Mixed Feelings

[rissatn]

So... I am, as of today, a week late. I'm going to take a test tomorrow, but until then I am sorta kinda freaking out. And I feel bad for freaking out, mainly because I know so many people that want to have children, would be such good parents, and just can't seem to get pregnant. Then there's me. I have a daughter, she'll be 4 in January and I know that I want to have more kids someday, but I just don't know that I can do this right now. Her father isn't in the picture at all, hasn't been for years, and I haven't been seeing my current boyfriend for a long enough time to be all "oh yes, let's be a family". I don't just jump into relationships, I can't. Maybe I'm overprotective, but I haven't even let him meet my daughter yet. I mean, if I am pregnant, then I'm pregnant and I'm going to have a baby. But I was 17 when I had my daughter and I only have a year of college left (then I'll graduate with a Bachelor's Degree in Art Education - go me :cabbage: )and a new baby my senior year would not make anything any easier. And I feel bad for feeling this way cause I just don't know.

[BabyLove1]

Don't feel bad at all!! Having a child is a big decision - as you already know!! You sound like you're doing amazingly well, especially for having a 4 year old! So many people just use teen pregnancy as an excuse to do nothing with their lives and it's always refreshing when you see people that are making it work!

That being said, don't feel bad if you think that you can't handle another one right now. It sounds like you're thinking this thru and will make the right decision for you and the baby's father. I would just suggest taking the time to really go thru the adoption option with him, he deserves the right to have input in the child's life. And I don't want to get in a debate with people about this but PLEASE don't have an abortion! Like you said, there are SO many great people that aren't able to have children and desperately want them! One of my cousins can't have children and had adopted two children already and they're the light of her life. She doesn't love either of them any differently or any less than I love my child that I carried. It is possible that you're just meant to have this child for someone else!

Have you told the father yet? Maybe he will surprise you one way or the other...

Best of luck! HUGS!

[rissatn]

Oh no, I could never get an abortion. It's just not for me. Unfortunately, I'm not even sure I could go through with adoption either, but it's not a decision I would/will make on my own. As far as telling, I haven't told him yet... I want to take a test first and know for sure. I guess only time will tell.

And thanks :)

[BabyLove1]

Oh no, I could never get an abortion. It's just not for me. Unfortunately, I'm not even sure I could go through with adoption either, but it's not a decision I would/will make on my own. As far as telling, I haven't told him yet... I want to take a test first and know for sure. I guess only time will tell.

And thanks :)


Good for you all around :) Best of luck with the test - guess you need that +HPT before you know if you even have something to decide, lol! :)

[Adhafera]

Best of luck hun, I hope everything works out the way you want it to! :hugs:

[baholcomb28]

I really hope things work out too. I gave my little girl up for adoption but it was to protect her from her abusive father, and the fact that the entire pregnancy I couldn't get a job and I wanted her to have the life I did. So I really really hope things work for you.

[mother of seven]

wondering how things turned out

[simplyshae]

Wow...this is so close to my own story that it scared me. I too have a daughter that will be 4 in january and if I don't start tomorrow I will officially be a week late. I'm a single mother who is a sophomore in getting my bachelors in engineering (I hope). I understand your mixed feelings and I can definitely tell you you're not alone. I just moved to a whole different state to raise my daughter but if I find out I'm pregnant, I'm not sure what I'm going to do. I know I can't have another baby at this time in my life but I can't make a decision until I find out for sure with a test.

Just know someone is praying for you and everyone else in this situation. Things will work out. :)

[rissatn]

So I've taken 4 pregnancy tests, and they've all come back with a very clear negative. And tomorrow I will be 2 weeks late..... What the heck? :headbang:

[anlovey]

I just want to offer you :hugs: and don't feel so stressful yourself. Hope everything goes well.

[rissatn]

Thanks anlovey, I needed that :)

[Butterflygirl]

How are you doing, you have a lot on your plate.:luck:with everything.Keep us post it.

[rye]

So I've taken 4 pregnancy tests, and they've all come back with a very clear negative. And tomorrow I will be 2 weeks late..... What the heck? :headbang:

You could be stressing so much that it is delaying your period too. By now, you would most likely have gotten a positive, if you were pregnant.

Do not feel bad for considering your options if you are in fact pregnant. I hope you find the answers. Also, if you don't get it soon, maybe you should go to the local health clinic, see if maybe there is a reason your aren't getting your period :)

[rissatn]

Eh, nothing. I've made an appointment for late next week, so if no flow by then I can get some answers. Cause really I don't think I've been that stressed but who knows? My body does what it wants. haha.

simplyshae, how are things going for you?

[MissPrego]

:hugs: I hope you get some answers hun, the waiting game is the worst part:(