Secular Confessions

[Luna]

I confess I was just talking with this guy I kinda had a thing for in HS/early college. I confess it's probably not a good idea we're chatting, it's been really innocent but I think I'm confident enough about where I am in my relationship with DH. . .

[Ky'sMom]

Yeah, I have vowed to be an honest parent when it comes to the cuteness of MY baby. I know ugly babies when I see one dammit! LOL

LOL, you are sooo funny!!

I remember hearing about how all moms think their babies are cute no matter what, but that is not true. I thought Elle was pretty un-cute, not really ugly though, for about 3.5 months. She looked too much like DH and didn't get cute really until 4 months. I was pretty worried about it and am so happy she prettied up!

Erin

[Janeen]

LOL, you are sooo funny!!

I remember hearing about how all moms think their babies are cute no matter what, but that is not true. I thought Elle was pretty un-cute, not really ugly though, for about 3.5 months. She looked too much like DH and didn't get cute really until 4 months. I was pretty worried about it and am so happy she prettied up!

Erin

Yeah see, even if they're uncute...I will still hold on to hope that they grow into some cuteness in the near future! :laugh:

[Ky'sMom]

Forgot to mention, I do think Kayleb' earlobes are pretty fat. But I'm sure he'll fatten up anyway and you won't notice them. Elle had a HUGE nose, in fact her nose was the same size it is now when she was born! But it fits her pretty well now.

Erin

[AmeriBrit]

I confess that I wanted to log on from here in the USA to let you guys know that............









I'm pregnant! Due in June! Yay!

Please, no mention of this on Facebook since I have loads of work people on there! :)

[shutterbird]

I confess that I wanted to log on from here in the USA to let you guys know that............









I'm pregnant! Due in June! Yay!

Please, no mention of this on Facebook since I have loads of work people on there! :)

:hooray::hooray::hooray::hooray: Congrats!

[3andMe]

I'm pregnant! Due in June! Yay!


Oh YAY! I'm so excited for you! You know, a lot of the June mamas are hanging out in May just because it's fun in there. You should do it too.
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I confess I thought I knew ugly babies too, having worked in a newborn nursery before. Somehow, it's all different when it comes to your own children. I look back on the early pictures with Claire and Ronin, when their hair was patchy and their skin was blotchy and Claire had newborn acne and their skulls bulged out from lying on one side or the other and I realize they weren't nearly as cute as I thought they were at the time. :laugh:

[3andMe]

I confess that my brother is really really pissing me off.

Bridget, I'm sorry I keep skipping over your posts about your brother because I really don't know what to say. I'm so sorry that you're in this difficult position of wanting to support his lifestyle and who he's becoming, and disliking the person he's becoming at the same time. Unfortunately, he can't take all the time in the world getting used to his new life and playing with being selfish, because he doesn't have all the time in the world. He's going to really regret not spending this time with his mother eventually, but I don't know that there is any way to make him realize it now. :hugs:

[girlwonder]

Bridget, I'm sorry I keep skipping over your posts about your brother because I really don't know what to say. I'm so sorry that you're in this difficult position of wanting to support his lifestyle and who he's becoming, and disliking the person he's becoming at the same time. Unfortunately, he can't take all the time in the world getting used to his new life and playing with being selfish, because he doesn't have all the time in the world. He's going to really regret not spending this time with his mother eventually, but I don't know that there is any way to make him realize it now. :hugs:

ITA - that's such a hard situation. I don't know what to say. You can only do what you think is best.

[sunrider]

I confess I apologize for having a loud mouth here lately. I think the name change came with a set of balls.

Awesome.


Here here! (or is it hear! hear! ?)
I love balls! :silly:

I'm pretty sure it's "Hear! Hear!"


A beard trimmer set on the shortest setting is safer and easier than shaving, IMO.

ITA - that's what I use and never have to deal with itchiness at all.


Yeah, I have vowed to be an honest parent when it comes to the cuteness of MY baby. I know ugly babies when I see one dammit! LOL

I never claimed to have a cute baby (thought Tred and I both thought so), but we get sooo many comments at how cute Liam is, I figure I'm not just being a subjectively proud momma. He must be genuinely cute.


I confess that I wanted to log on from here in the USA to let you guys know that............
I'm pregnant! Due in June! Yay!
Wooo hooooo!!! Congrats! :hooray:

[sunrider]

Oh, forgot to add to Ashley - the pony/alpaca rides at the renfest are just downhill from the stage we danced on (just as a reference for next year). :winks:

[AlishaAnew]

I confess that I wanted to log on from here in the USA to let you guys know that............









I'm pregnant! Due in June! Yay!

Please, no mention of this on Facebook since I have loads of work people on there! :)
:hooray::cabbage:
:cabbage::hooray:

[shutterbird]

oh I forgot to update about the in-law's visit...

It went pretty well. It was awkward at times and Lorelai wouldn't talk to them (she's shy around strangers) but she showed them she could act like a cat. :eyeroll: They even brought cake and presents which DH thinks makes up for everything. I'd rather have had them just call her on her birthday then come weeks late with presents, but I'm trying to cut them some slack. At least they came, even if it was SIL who made them come.

Sigh! I know I sound bitter, but it's hard not to be.

[3andMe]

I'm glad it wasn't too hard on you. Really, I think it's better that she didn't talk to them--it shows them they haven't been around enough.

I think you need to post a video of her acting like a cat.

[daylilies]

Congrats silverstar!

I confess I have always sucked at girly things like shaving, putting on makeup and doing my hair. I have always slacked off on doing these things because I just don't know how. I want to look pretty and sophisticated but I just uber epic fail so bad when I try.

[Luna]

I'm pregnant! Due in June!

Please, no mention of this on Facebook since I have loads of work people on there! :)


Yay!!! :hooray::hooray:

[Luna]

I confess I worked for 1.5 hours this morning, came home to grab some stuff and fell into what can be best described as a coma for 5 hours. I can't believe I took such a long nap! I have stuff to do! :pokey:

[WillowSpy]

Congrats Silverstar!!!! May/June is a rockin group :) How's your vacation going?

Erin, I love the new pics!

:hugs: Bridget. I really hope that your brother has a moment of epiphany sooner rather than later :ohno:

Janeen - I agree with you, Kayleb's earlobes are sorta funky... they look like my DH's earlobes - the characteristic Buddha ears!!!

I don't know where I stand on the cute baby spectrum... I'm usually brutally honest (especially to myself) but I can see how I will fall so in love with my child that I honestly won't see it :laugh: Then again, everyone and their brother has hyped up the future attractiveness of this child soooo much... "I've never seen a non-gorgeous Hapa" is all I'm hearing. Bet it's making Sprout's ego swell :P

[sunrider]

I confess someone needs to shoot me to put me out of my misery. I'm on day 2 for migraines and today's features the "OMG I'm gonna hurl! feeling".

Ow.

[WillowSpy]

I confess someone needs to shoot me to put me out of my misery. I'm on day 2 for migraines and today's features the "OMG I'm gonna hurl! feeling".

Ow.

Oh no!!!!!!!!! Are you on anything? Excedrin Migraine? Imitrex? Fioricet? Drink, get caffeine into your system... though I'm sure you know all this. Are you are work? :hugs: I guess darkness and quiet are out of the question if yes.

[WillowSpy]

Congrats silverstar!

I confess I have always sucked at girly things like shaving, putting on makeup and doing my hair. I have always slacked off on doing these things because I just don't know how. I want to look pretty and sophisticated but I just uber epic fail so bad when I try.

Me too! I'm a disaster :laugh: I "get myself together" maybe twice a year. "Doing my hair" means washing it and blow drying (instead of air drying hehe).

:hugs: If you do want to do it (and you should never feel pressured to do it, even if it's what "all women" do), it takes a lot of practice to figure out what works for you and what doesn't. Just because it looks good on someone else doesn't mean it will on you.

[sunrider]

Oh no!!!!!!!!! Are you on anything? Excedrin Migraine? Imitrex? Fioricet? Drink, get caffeine into your system... though I'm sure you know all this. Are you are work? :hugs: I guess darkness and quiet are out of the question if yes.

Vicodin. But I am at work and can't get a lot done with my eyes closed. I have my office lights off, but I still have the glare of the computer monitors to deal with. I should have had Tred bring in a pair of sunglasses on his last run on campus.

I miss being on Depakote on days like this. But it's not BF friendly so no more Depakote till Liam weans. I get side effects from Imitrex that are worse than the migraine itself. <shudder>

I think it's from not enough sleep and possibly not enough water. Thinking back on my weekend, I didn't drink a lot of water and I'm noticing my system has changed post pregnancy and too little water is becoming a trigger. Had 2 cups of coffee this morning, which didn't help, so this afternoon I've been sucking water in like a goldfish. And making trips to the bathroom to pee every 30 min or so. >.<

[Bridget]

Congrats silverstar!

I confess I have always sucked at girly things like shaving, putting on makeup and doing my hair. I have always slacked off on doing these things because I just don't know how. I want to look pretty and sophisticated but I just uber epic fail so bad when I try.
I was always like this too. I mean I still am, to a certain extent but up until I was 22 or so I was like a haircut once a year, no make up, left my eyebrows to do as they pleased kind of girl. Then a girl I worked with brother's wife needed someone with long hair to do her cosmetology school test on. I had never even met her but my co-worker asked me if I'd be willing to do it because her SIL was relatively new in town and didn't have anyone and was freaking out. I thought, "eh, why not?"
She worked me over! And I couldn't believe what I looked like with a funky do and trim eyebrows! I never knew I had it in me! She became a good friend of mine and was forever thankful to me so I got my hair cut and colored for years in exchange for babysitting her kids. Now I like to change my hair often and do my eyebrows regularly. But I still don't know how to wear make-up!

[daylilies]

I never do my eyebrows and I recently learned that DH hates plucked eyebrows. So that's fine. But it's embarassing when I do want to go out and look nice but don't know how to do the makeup.
I tried to get my hair nice, with a body wave, but it seems to be coming out already...after a week...I don't get it. It sometimes feels like my body rejects girly things. LOL

[WillowSpy]

I never do my eyebrows and I recently learned that DH hates plucked eyebrows. So that's fine. But it's embarassing when I do want to go out and look nice but don't know how to do the makeup.
I tried to get my hair nice, with a body wave, but it seems to be coming out already...after a week...I don't get it. It sometimes feels like my body rejects girly things. LOL

It's not necessarily coming out... after the first week or two the "crimped" look relaxes. The biggest benefit of a body wave or perm isn't the crimping, but the fact that your hair will now "stay" easier in whatever you do to it. Without a perm, my hair is ridiculously thin, and even with curlers/mousse/blow drying/hair spray curls will come out within an hour. With perm, curls will stay for hours. That said, I don't have the patience to get perms and just keep my hair in ponytails or down (super straight and limp) like a hippie flower child :laugh:

As for knowing how to do makeup, it's like I said before - practice (which I know you don't have much time to do with Josh running around). The first few things you do will look garish, but don't give up :) If you get a chance to go into Sephora/Macy's without Josh (or with him entertained or sleeping), ask for a makeover and be very clear that you are clueless and need to learn EVERYTHING they're doing. Take notes right after. There are some sites online that have step by step instructions with diagrams, too. Practice practice practice and find colors/shapes that look good on you.

