Should I back off?

[mjh8406]

I joined a gym since I need to exercise with my GD diagnosis and it is too cold here to go outside for a walk and I can only do my yoga tape so many times!!!! So, I thought this was good for Evie and me b/c I am a SAHM and I thought it would be good for her to go to the daycare there and be with other kids. She cries everytime and they have to page me to come and get her b/c they won't let kids cry for more than 5 minutes, which I LOVE b/c I don't want her miserable.

Well, a lady that works there recommended that I come and play there with Evie without leaving her for a few days in a row then to try and leave to workout after a few days of trying this. Well, I tried that today and she clung to me the whole time and still cried. It is breaking my heart and a part of me is saying to keep trying it b/c I am doing it in a gentle way but then my mommy radar is telling me to back off and that she is not ready for this. WWYD?

[virginia+3]

I would probably try to find someone to stay with her at home, if you could manage it. It sounds to me, like she may just not like that place, ya know?

[mjh8406]

Yeah, that is what I am thinking. The lady that works there keeps saying that going with her and not leaving a few days in a row ALWAYS works but I am not thinking this is going to with Evie, I just feel it. And I don't want to wast my time this week if it is not going to work, KWIM? But then, I feel like I am giving up too easy?

I just don't think she is ready. Poor baby, I love that she loves her mama :wub:

[PurplePasion]

I'd go with her a few more times and just stay in the play area and not leave her to go workout for a few visits.

[hanvan]

I'd try and see if it works. It it does-great. If not then maybe back off.

[lovely]

I know how you feel. I have to give Nora to my in laws when I go to the gym because my gym also has the 5 minute rule. And Nora doesn't do too well with strangers(which I can't say is a bad thing).

[dragonfly]

Is there an indoor track or anything that she can maybe do with you to see it is a "fun" place? Mommy instincts are always best. You could also give it a rest for a few days then try again.

[futuresoccermom]

I wouldn't leave Arielle there if she was like that. I'm having a hard enough time getting her comfortable around family members. Just over a year seems too young for me!

[GA1977]

Honestly, I would keep trying. But I would make your workout really really short the first couple times. I would find something there that she really likes--a toy, book, etc. And I would go at the time of day that is the best for her..like after a nap or way before a nap.

I worked in a gym and my sis would bring my 1 year old nephew to the daycare (she'd bring him when I didn't have a client so I could go in there if he needed me). I would go in there a few minutes after she left and talk and say hi and get him started on new toys. then I could leave (but I always watched from the window) He ended up loving the daycare.

[bridgetwu75]

That's a tough one. When I started a new gym right after I moved, it was either Kai or Savana always having a rough time. They were used to all me all the time. I gave up after a few times. I couldn't bear it.

[mjh8406]

I think I know that it is time to back off but I am not the type to be a quitter and I need to remind myself that this is not being a quitter but doing the right thing. Really, if I look at all my efforts, I have been trying at this for a month now. I think I will just quit the gym and go and do yoga at night while DH watches her...that sounds better to me anyway! thanks ladies!

[haydensmom]

Honestly, I would just keep trying. I went through the same thing with Ava and the gym. She would scream and only let me work out for like, 10-15 minutes when we first started five weeks ago. Now, she takes a good long nap usually and I can work out for at least an hour. They rarely come and get me anymore. She does cry a little when she's going to sleep, but they hold her and rock her the whole time. She even cries with dh when he's trying to get her to sleep. If she doesn't conk out within five minutes, they come and get me and I nurse her. I hate hate HATE hearing/knowing that she's upset, but my point is that she's getting used to it. Plus, Hayden loves it. I'm a better mom because I feel better about myself, too.

So I say stick with it. Stay with her for a few more times and let her warm up to the place/people. There is a delicate balance between your two babies. If you need exercise, you need exercise, ya know? My bet is that it will only take a few weeks for her to get used to being there. Plus, the older she gets, the more she'll like it because she'll be able to do more.

:hugs:

[bridgetwu75]

You know, I think it depends on the vibe of the caregivers too. The ones at the place I went to gave off a very annoyed vibe. Good career choice for them, eh?