[EvandAl]

Hey Aly when did you guys get Sam back? I thought you mentioned him in a post yesterday and I see he is back in your siggy! He is such a beautiful dog!!

Yay Jess!!! We are supposed to do our first walk through next week but I don't think we are going to be on schedule :( DH is calling today to find out what's up!

LSwanson1002 DH and I went through that for a while before John was born and then we started fighting about it again a few months after he was born. Luckily I think I've finally gotten my mojo back :wink: I read a really good book on the topic of sex in marriage. I'll have to go find it, I can't remember the exact title. But it really helped with us (DH actually read it with me). It explains the situation from both persepectives, but a woman is writing it so you can actually understand what the man is thinking hahahaha.

Okay I MUST get back to cleaning. I am hosting a playdate today and I am totally slacking! :roll:

[without]

I will never catch up with all this so I am just going to comment on what my 1/2 awake mind remembers! LOL

Claudia....don't worry I wouldn't ask for sex! :lol: In fact I have a 4 bed room house one bed room for you one for me one for Chris and since the girls would be such good friends I am sure they wouldn't mind sharing one! LOL

Sarah!!! Way to go! Just 10 more weeks! Did you already put your order in with your DH that you want some congrats BD'ing! :wink: I have always wondered who people get set up with jobs like yours. I mean we have to have some one around this are who provides that for people in cases like mine but I wouldn't even know where to look. :roll:


Jess,
No way! Tell Hayden he CAN NOT turn a year old. I am just not ready for that yet! LOL


Well ..... girls I gave in.... I am going to have lunch with Ben. I thought I would say OK with lunch because if it goes bad I can always say I need to get back to work. :wink: I have also decided if what I hate about dating is having to tell my story then... I shouldn't tell it! I should feel like I have to tell them every thing on the 1st date! From now on I am only telling what I feel comfortable telling. :P

[YellowRose]

Allison.. we got Sam back the day after Dh returned him. I email the shelter that day to find out how he was doing because I felt really bad for returning him. He wasn't happy at all to be there and was pretty stressed out. So I talked to Dh and convinced him to bring Sam back and work with him. He's still have the anxiety issues.... but we're working with him and hopefully he'll realize soon that we WILL come back. We're glad that we got him back, and he's defintely glad to be back!

Good luck on your date, Pam. You're right... you don't have to tell your whole story on the first date, only what you're comfortable sharing!! I hope you have a great time!!!

[EvandAl]

Aly that is great! I found a good web-site about seperation anxiety in pets I'll find it again to see if it has any pointers you haven't seen yet. I will say my sister's dog had it really bad for about the first year she had her :shock: but she is sooo much better now. She was also a rescue so I'm sure that was part of it.

Pam, good luck with the lunch. I agree lunch is much better if you hate the guy HAHA

[YellowRose]

Yeah, I'm pretty sure the cause of Sam's anxiety is due to the fact that he was adopted several times only to be brought back to the shelter. We've just got to keep reassuring him we'll come back. Dh gets frustrated, but it's something that takes a LOT of patience and time. I'd apperciate the site, if you can find it. Thanks!

[without]

I am sure lunch will be great. I hope he doesn't take one look at me and think.. Who is this old lady! LOL I am 2 years older than he is (his son is about 8 months older than Morgan) he loves sports and out door stuff and I am fluffy! Not that I don't like them to! I just sat behind a desk to long and my rump kept growing until if fit the size of the cHair :lol:

Maybe he is just what I needed to get me out of the house and whip me into shape! :wink:

[sarahlynn]

Sarah, I think I've asked this before, do we have the same husband????

We are the exact same way, except we make up over cell phone calls. He drives for a living, so that is all we can do. I'm still waiting for the "regular hubby" to come back after this family death. He has been taking it really hard. I'm patiently waiting.......still.......

Yay for you graduating!!!! I totally remember that excitement! It's the best!


hey md DH drives as well..hmmm we could totaly be married to the same man..he is living two lives is all..back and forht back and forth :lol:



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WOW i just looked into my accounts and the balances are slowing going down to zeros!!! omg it feels so good to get rid of this debt..we will have one CC left when done and our furniture were paying on bu tthere is no t interest on that..so i dont fret it.

[EvandAl]

here were are few site I saw Aly

http://www.usask.ca/wcvm/herdmed/applied-ethology/behaviourproblems/anxiety.html

http://www.hsus.org/pets/pet_care/our_pets_for_life_program/dog_behavior_tip_sheets/separation_anxiety.html

[newmami]

Pam, enjoy the lunch and have a wonderful time. Share whatever you feel comfortable sharing, ok?? and I may take you on the moving offer!!
I am awake since 4 am, Chris woke up to eat, and then had a hard time going back to sleep, as both of them sleep on the same room (Have a 3 BD house, the other one is for SK when he visits on the weekends, another :evil: story...), Dani woke up and would cry every time I left the room... and she never went back to sleep, so I just stayed with her trying to get her to go back to sleep.... during all this time DH is SLEEPING and not coming to help me (at some point both kids were crying) and once he woke up he gave me the attitude because he knows I will go sleep early tonight and he will not get any sex..... CAN WE SAY SELFISH?????

Lynn, I think we are married to the same guy!!! :roll:

But on a positive note, he is going out on business almost all next week.... WOO HOOO!!!!!

Aly, I love your new siggy picture!

[YellowRose]

Thanks for the links, Allison! I'll have to check them out!

[Momto3]

Lynn, I think we are married to the same guy!!! :roll:

But on a positive note, he is going out on business almost all next week.... WOO HOOO!!!!!

!

Ack! Why can't mine go on a business trip. Oh yeah, because he does construction...doh! I was up and down all night. KAtelyn has a cold so she has stuffy nose and can't breathe good. Bed early tonight!

[sarahlynn]

awww poor katelyn :cry:

i love when DH leaves town... :wink: peaceful house all to myself..well with the kids that is..


so whats the thoughts on this.

now that i have CC paid off is it better ot leave them open or close them?

[Momto3]

Open open open. Just don't use them. Or at least buy one thing a month that you know you can pay off in a month. If you close them your credit history becomes shorter and that ruins your credit!

[sarahlynn]

i see..i thought that was the best but wasnt srue..i am gonna lock them up at home so they arent even available and ready to use..
:D

[hanvan]

I am so jealous that you got your check...mine still isn't here :? Stupid teacher retirement people!!!!

We just got back in town and I am sooooooooooo glad to be home. I don't think I like traveling with a baby. Too stressful!!

[newmami]

Leave them open Sarah!!

Welcome back Heather... I hear you, traveling with kids is like running a CIRCUS!!!

[hanvan]

AND we are going out of town again at the end of the month...oh joy :roll:

[sarahlynn]

were heading out of town in Aug..a 5 1/2 hour car ride..EEEEEEEEEEK

oh well i just got peanut MM"s and beef jerky..could i be any healhtier. :lol:

[willsmama]

oh well i just got peanut MM"s and beef jerky..could i be any healhtier. :lol:

Beef Jerky is a staple in my diet. I am going to have to have DH teach DS how to eat right. :)

[Jai]

Hi Guys!! :D

Its been so long since Ive posted in here. I lurk a lot and read, but feel funny posting because I always miss something and I feel bad.