[Bridget]

Yeah, I know what you mean. My hair is as low maintenance as it gets. I literally get out of the shower, comb it and let it dry. If I'm going out I basically spray some hairspray in and mess it up! :laugh:
My eyebrows would be out of control if I didn't keep waxing them. I never saw it before but said friend was seriously like, "Pleeeaaase let me fix your eyebrows," so I caved.
I do mascara and that's it. I think natural looking woman are beautiful anyway. I've never been a fan of the heavily made-up look.

[daylilies]

It's not necessarily coming out... after the first week or two the "crimped" look relaxes. The biggest benefit of a body wave or perm isn't the crimping, but the fact that your hair will now "stay" easier in whatever you do to it. Without a perm, my hair is ridiculously thin, and even with curlers/mousse/blow drying/hair spray curls will come out within an hour. With perm, curls will stay for hours. That said, I don't have the patience to get perms and just keep my hair in ponytails or down (super straight and limp) like a hippie flower child :laugh:

As for knowing how to do makeup, it's like I said before - practice (which I know you don't have much time to do with Josh running around). The first few things you do will look garish, but don't give up :) If you get a chance to go into Sephora/Macy's without Josh (or with him entertained or sleeping), ask for a makeover and be very clear that you are clueless and need to learn EVERYTHING they're doing. Take notes right after. There are some sites online that have step by step instructions with diagrams, too. Practice practice practice and find colors/shapes that look good on you.

Thanks!
I just got some makeup from Clinique. I like it a lot--it is feather light and just kind of smooths out the color of my face. It's a liquid and I put it on with a brush which I have never done with a liquid before. Then I put some blush on and mascara. I finally found a good mascara that doesn't thicken and get clumpy. It just lengthens and it looks nice, I think.
I think my hair is flat today because my mom suggested not putting any product in it--so I think that made the curls much less defined (like, nonexistant) even though she thought it would make them more defined because my hair wouldn't be as heavy. I'll keep playing with it I guess. I remember my mom getting perms for years and it was always tight curly even when she just let it air dry. Maybe it was just because she got a much tighter perm.
Anywhoo...girl stuff. bleh.

[WillowSpy]

Anywhoo...girl stuff. bleh.

Hehehehe I agree! :hugs:

I dunno, I guess you sound like you're stuck between not liking girly things and wanting to be girly occasionally? Either are ok, as long as you are happy!!! Follow your own happiness and screw everyone else.

I finally learned how to do makeup, and can do it when the need arises, but on a day to day basis I think I've accepted the fact that I am a no-fuss kinda gal, and that I shouldn't feel pressured to get dolled up just because the other girls are.

[daylilies]

Yeah, I just know I look a lot better and put together when I look nice. And I feel better too. I look at pictures of myself in bad clothes and no makeup and I look like a fat 12 year old. I'm short and kind of overweight and generally insecure about how I look. People say oh you will love looking younger in 10 years. Sure, but I don't love it now! I think I have some pretty deep seated issues about where I am in life and where I thought I would be (like how I want to be opposed to how I look to others), but that's for the therapist, not to dump on you guys :)

[Bridget]

Yeah, I just know I look a lot better and put together when I look nice. And I feel better too. I look at pictures of myself in bad clothes and no makeup and I look like a fat 12 year old. I'm short and kind of overweight and generally insecure about how I look. People say oh you will love looking younger in 10 years. Sure, but I don't love it now! I think I have some pretty deep seated issues about where I am in life and where I thought I would be (like how I want to be opposed to how I look to others), but that's for the therapist, not to dump on you guys :)
Me too honey. I totally understand. Dump away. I certainly do.

[Bridget]

Sorry I said, "dump away". Ew. :laugh: You know what I mean though.

[WillowSpy]

Yeah, I just know I look a lot better and put together when I look nice. And I feel better too. I look at pictures of myself in bad clothes and no makeup and I look like a fat 12 year old. I'm short and kind of overweight and generally insecure about how I look. People say oh you will love looking younger in 10 years. Sure, but I don't love it now! I think I have some pretty deep seated issues about where I am in life and where I thought I would be (like how I want to be opposed to how I look to others), but that's for the therapist, not to dump on you guys :)

Awwww hunny come here, let us give you some big hugs :hugs:

I wish I had advice on improving self-image and self-esteem. But feel free to dump on us! If nothing more, we'll listen. And maybe someone else will have some wise words for ya :)

[3andMe]

I confess I am oh-so-excited that Stash just posted her June due date!

[daylilies]

I confess I am oh-so-excited that Stash just posted her June due date!

OMG! Stash is pregnant? Cool!
(I always loved her updates about Oscar, I miss the little guy)
You guys are too sweet...I'm sure one day I will come in here and write a long sob story, but I don't have enough time right now. LOL

[misfit]

I confess I am oh-so-excited that Stash just posted her June due date!

I confess I am excited as well and to see her back!!!

[daylilies]

Let me just post a teaser by saying I confess when I was young I wanted to be one of those schoolteachers like in the Laura Ingalls books, with the huge hoop dresses and hair all done up and in a bonnet...I really thought I could do that when I grew up.

[WillowSpy]

I am too new to know Stash, but YAY!!! The more babies the merrier :)

[WillowSpy]

Let me just post a teaser by saying I confess when I was young I wanted to be one of those schoolteachers like in the Laura Ingalls books, with the huge hoop dresses and hair all done up and in a bonnet...I really thought I could do that when I grew up.

That's awesome!!! Don't you live in Mass? Once Josh is older you could get a job as a recreation-ist (is that what they're called?) at historical Plymouth or something :laugh:

[daylilies]

That's awesome!!! Don't you live in Mass? Once Josh is older you could get a job as a recreation-ist (is that what they're called?) at historical Plymouth or something :laugh:

Yeah, actually I do. I can't believe I never thought of that. (I know you were kind of kidding but I might actually enjoy that)

[WillowSpy]

Yeah, actually I do. I can't believe I never thought of that. (I know you were kind of kidding but I might actually enjoy that)

No, I was being serious!!! I added the :laugh: because I had this mental image of you doing it and I thought it was cute!

The more I think about it, that might be really great for you. You'd be out in public talking to visitors all day, which would help your self-esteem, but you'd also be "in costume" which would make it easier. I've noticed that being in costume always helps me break out of my shell.

[MrsBuzzer]

Stash is preggers!? That's awesome!

[shutterbird]

I confess I am oh-so-excited that Stash just posted her June due date!

WOOOOOHOOOO! I was hoping she'd come back around, preggo or not! :wub:

[The10Eels]

OMG! Yay Stash! and Silverstar!!

I confess we're watching Unwrapped on food network, and now I really want an italian cream soda!

I confess that I took the afternoon to do some cooking and now have some meals in the freezer - Santa Fe Soup, Sicilian Supper, Hawaiian chicken, and the meat sauce to my favorite lasagna.

[stephmama]

Yay, congrats preggos! :hooray:

[misfit]

I confess that I wanted to log on from here in the USA to let you guys know that............









I'm pregnant! Due in June! Yay!

Please, no mention of this on Facebook since I have loads of work people on there! :)



Yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!! Come join us!!!!!!! May and June are some hopping due date months now!

[Bean]

SHUT UP!!! STASH?!?! :hooray:

[elmobo-n-lexi]

I confess May and June are amazing birth months!!! How exciting! I'm stalking SOOOO many people.

[WillowSpy]

I confess that DH is away on business, and I'm alone and lonely. I have a dentist appointment tomorrow... and I just Google mapped the directions/time it would take me to WALK there... it's 30 min away by car... I was just curious, and very, very bored :laugh:

[3andMe]

Are you supposed to be walking Ms. Spy?

My dh is away on business again, too, but luckily he was just commuting to Washington for the day. He'll be home by morning.

[WillowSpy]

Are you supposed to be walking Ms. Spy?

Not 7 hours worth of it, that's for sure :laugh: I think that's exactly why I looked it up... because it's forbidden!


My dh is away on business again, too, but luckily he was just commuting to Washington for the day. He'll be home by morning.

Awwww, yay!!! I love the short trips. Come to think of it, I think I react to these business trips similarly to you, minus the twins and Skype, obviously.

[Kitty]

:hooray:Silverstar!




:hooray:Stash!

[sunrider]

I never do my eyebrows and I recently learned that DH hates plucked eyebrows. So that's fine. But it's embarassing when I do want to go out and look nice but don't know how to do the makeup.
I tried to get my hair nice, with a body wave, but it seems to be coming out already...after a week...I don't get it. It sometimes feels like my body rejects girly things. LOL

I was tomboy when I was little and to a big extent, still am. I wear my hear super short (buzzed with a #6 guard, if that means anything to you) as it's very course and thick, and naturally curly - which would be fine if it didn't curl straight out over my ears like Bozo the clown when it gets longer. I only pluck stray eyebrow hairs and make sure there are two :winks:. Down with unibrows. I wore makeup for my wedding almost 7 years ago (applied by 2 friends for me cause I was clueless). And wore it again about 2 years later when I was in one of those friends' wedding. I think that was the last time I wore makeup.

Your comment about "rejecting girly things" made me recall this story, which I will forever remember fondly. I was purse shopping with my mother - I think Famous Barr was having a sale. I guess I was tired of fanny packs and was looking at something with a long strap to wear sort of like a messenger bag. I picked one up (I don't even remember what it looked like) put it on my shoulder and took a look in a nearby mirror.
Me: "Man, this makes me look like SUCH a girl . . ."
Mother: "Krista, you ARE a GIRL!!"
We laughed then, and I still laugh about it.

I don't have to worry too much about purses now. For work I'm using a backpack (cause of all the other things I'm toting back and forth), and going out evenings or weekends, my wallet/phone etc gets dropped in the diaper bag.

[daylilies]

The #6 guard means nothing to me but I'm gonna guess it is pretty short, but on the long side of pretty short?
It's funny because I like bags. I don't accessorize or have more than a couple at a time but I like them.
I used to have a pretty short pixie cut and wear no makeup but I'm pretty sure DH hated that look. LOL He said "yeah I was so sad when you got your hair cut" and I told him no, it was that short when we met! And he said oh, I'm surprised I kept going out with you. LOL he really hates short hair on girls.

[AlishaAnew]

:hooray::hooray: Stash!

[AlishaAnew]

nvm...too long :)

[misfit]

nvm...too long :)

:hugs::laugh:

[AlishaAnew]

:hugs::laugh:

:P
yes yes I am too lazy:P

[sunrider]

The #6 guard means nothing to me but I'm gonna guess it is pretty short, but on the long side of pretty short?
It's funny because I like bags. I don't accessorize or have more than a couple at a time but I like them.
I used to have a pretty short pixie cut and wear no makeup but I'm pretty sure DH hated that look. LOL He said "yeah I was so sad when you got your hair cut" and I told him no, it was that short when we met! And he said oh, I'm surprised I kept going out with you. LOL he really hates short hair on girls.

