For a potential adoptive couple, it is natural to wonder if a birthmother will change her mind about putting her child up for adoption. Consequently, you and your spouse could be struggling with doubts about getting emotionally connected to a baby or the degree of excitement about a potential adoption. Such concerns are a normal part of the adoption process.
There are characteristics that have been identified in birthmothers who are more likely to change their minds about putting their child up for adoption. It is important to understand that if a birthmother has one or more of these characteristics, it does not mean that she will change her mind.
And if you are a potential birthmother considering adoption, it is wise to examine the risk factors in the checklist to see how they might relate to you. It can be beneficial to follow up by discussing any risks with an adoption counselor.
For potential adoptive families, it is important to note that nearly every birthmother will have one or more of these characteristics. Some birthmothers might have all of these characteristics and still place her child for adoption. The checklist is a guide that can serve to identify the number of characteristics that exist and how extensive they are in order to discuss them with an adoption counselor.
Here is the checklist:
Adapted from Lutheran Social Services adoptive parent handout
Last Updated: 06/2007