So, just wanted to drop in and say HI!!

Oh yea, and I cant wait for school to start back up. Marissas driving me up a WALL! :shock: :lol:

[sarahlynn]

Hey Jai post anytime..if i cnat catch up i just jump in with my life issues..noone cares really :o) just a funplace to talk abotu things you dont want to start a whole post about..like my finances :O)

Cy asks me every day when he gets to be in 2nd grade..SOON ENOUGH SON! i hope this teacher is as good as his 1st grade teacher..

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well so far 1/2 the bills have been paid..it slike thsi huge relief to see 0$ balances on these accounts..and go figure we pay this crap off and DH says "i found this really nice harley" :roll:

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YAY again i just booked a massage for sat..i am so excited..i havent had one for so long since before lucea was born.i think 7 months along..

me and DH are going on a celebration dinner sat night ..celebrateing paying crap off..and get this we are going ALLL alone..no kids..he is really excited sinc ei dont leave the babes often.. :lol: and than when we get home a littel BDing i hope..Please please please :D its been a long time

[Jai]

Oh man Sarah, your DH sounds like mine. Especially the part about the Harley. :roll: Yea, keeeeep on dreamin buddy!

Congrats on getting everything paid off though. Thats awesome! I cant wait til we are completly debt free.

Soooo, youre actually BABY dancing, or is that just the nice way of saying S-E-X? You know, Im really hopin you cave and decide to have another one, sooon. :lol: (You know, Im just playin with you, unless you actually decide to then Im gonna be SOOOO happy!)

[willsmama]

He he.
Cy does want a brother, so maybe she is BD'ing.

[Jai]

Sarahs gonna kick my butt! :lol:

Im just playing Sarah. Muah!

[Bells614]

awww poor katelyn :cry:


now that i have CC paid off is it better ot leave them open or close them?

I actually read something once that said to put them in either a ziplock or coffee can with a little bit of water and put them in the freezer. That way, if you want to use them, you have to think long and hard about that item while they defrost. I thought it was kinda a cool idea.


Harley.....holy crap we are married to the same man! DH was just looking at harleys yesterday. :roll: It ain't happening. I have to pay tuition and not work for 8 weeks starting in January. Finances are not as bright as they used to be buddy!

I just got up (worked last night) and DH has driven 45 miles to watch his cousin play baseball. I don't think he is getting this money crunch thing. :roll: AND I WANT TO SEE MY BABY! AHH!!!!

That is about all that is new with me!

[newmami]

Sarah, I hope you have a wonderful date and enjoy the sex!!!

Dani made me a paint yesterday at daycare... I am going to display it here at work!! :oops:

Where is Tracy?? I haven't seen her in a while... I will go PM her

IT IS FRIDAY!!!!!!!! :lol:

[Momto3]

Excuse me? This was on page two again!


I am so glad its friday. 13th or not, this has been one long week. DH asked for bding this morning. He said he needed to get lucky since it was Friday the 13th :roll:

[EvandAl]

Excuse me? This was on page two again!


I am so glad its friday. 13th or not, this has been one long week. DH asked for bding this morning. He said he needed to get lucky since it was Friday the 13th :roll:

Sorry I had to chuckle at that.....but I'm sure if it were my DH I would be pissed :wink:

Oh yeah here is that book I was talking about. Like I said before I found it really helpful.
http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Starved-Marriage-Boosting-Libido-Couples/dp/0743227336/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/104-5384030-7313551?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1184354856&sr=8-1

Okay I have to CRY!!! We just found out that our house isn't going to be done in time to close this month!!! :cry: :cry: So I just had to call our apt's and beg them to let us stay longer. So now we are closing at the end of August!! I really wanted to be out of this stinkin apt!!!! Oh well now we will have a lot of extra money next month so I am going to go shopping :wink:

[hanvan]

Buy something nice for your house :)

I may have to check out that book

[EvandAl]

Yeah I want to buy decorations for the house, plus I want a TON of kitchen stuff so I can make more and more homemade items

I do want to buy some clothes. I think I am finally going to break down and buy a bigger size :roll:

The book really is great! It really shows you both perspectives and is written in away that doesn't get you all worked up and angry.

[willsmama]

Enjoy your retail therapy (and who cares if it is bigger sizes!?)

[Momto3]

Bigger sizes is only on the tag. Cut the tag out and no one (including you) will ever know!

[hanvan]

I broke down and bought bigger clothes on mothers day. My sister went with me and helped me pick out some stuff. I hate how my body is now but whatever :roll: I am about 2 sizes bigger than before reese :? AND I have cut the tag out of my clothes because I didnt want to see the size :lol:

I love pottery barn for decorations Al!!

[without]

Sarah...


How was the date with DH?


My date was ok.... he is really tall and cute. Not handsome but cute. He has the longest eye lashes! LOL I don't think he is the guy for me but it was a nice lunch. My dad says that he thinks I just don't want to date any one. LOL I was like what gave that away? :lol: Our schedules are just to different so I don't think it will work out with that guy.

[newmami]

I am glad you had a fun time Pam... and glad you gave it a try. If you don't want a second date for a while, don't do it!!

So DH is leaving for New Orleans today... WOOO HOOO!!!! He got upset because I wasn't taking him to the airport, but he is coming back Thursday late, and I don't want to stroll kids in the car at 11 pm!!!

I got me some crafts to make frames, so I will spend my nights doing something I want!! I was going to clean, but thought ME time was more important!!

[rhiannasmoms43]

newmami wrote:
I was going to clean, but thought ME time was more important

I love the way you think :lol: ANYTHING is more important than cleaning today! I'm as lazy as my dog :D
I'm trying to follow the FLYLADY regime but I just read about it, don't do anything about it :roll:
We are selling our house next spring and want a realtor to come in now and tell us what needs to be done to make it more appealing.
Needless to say I don't feel like cleaning up.

...got...to...get...off...computer...

[without]

Claudia,
I love the new sig pic! LOL I could so see Morgan doing that! there have been times she has shared with me in the middle of the night! Nothing liking waking up to a kid shoving a sippy cup in your mouth! LOL

[sarahlynn]

Well the date was so good..we went out to a nice little fancy restaurant in town..sat and ate and talked and just hung out..it was so nice to be out and have adult time and adult conversation without making kids sit still and mind..than we went home and ummm you know :lol: but we dont knwo what to do..the mini pill didnt work for me..i was so moody and culdnt remember to take it ontime..and condoms are a no go DH just cant get anywhere with them on..(WTMI) :lol: so not sure..either we are gonna be lucky wiht the P&P or were gonna beknocked up in no time

[YellowRose]

Glad you had a nice date, Sarah. Dh and I really need to have one soon. We haven't been out alone since Valentine's day. It's waaay over due!

Claudia, I love the new siggy pic... you have two very adorble kids!

[Bells614]

Glad your date went well Sarah! I hear you on the mini pill. I went from that to another pill and it just wasn't going to do it for me. I was just plain evil! The other day I told DH I was emotional for some reason....he said "hmmmm.....it's been a while, are you pregnant?" HA! I guess he has noticed a difference over the last 5 months of no hormones! And no, I'm not pg!