I had my hair cut maybe a week prior to having Liam (knowing it would probably be a while afterwards!!) Sorry the pic is so big.

http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y169/sunriderksy/Liam/2008%20Sep%20Hosp/WMommy1.jpg

[daylilies]

Oh that is cute! Mine was longer. Long enough to run my fingers through but stilll short.

[daylilies]

Ok, so, sometimes I don't even know where to start or how I got this bad, but I feel like I am floating through life sometimes, just not giving a crap! Hardly anything gets me excited anymore and when something does it's usually pretty brief and when it's over I'm depressed again. Drives my husband batty! When I was a kid I wanted a good job where I would be respected and looked up to. I still want the same but I'm not sure how to attain it. I don't have an outgoing, charismatic personality and I'm not self confident enough with anything to be a self-motivator, or a leader, and I really wish I could be, but I just don't know where to start or if I'm being unrealistic. I mean if I'm not that personality type, I can't really force it right? But I'm tired of jobs where I'm working under people who have the power to tell me what I'm doing is wrong, when I know it's not, and I'm tired of my mind working in a way that nobody understands and that isn't compatible with the type of job I want (example, I wanted to be a chef but I am not good at organizing or being consistent, which is pretty important to the job)

I feel like I have come so far away from who and what I wanted to be, even 10-15 years ago when I was in high school and college and I liked myself and where I was going. I used to have friends, get excited about things, and wanted to make something of myself. It seems like since I left high school, where it was all right there, I've had a hard time going out and getting it and I've since given up. I want to be a good loving wife and mom but I am just so fed up with everything sometimes it's hard to even try to be nice to my family. DH is not the loving, gentle souled person I wanted to be married to. He's kind of blunt and abrasive and doesn't think before he speaks. His job sucks the life out of him and he asks me about my day or asks me what he can do to help me but it goes in one ear and out the other when I tell him. It hurts my feelings when he's harsh to me or doesn't remember things I tell him. It makes me think he doesn't care.
I just don't know how to get a grasp on what I *am* good at, and work with it. I feel like I keep trying to go too far outside my abilities. I think it's good that I have faith that I can do it, but then it turns out I can't.

I know I need help, and I'm going back to my therapist in a couple weeks. When I told DH, he said "Oh good, more waste of money." Just shows what kind of support I get. He's all sweet and wants to know what will help but then he rejects it.

[sunrider]

:hugs::hugs: Daylilies:hugs::hugs:

[3andMe]

Kate, I don't have the emotional intensity I used to have when I was younger. When I am happy, it's more just like a sustained feeling of contentment and only rarely is it the huge swoop of joy I used to experience. On the bright side, when I am sad or hurt I don't feel nearly as devastated as I used to, either. I think part of that is just getting older, and I have more experiences under my belt to compare to the things I'm experiencing now. The lack of excitement might be partially due to this phenomenon.

On the other hand, everything I'm feeling isn't numbed by depression, either. It is terrible to have everything muted, gray, distorted by the lack of joy. I've been there too, and it is an awful place to be. I think I recall you were diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Are you taking medications for it, and if so, do you think you're on the right dose? Therapy can do a lot for how to think about things and changing self-talk and giving strategies for dealing with difficult situations (like talking to your dh or finding a fulfilling career), but it is hard to change the underlying chemical issue without specific medications.

I know you've been feeling restless and out-of-sorts lately. I hope you and your therapist and maybe your doctor can help you improve your situation. Let us know how you're doing, okay?

[daylilies]

No, I went off the meds when I felt like I was on an upswing. I was doing fine without them and my therapist warned me these things come in cycles and lo and behold it did.
I don't like the pills for a lot of reasons. I don't like the idea of them and I don't like that I'm not suppose to drink at all when I'm on them (which would basically be forever, right?) I know it's probably a bad, immature reason to pick drinking over my well being. But I feel like having a drink helps me relax and cope better than the pills did, LOL

I know what you mean about not having the emotional highs and lows we get in our youth but the problem is I do still feel extreme lows. And I feel extreme highs too but hardly ever. Like, the last time was over the last year when I went to all those NKOTB concerts, met them and met some great new friends and now it's all over. I guess I kind of crashed. LOL
I guess I *want* those huge swoops of joy back. I want to count down the days, hours, and minutes until the next fun thing. I want to anticipate something, feel something other than "Bleh, whatever" but I don't want to have to medicate myself to feel happy. Things always get bad enough where I want to, so I do it, then I hate it, and I stop.

[3andMe]

Yeah, those swings are part of bipolar, and a lot of people are tempted (and do) stop taking their meds either because they miss the emotional highs or because they feel good and don't think they need them anymore. Unfortunately, it's something life-long and it's not something that goes away. It is hard to evaluate exactly how things are going and what you need to change if you're doing it from within the grips of an illness, since that can distort a lot of things.

Maybe there is another medication you can try, if you feel so bad on the one you've been taking? Or a combo? If you are genetically predisposed to being depressed, it makes sense to treat it. It's not like you're relying on a pill for happiness. You take the pill to get back to what would be your baseline, and then it's up to you to be happy or not with all the resources at your disposal.

I would also start trying to find things to look forward to, and making them happen, no matter how little they are. A little roadtrip or vacation (that's my motivator). A movie without kids. A nice dinner at home. A new book. A trip to Renfest. Whatever big or little things you like, and start looking forward to them on purpose.

[sunrider]

I would also start trying to find things to look forward to, and making them happen, no matter how little they are. A little roadtrip or vacation (that's my motivator). A movie without kids. A nice dinner at home. A new book. A trip to Renfest. Whatever big or little things you like, and start looking forward to them on purpose.

I like that idea. Maybe I need to start doing this too.

[daylilies]

Yeah, you're right. I keep wanting the big things to happen to me, I want major excitement, that I think I'm not letting the little things mean what they should.

[3andMe]

I confess I wrote an email at work to someone named Yelena, forgetting that there were five Yelenas at that office and of course I got the wrong one. I feel so sloppy and unprofessional! D'oh! I have to keep forcing my mind to turn away from it because I ruminate on it at every moment of leisure, like when I'm trying to fall asleep or when I wake up in the middle of the night. This abhorrence of anything less than perfection makes me really good at my job, but I don't like that I can't just let go of stupid mistakes I make.

[daylilies]

I do stuff like that, obsess over silly mistakes. 5 Yelenas though! Wow.

[3andMe]

It's staffed almost entirely by Russians. Yelena and Elena and Elina are some of the most common names.

[3andMe]

I think Sunrider and Daylilies and I are the only people around here today. Where is everyone? Working?!?

I confess I'm going to have to change my signature because I'm getting nauseated looking at the gourds in my picture.

[daylilies]

LOL I think we are the only ones here too!
Your gourds pic was interesting, but I kept looking for something hidden in it. Love your new sig too!

[daylilies]

I have been around a lot today...it's just been a boring day and Josh has been entertaining himself so I am taking advantage of it...but sometimes I wonder if anyone thinks "Doesn't she have a kid to take care of?" LOL

[Bridget]

Yeah, you're right. I keep wanting the big things to happen to me, I want major excitement, that I think I'm not letting the little things mean what they should.
I felt so much like you describe my last few months in Hawaii. I often wonder if I was depressed although I'm not sure that depression can really be soley situational. Can it? I just missed my family and felt really, really alone. Every day seemed like an eternity and I tried to fill it with activitieis to just make time move. I couldn't wait to go to bed at night. My poor kids. I always think about how much that must have sucked for Savana to see her mommy cry every day.
I hope your therapist can help you explore other options. I hope you can find things in your life to look forward to. You could always plan a trip to Wisconsin. :silly:

[daylilies]

I don't know. I feel like my depression is situational or really uncannily in tune with the events in my life. It seems to be triggered by events. I mean I could have been totally depressed during the whole new kids tour and decided not to go, not to take the risk to meet new people, not to actually meet the new kids...right? But I was all for it! Then I was pretty happy until my husband confessed he was pretty much miserable with how things were going with us, and that made everything come crashing down. I take my cues from other people a lot. If they seem happy, I'm happy. I dunno. I don't wish this kind of sadness on anyone Bridget and although it makes me feel less alone, I feel sad that you've felt this way too. And I hate crying in front of Josh, too. I keep thinking he's going to be forming lifelong memories soon (if not already) so I better shape up quick.

[The10Eels]

LOL I think we are the only ones here too!
Your gourds pic was interesting, but I kept looking for something hidden in it. Love your new sig too!
I kept looking for something hidden in it too..

I confess I just noticed Lydia is no longer a "Recovering APA Addict". -- That used to make me giggle everytime I saw it.

[The10Eels]

LOL I think we are the only ones here too!
Your gourds pic was interesting, but I kept looking for something hidden in it. Love your new sig too!
I kept looking for something hidden in it too..

I confess I just noticed Lydia is no longer a "Recovering APA Addict". -- That used to make me giggle everytime I saw it.

[The10Eels]

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[shutterbird]

I don't know. I feel like my depression is situational or really uncannily in tune with the events in my life. It seems to be triggered by events.

Same here. Something can happen and turn into a tail-spin for me. It's really disheartening. The woman who stole my idea a few months back totally took the wind out of my sails and I've been kinda bouncing off the bottom ever since, though I am getting better since I found another outlet.

So for me, my depression is situational most of the time, too.

Oh and i just want to give you big big hugs! :hugs: You're amazing for opening up!

[daylilies]

Same here. Something can happen and turn into a tail-spin for me. It's really disheartening. The woman who stole my idea a few months back totally took the wind out of my sails and I've been kinda bouncing off the bottom ever since, though I am getting better since I found another outlet.

So for me, my depression is situational most of the time, too.

Oh and i just want to give you big big hugs! :hugs: You're amazing for opening up!

Oh, thanks. I always worry someone I know is going to find this, but I mean even if that did happen, so what? I don't know that many people anyway. LOL
Whatever happened with the lady who took your idea--and what is your new outlet?

[Bridget]

I confess that I'm starting to feel like a personal assistant to a one year old. :laugh:
His mom is ond day like, "Oh, could you trim his nails?" and the next "Can you give him something to eat about 15 minutes minutes before I pick him up because I'm meeting a friend after?"

[Gwenn]

:hugs: Kate.

Just recently I woke up and realized I wasn't depressed anymore. For about a year I was really, really bad ... and although I knew I wasn't right, I didn't realize how NOT right I was until I got through it and looked back on it. Does that make any sense? But looking back on it now scares me. At the time I thought it was just the situation, but it wasn't. I wasn't okay.

Now I wonder if I shouldn't be in therapy, just so I can help prevent that from happening again. But then I tell myself I don't need to go if I'm feeling okay, so I don't want to. I was on meds once about 12/13 years ago but didn't find therapy helpful at that time.

And I totally second-guess myself constantly. Constantly. I keep myself awake at night over stupid things, and I hate it. I wish I could let go, too.

[daylilies]

I confess that I'm starting to feel like a personal assistant to a one year old. :laugh:
His mom is ond day like, "Oh, could you trim his nails?" and the next "Can you give him something to eat about 15 minutes minutes before I pick him up because I'm meeting a friend after?"

I wouldn't do stuff like that! Do you? I mean it takes what 5 minutes to do a kid's nails?

:hugs: Kate.

Just recently I woke up and realized I wasn't depressed anymore. For about a year I was really, really bad ... and although I knew I wasn't right, I didn't realize how NOT right I was until I got through it and looked back on it. Does that make any sense? But looking back on it now scares me. At the time I thought it was just the situation, but it wasn't. I wasn't okay.

Now I wonder if I shouldn't be in therapy, just so I can help prevent that from happening again. But then I tell myself I don't need to go if I'm feeling okay, so I don't want to. I was on meds once about 12/13 years ago but didn't find therapy helpful at that time.

And I totally second-guess myself constantly. Constantly. I keep myself awake at night over stupid things, and I hate it. I wish I could let go, too.

It always scares me too, when I look back at the depressed cycles.

[Janeen]

I confess that for the better half of the day I have been thinking about coming home and sending porn links to Jimi at his work. :ohyea: :laugh:

[3andMe]

I don't know if this site has already been posted, but I just heard on the news that they're collecting signatures to ban divorce in California. http://rescuemarriage.org/ says it will help protect marriage, just like Proposition 8 did.

[daylilies]

Oh for heaven's sake! So now we're supposed to stay in a bad marriage just to preserve the sanctity of marriage?

[Luna]

:hugs: Kate.

Just recently I woke up and realized I wasn't depressed anymore. For about a year I was really, really bad ... and although I knew I wasn't right, I didn't realize how NOT right I was until I got through it and looked back on it. Does that make any sense? But looking back on it now scares me. At the time I thought it was just the situation, but it wasn't. I wasn't okay.

Now I wonder if I shouldn't be in therapy, just so I can help prevent that from happening again. But then I tell myself I don't need to go if I'm feeling okay, so I don't want to. I was on meds once about 12/13 years ago but didn't find therapy helpful at that time.

And I totally second-guess myself constantly. Constantly. I keep myself awake at night over stupid things, and I hate it. I wish I could let go, too.



It always scares me too, when I look back at the depressed cycles.

The second guessing is awful. I do it too. ALL the time. Like I'm obsessing tonight over something really random/petty that happened today and can't get over it.

Depression sucks. I am taking Lexapro. . .again. . .because I tried to go off it in June and about had a breakdown. It was awful. THe decision was made to go back on it, and while I hate the numb feeling I get sometimes, I am better off because of it.

I just wonder what I do if I DO get pregnant as I don't think it's developing-baby-friendly.

[girlwonder]

I'm sorry for anyone who feels that bad right now. I have definitely had my bad times. Medication helps, as does therapy, and unfortunately, time is the main thing. I just had to live through it (several times). I'm sorry, Kate, that your dh is not supportive of that - it would make it so much harder to feel like you were bad for even reaching out for a helping hand.

I'm with Lydia - the high highs are not worth the low lows for me. I'll take my middle of the road contentment any day over the soap operas I used to inhabit.

[girlwonder]

I just wonder what I do if I DO get pregnant as I don't think it's developing-baby-friendly.

I was on Serzone and was off of it for one month only before I got pg. I was worried about it, since I had been taking it for four years and knew it was going to be a lifelong thing for me. But it was contraindicated (is that the right term?) for pg, so I went off. I have been surprisingly okay and haven't needed to get back on. I know everyone is different, but I just wanted you to know that it can be okay.

[3andMe]

Kitty, we got the leftovers of your typhoon here yesterday. It rained up to 9" and caused trucks to blow over, bridge closures, and mandatory evacuations in some areas due to fear of mudslides. It was a crazy, crazy day.

[Janeen]

I confess that I get messages from Jimi that are similar to this on a daily basis...


I’m very excited to be the father of your child.

:wub:

[daylilies]

I confess that I get messages from Jimi that are similar to this on a daily basis...



:wub:

Awww....

[sunrider]

I confess I wrote an email at work to someone named Yelena, forgetting that there were five Yelenas at that office and of course I got the wrong one. I feel so sloppy and unprofessional! D'oh! I have to keep forcing my mind to turn away from it because I ruminate on it at every moment of leisure, like when I'm trying to fall asleep or when I wake up in the middle of the night. This abhorrence of anything less than perfection makes me really good at my job, but I don't like that I can't just let go of stupid mistakes I make.

Aw, don't beat yourself up about it Lydia. It happens. And wow, 5 Yelenas!!

I work at a university that's part of a 5 campus system. Thousands of employees in one Outlook system. The following happens on a semi-regular basis.

My email gets routed to someone across campus in another dept because people think my email is "lastnamek" instead of "lastnamekri". So Kathryn gets the email for me, Krista.

And to balance this out, I get email for "lastnameca" who works at a completely different campus. His name is Christopher A xxx, hence the ca, but he goes by Kris and that's how he's listed in Outlook.
He gets some really strange emails as he works at a residence hall on that campus. I get emails about kids locking themselves out of their dorm room and needing another key, hating roommates and wanting to change dorm rooms, etc, but my FAVORITE went something like:
I was moved from the 5th floor to the 2nd floor this summer and I'd really like to move back. My ficus was so much happier on the 5th floor.

[AlishaAnew]

:hi:

[elmobo-n-lexi]

:hi:

:hi::cabbage::P

[Bean]

I confess AAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

Whew. Just had to get that out.

[Kitty]

Kitty, we got the leftovers of your typhoon here yesterday. It rained up to 9" and caused trucks to blow over, bridge closures, and mandatory evacuations in some areas due to fear of mudslides. It was a crazy, crazy day.

:shocker:Wow! I'm surprised it made it that far because it was not as bad here as expected. The trains were shut down because of wind, but it didn't really even rain that much. It was an oddly unsatisfying storm. Hope you all were OK!

[The10Eels]

I confess AAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

Whew. Just had to get that out.
same here!!

[Bridget]

I confess that Savana has started to say, "Oh my God". I don't know how I feel about it. I think it will bother my mom.

[3andMe]

I confess AAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

Whew. Just had to get that out.

I'm not sure what you're going through with your dh and the letter, but I feel your agony. Every time in the past when I've felt the need to write a letter, it's been a pretty difficult situation--including whatever led up to the letter as well as the aftermath.

[daylilies]

I confess that Savana has started to say, "Oh my God". I don't know how I feel about it. I think it will bother my mom.

Josh says that, as well as some more colorful language...I have spoken many times with DH about toning down the language, but I know my inlaws have potty mouths too and I know it's hard to break that habit...

[Janeen]

I confess that I feel awfully awkward when someone I have never really talked to and have mentioned in the past kind of weirds me out...

Sends me a PM and ends it with "i love u" :dunno:

[elmobo-n-lexi]

I confess that I feel awfully awkward when someone I have never really talked to and have mentioned in the past kind of weirds me out...

Sends me a PM and ends it with "i love u" :dunno:

hehe you're talking about me, aren't you?!? Go on, just admit it!
:P:laugh:

[Janeen]

hehe you're talking about me, aren't you?!? Go on, just admit it!
:P:laugh:

No way, it turns me on when you say it. :ohyea: :lol:

Nah, I sent you the previous PM I think. It has been a while and then BAM, out of the blue... "love u"

Just lovely lol

[elmobo-n-lexi]

No way, it turns me on when you say it. :ohyea: :lol:

Nah, I sent you the previous PM I think. It has been a while and then BAM, out of the blue... "love u"

Just lovely lol

:laugh: That was some good stuff! Weird though!! :chinscratch: hahahah oh well. Janeen and her stalker, sitting in a tree, KISSING, first comes love, then comes marriage! LOL I didn't want to finish it. I figured I'd save everyone from all that agony

[Gwenn]

Janeen, that's totally creepy.

[Janeen]

:laugh: That was some good stuff! Weird though!! :chinscratch: hahahah oh well. Janeen and her stalker, sitting in a tree, KISSING, first comes love, then comes marriage! LOL I didn't want to finish it. I figured I'd save everyone from all that agony

Gee Big E, uh yeah, thanks for all that. :laugh:

[elmobo-n-lexi]

Gee Big E, uh yeah, thanks for all that. :laugh:

hahahha you're very welcome. I'm nice like that.

[Janeen]

hahahha you're very welcome. I'm nice like that.

Yeah see, people should stalk you. I'm not THAT nice! :P

[sunrider]

I confess . . . our weekend plans got cancelled late last night. We were heading out tonight and going to be gone till Sunday. So we'd told daycare Liam wouldn't be there Friday.

This morning at dropoff we let them know our plans had changed and we would be bringing him in tomorrow. Problem. Evidently most of their parents have plans for tomorrow and they were going to be very light on kids or not have any - they signed up for a class of some sort tomorrow.

Crap.

[The10Eels]

I confess between Audrianna, DH, and being pregnant - all of my clothes are stretched out, and it really pisses me off...

[elmobo-n-lexi]

I confess between Audrianna, DH, and being pregnant - all of my clothes are stretched out, and it really pisses me off...

3 more days!! Right??? Three more days!!!???

[The10Eels]

4 at most...

My mommy will be here tomorrow!!

[elmobo-n-lexi]

That's so exciting!!!! Does Audri understand what's happening and that she's going to be a big sister??

[The10Eels]

I doubt it... but We'll ask her where the baby is and she'll point at my belly. And we'll tell her to give sister hugs and kisses, and she'll kiss my tummy, or lay her head on it.

[AlishaAnew]

I doubt it... but We'll ask her where the baby is and she'll point at my belly. And we'll tell her to give sister hugs and kisses, and she'll kiss my tummy, or lay her head on it.

:wub::wub:
I have been sleeping with my phone every night!
I is soooooooooo excited!! :wub::wub:

[Gwenn]

So, freak-out moment today. My district is undergoing major budget crunches and in May they laid off 600 teachers. We were told that hard-to-fill positions (like mine) would be left alone. At my school there are two SLPs, myself and another girl who is a bilingual provider. Recently we were emailed by our boss to say that she was going to have to take over some bilingual students at another school and I would have to take some students from her caseload to even things out, because our boss was told she could not hire anyone else right now.

So, no problem, we talked and worked things out. Today our boss sent out an "updated list" of school assignments that was "certain to change." I read it, and about 1/3 of the names, including my name, were in bold print! I couldn't see any pattern, such as district employee, or unrestricted license, etc. that was consistent between who was bolded or not.

So, I knocked on my friend's door and asked if she thought I was crazy to freak out because my name was bolded. She said she would too, and I should email our boss to ask why. I did ... and she said it indicated that that school was my "home school" as I have more than one placement! So, basically it is meaningless ... major sigh of relief.