Pam, I'm glad the date was okay. Dating isn't a must do. Morgan is only this age once, so enjoy it!!!!!

[Momto3]

Yay for a good date for Sarah!

Alison I forgot to say thanks for the book recommendation. I'll have ot check that out. I'm sure being 70 lbs over weight has something to do with the lack of interest on my part.

[without]

I am to lazy to date! I just want to find Mr. Right with out having to date! LOL

Its only Monday and I am already sick of work.


I am taking Morgan to have her pictures done on Wed. She will be a year 1/2 where does the time go? :roll:

[DIVADLX]

Hi ladies! Popping in to say I miss you guys SOOO much!!!

[sarahlynn]

AWWWW we miss you to.

does this sound bad..i havent gotten lucea pics taken since umm 6 weeks old :shock: i take so many at home and they get so expensive..i can never just get $50 bucks worth it ends up being $300 :lol:

but i do have my appt set for family pictures soon.

[without]

I had Morgans done for her one year birthday and after this wont have them done again until christmas.

[EvandAl]

I haven't ever had professional pics of John taken :roll: I think I have finally gotten DH to agree to have some done in a few months since John will be a year old :shock: I want to get a few of just John and then do a family picture!

[tralynne75]

Hey All!!!!!!!!1 It has been forever since I have been in here. I am sooo lost and have no time to catch up right now.

Pam, love your new siggy of Morgan.
Claudia I love yours also. Chris is growing so fast.

We are packing up, clearing out the junk so we can put our house on the market. Fingers crossed, good thought, and prayers would be helpful. This 2 bedroom is getting tooo small.

Katie is mean as ever, needs my full attention 24/7. I have no clue what I will do when the baby gets here. I just pray she will be able to play by herself some and not be jealous. I have created a monster. :lol:

Dylan told me yeaterday he is staying here with me. So no moving to my moms for now. Of course he changes his mind like he changes underware. :lol: But after talking to Lynn (thank you soo much) I am ok with whatever he decides. He is a good kid and he is praying about this so I feel confident he will do what is best for him. I know it must be hard being 14 with a 1 yr old sister and another baby on the way. He was really the only child for 13 yrs.

Well back off to pack and clean before miss priss wakes up.

[Momto3]

He Tracy!

Good to hear from you! I'm so glad to hear that Dylan is going to stay around. He may also realize that you are going to need some help with Katie. Sometimes the 14 y/o seem in their own little worlds but they can be oh so intuitive!

[newmami]

HEY TRACY!! I didn't knew you were moving, are you buying a new house??? how exciting!!
I am glad Dylan decided to stay with you, he is such a good boy!

JENN, hey girlie, we miss you in here

I am thinking I should buy that book too..... otherwise DH would find someone else to have sex with!!

So yesterday I decided to keep Chris on the bed with me, as DH is out... I didn't snuggle with him because I am afraid I will smash him, but it was nice knowing he was there next to me. He woke up 5:30, so he is officially sleeping through the night... WOO HOO!!!

Thank you for the compliments on the pictures. Dani thinks it is a good idea to share her drinks and foods with Chris.... how can I explain to her he doesn't eat regular food????

[tralynne75]

well I have to sell before I can move but we really need something bigger. We had a guy come by last night and said he would pay cash if we lowered our price by $15,000. I said bring the cah and it's all yours. LOL!!!!! Condos here are not selling. Prices are about 125,000 and I am asking 115,000 due to our carpet needs changing so I will take 100,00 just to get the heck out of here. So I pray he comes throug for me.

[Momto3]

Yay for you Tracy! That would be so cool to just sell like that. We have a Townhouse 3/ 2.5 and Dh has decided that he wants to buy my Aunt's house which is a single family home. Of course it is only a 3/2 but it has a dining room that we don't need but could convert to a 4th bedroom. Has a garage, etc. Problem is there are 5 Townhouse units like our on the market right now. NOTHING is selling. So I am scared to even try and put it on the market.

[Momto3]

Greaaaaaaaat!! I'm the thread killer! :roll:

[without]

I have not read the other post sorry!

I am just jumping in to say... I wont be posting much for then next few days. I will still check my PM and will check in on this post but wont be posting in other places.

I am only posting this here because its only a small number of girls who check it. As much as I thought I was doing a good job protecting myself and dating safe it looks like I was wrong! Last night I found myself in a situation I didn't know how to get out of. Now today I keep thinking of his words......You keep saying NO but I didn't know what you ment by it. Like no no this is so good or NO because you just couldn't think of another word to use. :evil: Any way now today I am beating myself up thinking why didn't I use the word STOP but the only word that would come to mind was ... NO and I bed it said a zillion times before it was over. I am tired sore and upset today. I am not ready for dating if this is what I have to look forward to. This was a family friend and I thought I was safe. Any way I just wanted to let you know why I am MIA. Don't feel sorry for me I shouldn't have let myself get into the situation! With my emotions of kilter I think its best that I stay away because I almost went off in the Co-sleeping topic and its not like me to jump in on drama.

Anyways you all have a good weekend and I am sure by Monday I will have pulled myself back together! :wink:

[haydensmom]

OH PAM! You need to report this guy - family friend or not, he KNOWS what NO means! I am soooo sorry sweetie! You do not deserve that at all! I so wish I could just give you a huge hug. Oh dear, I'm praying for you.

It's NOT your fault, though - don't ever tell yourself that. NOT EVER!!! It is his fault - ALWAYS!! And he should be prosecuted for it. He doesn't deserve to get away with it and do it to someone else. :cry: Oh sweetie....

[EvandAl]

Pam!! That sounds sooooo scary!!! I know you said don't feel sorry, but I do, from what you mentioned it is something that Shouldn't have happened, what a creep! I hope you are okay!!!!!

[rhiannasmoms43]

Pam- you were date raped...it is not your fault. Definitely seek counselling, even if you choose not to pursue it legally. This will leave lasting scars.
Hugs, and yes I am sorry you experienced that.
No means no- and don't think he doesn't know that./

[without]

As I told one of the other girls the worst part is... Our kids were there. I thought I was being safe. We were to take the kids to the park stop and get pizza. Sounds safe and in public right! Well... Thank God Morgan was a sleep and didn't see a thing but his 3 year old son watched the whole thing. :cry:

Thanks girls! I feel really stupid this morning.

[haydensmom]

As I told one of the other girls the worst part is... Our kids were there. I thought I was being safe. We were to take the kids to the park stop and get pizza. Sounds safe and in public right! Well... Thank God Morgan was a sleep and didn't see a thing but his 3 year old son watched the whole thing. :cry:

Thanks girls! I feel really stupid this morning.

He sounds like a horrible father as well as a horrible person. :cry: That poor little boy! If you can find the strength, you need to report this hon... or at least talk to someone besides us about it. You NEED NOT FEEL STUPID BECAUSE IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. He knew what he was doing. And I bet it's not the first time. Too bad someone hasn't reported him so that it didn't happen to you. :cry:

[EvandAl]

As I told one of the other girls the worst part is... Our kids were there. I thought I was being safe. We were to take the kids to the park stop and get pizza. Sounds safe and in public right! Well... Thank God Morgan was a sleep and didn't see a thing but his 3 year old son watched the whole thing. :cry:

Thanks girls! I feel really stupid this morning.