Then I felt silly for freaking out but other co-workers said they would have freaked out about it too.

Am I crazy?

[Luna]

So, freak-out moment today. My district is undergoing major budget crunches and in May they laid off 600 teachers. We were told that hard-to-fill positions (like mine) would be left alone. At my school there are two SLPs, myself and another girl who is a bilingual provider. Recently we were emailed by our boss to say that she was going to have to take over some bilingual students at another school and I would have to take some students from her caseload to even things out, because our boss was told she could not hire anyone else right now.

So, no problem, we talked and worked things out. Today our boss sent out an "updated list" of school assignments that was "certain to change." I read it, and about 1/3 of the names, including my name, were in bold print! I couldn't see any pattern, such as district employee, or unrestricted license, etc. that was consistent between who was bolded or not.

So, I knocked on my friend's door and asked if she thought I was crazy to freak out because my name was bolded. She said she would too, and I should email our boss to ask why. I did ... and she said it indicated that that school was my "home school" as I have more than one placement! So, basically it is meaningless ... major sigh of relief.

Then I felt silly for freaking out but other co-workers said they would have freaked out about it too.

Am I crazy?

Nope! Not crazy at all. I would have freaked, too.

The majority of the bilingual kids on your boss' caseload. . .Spanish speakers??

[maggie]

Not crazy, I would have been nervous too!

[Gwenn]

Sorry, I worded that poorly. My boss doesn't have a caseload (just evals) ... meant my coworker. And yes, Spanish speakers. She is a native speaker of both languages.

Bilingual SLPs are REALLY hard to find, by the way.

[3andMe]

I would have freaked out too, Mandy.

I confess on my way to my car after work, I walked next to a riot of about 200 high school kids, moving in a screaming mass down the street. I called 911 and they'd already received reports and police arrived shortly after that. I got to my car, and saw a window had been smashed in, my stereo system removed, and my glove box hanging by a thread. My passenger vent was on the floor and my driver's side air vent was wedged into my steering wheel.

I called it in, spent a long time talking to various people on the phone, not touching or getting into my car in case they would want to get fingerprints and inspect the scene of the crime. Then I was told it would be a few days and they'd get back to me. So I drove home, talking to my insurance company and various glass repair companies on the way.

Dh is furious. Me? I hate it, I hate the inconvenience, I hate the expense, I hate that there are people out there who would do this without a second thought, but the whole time I was receiving condolences from the various people--every single one of my 5+ phone calls told me they were so sorry for my loss--I was thinking the last time I heard those words it was for something much, much worse. And it didn't seem so bad after all.

[girlwonder]

I don't have words for this, Lydia. I'm sorry, for everything, all your losses, but I am glad that you can put things into perspective like that. Argh, I don't know. I had some very "zen" moments after my father's sudden and unexpected death - things just didn't matter that much. I felt like I was so concentrated and internal that I had better balance for the external things.


I would have freaked out too, Mandy.

I confess on my way to my car after work, I walked next to a riot of about 200 high school kids, moving in a screaming mass down the street. I called 911 and they'd already received reports and police arrived shortly after that. I got to my car, and saw a window had been smashed in, my stereo system removed, and my glove box hanging by a thread. My passenger vent was on the floor and my driver's side air vent was wedged into my steering wheel.

I called it in, spent a long time talking to various people on the phone, not touching or getting into my car in case they would want to get fingerprints and inspect the scene of the crime. Then I was told it would be a few days and they'd get back to me. So I drove home, talking to my insurance company and various glass repair companies on the way.

Dh is furious. Me? I hate it, I hate the inconvenience, I hate the expense, I hate that there are people out there who would do this without a second thought, but the whole time I was receiving condolences from the various people--every single one of my 5+ phone calls told me they were so sorry for my loss--I was thinking the last time I heard those words it was for something much, much worse. And it didn't seem so bad after all.

[girlwonder]

Oh, and I am glad YOU are okay - that riot sounds scary.

[Gwenn]

Lydia, that is awful.

But you're right, those words do put it in perspective, don't they?

[The10Eels]

I confess you guys are probably tired of hearing me complain about it, but the whole situation with sMIL and sBIL drives me batty...

We hear everyday how "tight" money is around the house, and how we need to cut back on junk food, etc. DH and I don't buy ANYTHING specifically for us other than soda, and Audrianna's goldfish and animal crackers - that type of stuff.

Well, sMIL bought sBIL a crapton of those little frozen pizzas as "a snack for after school". Cool. Fine. Whatever. Problem is - The KID doesn't come home from school till 8-8:30 at night. By that time dinner has been made, and the rest of the house has eaten.

But does sBIL eat what was made for dinner?? NO! He bakes a friggin pizza!!

ARGH! They make me want to pull my hair out! If things are really so "tight" don't you think it would be a good idea to stop buying junk like frozen pizzas and use your grocery money towards things that would make meals for EVERYONE in the house?? and tell sBIL to grow the fluck up and eat whatever was made for dinner that night - just like the rest of us did!?

[Bridget]

I would have freaked out too, Mandy.

I confess on my way to my car after work, I walked next to a riot of about 200 high school kids, moving in a screaming mass down the street. I called 911 and they'd already received reports and police arrived shortly after that. I got to my car, and saw a window had been smashed in, my stereo system removed, and my glove box hanging by a thread. My passenger vent was on the floor and my driver's side air vent was wedged into my steering wheel.

I called it in, spent a long time talking to various people on the phone, not touching or getting into my car in case they would want to get fingerprints and inspect the scene of the crime. Then I was told it would be a few days and they'd get back to me. So I drove home, talking to my insurance company and various glass repair companies on the way.

Dh is furious. Me? I hate it, I hate the inconvenience, I hate the expense, I hate that there are people out there who would do this without a second thought, but the whole time I was receiving condolences from the various people--every single one of my 5+ phone calls told me they were so sorry for my loss--I was thinking the last time I heard those words it was for something much, much worse. And it didn't seem so bad after all.
:hugs: I'm so sorry this happened. How scary. It's speaks a lot of your character that you can see it for what it is. I'm so glad you are ok.

[daylilies]

Hugs all around! I would have been freaked out too about the list. And the riot! Ashley your BIL sounds like a piece of work LOL I hope whoever makes dinner has learned that he doesn't eat it, so that they make less...no?
I confess I was on twitter at the right time today and I managed to get "Donnie's alter ego" to follow me...There is a random time of day on Fridays (which are called "Follow Fridays" on Twitter) where he says "ok who should I follow?" and in a period of a few minutes he follows everyone who replies or who suggests someone....anyway long story short he is following me! Now I have to say interesting things! LOL
Also I decided to make my video for Donnie today closer to dinner time for the weekend trip to a fan's house contest--I will be cooking one of my favorite things to make and I'll be wearing my chef's uniform. I'm going to talk about a couple major local places I worked at that he might have heard of (both of us being from MA) and hope that sticks out in his mind...fingers crossed please!

[The10Eels]

Ashley your BIL sounds like a piece of work LOL I hope whoever makes dinner has learned that he doesn't eat it, so that they make less...no?

I have stopped cooking for him.

FIL made his AWESOME chicken and dumplings last night - and when he does that he makes enough for about 4 meals lol so there were leftovers anyways

[daylilies]

Well it sounds like BIL is missing out! Mmmm now I want some

[daylilies]

Is anyone out there? I promise I won't talk about the new kids anymore. :)

[Bean]

I confess I am not happy. I'm not sure how to make myself happy. I feel like my life is a catch 22 and no matter what I do, I'm going to end up unhappy for whatever reason. The saddest part is that I'm on anti-depressants, so while I am not crying and visibly unhappy, I still recognize this ache as unhappiness. I don't know where to go from here.

[daylilies]

I'm really sorry to hear that Cass. I feel like that most of the time too.

[Ky'sMom]

So sorry to hear you are unhappy. I know how it feels too. The only thing that worked for me was to tell myself to stop being unhappy. As corny as it sounds, it worked. I gave myself a specific amount of time to be unhappy or depressed, this past time I actually gave myself 6 months because I had a lot of things I was angry about, which made me unhappy. During that time I kept thinking of how grateful I should be I have healthy kids, arms, legs, a brain that works (most of the time) and after thinking these thoughts daily, like every hour, I started to feel better. I also started doing more things with the kids and for myself and of course that helps, oh and stop thinking about what other people think or want from me that I can't or don't want to give (mostly DH) it lifted a fog from my life and I still try to think of all the things I'm grateful for when I feel down in the dumps.

I hope you start feeling better soon.

And Lydia!! That riot sounds soooo scary! So happy you are okay.

Erin

[daylilies]

Anyone know any good books for raising a toddler? Happiest Toddler on the Block lost me when it said 18 months should be the peak of the terrible twos. :rolleyes:

[Ky'sMom]

Anyone know any good books for raising a toddler? Happiest Toddler on the Block lost me when it said 18 months should be the peak of the terrible twos. :rolleyes:

Don't know any books, but that is funny and is the reason why I don't trust many parenting books at all!!! I think Ky's terrible twos peeked when he was 3 lol!

Erin

[sunrider]

Anyone know any good books for raising a toddler? Happiest Toddler on the Block lost me when it said 18 months should be the peak of the terrible twos. :rolleyes:


Don't know any books, but that is funny and is the reason why I don't trust many parenting books at all!!!

Frankly I really enjoyed my baby book (Your Baby's First Year Week by Week). I took milestones and such with a grain of salt, but I liekd haveing some general guidelines and ideas from the books. I also read the Pregnancy Week by Week, too.

I was really disappointed that the Week by Week people didn't write a book for baby's second year, so I headed to Barnes and Noble, gathered about 6 toddler books around me and started to skim through them. I ended up buying 2.

The Girlfriends Guide to Toddlers (A Survival Manual to the Terrible Two's (and Ones and Threes) From the First Step, the First Potty and the First Word (No) to the Last Blankie
and
What to Expect: The Toddler Years

I didn't like the What to Expect When You're Expecting book, and didn't even look at the one for the first year. But it was seriously the best one I looked at for toddlers. I'm still reading in the 13th month, but I like the way its set up and organized. I bought the Girlfriends guide cause I like her writing style and she makes me laugh.

[Bridget]

Whenever I read a parenting/child development book, I just take the parts that I find useful and modify them to suit my situation. There will never be one book that tells you just what to do with your child, you know?

[The10Eels]

I confess as horrible as it is - I am looking forward to 4 days in the hospital. Im looking at it as a get away from the in-laws!!

[Janeen]

I confess that I just got home from an awesome evening out with Jimi. We splurged on a one hundred dollar dinner at a nice steakhouse, went and saw Couples Retreat which was funny and then I got to spend 200 dollars on clothes. I bought two bras, panties, three pairs of slacks, three blouses and even a really nice coat.

Happy anniversary to us even though it isn't until the 21st! lol

I confess that tomorrow is Jimi's birthday so the dinner was partly for that too.

Tomorrow night we are going to the karaoke bar we used to frequent to celebrate his birthday with our friends.

[Ky'sMom]

I confess as horrible as it is - I am looking forward to 4 days in the hospital. Im looking at it as a get away from the in-laws!!

Don't feel bad. I loved my 4 days after my c/s with Elle. It was like a hotel stay with the satellite TV and 42 inch flatscreen (we have a regular TV at home with no cable/satellite so that was a treat), I had the best room on the floor, it had a sitting area seperate from the bed area and was really nice. I really enjoyed the stay other than the IVs and people coming in and out to take my temp and check on the baby.

Erin

[daylilies]

Whenever I read a parenting/child development book, I just take the parts that I find useful and modify them to suit my situation. There will never be one book that tells you just what to do with your child, you know?

Oh I totally know! I'm looking for something that offers help on avoiding tantrums (or at least getting through them without losing my sanity) It seems like every time I open my mouth he says something contrary or loses his cool.

I confess as horrible as it is - I am looking forward to 4 days in the hospital. Im looking at it as a get away from the in-laws!!

I enjoyed that too...

I confess that I just got home from an awesome evening out with Jimi. We splurged on a one hundred dollar dinner at a nice steakhouse, went and saw Couples Retreat which was funny and then I got to spend 200 dollars on clothes. I bought two bras, panties, three pairs of slacks, three blouses and even a really nice coat.

Happy anniversary to us even though it isn't until the 21st! lol

I confess that tomorrow is Jimi's birthday so the dinner was partly for that too.

Tomorrow night we are going to the karaoke bar we used to frequent to celebrate his birthday with our friends.

Happy Anniversary!

[Bridget]

One thing that really helps with tantrums around here, especially with Kai, is just repeating back to him what he's trying to express. That may have even come from Happiest Toddler on the Block. I don't do the toddler-ease but I just say to him, "You are so mad that mommy won't let you play with her lotion. I know that is so hard when you want something you can't have..."
Unfortunately, I don't think there is anything we can do to stop tantrums all together. It is just part of their way of figuring things out and trying to balance the desire for independence with the inability to actually do things for themselves and make their own choices. (Although my MIL will tell you that her other grandchild NEVER threw tantrums. He was just the perfect child:eyeroll: )
Is he still saying he doesn't like you and that stuff? Kai is. All the time with the, "I don't like you. You are so so mean." It is totally enough to make me want to cry and lose my mind. But I have started to just calmly say to him, right after he tells me he doesn't like me, "You don't like it when I *insert whatever horrible thing I'm doing to him*

[daylilies]

Is he still saying he doesn't like you and that stuff? Kai is. All the time with the, "I don't like you. You are so so mean." It is totally enough to make me want to cry and lose my mind. But I have started to just calmly say to him, right after he tells me he doesn't like me, "You don't like it when I *insert whatever horrible thing I'm doing to him*

No, that didn't last long. Now he'll say silly stuff like when I say I love you he says "No you don't" but not in an angry way..
Now it's just like, I'll say yes we'll go to Chuck E Cheese later and he'll scream and say not later! I want to go now! (and it's 7 a.m....LOL) Even when I'm giving him something he usually wants, he just wants something different, or sooner, or whatever. I fix us the same thing to eat and he doesn't want it. I fix us different things and he wants some of mine. I can't do anything right by him. If I weren't sure it was rotting his brain, he'd sit in front of the tv all day and be happy.
Oh and I'll ask him 'what are you doing' and he'll say "I'm just fine" but he won't say *what* he is doing. Or I'll ask him not to do something in particular and he'll smile and say "Oh I'm just fine"
I'm sure it has to do with some issues I have with people just not believing what I say or giving me any credit (DH does this too, he thinks nothing I say is right until he discovers for himself that it's true)

[Gwenn]

No, that didn't last long. Now he'll say silly stuff like when I say I love you he says "No you don't" but not in an angry way..
Now it's just like, I'll say yes we'll go to Chuck E Cheese later and he'll scream and say not later! I want to go now! (and it's 7 a.m....LOL) Even when I'm giving him something he usually wants, he just wants something different, or sooner, or whatever. I fix us the same thing to eat and he doesn't want it. I fix us different things and he wants some of mine. I can't do anything right by him. If I weren't sure it was rotting his brain, he'd sit in front of the tv all day and be happy.
Oh and I'll ask him 'what are you doing' and he'll say "I'm just fine" but he won't say *what* he is doing. Or I'll ask him not to do something in particular and he'll smile and say "Oh I'm just fine"
I'm sure it has to do with some issues I have with people just not believing what I say or giving me any credit (DH does this too, he thinks nothing I say is right until he discovers for himself that it's true)

To me it sounds like he's still in the process of learning what different words mean. Even though he can express himself, he doesn't always know the right answers, or always understand or trust that "later" really does mean "later" and not "never." As his communication skills and his experience with your responses continue to grow, it will get easier.

[AlishaAnew]

Ugh Ashley I wanna :pokey: your ILs

[JamieMonsterMama]

No, that didn't last long. Now he'll say silly stuff like when I say I love you he says "No you don't" but not in an angry way..
Now it's just like, I'll say yes we'll go to Chuck E Cheese later and he'll scream and say not later! I want to go now! (and it's 7 a.m....LOL) Even when I'm giving him something he usually wants, he just wants something different, or sooner, or whatever. I fix us the same thing to eat and he doesn't want it. I fix us different things and he wants some of mine. I can't do anything right by him. If I weren't sure it was rotting his brain, he'd sit in front of the tv all day and be happy.
Oh and I'll ask him 'what are you doing' and he'll say "I'm just fine" but he won't say *what* he is doing. Or I'll ask him not to do something in particular and he'll smile and say "Oh I'm just fine"
I'm sure it has to do with some issues I have with people just not believing what I say or giving me any credit (DH does this too, he thinks nothing I say is right until he discovers for himself that it's true)

Dude, Monster did this the other day only it was re: wanting me to go buy OJ at 2 in the morning. :eyeroll: Usually I ask what it is he wants to have happen and explain that even if I did what he asked it wouldn't have the result he wanted (ie: I could walk to the store, but it's closed, so you'd still have to wait until morning).

If you figure out a cure for never wanting to eat the thing he asks for once it's actually in front of him, let me know. This whole short order cook thing is not working out too well in our house, and I'm getting really tired of wasting food.

[daylilies]

If you figure out a cure for never wanting to eat the thing he asks for once it's actually in front of him, let me know. This whole short order cook thing is not working out too well in our house, and I'm getting really tired of wasting food.

My husband joked we should put down his food in front of me, and my food in front of him, so that when he wants mine, he will actually be eating what should be his. But he seems to always want what I wanted. LOL

[daylilies]

Oh another thing I don't understand is the inability to listen! I had just finished saying to Josh the other day that if he didn't throw things and if he listened to me we could go to Chuck E Cheese. The words had barely left my mouth when he chucked something at me. We didn't go to Chuck's that day but he didn't seem to care, after the initial crying for about 5 seconds before something else distracted him.

[Gwenn]

I confess yesterday a friend of mine was complaining about how she had been up with her 4 year old at 3:00 and just got her back to bed when her 2 year old woke up at 4:00. And then she had to go in to work.

I told DH about that, saying I was not looking forward to that when we had kids, and he said, "That's okay ... I like to get up early. So when we have kids, I'll deal with them early if you will deal with them late."

:wub: I'll believe it when I see it, but still :wub:.

[daylilies]

I confess yesterday a friend of mine was complaining about how she had been up with her 4 year old at 3:00 and just got her back to bed when her 2 year old woke up at 4:00. And then she had to go in to work.

I told DH about that, saying I was not looking forward to that when we had kids, and he said, "That's okay ... I like to get up early. So when we have kids, I'll deal with them early if you will deal with them late."

:wub: I'll believe it when I see it, but still :wub:.

What will you do in those wee morning hours when it is both late, and early? LOL

[Gwenn]

:laugh: He said we really only needed to worry about 11:00 to 3:00 ... so I guess we'd end up splitting it down the middle!

[AmeriBrit]

I'm still trying to catch up on this thread! LOL. We ordered a new laptop as our old one died right before we left for vacation 2 weeks ago. I'm using the old PC upstairs that is mega slow, so that's why I've not caught up with everyone.

Bean, I'm sorry you aren't feeling great. I hope you can find a way to feel better. Have you told your husband how you are feeling?

Lydia, that sounds scary what happened to you and I'm glad you're OK! Your story reminded me of when DH and I were in Paris and we watched a massive student protest from our hotel window...that was one of the scariest things I've seen in person!

[Jenny]

I confess that I have now lost 130 pounds!! :hooray: Here is a pic taken today!!

http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii76/IrishTriplets/100_3785.jpg


30 more pounds to go!!! :cabbage:

[heartmyboyz]

I confess that I have now lost 130 pounds!!
Congrats!! :hooray:

Is it easier for you to move around and get stuff done?? I feel like I lag at doing everything, and one thing I look forward too (after dropping weight) is being faster!!

[Jenny]

Congrats!! :hooray:

Is it easier for you to move around and get stuff done?? I feel like I lag at doing everything, and one thing I look forward too (after dropping weight) is being faster!!

Without a doubt, Anna. I'm much faster now, at everything!

[Bridget]

Dayum, Jenny! You do look like a totally different person. Look how slim your legs are!

[girlwonder]

I confess that I have now lost 130 pounds!! :hooray: Here is a pic taken today!!

http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii76/IrishTriplets/100_3785.jpg


30 more pounds to go!!! :cabbage:

You are amazing! :hooray:

[maggie]

Jenny, I just saw that picture and said a bad word, I was so impressed. You are effin incredible, girl.

[daylilies]

Way to go Jenny! Can I have a little bit of your motivation?
I confess my husband said the dumbest thing the other day. He said "It's so annoying how every time I turn around, the dishwasher is full of clean dishes."
Sorry dear, I'll make a note to not run the dishwasher anymore. :headbang:

[Gwenn]

Jenny, that's amazing!

[shutterbird]

You look great, Jenny! :wub:

[daylilies]

Does anyone know if the Love and Logic book is good? I think I've seen some people talk about it here.
I couldn't find the girlfriend's guide to toddlers. I found another girlfriend's guide, I think it was a pregnancy one or a baby one.
I was about to buy Love and Logic but the line was long and Josh was not having it. I found it a little ironic.

[sunrider]

I confess that I just got home from an awesome evening out with Jimi. We splurged on a one hundred dollar dinner at a nice steakhouse, went and saw Couples Retreat which was funny and then I got to spend 200 dollars on clothes. I bought two bras, panties, three pairs of slacks, three blouses and even a really nice coat.

Happy anniversary to us even though it isn't until the 21st! lol

Cool, so worth it? Our 7th wedding anniversary is Monday and we're planning on seeing it after a nice lunch together. We haven't seen a movie since my last trimester of pregnancy, so a movie will really be a treat.