He sounds like a horrible father as well as a horrible person. :cry: That poor little boy! If you can find the strength, you need to report this hon... or at least talk to someone besides us about it. You NEED NOT FEEL STUPID BECAUSE IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. He knew what he was doing. And I bet it's not the first time. Too bad someone hasn't reported him so that it didn't happen to you. :cry:

I second this 110%!! It's probably not the first time he's done this! What a horrible, horrible person. And that poor little boy!

I agree if you find the strength you should report him!

[rhiannasmoms43]

As I told one of the other girls the worst part is... Our kids were there. I thought I was being safe. We were to take the kids to the park stop and get pizza. Sounds safe and in public right! Well... Thank God Morgan was a sleep and didn't see a thing but his 3 year old son watched the whole thing. :cry:

Thanks girls! I feel really stupid this morning.

He sounds like a horrible father as well as a horrible person. :cry: That poor little boy! If you can find the strength, you need to report this hon... or at least talk to someone besides us about it. You NEED NOT FEEL STUPID BECAUSE IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. He knew what he was doing. And I bet it's not the first time. Too bad someone hasn't reported him so that it didn't happen to you. :cry:

I second this 110%!! It's probably not the first time he's done this! What a horrible, horrible person. And that poor little boy!

I agree if you find the strength you should report him!


DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!
He used your natural intstincts to protect your (and his)child against you, knowing you wouldn't make a huge scene for fear of scaring the kids.
Pam, if nothing else, please get counselling? You need to know that you did nothing wrong and he is a monster. Imagine what his son will grow up to be like, frequently being exposed to that scenario. :(
I do hope you report him, but please take care of yourself at least. Don't let him ruin your life?
I'm really worried about you.

[Jai]

Pam, I am so sorry honey. We ARE here for you, but I do agree that you should look into immediate couciling. He does need to be reported. God Pam, I wish I knew what to say. One thing I do know is this was NOT NOT NOT your fault. Please believe that.

HUGS to you sweetie. Im here if you want to talk.

[sarahlynn]

Oh Pam i am so sorry :( how rotten and horrible..if you ever need to talk privately PM me..i was through a very similar situation when i was younger and it can really really mess with you..today i still beat myself up about not being more forceful to stop things..NO MEANS NO and they KNOW THIS~ they are just selfish horrible human beings who need a good kick to the head..and i would very much consider reporting him if i were you... :cry:

hang in there.

[YellowRose]

Pam, I am sooooo sorry this happened to you. What a horrible, horrible person to take advantage of you like that... and with his son watching, that just makes him even more of a horrible person.

I agree with the others, please look into counseling. And he really does need to be reported.

BIG BIG hugs, sweetie!!! I'm here if you need to talk.

[newmami]

OMG Pam, I am in tears reading this sweetie, and I am so upset that creep took advantage of you... I am so sorry Pam, I wish I was there with you to help you go through this

You have my numbers, CALL me anytime!! DH is out until Thursday, so I can talk freely

You did NOTHING wrong!! no means no, he is the one to blame, you are the victim here.... GOD I WANT TO GO KILL THAT BA$TARD!!!

[HollyJo]

Oh Pam, I'm so sorry that this has happened. Do NOT blame yourself. It doesn't matter if you said 'no', 'stop', 'get out of my house', or whatever, he would have done it anyways because he is a scum-sucking pig dog. He's just making excuses and trying to justify his behavior. I know you said he is a family friend, but I think reporting him is a good idea. Don't let him get away with it. I have tons of cell phone minutes if you want to talk. You are not at fault, you are not to blame, you are not a bad person. Please talk to someone or seek counseling so you don't have to go through this alone. Sending lots of love your way.

[Momto3]

Pam -

I just wanted to say that I agree with all the ladies here. Please talk to someone so that this does not affect you because you were not at fault!

Big Hugs and Lots of Love!

[Bells614]

Pam, I have no words. I am so very, very sorry. Please report him. All too often, it is the "family friend" that is the repeat offender. Seriously consider reporting him. Additionally, find someone, anyone to talk to. I'll PM you my number, and I know anyone of these gals would be more than happy to talk. A counselor would be another wonderful resource. Please, whatever you do, do not be silent. Talk with someone.

I'm thinking of you and Morgan. :cry:

[tralynne75]

Oh No Pam!! I am so sorry, hugs to you. I will not be a broken record but I do agree with what everyone else has said. Does your work offer someone to talk to? How about your preacher? You do need to talk to someone. Have you told your family, since he was a family friend? My dad would kill him. And that poor little boy. I wonder what was going on in his head. Heck I worry Katie will wake up and see me and DH and she is only 1, much less putting a 3 yr through that. He is a horrible father.

[without]

Thanks girls I just wanted to let you know that I am going to go to the DR and get checked out. Thanks for being here for me and I will be back on tomorrow.

Now lets talk about some thing happy!


Like... today Morgan turns a year 1/2! We are going to have our pictures made tonight! We are having a Mommy and me night out! I can't wait.

[tralynne75]

Please let us know about your dr appt.

I can't believe Morgan is a yr and 1/2 already. I hope ya'll have a great time out tonight and you kow we want to see the pics.

[newmami]

Mommy and me night out sounds WONDERFUL!!! I have been wanting to go out with my 2 kids alone.... maybe next week once Dh gets paid (hate that he gets paid once a month)... DH is traveling pretty much all week, so I will go treat myself & Dani

Any of your kids is calling themselves by their names? Dani sees herself in the mirror and goes NANI!! it is so adorable!! and now officially she calls me MAMI... if she sees a picture of me, she points and says MAMI

And this week as DH is out, Chris is sleeping in my bed.... SOOOO NICE!! I don't cuddle with him because I am scared to smash him, but it is nice to have him close.... :roll: DH is out and I have another man in my bed already!!! :lol:

[EvandAl]

DH is out and I have another man in my bed already!!! :lol:

HAHA Too cute!!!

Pam I hope you have a great night tonight with Morgan!!

I can't wait until John is a little bigger and going out with him can be a little more "fun" :D

[YellowRose]

Pam, can you believe our babies are already 18 months old?! It seems like just yesterday we were in the race to see who would go first!! The past year and a half has really flown by!!! I hope you and Miss Morgan have a great time tonight!!!

[EvandAl]

Wanted to dig this off of Page 2 for us for today :wink:

How is everyone today? Gotta run, time for breakfast :D

[Momto3]

Morning all!

Last night at Target we were walking down an isle and there was this potty type toilet seat cover that was covered in "Dora the Explorer". So as Katelyn sees it she goes Dorda. :shock: We never watch this at home so I didn't even know she knew who Dora was.

[newmami]

He he, little girls are obsessed with Dora... at least I know Dani is!!
I must get her that potty!!!

Pam, how was the girls night out????

DH called yesterday (he is in New Orleans working) and I put him on the speaker for Dani. He started talking to her and she had this confused look on her face, but went Dadda and blew him kisses.... then she started whinning because she wanted Dadda.... poor DH, he was feeling homesick and hearing Dani almost made him cry.

[chellebelle32]

Claudia, Morgan is at a stage where she will not go to sleep unless she knows that daddy is home. It's lots of fun on some Saturday nights when I have given him the ok to go out with his friend. I'm glad that he misses her. Sometimes it doesn't seem like he wants to take an interest in the kids. Maybe this will help him come around and be more attentive. I hope you don't think I'm out of line. I don't mean to be.

[without]

I had a blast out with Morgan last night. I took lots of props to the stuido. I have found that even though they have there own the pictures mean so much more to me if I come up with my own ideas! LOL I am sure they see me coming and thinkg... Oh, no! I can't wait until I can show you all the pictures! It will be about a week before I can get on line so I can post them here. Most of you know that I have called Morgan Ladybug since Claudia sent me a ladybug toy when I was only a few weeks prego. Anyways I took a bunch of her ladybug toys and we took her pictures with those with her in her ladybug over alls! :lol: They turned out way to cute! Good thing my mom was paying because I couldn't turn down a pose! It was a good buy at 3.99 a sheet and no sitting fee but still she took about 20 diff. shots!

After we took pictures we went to Taco bell! I had been doing so well with all the healthy stuff for Morgan and all the organic I could grow and buy but last night we fell off the waggon and Morgan ate so mean beans she sounded like a machine gun was going off in her PJ's all night! :lol:

After we ate we ran into Wal-Mart because my phone got struck in the last big storm we had last week and fried my phone and answering machine. We got a new one and some new sippy cups (that I have to take back because they just don't work you can't get any thing out of them even I tried to suck on it and about caved in my head trying to get water out of the thing) and then it was off to the house.

It was a great night.

BTW..... I did turn him in to the police. I don't know what will happen to the whole thing but I did turn him in. They said I can't charge him with rape (due to him not using his male parts on me) but could charge him with sexual assult and sod. :roll: I am feeling much better today and really just want to drop the whole thing but I know if I do he may do this to some one new. Also I wonder if the mother of his son knows what he is doing? I mean its like he uses his son to lure girls out and make them feel safe and then his son is stuck watching the whole thing. Poor kid I hope they get some help for him if nothing else comes of this.

Thanks for being her for me!

[rhiannasmoms43]

Pam wrote:
BTW..... I did turn him in to the police. I don't know what will happen to the whole thing but I did turn him in. They said I can't charge him with rape (due to him not using his male parts on me) but could charge him with sexual assult and sod. I am feeling much better today and really just want to drop the whole thing but I know if I do he may do this to some one new. Also I wonder if the mother of his son knows what he is doing? I mean its like he uses his son to lure girls out and make them feel safe and then his son is stuck watching the whole thing. Poor kid I hope they get some help for him if nothing else comes of this

I am sooooooo glad you did this! I have a VERY close family member who is still single at 46 and has never been in a long term relationship because of this happening to her. She never pursued it, never got help, and is deeply scarred from it.
I am so proud to 'know' such a strong woman as you! Your dd has an amazing roll model!

[tralynne75]

How cute that Katelyn knows Dora. We do not watch Dora either. But I have to say Katie does not say alot of words so if that came out of her mouth I think I would faint. LOL!!!

Claudia, you made me cry. thinking about DH being home sick. Darn hormones. I finally got called mama this month. There is nothing better then hearing those words.

Pam, I am so glad you had a great night out. You needed it. I can't wait to see the pics. It's funny I call Katie...Katie-bug and have ladybugs every where.

Aly, I just read your are pregnant. Congrats, I am so excited for you!!!!!!!!!!!

[Momto3]

Pam -I'm so glad that you were strong enough to report it to the police. Hang in there. And you are right the mother of his child should know what he is doing while that kid is watching. Just wrong!

Claudia - Poor Dani missing her Daddy. :(

Tracy - Mama is the sweetest thing they could say, and I think "I love you" comes next.


Katelyn is now a kissing machine. She loves to pucker her lips and will pucker for just about anyone. We have to hold her back from puckering to strangers!

[sarahlynn]

i need to be picked up.. i was on such a high with paying off the bills but now FIL visiting and a harley looming in our bill future i am in a slump.. :( it felt so good for 3 days to be positive.

[EvandAl]

claudia that's so sweet that DH is homesick and that Dani is missing him!!

Pam I'm soooo glad you turned the guy in!! Hopefully some good will come out of this and that little boy won't have to see anymore of his father being a sicko!

AWW I can't wait until John *really* calls me mama!!

So john really started walking yesterday! It is so exciting. He's really not a *Baby* anymore. He's been taking steps here and there for about a week but yesterday he just started standing up and going and has been doing it all morning too!
here's a link to a video if you want to see HEHEHE
http://s72.photobucket.com/albums/i187/EvandAl/?action=view&current=f66667df.pbr

Aly- Congrats on the BFP

[EvandAl]

wanted to add Sarah I totally know what you mean. DH and I have worked our butts off to pay off all of our CC (20,000 :shock: ) and we are down to 1,000 :D but we are buying a house next month and now will have more debt for furniture (we're not buying much, but have nothing) and all the other things that come with a home! It feels like a revolving circle! :? :evil:

[sarahlynn]

wanted to add Sarah I totally know what you mean. DH and I have worked our butts off to pay off all of our CC (20,000 :shock: ) and we are down to 1,000 :D but we are buying a house next month and now will have more debt for furniture (we're not buying much, but have nothing) and all the other things that come with a home! It feels like a revolving circle! :? :evil:

yeah thats right it just never ends....especially with my DH :lol: i guess it could be worse right? :shock:

[rhiannasmoms43]

Alison your little John is adorable! All wobbly yet determined :lol:

Sarah, I HATE being in debt! so I understand how bummed you are to be out of it only to be thrown back into it again.
...but, honestly, I would have a hard time refusing my dh a Harley if I thought the possibilities were he only had a limited time to enjoy it before his disease progressed.
Tough choices.

Claudia, I've never had to deal with a child missing their daddy (single parent 1st time around)- this will be a new experience for me!
Dani is so darned cute I'm surprised your dh didn't hop on the next flight home to be with her :lol:

[sarahlynn]

Sarah, I HATE being in debt! so I understand how bummed you are to be out of it only to be thrown back into it again.
...but, honestly, I would have a hard time refusing my dh a Harley if I thought the possibilities were he only had a limited time to enjoy it before his disease progressed.
Tough choices.

thats where i am right now..weighing the pos and neg..when i see him struggle sometimes to walk inthe mornings i think Sarah its only $ and you only live once..whats thebig deal..and hey maybe i can use this to my advantage..WELL HONEY YOU HAVE A HARLEY I WANT HTIS :lol:

[rhiannasmoms43]

Sarah, I HATE being in debt! so I understand how bummed you are to be out of it only to be thrown back into it again.
...but, honestly, I would have a hard time refusing my dh a Harley if I thought the possibilities were he only had a limited time to enjoy it before his disease progressed.
Tough choices.

thats where i am right now..weighing the pos and neg..when i see him struggle sometimes to walk inthe mornings i think Sarah its only $ and you only live once..whats thebig deal..and hey maybe i can use this to my advantage..WELL HONEY YOU HAVE A HARLEY I WANT HTIS :lol:


:lol: We do love our guilt trips and bargaining chips don't we?

[sarahlynn]

heck yeah....!!!!

he will owe me for a very very very long time :twisted:

[without]

Sarah,

I know how you feel to but I have no one to blame but myself and Morgan. LOL I just paid all our bills for the month and did a little dance! We paid our bills and had food on our table this whole month and so far have not had to borrow any money for food or diapers from my parents! It feels great~

[sarahlynn]

Sarah,

I know how you feel to but I have no one to blame but myself and Morgan. LOL I just paid all our bills for the month and did a little dance! We paid our bills and had food on our table this whole month and so far have not had to borrow any money for food or diapers from my parents! It feels great~

you can blame my DH..i blame him for most eveyrhting so he will understand.. :lol:

[newmami]

Pam, I am so glad you reported that ba$tard!! I hope they prosecute him so he doesn't do that to anyone, and so they take his son from him... what kind of example he is giving???
Forgot to add: glad you had fun with the photo session, and I cannot wait to see the pictures!! YUMM TACO BELL! I had Arby's for dinner yesterday because I didn't felt like cooking :oops:

Awww Tracy, I agree that MOMMY is the sweetest, best word you can hear from your kids

Sarah, just tell DH the motorcycle has to wait, so you can enjoy being almost debt free for a while

Michelle, I don't feel offended with your comments about DH. I also hope this makes him get more involved with the kids. The problem is that kids are too simple for him, he has a very complex mind and gets frustrated with "stupid" (for lack of a better word) things....
**sigh** his only fault is that he is selfish, and since the kids are born I am not, so it is hard to be on the same page!

[without]

Sarah! Thats a great idea! its your husbands fault! Ahhh... now I feel so much better! :lol:

[chellebelle32]

Bumping this up! It's Friday! I only have to work for about an hour longer then I have to go to a company safety thing for four hours. After that, the afternoon is mine. I am going to get the oil changed in my car along with its yearly inspection. Then I plan on going to Sam's and pick up some cleaning stuff. I'm excited because it's time to myself before I go pick up Morgan from preschool. No tempers from the little or BIG kid while I leisurely browse (window shop). I hope everyone has an awesome weekend!

[without]

I have to groom this week end but I don't mind only one of the dogs is a problem dog and then I think Morgan and I will spend the rest of the time vegging at home.

[sarahlynn]

UGh you guys i am so bummed now...why just when you think things are ok in your marrrige and you got over constant bumps do you hit another one..

[newmami]

I hear you Sarah.... I am on a big bump, and I hope I can get out of it

Dh came back from New Orleans yesterday night, he was all mushy telling me how much he missed me... I didn't missed him!! I actually was fine (a little overwhealmed with the kids) without him.... SUCKS!!! :?

I am taking Dani shopping, she needs shorts and a new bathing suit, and I need some new underwear :oops: . SK is staying with his mom... YEAH!!!

Sarah, there is a building company that is giving away a harley when you buy a house (yes the market is that bad). When I heard the commercial I thought you should move here, buy a house and get a FREE HD for Matt :lol:

[sarahlynn]

i just dont even want to go home..he didnt get the harley..the bank wouldnt give them that much money for a 95 harley..and there was no way we could pull the additional $600 out of our arses..
FIL has drank all three night he has been here..and it was getting ot me so i asked DH if it would be bad if i took a break and went ot the farmers market without him..mayeb he coudl go golfing or something..
so FIL goes golfing yesterday i take the kids to the farmers markey.cy is pissed cause he wanted to stay wiht his friends so he throws a fit the whole way there..i just keep gettin more and more upset adn say screw it and turn around and go home..FIL gets home around 9:30 FROM THE BAR apparently he took a detour on the way home and ate, had a drink and bought some more booze..YAY!
so he is drinking and gettign more annoying all the time..DH comes home..i amcrabby cause earlier int he day DH asked if he could take his dad golfing and pay for it for fathers day present and for watching the kids ? the cost $200 UMMMM NO FRICIN WAY! UGH


so he comes over to me says something. i dont hear it..the TV is on, DH is whispering cause its about his dad or something who is in the other room..all i hear is i;m sorry..i just keep wathcing tv..

i go itno the kitchen to get cy some cereal DH JUMPS MY ASS.."you know you could respect my dad, he drives 700 miles he is watching the kids for us, you dont need to just take off"

i was so baffled..take off when? he went golfing and i left whats wrong with that..respect excuse me? respect me at my house not to drink eveyr night.. i just left it and went to bed..this morn it started all over again..dh was in a ****ty mood and we just argued all morning..

it never ends..i just finally felt like things smoothed out and we hadnt argues in awhile and stupid FIL comes to visit..who might i add i have been very very nice to and have not said a **** word to about the drinking..DH works night so i am the one to deal with FIL not him..and i get in trouble for asking for a break..

i want a divorce right now :oops:

[haydensmom]

Sarah that totally sucks. I'd be extremely irritated at FIL too if he acted like that. Sometimes, your dh just doesn't get what it's like it seems. Like, how in the heck do you respect someone who gets drunk every night??? :roll: Seriously...

Ok so call me a dork, but I totally want to see Hairspray. :lol: I love musicals. There are a lot of movies out right now that look good. Has anyone seen Rattatouille yet? It is sooooooo good! I would pay to see it again. I want to OWN it! :lol:

[rhiannasmoms43]

A co-worker of dh went to see Hairspray and guess who plays the old woman? John Travolta!
The co-worker said it was really good and Travolta was great in it.
I didn't even know he did stage plays.

[newmami]

I am so sorry Sarah! I don't know what to say... but I would be upset with a FIL who only comes to my house to drink

[sarahlynn]

ugh and what bugs me most is that DH thinks i should just deal with it and get over it since he is only here for 5 days..and he drove 500 miles..but its my house i shouldnt have to deal with this.. :x :( :cry:

[without]

Oh, Sarah!! Grants family is the same way! I am to respect them and the way they live there life but they don't have to respect me because I am not really there family! Ugh!!! You need to treat yourself as soon as the man is gone!

[EvandAl]

Sarah that stinks! I would be pissed too!

I want to kill DH right now too! We aren't getting along so I totally know what you mean. I am one of those people who never say anything and keep it in, but I think I am at a boiling point.

Okay that got me started so please excuse my mini vent here....

For me it all revolvles around DH not helping me much with John. I am stubborn (my own fault I know) and I HATE asking him for help. And he NEVER offers. So I occassionally do break down and ask but it drives me nuts. I would LOVE for him to just say, hey let me change that Diaper or I'll feed him you eat your dinner. So I have been frustrated and tired, John has been fighting bedtime for the last 2 weeks and it has been taking me over an hour to get him down. So by that time I still have to pick up the kitchen and after that I just want to watch TV and go to bed. But of course DH wants to have Sex and I am just not in the mood! Plus I am pissed at him so I am even less inclined to just go along with it, Kwim? So he is pissed at me because I'm not trying to jump his bones! AGGHHH

Okay done.

Sorry I hate to b*tch about my husband because I love him a ton, but I seriously had to get that out!

[DIVADLX]

I've been trying really hard to keep up with this lately since i miss you ladies...

Sarah - I totally feel ya! My MIL comes to visit - stays THREE WEEKS and gets fall down drunk every night and picks a sob fight with us - "Oh why do you hate me so much!" She wonders why I can't stand her - I have zero respect for her, and she emotionally manipulates us. BUT whenever she is coming, and maybe this would help? Whenever she is coming, I remind DH that she is his mother, not mine and his responsibility to entertain. I will smile and do my part, but I will not go out of my way to spend time with that chain smoking, deoderant rejecting, emotionally stunted alcoholic. If he wants to invite her, he has to pay the price. It sounds horrible, but I have spent my share of time being the good daughter in law, and in fact DH used to just disappear for hours without telling, leaving ME to deal with her. No way.

Alison - what is funny is that you do what my DH does and it drives me up the wall!!! I decided long ago that he's not a mind reader and that if I want something (especially since men are so dumb and so self centered that they seldom think to ask if anyone else needs anything) I gotta ask for it. So if I need help, or I need something, I ask for it. However, every so once in a while, he'll blow up at me - "You were going into the kitchen - and you couldn't even ask me if I wanted a popsicle?" I'll be like, jeez, if you wanted a popsicle, why didn't you ask for one? because you should have asked me if I wanted one! It drives me up the wall!!!!!!!!

This is too long... I'll post again later with a Stella update for you ladies!

[EvandAl]

I did break down and ask him to take over bath time with John. We usually only do baths every other night so it's not too much work for him. I knew he'd say yes, but it was so hard for me to ask. So hopefully now at least on those nights I will be able to clean up the kitchen right after dinner instead of after John goes to bed.

[without]

I hate to ask for help too!!!!! :roll: And then If I do give in and ask and get the slightest hint of heitation i get ticked!

OK girls its Friday and I am blue so I ordered pizza and... it took the 2 stink'n hours to get it to me! Ugh! On the bright side I pitched a fit and it was free! LOL

[Momto3]

Pizza! Yummmmmmm! If I see one more lettuce leaf...blech :yuck:

[DIVADLX]

So Stella blows her nose. Is it really weird that I should be extremely proud of this accomplishment? And if I tell her to blow hard, she does. Snot extraction - the great achievement! ;)

Pizza... actually, I made pizza last night for dinner and it was so good... but this morning it didn't go so well with my M/S...

[Fluterby]

Ok, I just want to say this thread is insane! Can someone give me the Cliff Notes? :D

[tralynne75]

Sarah I am so sorry.

Allison, glad you asked dh. I have thought it is time to get DH to give Katie a bath. Once I have a huge belly bending over the tub with be hard. DH does clean the kitchen after dinner but I do haveto go in and finish cleaning. At least he tries.

So my son said he wants my job when he gets older. He says I sit on my butt and tell Drew (dh) what to do. DH does the laundry, cleans whatever and what he does not do I pay a housekeeper to do. And I get all the money that comes into the house. LOL!!!!! I told him I do not plan on giving my job up any time soon. Maybe I ought to video tape all I do while he is out running the roads. I do pay someone to clean my bathrooms and mop since the thought makes me sick right now. Of course this new girl sucks at it and I am going behind her and recleaning.

Yay for Stella blowing her nose. Katie is starting this. I have bad allergies and am blowing my nose about every 30 mins so she takes tissue and blows but nothing comes out yet.

Katie whistles now. I thought that was something for older kids. And i have no clue where she learned it. I hate whislting!!!!!!! For some reason it drives me crazy. Like someone running thier nails down a chalk board.

Also Katie can talk but doesn't that much. I think she gunts at step-mils and they jump so she thinks she can do it here. I have let her cry until she says a word but she still will not. If she is away from them for longer then a day then she will talk again. The problem there is they are ALWAYS over here and getting her. And they chain smoke so she stinks when she comes home and I do not approve at all. But they give me omey to stay home with her. They give me 1000. a month to stay home and if I complin they take it away. I wish I could find a good stay at home job and tell them to go to heck or at least find a good babysitter and go back to work but I will never bring home 1000 a month. Ok so now I have vented.

[MarchMommy]

OMG tracy you are already 12 weeks along????!!?!?!?

time is flying!

[hershey]

Ok, I just want to say this thread is insane! Can someone give me the Cliff Notes? :D

ha ha! there are no cliff notes on this thread.. its kinda like Seinfeld: its a thread about nothing.. i love it!
i wouldnt wanna be the post killer, lets see who kills it.. lol
and hey EvandAl , thats a hot pic yu got there. looks like a fun man you`re raising.

[Fluterby]

Ok, I just want to say this thread is insane! Can someone give me the Cliff Notes? :D

ha ha! there are no cliff notes on this thread.. its kinda like Seinfeld: its a thread about nothing.. i love it!
i wouldnt wanna be the post killer, lets see who kills it.. lol


That's what I figured! How funny!

[Momto3]

Tracy -

I'd take the 1000 a month to stay home too! I'd just give Katie a bath every time she came home from there!

Oh and KAtelyn is now refusing to eat certain things. She used to be so good at eating, especially if we distract her with books. Now she gets picky, clams up and says no, no, no, no!

[without]

How did you do it??? I ask Morgan to blow her nose and she blows out her mouth! :roll: I say no your nose and she sniffs in not out! LOL

[newmami]

Allison, are we married to the same man??
I am upset with DH too, yesterday Chris was very clingy, we were taking a shower and Chris started crying, so DH came out and changed him, then I ran out the shower and went downstairs to make a bottle, Chris is still crying, I get to our room and he is laying on the bed while DH is getting dressed!!! :shock: I held Chris and he stopped crying immediately... jeez pal, was it so hard to hold him for a while??

I am at the point where I don't see a valid reason to be married. DH is more work than help, I take care of the kids and the house, cook most of the nights, do dishes, laundry and I am mostly the one who takes the garbage out.... so why do I need a husband again???

Anyways, YAY Stella for blowing her nose!!! I say it is a hard thing to do.

Dani is melting my heart, she goes around saying MAMI...... I LOVE HER!!

[sarahlynn]

awwww DH can be a huge PITA~ :(


i am wonderfing if mine will remember our anniversary on wed..i mean i wrote it on the calendar on the wall right by the ocmputer he has to look at it right? not that i will get anything but a kiss might be nice..

woudl someone pleaseeeeeeeeee drive up here and fix FIL car so he can leave town..he left at 2:30 in the morn and the darn thing broke down a few blocks away..honestly i dont deserve this :lol:

one more day one more day

[without]

I am at the point where I don't see a valid reason to be married. DH is more work than help, I take care of the kids and the house, cook most of the nights, do dishes, laundry and I am mostly the one who takes the garbage out.... so why do I need a husband again???

Don't ask me because with every guy I date I ask myself the same thing! :roll:

Sarah if I knew any thing about fixing cars I would come help but I fear I would only make it worse and he would be there even longer. :lol:

[sarahlynn]

i dont think yoiu can make it worse..they just called and it is gonna cost $1200 to fix and wont be done till wed :shock: :x :cry:

[newmami]

Eeeks Sarah!! I hope the week goes by fast!!
I will volunteer to go fix it, but all I know about cars is that they need gas and oil (but I don't know where to put the oil)

Yesterday I was thinking I really can do this on my own... how sad huh???

Pam, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE ADORABLE SHIRTS!!! they are ready to be used, once I get Chris some shorts!!!
I didn't picked up mail last week, it was always raining when I got home!

[without]

With all that went on last week I forgot I mailed them! LOL I hope they fit and are not to small! I bought them right after he was born! Ugh! Sorry they are so late!

[sarahlynn]

Yesterday I was thinking I really can do this on my own... how sad huh???
!

I have thought this way on occasion before..:( :roll:

Went home for Lunch FIL did not seem happy about the car news..he didnt say one word to me..iwanted to say WELL FLY NEXT TIME :lol:

[sarahlynn]

oh lord the AC went out in our office..i am sooooo hot..its 103 outside.

[chellebelle32]

Sarah, when it rains it pours for you, doesn't it?

My programmable keyboard just bit the dust. It's going to take me a lot longer to do my job until a new comes in. I can program one key to do a whole lot more keystrokes and mouse clicks. I guess I'll have to actually spend my time working instead of surfing. :cry:

[without]

Yuck! I hate it when I have to work when I go to work! :lol: I mean when you work 2 jobs one should be made up of just surffing the net! LOL

Ugh! Sarah I hope they get it fixed soon! Our a/c went out once here at the u of a and as soon as it hit 80 in our office we we able to go home! :lol:

[newmami]

No A/C in the office?? I will just go home!! I would be sweating so bad I probably pass out!!!

So I realized yesterday (I do lots of thinking when I am stuck in traffic :roll: ) that work doesn't bring any satisfaction to my life. I know I am contributing and helping here, and making a difference, but it still leaves me empty inside... .no personal or professional pride :(
I told DH about this, and the only thing he said was "makes sense because you want to stay with the kids".... THAT WAS IT!!!
And then he wonders why I don't talk to him that much, like you care pal about how I am feeling!!! he hasn't asked ONCE how I am doing with PPD, and if I am still taking zoloft... yeah he cares that much!! :roll:
As long as I am available for sex (yes I didn't put in the mood) he is fine and dandy

So that is why I haven't been here more often, I am actually working :?

[without]

Claudia,
I am so sorry about your job! I know how you feel! Before I went to school for dog grooming I felt the same way. I just feel like the time I spend her at the University is wasted. I mean the students use me as a door mat and the only reason they are ever nice to me is if they want some thing. The University left me feeling so used! Now that I have grooming I still hate the time spent at the U of A but... I also feel good about the time I spend grooming and take great pride in the work I do there. I hope and pray that you can find a line of work that gives you a since of pride. Don't work too hard because we miss you way to much when you are gone! :wink:

[sarahlynn]

awww claudia that sucsk..thats how i feel abotu my job at the investing firm..unfullfilled..like i dont make much of a differnce..i love the people i work for and the work isnt all that bad..but i just want to do soemthing where i feel more like i am making a differnce..ilove the work at the safety center but i dotn see full time happening there.>DRATS!

oh well tomarow is my 2 year anniversary. :( i'm not even in a good mood about it.this argument meand DH had abotu hsi dad put a damper on how good tings were finally going in our marrige..yucki hate setbakcs.

[without]

Sorry about the set back Sarah. Maybe the aniv. will bring you closer together and mend some fences. I hope so!

[sarahlynn]

ugh i dont know men are dense..DH jsut called me and said

"do youknwo why i dont care if i dotn get that motorcycle?"

i said "i guess i never gave it a second thought when you couldnt get the bank to give you enough money for it"

he says "so whats wrong wtih you"

i say " just bummed about the whole fight this last week and how things suck now after finally being good between us"

he says "oh yeah, so i dont want the bike because blah blah blah blah"

at that point i tuned him out cause i dont really give a rats arse about the bike i care a little more about he marrige..good lord.. :roll:

[newmami]

I am so sorry Sarah... yeah men are very dense...
Matt sounds a lot like my DH... yesterday he told me "last time I checked we were still married", I looked at him like HUH? and his answer was "you don't even kiss me when I get home"... hello? I was playing with Chris & Dani, if he wanted a kiss, he could have approached me, right?? why do I have to be the one starting everything, and the one guilty for all the problems???

I am so fed up today I wish I could leave early.... I see what I can arrange....

Pam, I read something on AP about Morgan not wanting to sleep.... what drew Dani to her toddler bed were the Dora sheets, and we made a HUGE deal when the bed was ready, took pictures and everything... she loves that bed

[DIVADLX]

Tracy - does she smell like smoke because they smoke around her all day? I know that I may be weird, but I would rather do without the $1000 than have Stella breathing in smoke all day. I am not saying you are wrong - its just me. I HATE HATE HATE cigarette smoke and remember growing up how angry it always made me that my parents would make me breath it in.

Sarah - I can't believe that you opened up that conversation only to have him drone on and on about the motorcycle again! Sounds like just about every other stupid man on the planet though. why is it that they cannot spend just 20 minutes a day thinking about "us" and the relationship. Instead they just live in their own little worlds where they are perfect and since they are perfect they need not think about the relationship.

Does anyone else's DH bore them to tears?

[without]

my brother can bore me he goes on and on about trucks, guns, and the fire department. 1\2 the time I tune him out. :roll:

Maybe I should look for sponge bob sheets!

[newmami]

OMG Morgan is also in love with Sponge Bob??? Dani is too, even though the first loves are Dora and Mickey Mouse... it is all Dh son's fault, he has Spongebob sheets and ALL he watches on TV is that stupid cartoon :roll:

Hey Jenn!! yes my DH bores me to tears.... specially when he talks about computers, remote control helicopters, cameras, TV, and any kind of electronics.... or when he complains about our sex life (the way I feel, he should be GRATEFUL I am willing to have sex with him, considering I don't want him near me at this point)

[without]

Here are the picture we took on Morgan’s 18 month Birthday!

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[sarahlynn]

OMG she is adorable in all the pictures..are those the ones you picked out? i ahve such a hard time when getting pics taken on picking out whihc ones i want to keep..i end up spending like $300 before its all over...

we have family pics on sat and i am so nervous..i want to stay w/in a reasonale price range..

ITS MY ANNIVERSARY!!!!! :D 2 long long long years

[newmami]

OMG Pam, you just made my day!!! Morgan is so beautiful (like her mamma) and ALL those pictures are adorable!! gosh I would buy ALL of them, she is precious!

Happy 2nd anniversary Sarah!! I hope this is a good day and you can enjoy it with Matt

Af just left my house but left me with the PMS... ugh! I cannot even stand myself... Thank you Dr for the Zoloft!!! :lol:

Yesterday when I arrived to pick up the kids, they were dancing like maniacs, the lady who takes care of them saw me and opened the door so I could see Dani dancing... soooo cute!! she was jumping all over the place, and when the song ended, she went MA... MA... which means more in her language!! she didn't wanted to leave because she was having such a wonderful time!!! aaah!! it gives me so much peace of mind to know she is happy during the day!

[chellebelle32]

Pam, Morgan is absolutely beautiful! I love all of the pictures.