[sunrider]

Does anyone know if the Love and Logic book is good? I think I've seen some people talk about it here.
I couldn't find the girlfriend's guide to toddlers. I found another girlfriend's guide, I think it was a pregnancy one or a baby one.
I was about to buy Love and Logic but the line was long and Josh was not having it. I found it a little ironic.

That's not one I've even heard of, so no idea.

[The10Eels]

I confess that I have now lost 130 pounds!! :hooray: Here is a pic taken today!!

http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii76/IrishTriplets/100_3785.jpg


30 more pounds to go!!! :cabbage:

HOLY SHIZ!! You are seriously amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!:hooray:



I confess my husband said the dumbest thing the other day. He said "It's so annoying how every time I turn around, the dishwasher is full of clean dishes."
Sorry dear, I'll make a note to not run the dishwasher anymore. :headbang:

lmao. I love it! I could totally see that being said around this house! lol

I confess it was SO nice to spend the day with my mommy! and I even talked to my dad on the phone about 4 times since yesterday afternoon without him yelling at me, or calling DH names!!!

[Janeen]

Cool, so worth it? Our 7th wedding anniversary is Monday and we're planning on seeing it after a nice lunch together. We haven't seen a movie since my last trimester of pregnancy, so a movie will really be a treat.

We really enjoyed it. It had a lot of funny parts and a few "aww" parts too.

I confess we just got back from the ole karaoke joint. I told Jimi last week that if he wanted to have a few drinks, even though I didn't think he SHOULD (he has Hep C and has to be sober for 6 months before having a liver biopsy and starting chemotherapy), I wouldn't be mad at him just because I couldn't. He kept insisting he wasn't going to drink and didn't even want to. As we were leaving the house I heard him tell our friend that he was thinking about having a few. Ha...a few, lol. People were buying him shots left and right and he had way more than a few beers. He even partook in a bit of green, if you know what I mean. :laugh:

Even though tons of people canceled and never showed, he says he has had an awesome birthday. Started with IHOP this morning, then we got his golf clubs, had lunch at a place with his favorite pastrami burger sandwich, went and got the first two seasons of Family Guy for him and then this evening. I'm glad he had a good time and he isn't acting like a drunken ass. :winks:

[rhiannasmoms43]

I confess I am not happy. I'm not sure how to make myself happy. I feel like my life is a catch 22 and no matter what I do, I'm going to end up unhappy for whatever reason. The saddest part is that I'm on anti-depressants, so while I am not crying and visibly unhappy, I still recognize this ache as unhappiness. I don't know where to go from here.

Bean, is it a new thing or have you been depressed for a long time? Could it be where you have moved to?
Although it sounds trite, your life is what you make it. If you want someone else to change, you have to change yourself first.

[3andMe]

My sister is doing it again! She showed up to our dinner out last night and talked at length about how she and her dh were waiting to have children until after we were done, and now she doesn't know if we're ever going to stop. Then she said that she wanted the name Esme, but she can't use it because of us. Dh snapped at her, "Well, it's available again!"

I'm so sick of her being negative about everything, and I'm mad at myself for letting her ruin our dinner out and being irritated for this long.

[Bridget]

My sister is doing it again! She showed up to our dinner out last night and talked at length about how she and her dh were waiting to have children until after we were done, and now she doesn't know if we're ever going to stop. Then she said that she wanted the name Esme, but she can't use it because of us. Dh snapped at her, "Well, it's available again!"

I'm so sick of her being negative about everything, and I'm mad at myself for letting her ruin our dinner out and being irritated for this long.
How totally insensivive and idiotic. I am so sorry! Why does she want to wait until you are done having kids before she has any?

[3andMe]

How totally insensivive and idiotic. I am so sorry! Why does she want to wait until you are done having kids before she has any?


She says "To avoid competition." This is only the latest in a long series of reasons she's not having children.
1. She wants to focus on her career.
2. She doesn't want to get fat.
3. She was diagnosed with a clotting disorder and therefore shouldn't get pregnant.
4. She doesn't want competition between our children.
5. I stole her favorite baby name and ruined it.

It's been pretty obvious that she doesn't want to have children, but I'm unhappy that she's now publicly trying to lay the blame on me.

I'm getting madder and madder the more I think about it, and at this point I don't ever feel like seeing her again (not just because of this). I am upset after every time we talk because she is so unrelentingly angry and selfish.

[Bridget]

I know how hard it is, because she's family, but sometimes you really have to cut toxic people out of your life. She sounds almost cruel.

[AlishaAnew]

I confess that I have now lost 130 pounds!! :hooray: Here is a pic taken today!!

http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii76/IrishTriplets/100_3785.jpg


30 more pounds to go!!! :cabbage:

You look AMAZING!!:cabbage:

[AlishaAnew]

She says "To avoid competition." This is only the latest in a long series of reasons she's not having children.
1. She wants to focus on her career.
2. She doesn't want to get fat.
3. She was diagnosed with a clotting disorder and therefore shouldn't get pregnant.
4. She doesn't want competition between our children.
5. I stole her favorite baby name and ruined it.

It's been pretty obvious that she doesn't want to have children, but I'm unhappy that she's now publicly trying to lay the blame on me.

I'm getting madder and madder the more I think about it, and at this point I don't ever feel like seeing her again (not just because of this). I am upset after every time we talk because she is so unrelentingly angry and selfish.

:pokey::pokey::pokey: her!
It sounds like her real problem is she just doesn't want to have kids. So why does she keep coming up with the lame "excuses"?

[WillowSpy]

Jenny, you look amazing! It must feel even more amazing, though. I am in awe!!!! I need to tell DH about you :) He's currently in the middle of his own weightloss battle - aims to loose about 40lbs, down 6lbs so far.

Lydia... judging from her reasons, your sister very obviously either does not want to have children or is very scared of having children and she is trying to blame her decisions on you and DH because it's easier to blame someone else than publicly admit that you simply do not want children. I hope she realizes how childish she sounds and how much she's hurting you :hugs:

[girlwonder]

My sister is doing it again! She showed up to our dinner out last night and talked at length about how she and her dh were waiting to have children until after we were done, and now she doesn't know if we're ever going to stop. Then she said that she wanted the name Esme, but she can't use it because of us. Dh snapped at her, "Well, it's available again!"

I'm so sick of her being negative about everything, and I'm mad at myself for letting her ruin our dinner out and being irritated for this long.

She sounds like a royal b to the double itch. How much more oblivious can you be?

[Gwenn]

Lydia, sorry to hear about your sister. I agree that she doesn't want to deal with the fact that she doesn't want children and is trying to blame someone else for it. In your position I probably would have snapped at her for the name comment.

[Jenny]

Lydia :hugs:

Your sister is being cruel. Were you two ever close? Did you ever have a good relationship? How close in age are you??

[AmeriBrit]

Jenny, wow, you are awesome! I'm sure those 30 pounds will come off soon with how well you've done so far.

Lydia, I'm sorry your sister is being such a numnuts. That's just not cool what she said. It sounds like you need some time away from her and her negativity.

[3andMe]

Your sister is being cruel. Were you two ever close? Did you ever have a good relationship? How close in age are you??

Dh is telling me I just need to stop caring about the things she says. That I could stop seeing her but it wouldn't make any difference because I'd still care and I'd get endless grief. So I'm trying to let it go.

We were close when we were very little and close for a while in my mid-to-late twenties, spanning the time before and after I moved out here to California, only a short ways away from her. After a time I realized that her constant negativity and grudge-nursing was difficult to be around--not just for me, but for anyone who greeted her after a long absence only to be harangued about wearing horizontal stripes. She wouldn't listen to me when I suggested she might try more friendliness and fewer insults or complaining, and I think it's just a pattern she has been in so long, she can't relate to people any other way.

The Christmas after Esme died she got really upset with me for taking a road trip to Death Valley over the long weekend. I told her we just wanted to get away, and she asked me to think about her for a change instead of my own disappointments, because she'd had her heart set on hosting a Christmas party and now her Christmas wasn't turning out the way she expected.

We're 20 months, 5 miles, and a whole attitude apart.

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I just jumped on here this morning with my own stuff, and didn't have a chance to say Congratulations Jenny for your extraordinary accomplishment. You look fantastic!

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Cass, :hugs:

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And now the unrelated website of 25 people with gross nails (http://www.holytaco.com/25-people-gross-nails). View at your own risk.

[misfit]

:hugs: about your sister Lydia. Its so hard to be around people who bring nothing but negativity to the table.

And I am so not viewing that link right now. :laugh:

[The10Eels]

Lydia, I am so sorry about your sister... I know how it feels to be so physically close to a sibling, yet SO far away in attitude, etc. (I lived just across the hall from my brother when he told me he didn't care if I miscarried while I was pregnant with Audrianna)

[misfit]

Lydia, I am so sorry about your sister... I know how it feels to be so physically close to a sibling, yet SO far away in attitude, etc. (I lived just across the hall from my brother when he told me he didn't care if I miscarried while I was pregnant with Audrianna)

OMG you are 40 weeks today!!!! :hooray:

[The10Eels]

Oh yeah... I confess -- HOLY 40 WEEKS! lmao... I should take a belly pic for ya'll and compare to 40 weeks with Audri! I feel tiny! lol

My MIL even commented - "Are you sure of your due date!? You aren't very big, and not swollen or puffy or anything! For being due anyday now you look great!"

[misfit]

Are you sure of your due date?

[elmobo-n-lexi]

I want to see a belly picture Ash!!

[misfit]

I want to see a belly picture Ash!!

Yes ditto.

[AlishaAnew]

Me too Ashley!!!:hooray:

[AlishaAnew]

I confess I finally finished Evie's stuff :lol:

http://www.americanpregnancy.org/forums/showthread.php?t=205219

[girlwonder]

And now the unrelated website of 25 people with gross nails (http://www.holytaco.com/25-people-gross-nails). View at your own risk.

Yes, they are truly gross. Where's a threw-up-a-little-in-my-mouth smilie when you need one?

[Kitty]

First, Jenny, you look fantastic! What an acomplishment!


Lydia, :hugs: I can't imagine what it would feel like to hear your sister say such horrible things. No matter what her motivations, its downright mean.




And the nails... gross. But I must confess that in college I once dated a guys who stoped cutting his toenails just to see how long they would get. He had to wear sandals all the time. In the winter. In Bavaria. He was super-cool. But he did play guitar, which trumps a lot when you're 18. :winks:

[The10Eels]

Are you sure of your due date?
We are about 99.9% sure of the date of conception, so Yeah, I'd say im pretty sure of my due date. I'll have to go take a pic

[misfit]

We are about 99.9% sure of the date of conception, so Yeah, I'd say im pretty sure of my due date. I'll have to go take a pic

I was just flashing back to when you announced you were pregnant. :cabbage:

[The10Eels]

Here ya go ladies... 40 weeks with Charlie --
http://i513.photobucket.com/albums/t340/audribarnes/1018092318.jpg

and 40 weeks (and 5 days) with Audri --
http://i513.photobucket.com/albums/t340/audribarnes/july17065.jpg

[misfit]

Wow you arent quite as big with Charlie as you were with Audri. How big was Audri when she was born?

[The10Eels]

Audri was 9lbs 2oz!

[misfit]

Did you gain more weight with Audri then with Charlie?

Tell me to shut up whenever. :)

[The10Eels]

lol.. Whatever...

and yes.. I gained a BUTTLOAD of weight with Audri, and with Charlie I've gained a total of 9 lbs, but really only 4, cause I lost 5 in the beginning...

I can actually still wear my pre-Charlie jeans. Well... I can put them on, and zip them up all the way, but I can't button them, or it hurts my belly... so I wear them with my bella band.

[misfit]

Thats good though right???

[The10Eels]

Heck yes!

[misfit]

Okay! :cheer: I love their names btw. :wub:

[The10Eels]

Thanks!

I confess I need to go to sleep! Its just about midnight - I have to check in to the hospital at 6am!!

I confess next time you ladies hear from me, I will have a new baby!!

[misfit]

:cheer: Sleep well! Dont forget to text me!

[Luna]

:cheer: Sleep well! Dont forget to text me!


Me too! Me too! Where are you delivering?

[Kitty]

Thanks!

I confess I need to go to sleep! Its just about midnight - I have to check in to the hospital at 6am!!

I confess next time you ladies hear from me, I will have a new baby!!


Yay!!! I hope you get some sleep tonight!

[Gwenn]

Good luck, Ashley! I can't wait to see baby pics!

[3andMe]

Happy birth day, Ashley and Charlie!

[misfit]

From Ash:
7:14a: She is all checked into the hospital for the c-section, prepped and iv'ed, waiting for the surgeon. Baby turned and is breech. Will text once she arrives.

[stephmama]

:hooray:

[daylilies]

Oh boy oh boy! Can't wait to hear from her!

[elmobo-n-lexi]

Waiting patiently!!! {insert jeopardy theme music here}
OH and you ARE much smaller than you were with Audri! You look great!

[AlishaAnew]

Oh yeah I see a difference between Audri and Charlie.

The text from Ashley this morn says she is all prepped and waiting for the surgeon. Baby is turned and she is breech!
I am waiting on the text that says she has arrived.

[elmobo-n-lexi]

I got my original text from her, but that's the only one i've gotten. I'm WAY too impatient!!

[misfit]

Way a head of you Ash! I posted at 7:14a the same text. :laugh:

[shutterbird]

I can't wait to hear!!

[girlwonder]

I confess next time you ladies hear from me, I will have a new baby!!

That's so exciting!

[elmobo-n-lexi]

Isn't it past the time yet?? Wait.....she's in a different time zone.....so......how long has it been since she was supposed to have the c-section - her time?

[WillowSpy]

Go go Ashley! I hope the c-section went great and they're enjoying their new baby girl!

[misfit]

I just texted Ash because I hadnt heard anything and my guess it was her DH that responded but Charlie is here!!! Not sure when she made her arrival, but shes 8lbs 13oz and 19 inches long!!!!!!!

:cheer:

Ash is still in recovery.


ETA: Ash just texted me and Charlene Rhaelynn was born at 9:25a.

[AlishaAnew]

Yeah she just texted me Charlene rhaelynn was born at 9:25 am!! 8 lbs 13 oz 19 inches long!!!:cabbage::hooray:

[daylilies]

Yayyyy! Congrats to all!

[shutterbird]

:hooray: Congratulations!

[AlishaAnew]

I have a pic of her!! She is so cute!!!!!:wub::wub:

[daylilies]

Hey Willowspy, were you the one asking about my MIL's meat pies? I asked her how she makes them and she says she puts in "Lebanese allspice". She gave me a packet of it but I looked it up and it says it's a mixture of allspice berries, cinnamon, and nutmeg (all powdered together). (it smells like cloves too, to me, but I could be wrong)
Anyway she just says to put a lot in the beef as it is cooking, until you can smell it (it's pretty strong) She said she dices up onion too, and sautes it with the beef. Then she mixes it all with mashed potatoes (as much as you like) That's it. Put it in a pie shell and bake it

[AlishaAnew]

Here is Charlie!!!!!!!!!!!!
http://i266.photobucket.com/albums/ii276/L3zbiandoll/1019091306.jpg

[daylilies]

Aw, she's gorgeous!

[elmobo-n-lexi]

YAY and she looks so much like Ashley already, I think!!

[WillowSpy]

AWWWWWW welcome, Charlie!!! I thinks she looks like Ashley! And she's adorable :wub: Congrats momma!!!



Hey Willowspy, were you the one asking about my MIL's meat pies? I asked her how she makes them and she says she puts in "Lebanese allspice". She gave me a packet of it but I looked it up and it says it's a mixture of allspice berries, cinnamon, and nutmeg (all powdered together). (it smells like cloves too, to me, but I could be wrong)
Anyway she just says to put a lot in the beef as it is cooking, until you can smell it (it's pretty strong) She said she dices up onion too, and sautes it with the beef. Then she mixes it all with mashed potatoes (as much as you like) That's it. Put it in a pie shell and bake it

THANK YOU!!! Yay :) Super thank you :) I've always wanted to make a meat pie.

[daylilies]

NP! Hope it comes out good. I like to put gravy over mine. Some people like ketchup.

[Kitty]

Here is Charlie!!!!!!!!!!!!
http://i266.photobucket.com/albums/ii276/L3zbiandoll/1019091306.jpg


Wow! What a doll! Congratulations!!!!!!:hooray::hooray::hooray:

[girlwonder]

Here is Charlie!!!!!!!!!!!!


She's beautiful!

[Janeen]

She TOTALLY looks like Ashley! Congratulations hun! :hooray:

[The10Eels]

Thanks ladies!!

I confess they couldn't find my "spinal space" so they had to put me to sleep. It felt more like I cried myself to sleep!!

[elmobo-n-lexi]

Thanks ladies!!

I confess they couldn't find my "spinal space" so they had to put me to sleep. It felt more like I cried myself to sleep!!

Oh no, i'm sorry! I hope you heal quickly and i'd love to see more pics!!

[misfit]

Congrats again Ash!

[3andMe]

She is a doll. Congratulations, Ash!

They haven't been able to find my spinal space in the past, too. After having them try and miss multiple times for countless lumbar punctures and epidurals, I have finally learned to tell them which alternate spinal space works better. I know it's no fun.

[Gwenn]

She's beautiful, Ashley. Congratulations!

No fun on being put to sleep.

[adlibby]

Lydia, I :wub: your siggy!

[daylilies]

I was put under for my c section too Ashley. If you're having a hard time dealing with it (not saying you should be, but some women do), you can talk to me.

[MammaMia]

Awww congrats Ashley, she's beautiful!! :wub:

[WillowSpy]

I confess they couldn't find my "spinal space" so they had to put me to sleep. It felt more like I cried myself to sleep!!

Oh hunny, big big big hugs!!! :hugs:

And congratulations once again, she is beyond beautiful. Those cheeks are scrumptious!

[Luna]

:wub: what a beautiful girl. I want to pinch (gently) those cheeks.

[sunrider]

Ashley - Congrats on Charlie! She's beautiful!

Lydia - just . . . :hot: about your sister. You "ruined" the name Esme for her? How could she say that after what you went through losing a baby? Just >.< Hugs to you.

Jenny - too many pages ago and I can't remember if I said anything, but big congrats on that weight loss. I'm sure the last 30 pounds will come off - you're working hard and deserve it.

[sunrider]

I confess I'm just thrilled to be on Facebook.

MIL just had her thyroid removed last week and they discovered it was cancerous. She's now posted on Fb

Yes [SIL] is right it is cancer, However I KNOW WHO MY GOD is and WHAT MY GOD CAN DO IN ME AND THROUGH ME! I ALSO KNOW WHO I AM IN CHRIST JESUS! Cancer is just a... word and GOD'S word cancels out the cancer! AMEN and AMEN!!!


And there are like 9 comments after that. Tred talked to her yesterday and she's going to be going through radio-iodine treatments (if I spelled that correctly). I'm sure medical technology will never be thanked . . .

[Luna]

I confess I'm just thrilled to be on Facebook.

MIL just had her thyroid removed last week and they discovered it was cancerous. She's now posted on Fb

And there are like 9 comments after that. Tred talked to her yesterday and she's going to be going through radio-iodine treatments (if I spelled that correctly). I'm sure medical technology will never be thanked . . .

Oy. I, too need to figure out how to put certain people in a group and limit their access to my FB. :pokey:



I have a random confession for Ashley. . .I confess I texted her back and said "I can't wait to see her soon" in response to the new baby, and had previously asked where she was giving birth in this thread.

I confess I just read another thread http://www.americanpregnancy.org/forums/showthread.php?t=205429 and want to make sure you all know I'm not a scary stalker. :shocker:

[WillowSpy]

I confess I'm just thrilled to be on Facebook.

MIL just had her thyroid removed last week and they discovered it was cancerous. She's now posted on Fb

And there are like 9 comments after that. Tred talked to her yesterday and she's going to be going through radio-iodine treatments (if I spelled that correctly). I'm sure medical technology will never be thanked . . .

Yeah... that would bug me a lot, too. Belief in God can be incredibly beneficial and meaning-giving during a cancer battle, but anyone who says "believing in God cancels out my cancer" with a straight face instead of thanking the medical professionals who are working their butts off to provide top notch treatment.... UGH.

[AlishaAnew]

Oy. I, too need to figure out how to put certain people in a group and limit their access to my FB. :pokey:



I have a random confession for Ashley. . .I confess I texted her back and said "I can't wait to see her soon" in response to the new baby, and had previously asked where she was giving birth in this thread.

I confess I just read another thread http://www.americanpregnancy.org/forums/showthread.php?t=205429 and want to make sure you all know I'm not a scary stalker. :shocker:
holy..crap...

[The10Eels]

AWWWW Kate! I missed your post asking where I was delivering!!

and I was so out of it yesterday thanks to the anesthesia, DH and my mom had my phone most of the day!!

eta-- Im texting you now

[daylilies]

Hi Ashley! Good to see you posting already! How are you feeling?

[The10Eels]

Im not feeling too bad actually. I think it helps that I didn't have the stress of 43 hours of labor on top of the c/s. I kind of knew what to expect this time around..

and Charlie latched right away, and is a little booby fiend! We met with the LC today (who's name is also Charlene!) and she said she doesn't think we will have any problems!

[Kitty]

Im not feeling too bad actually. I think it helps that I didn't have the stress of 43 hours of labor on top of the c/s. I kind of knew what to expect this time around..

and Charlie latched right away, and is a little booby fiend! We met with the LC today (who's name is also Charlene!) and she said she doesn't think we will have any problems!


That's great!

[Kitty]

holy..crap...


No kidding! :shocker:


I have actually thought about this before. My DH doesn't know about APA, so if I died I'd just be gone. And no one here know my personal info, so no one could contact me. Am I the only one that occasioanlly thinks about death? :crazy: